Swingers Part 1 2022

Swingers Part 1 2022

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Swinging is reported to be on the rise, with as many as 15 million Americans habitually swapping partners to spice up their sex lives.
And research has revealed swingers in the US are “mostly white, middle-aged and middle income,” meaning there’s no shortage of stimulated suburbanites secretly getting down and dirty behind the white picket fence.
While most keep their bedroom behavior a secret, swingers use certain signs to indicate their interest in unorthodox sexual practices.
So, if you’re a nosy neighbor wondering whether the people on your streets are freaks in the sheets, these are some innocuous objects to watch out for.
According to the Sun , flamingos symbolize swinging, with partner swappers placing plastic replicas of the bird in their front yards to let others know they’re up for a good time.
It’s unclear how the pink creature came to symbolize swinging, but a Reddit user said the general population is still oblivious to the kinky coding of the lawn displays, which are often seen in front of churches.
On TikTok, there are hundreds of videos linking plastic flamingos to swinging, but some said they were also unaware of the connection — including a woman who was left mortified after she put a pink flamingo in front of her home after getting it as a gift from her sister.
Meanwhile, garden gnomes have also become another domestic decoration that secretly signifies swinging.
One San Diego real estate agent wrote online there is a “huge swinger community” in one part of the city, and she is often on the lookout for the lawn ornaments.
The agent revealed that one potential buyer was turned off to a property after spotting several gnomes in a front yard of a home in the swinging hot spot.
Elsewhere, the Sun states that hot tubs could also indicate you have a naughty neighbor.
However, given the commonality of garden gnomes and hot tubs, it may not be safe to assume your neighbor is a swinger simply based on those items alone.
However, there are a number of more obvious objects you can use to identify a swinging suburbanite.
Pampas grass planted in a person’s front yard is one telltale sign you’ve got a neighbor with a busy bedroom.
“There is that connotation,” Nick Coslett, marketing manager for Palmstead Nurseries, told the Sun, saying that many non-swingers have even clocked on to the code.
The Guardian spoke with nursery sellers who said sales of the plant have plummeted by about 50% in the past five years as horrified gardeners realized they may be sending out the wrong message with their horticulture.
Meanwhile, upside-down pineapples have joined pampas grass as a swinger symbol.
Many brazen swingers are placing the upturned fruits outside their homes, while other suburbanites are using the symbol in subtler ways.
According to the Sun, some partner swappers have a door knocker in the shape of a pineapple in front of their homes, while others have the frisky fruit printed onto their doormats.
The Post reported on the phenomenon of the symbol, with many randy vacationers printing pictures of pineapples and placing them on their hotel doors.
On TikTok, the hashtag #UpsideDownPineapple has clocked a whopping 149 million views.
However, swingers don’t just signify their status through domestic items. They additionally broadcast their sexual preferences through distinct accessories.
Next time you’re doing the grocery shopping and spot a neighbor, check to see whether they’re wearing a black ring on their right hand.
Cooper Beckett, host of the “ Life on the Swingset ” podcast, said it’s an obvious symbol for other swingers to pick up on.
“If someone wearing a black ring on their right hand approaches you, start a conversation with them,” he said. “Say ‘I see you’re wearing a black ring on your right hand. Maybe we are in the same club.’ “
Additionally, if a woman is wearing an anklet or a toe ring, she may be advertising that she is into an alternative sexual lifestyle, the website Bigger Love proclaims.

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From experimenting with different sex positions to bringing accessories into the bedroom, there are a plethora of steamy ways to take your sex life to the next level. But more and more couples are flirting with the idea of non-monogamy as a way to find fulfillment. In fact, in a 2020 YouGov poll of more than 1,300 U.S. adults, about one-third (32%) said that their ideal relationship is non-monogamous to some degree.

"Some form of a non-monogamous relationship dynamic might be for you if the idea of being intimate with more than one partner excites you," says Amy Baldwin, sex educator, sex and relationship coach, and co-host of the Shameless Sex Podcast . "Some folks choose it to spice up their current partnership with newness and aliveness while others may do so to remedy sexual or emotional needs that are not being met in their current relationship."

It bears noting that ethical non-monogamy can take a variety of forms — one of which is swinging, also referred to as being in "the lifestyle," a sexual practice that involves engaging in sexual activities with another couple and single people. Here, how this particular type of consensual non-monogamy works and best practices for getting started.

Baldwin explains that a swinger, or someone in "the lifestyle," is typically:

That said, people in the lifestyle can be solo as well, says intimacy expert Susan Bratton . And they often gather at public or private parties (which used to be called "key parties") that are hosted in rental homes, resorts, or even cruise ships.

"Most parties allow couples and single women — known fondly as 'unicorns' — but severely throttle the number of single men who can attend because otherwise, the ratio would fall too much toward a bunch of horny guys," she notes.

You can usually find lifestyle parties with a simple Google search, but the most important aspect of involvement is being invited in, showing up, and getting invited back over time to establish yourself as a trustworthy and valuable addition to the group, explains Bratton.

While swinging, partners might engage in "same room" sex, which refers to all activities taking place in the same room, so partners can see each other enjoying themselves, explains Sarah Melancon, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist and sexuality and relationships expert for SexToyCollective.com , who adds that this may also provide a sense of security for some. But sharing the experience doesn't necessarily mean sharing the same space. Swingers might also participate in "separate room" sex, which is exactly what it sounds like.

Although partners might go their separate ways, says Baldwin, the underlying intention is generally a feeling of shared turn-on or aliveness that somehow fuels more fire into the partnership.

There are also several levels of partner swapping that swingers will engage in, according to Melancon:

A "soft swap": Involves sexual activities up to and including oral sex.

A "full swap" or "hard swap": Involves most sexual activities, including intercourse (vaginal or anal , depending on preferences).

"Some couples like to start with soft swaps to get their feet wet, so to speak, while for others they simply prefer to reserve intercourse for their romantic relationship," explains Melancon, who adds that the level at which a couple is willing to swap could be related to either preference or health concerns, like STI transmission and pregnancy risk.

While it might sound counterintuitive, couples who engage in swinging don't necessarily define their relationship as "open." Think of "open relationship" as a bit of an umbrella term, suggests Baldwin. "It can encompass everything from purely sexual no-strings-attached experiences with multiple people to dating and/or deeper connections," she notes. And open relationships are more about satisfying each person's unique needs, while swinging is a "team effort."

A third form of consensual non-monogamy: Polyamory , which is different from swinging and open relationships in that it focuses on the building of relationships with other people outside of your primary partnership, says Baldwin. "It is less casual and more about love or connection, often resulting in multiple loving relationships, and even multiple committed partners," she says.

If you're unclear on which type of non-monogamy appeals the most, reflect on whether you're craving a shared experience with your partner, you might want to try swinging.

But if you want to exercise your own sexual freedom or autonomy outside of your current relationship, you might be more interested in an open relationship. And if you want to connect with and even love multiple people, polyamory could be your best bet, says Baldwin.

Consider taking the following steps to dip your toe into the lifestyle.

Once you've concluded that swinging is the form of non-monogamy that would work best for you, broach the conversation with your partner. "If they are a 'maybe' or a 'yes,' be sure to spend plenty of time learning more about how to navigate non-monogamy, as well as having plenty of clear conversations about feelings, boundaries, and needs," suggests Baldwin.

And note that getting a "yes" from your partner is crucial. "Both partners should have a similar interest level before trying swinging," says Melancon. "If one partner is unsure or is doing it just to make their partner happy, it is more likely to cause emotional pain and possible breakup than sexual excitement and pleasure." Feeling pressured by your partner to engage in swinging is also a "big red flag," she points out.

2. The more communication, the better.

Prepare yourself for communicating more than you did when you were monogamous. "Things become a bit more complex when we allow more people into our intimate, energetic space," says Baldwin.

For example, you'll want to discuss the rules of the road. Talk about the level — soft, full, or hard — you're OK with. "It is essential to be comfortable discussing boundaries (i.e., 'I am comfortable with you performing oral sex but not having intercourse') and preferences (i.e., 'I would find it really hot to watch you have sex with another woman') with your partner," says Melancon.

And make sure to go over safe sex practices (condoms, dental dams, and birth control) related to STI and pregnancy risk, says Melancon, who adds that regular STI testing is recommended for anyone engaging in sex with multiple partners.

Baldwin suggests starting out with "smaller, more tame experiences" — perhaps a soft swap involving just foreplay or making out, to start — and then check-in after each to tend to any challenging emotions that come up. Through each experience, you'll get a better sense of what feels the most satisfying and enlivening for both you and your partner(s).

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Everyone appears to be getting laid on TV, social media, and in the movies… in real life, it’s actually kind of hard to find couples that are seriously looking for fellow swingers.
The majority of couples just aren’t into it. Some only swing with their own friends, kind of a closed circle sort of thing. Then again, there ARE other swinging couples looking for dates…but locating these mysterious sexy strangers is a challenge.
Here we look at the top 11 best swinger sites for finding open-minded people!
You may wonder, how did we figure out what sites to include?
We actually conducted a research project and registered for about 20 different swingers sites. Over the course of 25 hours or so, our profile and pictures got a lot of responses – and mostly from the top 5 sites on our list.
For our Top 11 list that caters to swingers, open marriages, poly dating, and everything in between, we considered factors like members, dating app UI, response, quality of responders, intelligence of the conversation (indicating humans, not bots), and the number of swinger events or dates offered.
By the end of this list, you might have one favorite swinger site that sticks out in your mind!
Starting back in 1996, Adult Friend Finder is the most well-known kinkster site online.
This adult dating site was matching up swingers and real-life gangbangs back when most of us were just discovering free porn for the first time. Adult Friend Finder also happens to have one of the most inclusive and open-ended searches of all dating sites.
You can look for couples, trans users, or groups, and designate your own sexual preferences. Even more interesting is that you can choose “how you swing”, deciding on which spouse gets sex, or if you’re just being a voyeur for the time being.
SwapFinder is one of the largest swingers sites online, claiming 40 million profiles and offering a variety of matches, including full swap, threesomes, BDSM activities, and even group sex.
Naturally, the best feature for swapping is their two-way live sex cams for both couples. You can start flirting as a couple and send flirts or come-ons to other couples when you see someone nice.
Start with a video chat before arranging for a sex date – this way, you know the other members are real before you meet them.
SwingLifeStyle promotes a “Swingers Next Door” kind of feel, with less emphasis on perfection and supermodels stripping on video, and more about finding real couples.
The Florida-based website emphasizes club meetings and even has connections with “Bliss Cruise”, and “Topless Travel” options for meet and greets.
The best feature of the site is the “Join a Group” and “Find a Club” option, which lets you become part of a larger swinger community.
SDC is serious about finding your customized date! As soon as you sign up you can choose between swingers, hookups, fetishes, and even sex education while you’re at it. Like some of the best swinger sites, SDC focuses on groups and communities, as well as events and parties .
Swingers Date Club is taking online dating to the next level!
Many swingers enjoy meetup groups and events before they date a couple alone. Swingers Date Club also offers party searches and public events nearby, and more detailed profiles than the average site.
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