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Do you like having your nipples sucked and played with? Also, you should visit the DDR Museum while you’re in Berlin. It’s a good glimpse of East Germany under Communism. Let me know if you’re interested in meeting up. Cheers, Ben.
Surprisingly, this was not an e-mail from some savvy spambot who knew my vacation whereabouts, but an actual response to an ad I’d posted, looking for a guy who could organize a gang bang for me in Dublin, Ireland, the next stop on my not exactly Eat Pray Love -style European adventure. And it was the odd juxtaposition — of filthy flirting combined with tourism suggestions — that made me certain Ben was just the man for the job, even before I saw his photos.
I knew from experience that fantasy-type scenarios tend to be far more sweaty than sexy when they’re translated to the real world. I’d had threesomes; I’d been to a sex party; and in the moment, those experiences were more anxiety provoking than anything. But I still found myself going back to the memories again and again, years after the fact. Pushing my limits and crossing things off my sexual to-do list was a turn-on in itself — a sign that I was a woman who went after what she wanted and wasn’t afraid to get it.
Still, at age 28, a gang bang had eluded me, even though it was a fantasy guaranteed to get me off in five minutes or less, no matter what. I’d never known how to go about organizing one. For one, I worried about safety; finding someone who wasn’t going to kill me was clearly a top priority. But I also wanted to do it with someone I genuinely liked. While anonymity is fine in fantasies, in reality, you have to at least have some sort of conversation with these people. At the same time, you don’t want to see them in the subway or run into them in a corporate elevator.
On a monthlong research trip in Europe, I came up with a solution. I was staying in Berlin, and a short visit I’d planned to Ireland would provide ideal gang bang conditions: plenty of free time, no attachments, and access to friendly strangers. So I started flicking through the profiles on FetLife.com, a kinky social networking site, and braced myself for a flurry of cock shots — not tourism tips — in my inbox.
When I got Ben’s message, I responded immediately, thrilled when his photos showed a cute, rangy, early thirtysomething man. He suggested we meet at a central pub for a drink, so we could both determine whether we’d want to move forward.
When I got to the pub, I spotted Ben with his back to me at the bar. I tapped his shoulder, and we exchanged an awkward hug. Then, I ordered a beer as we launched into a conversation circling around the entire reason we were meeting: That in a few days, I was going to have sex with him and four, five, or possibly six of his friends. We talked about work, about travel, about bad dates we’d both recently been on. We ordered more drinks, which turned into dinner, which turned into me climbing onto his lap and making out with him. Quickly, I invited him back to my hotel for a hookup, even though that hadn’t been the original plan for the evening.
“Think you can handle four guys?” he asked, after we were naked in bed together.
I raised an eyebrow. Besides the flurry of e-mails, it was the first time we’d actually discussed what would go down. He explained he had a loose group of friends who did this at times, when they weren’t busy with work or travel or — yes — girlfriends. That it was all very respectful, very much centered on me, and that they wouldn’t ask me to chip in for the hotel room.
The next weekend, I headed to the hotel he’d set up, checked in, and, as per his e-mailed instructions, bought a bottle of wine and nervously checked my e-mail. At eight o’clock, as planned, I heard a knock on the door.
It was Ben, surrounded by four men. I stood there in a white tank top sans bra and a pair of Bikram shorts as we all introduced ourselves. I asked the group if anyone wanted a glass of wine.
In response, I was shoved to the floor. Before I knew it, I was sucking one guy’s cock while another guy fucked me from behind. I kept glancing toward Ben, who nodded at me encouragingly.
“Go on, then, fuck your favorite,” one of the other men said, laughingly nodding toward Ben.
I reached toward Ben. At one point, I was getting fucked by two guys at the same time, while I was sucking off a third. This was my fantasy, come to life — and while it was hot, I was all too aware of my hip feeling overstretched and achy, the impossibility of sucking in my stomach, how the angle I was in was certainly unattractive, and the fact that all too soon, this would be over, and I wasn’t even close to orgasm.
It was too crowded, too busy, too concerned with making sure the hotel chair was covered with towels to avoid any stains. I was thinking of whether I should have made a sexier Spotify playlist, whether anyone in the other rooms could hear us, and how, exactly, I’d know when it was over.
A few more positions, and then it was done. The guys finished on my face and my chest (at my request), only some got in my eye — and when I looked up, on my knees with a circle of men surrounding me, Ben’s face was full of concern.
I shook my head. The guys were pulling on their sweaters, talking about going out for drinks, pulling money from their wallets to pay for the hotel room. I was exhausted, with the beginnings of a pounding headache starting at my temples. It felt like the moments in the early morning before a hangover fully hits; when there’s nothing you can do but wait to see how much damage a night of hedonism has wrought.
One by one, the guys left, with Ben apologetically explaining that he had a work project to finish up that night. If this had been a one-night stand, the statement would have shattered me. Here, it didn’t. This was neither of our “real” lives; we would never have a relationship.
As the door closed, I felt a combination of relief and euphoria. I’d pushed my boundaries, crossed something off my list, and gotten what I wanted … even if I hadn’t gotten off. I considered it a success.
But it had been exhausting. In less than an hour, I’d added four more names to my list of sex partners. Or rather, I would have added four more names if I’d even remembered the names of Ben’s friends. Somehow, in the pressure to be star and director of my fantasy, I’d missed out on being a full participant — one who was able to enjoy everything in the moment.
Maybe that’s inevitable. These days, a few key memories of the gang bang I arranged will flit through my mind as I’m fantasizing, and they’re as amazing as I’d hoped they’d be. Which is good, since I’m never, ever arranging a gang bang again.
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"Are there people who aren't turned on by gang bang porn?" my friend responded when I asked if she was. Touché.
Even science shows that having a gang bang fantasy is normal . A 2014 study conducted by researchers at the University of Montreal and published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine suggested that 28.3 percent of women and 13.1 percent of men fantasized about having sex with more than one man at the same time, and that 24.7 of women and 75.3 percent of men fantasized about having sex with more than one woman at the same time. (A gang bang, by the way, can be but doesn't have to be a bunch of cis men. I like to define a gang bang as one person being fucked by more than two people, but more on that to come.)
Despite the popularity of gang bang fantasies, they're still stigmatized. At the least, you may experience more trepidation telling your partner that you watch gang bang porn than, say, anal. "Watching porn is a safe way to explore from a distance. Gang bang porn is something that I think a lot of people, whether they realize it or not, are aroused by, because the idea of group play, or multiple sexual partners simultaneously, has become mainstream enough for people to be curious, but it's still taboo enough to be erotic," says New York City-based publicist Melissa Vitale .
Vitale proudly enjoys the genre, although she loathes the term "gang bang" preferring to instead call it group sex. "I think the term creates an image of a woman with three men getting absolutely ruined while not enjoying the experience when usually, the woman is the one in the most control and the one who is experiencing the most pleasure," Vitale says.
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Your shame surrounding your gang bang fantasy may even be why you get off on it. "Shame and sexiness tend to be strongly tied together," says sex-positive psychotherapist Liz Powell . "It’s not super clear why that is; part of it is that we live in a culture that shames sexuality generally. We may feel shame and think that means it’s sexy, but whatever the reason, it’s not uncommon."
So, let's form a coven circle (i.e., what happens here stays here) and discuss our gang bang fantasies with like-minded people and some of our favorite porn performers .
Porn is fantastic. It allows you to explore your most secret and filthiest fantasies from the privacy of your own bed. We can use porn to discover what turns us on. Sometimes porn helps us discover things about our sexuality; for instance, watching lesbian porn helped me take the plunge and embrace my bisexuality. Other times, watching porn may just be like going to the movies and an engaging form of entertainment, but perhaps we don't actually want our life to mirror the plot.
Regardless of if we want to turn our porn viewing habits into IRL experiences, it's important that we acknowledge that the cinema comparison is accurate. "The same way people don’t drive the way they do in The Fast and the Furious , people don’t fuck the way they do in porn. The gang bangs you see in porn have all kinds of preparation, negotiation, and other things you don’t see that happen offscreen," Powell says. Queefs are edited out, and the scene is prearranged.
Porn performer Ingrid Mouth , who starred in a Star Trek -themed gang bang for kink.com, says she was given multipart questionnaires to complete prior to shooting. "There was a checklist of boundaries and limits that asked for details on what I was and was not willing to do, in addition to being penetrated by five penises (things like bondage, slapping, or ball gags). They also asked if I had a specific fantasy I'd like to work out on camera. When I got the booking request, I was deliriously stoned and decidedly thrilled, and in this section, I wound up typing out an entire Star Trek fan fiction. It was titled: Star Trek: The Next Penetration ."
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