Pose 69

Pose 69
By Zachary Zane and Gigi Engle Published: Jul 5, 2022
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Gigi Engle is a writer, certified sexologist, sex coach, and sex educator. Her work regularly appears in many publications including Brides, Marie Claire, Elle Magazine, Teen Vogue, Glamour and Women's Health.
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These sex positions will blow you out of the water.
There are few sexual positions more polarizing than 69. Haters say it's awkward to do and offers minimal rewards, since it can be hard to enjoy receiving when you're also focused on giving. To be fair, this position does take some multitasking. But instead of viewing the multi-tasking factor as a hindrance, we should celebrate it for its uniqueness. Let’s enjoy the fun, rather than focus on the need for perfection, you know?
In the 69 sex position, the two people involved (or three, if you’re feeling extra frisky) give and receive oral sex simultaneously. Fans of the 69 position "like that both partners can receive and enjoy pleasure at the same time,” explains Ashley Cobb , a sexpert for Lovehoney .
Sure, doing two things at once isn’t the simplest thing in the world, but it can still be fun if everyone's down. One of the best parts about 69-ing is that you're trying something different from your normal routine and enjoying it for what it is. And just because you do it occasionally doesn't mean it's the only form of oral you can have for all eternity.
In order to get the most out of this position, both partners need to practice in order to get the hang of it. There’s no need to rush. No one is perfect at anything in sex without time and attention. Honestly, that’s half the fun of sex stuff anyway: the exploration and trial and error. The key is to find a style that works for both of you, where both people can find a way to do that is physically comfortable, fun to do, and hot.
With that said, let’s talk about 69, and its many sexy-ass variations. This position can be a boatload of fun. It just takes enthusiasm and curiosity.
How it works : Two people align themselves so that each person's mouth is near the other's genitals. This is done by having one person lie down on their back. The other lies on top of them with their knees straddling their partner's head. The two people can then perform oral sex on one another. In opposite-sex partners, the woman is typically the person on top, whereas the man is on his back.
Pro tip : Use a pillow or a sex wedge if you're struggling to reach or find yourself straining your neck or another part of your body.
How it works: It's the same as the classic, however, instead of the woman being on top, the man is.
Perks of variation: While not inherent in the variation itself, the inverted 69 position tends to be a rougher experience. It's an ideal position for women who like to deepthroat because with the man on top, he has more control of his thrusting ability and can go a lot harder and deeper down the throat.
How it works : If you're lucky enough to have a sex swing , then you absolutely need to try 69 while using it. One partner lays back in the swing, with the straps around their back, lower butt, and heels. The second partner, with their legs firmly planted on the floor, bends over. From there, your genitals are in each other's faces, and you can start sucking!
Perks of variation: Typically, sex swing positions are much more about vaginal and anal penetration, so this is a fun way to include oral while on a sex swing.
How it works: Instead of positioning one on top of the other, both participants are lying on their sides.
Perks of variation: If you're struggling to reach each other's genitals with the classic 69, sideways 69 may be the position for you. In my experience, it makes it easier to reach everything. It also requires less work for the person who's traditionally on top. While on top, you're often on your knees and at least one elbow, which can get strenuous if done for long periods of time.
How it works: Assume the classic or sideways 69 position (or any variation that works for you). Grab your partner’s favorite sex toy to use on them, while you grab your favorite sex toy for them to use on you. Clit vibrators and penis strokers can be really great for this position. Then, feel free to go to town on each other. Don't forget the lube!
Perks of variation: Not all 69-ing needs to involve mouths. Sometimes it can be just as fun to use toys while assuming the same “naughty” position. Using toys is less physical work, which can lead to increased focus on your own sensations. The distractions that come with both giving and receiving oral can make reaching climax less simple, so anything you can do to make it more straightforward is a win.
How it works: Instead of having your partner lie on top of you, have them squat over you.
Perks of variation : This will require lower back, glute, and quad strength and flexibility, but if they have it, it's a fun variation on the classic. The squat variation also allows for better ass slapping.
How it works : Rather than lying on a flat surface, you actually hold your partner up-side-down while you're standing.
Perks of variation: You will feel like a god if you're able to pull this off.
Cons of variation: Unless you are a muscle daddy, odds are you won't have the strength to pick up your partner safely. That's why this position is ideal when your partner is particularly petite.
How it works : In addition to orally stimulating your partner, use either your fingers or a sex toy to penetrate them. If your partner has a vagina, you can lick/suck their clitoris while digitally penetrating her vagina. Or, if your partner is into it, you can eat their vagina while you finger their anus (or vice-a-versa). You can do this with men, too. While being blown, have your partner massage your prostate for more intense pleasure.
Perks of variation: With internal stimulation, pleasure rises exponentially for both parties involved.
How it works: While we're on the topic of anal-inclusive 69 variants, you can just eat out your partner's booty exclusively. Or, a variation that is common among two men is when the "bottom" (the one receiving anal) blows their partner, where the top (the man who will insert his penis into his partner) eats out their partner's anus. It's a form of foreplay to loosen and warm up the bottom for penetrative anal sex.
Perks of variation: If you're into anal and/or prostate play, this is for you.
How it works : Well, first and foremost you need to bring a special third in for the threesome 69. While lying on your side with your partners in a triangle formation, each partner performs oral on the next person. In this position, you will perform oral on one partner and receive oral from the other.
Perks of variation: It's hot to have a third person in on all the fun. It's also a threesome position that's equally inclusive of all parties involved.
Zachary Zane is the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto and co-author of Men’s Health Best. Sex. Ever. He writes “Sexplain It,” the sex and relationship advice column at Men’s Health , and is editor-in-chief of the BOYSLUT Zine, which publishes nonfiction erotica from kinksters across the globe. His work has been featured in New York Times, Rolling Stone , Washington Post , Playboy , and more.
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Love to give and receive in bed? 69 may be the perfect sex position for you and your partner.
Here's how to do a couple different 69 positions as well as the benefits of it compared to other sex positions.
Put simply, the 69 position means that the partners are positioned face-to-genital rather than face-to-face, says sex and relationships therapist Stefani Goerlich, LMSW-Clinical, LISW .
Luckily, getting into the 69 position is very straightforward. Follow these steps from Goerlich to assume the position:
If the couple involves someone with a penis and someone with a vulva, Goerlich recommends that the penis-haver be the person who lies down, so that the vulva owner can control the depth of penetration during oral sex.
"When the positions are reversed, it's not uncommon for an enthusiastic penis-haver to press down a bit too far into their partner's mouth, restricting airflow and causing a bit of discomfort," says Goerlich.
The traditional 69 might not be comfortable for everyone. If you'd like, you can try a horizontal variation of 69.
Goerlich says this variation can be good if traditional 69 feels too claustrophobic for the partner who's lying down or uncomfortable for the person who has to bear their weight above their partner.
Follow these steps to get into a horizontal 69 position:
Aside from being super sexy, the 69 position comes with a few benefits, too. Goerlich says some of the perks of 69ing include:
1. Mutual engagement : During 69, both partners are actively engaged at the same time. This can reduce feelings of imbalance or lack of reciprocity that one might feel when giving or receiving oral sex, alone. Both partners are giving and receiving equally.
2. Gender-inclusive: No matter your gender or your partner's gender, you can experience pleasure from 69ing. The position can work with any combination of genitals, as long as it's comfortable for you and your partner.
3. Reduced body anxiety: If you feel self-conscious about your body during foreplay or sex, 69 may be a good option for you: "69 can be a great way to reduce everyone's view down to a narrow bit of the landscape and to hide perceived flaws," says Goerlich. The less self-conscious you are during sex, the more likely you are to enjoy it.
4. Greater chance of orgasm for vulva owners: If you have a vulva, chances are you need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. A 2017 study found that 36.6% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm –– and oral sex is a great way to get this kind of touch.
5. Chance of mutual orgasm : For couples who want to orgasm simultaneously, 69 is a great option because you can closely monitor your partner's bodily reactions while also experiencing your own, which can make a mutual orgasm a little easier to accomplish than in other sex positions.
It can take a little bit of practice to really get comfortable in the 69 position, but once you have it figured out, there's sure to be lots of simultaneous pleasure for both you and your partner.
Remember that during sex, communication is key. Keep the line of communication open so you can make your partner feel as good as possible, and vice versa.

Written by WebMD Editorial Contributors
Medically Reviewed by Dan Brennan, MD on June 28, 2021
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