How To Make Out Good

How To Make Out Good
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Get some privacy. You're probably nervous about screwing up, so take some of the pressure off yourself by making sure you don't have an audience. Opt out of movie theaters or group dates, and instead shoot for secluded situations like a quiet movie night at home, an outdoor picnic , or an otherwise deserted space.

Resist the urge to cut the lights completely. You might think that total darkness will ease your nerves and hide any slip-ups. For a first-timer, though, it'll actually make things a lot more difficult — you can't see where you're going, and you'll want to be able to gauge your partner's reaction. Save the full darkness for later sessions when you know each other better.
If you're alone in a bedroom or a basement, you can dim the lights a bit without being too obvious about it.
Set the mood, if you like. If you know that someone you like will be coming over solo later and that there's a good chance you'll be making out later, then you can make sure your room is neat and tidy, that there's no chance a parent, sibling, or roommate will interrupt, and that everything smells nice and is conducive to making out.

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Make yourself extra attractive ahead of time. If you sense a make-out coming on, put some effort into looking and smelling your best. It'll boost your confidence, and make you irresistible. You don't have to be too thorough about this or it'll make you more nervous, but if you feel and look your best , you'll have a better chance of having a great make-out session. Here's a quick checklist to go over: [1]
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Do a quick clean-up. Even if you don't have time for a full-on shower, you can still do small things like wiping your nose, brushing your teeth, and splashing water on any areas that are starting to smell a little ripe. Reapply deodorant while you're at it.
Add a subtle scent. For a masculine scent apply one or two sprays of cologne around your throat and chest. (Don't go overboard, since strong scents are almost unbearable at close quarters.) For a feminine scent, use a few sprays of perfume or apply a scented body lotion to your neck, chest, arms, and legs.
Freshen up your mouth. Cover your bases by chewing gum or breath mints right before making out -- if you can be subtle about it. If you don't have anything on-hand, swish some water around your mouth and spit it out. While you're at it, fight off chapped lips with lip balm or chap stick. If you're on a date before you think you'll make out, try to avoid eating any overly-pungent foods.
If you're wearing cosmetics, you can touch up your makeup. Take a quick second to make sure you don't have smudgy mascara or uneven foundation. Avoid too much lipstick or gloss, or your kissing partner will taste it.

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Hint that you're willing. If you're already comfortable kissing someone regularly, move it into making out simply by continuing the kisses and trying some of the techniques mentioned. If you haven't kissed this person much before, though, initiating a make-out session might take some extra maneuvering. Here are some ways to let the other person know you're interested: [2]
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Find excuses to get close. Putting your body as near as possible to the other person's is a pretty strong hint. Sit close if you're on a couch or in a car, or hold hands and stand with your body completely against theirs. Make it extra obvious by staring deep into their eyes.
Reveal slightly more skin. If you're wearing a cardigan or jacket, take it off casually. You could also undo the top button of your shirt, roll up your sleeves, or pull up your hair, so that your neck and chest are more exposed. Voluntarily showing more skin signals that you're comfortable around the other person, and you're willing to be more exposed around them.
Get handsy. Before you start kissing , make your intentions clear by using your hands to start closer contact. [3]
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Hold hands, offer a shoulder or foot rub, play with the other person's hair, or lightly trace your fingers over the face or throat.

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Read your partner. Are they incredibly eager to start kissing and pretty experienced when it comes to locking lips? Or is this their first time too, and are they acting even more nervous than you feel? If your partner is really ready to take it to the next level, relax and let them take the lead. But if you see that you're the one who is doing more of the hinting, touching, and talking, take a deep breath and muster up all of the confidence you have.
Fake it until you make it. If you act like you know what you're doing, your partner will be convinced that you're at the top of your game, but don't pretend that you're perfect.

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Lean in for the kiss. [4]
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Slowly bring your face toward the other person's, maintaining eye contact until you're a few inches away. Then close your eyes, and start a kiss. If they seem interested, you're probably clear to move onto making out; if you run into hesitation, though, it might be best to try another time. If it's your very first kiss , then you may be a little nervous, but take a deep breath and let your lips touch your partner's at a slight angle. This will make it easier for you to use your tongues when you're both ready. [5]
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Take a deep breath, smile a little, and slowly lean in toward your partner. You don't have to get it right the first time and remember, they may be just as nervous as you are!

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Vary your kisses. Keep things interesting by changing up how you kiss. Don't alternate techniques too often, but do it often enough to shift gears as soon as you feel the other person losing interest. Try playing around with these variables:

Pressure: Alternate between soft, gentle kisses and harder, more insistent ones.
Speed: Slow kisses are a good start to making out, and they're nice for taking a subtle breather in the middle. To convey more passion, though, you can speed up to quicker and deeper lip work.
Tongue: Try French kissing , or gently touching your partner's tongue with your tongue, to heighten the intensity. More than anything else, keep your tongue in motion — don't let it just sit in your partner's mouth like a limp noodle. Make small darting movements, or sweep it around your partner's tongue in smooth, circular motions.

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Move away from the lips. As you keep going, try kissing your partner in other areas. If it seems like your partner likes being kissed in a certain spot, make a mental note to revisit. Some popular areas include: [6]
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Jaw
Earlobes
Throat
Neck
Collarbones
Shoulders
Inside of the wrist, or palms

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Keep your hands busy. Passion deserves a little time and respect and you should never waste the first time! Make sure to keep your hands active and to keep touching your partner's body so you really connect. Here are some special touches you can try:

You could hold onto their head, and slowly and lightly move your hands to the back of their head. Rub your hands through their hair and down their shirt, or pull yourself closer to them letting their hands wrap around your back a little more to make it steamy and sexy.
You can also wrap your arms firmly but gently around them and rub up and down their back (or lower back if they respond happily). If you're comfortable enough with your partner you can hold them by the waist or grab their butt. Give it a try and if they respond in a negative way, stop immediately. If they seem happy about it, you can go on. You can also cup their face between your hands, gently sweeping your thumbs over their cheekbones.

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Take a breather when you need to. Don't think that you have to be passionately locking lips or kissing the entire time you're together. It's okay to take a break, laugh together a little bit, get a glass of water, or just make yourself more comfortable. This doesn't mean you should stop and talk about how hard the math homework was, or switch the subject to something else decidedly un-sexy. But if you're starting to feel like you need a breather, don't sweat it. Chances are, so does your partner.

Pull away and smile, run your fingers through the other person's hair, and keep your hands on the person's body.
You can even take a break by whispering something sexy in your partner's ear. The feel of your hot breath on their ear will turn up the heat for sure.

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Compliment your partner on how good they are at kissing. [7]
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Remember, they may be just as nervous as you are! Your compliments will not only be a confidence booster, but they will probably also encourage more kissing. [8]
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If your partner isn’t good at kissing, be patient. Continue to use the techniques that you’ve learned and give your partner time to follow your lead.
If your partner does something you like, encourage them by smiling and saying, "I love it when you ___"; to continue reinforcing the better aspects of their kissing, respond to these moments by squeezing them tighter, making a brief "mmm" sound of approval, etc. Unless you are remarkably comfortable with each other, do not criticize your partner’s kissing abilities.

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End it on a strong note. When you're ready to say goodbye, keep things positive so that it's more likely you'll be kissing again soon. You may be feeling a mixture of emotions, but focus on the ones that make you feel amazing about what just happened. Here are some things to try before you say goodbye for the night:

Let your partner know you had a good time. A simple "That was awesome" will probably make them feel just as great as a canned, pre-written compliment. Say what you feel and don't worry about sounding too elegant or aloof.
End with one more kiss. Make this one quick, light and gentle, especially if your making out was heavy and intense toward the end.
If your partner is a girl, you can kiss her hand. If you've just wrapped up making out with a girl you adore, lock eyes and slowly bring the back of her hand up to your lips for a light kiss just before she leaves. It's an old-world, courtly gesture that most girls find romantic.
Leave your partner wanting more. Tell them that you can't wait to hang out again and make it clear that you mean you can't wait to make out again too. The second time will always be even better than the first.

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This article was co-authored by Imad Jbara . Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth. This article has been viewed 5,109,151 times.

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This article was co-authored by Imad Jbara . Imad Jbara is a Dating Coach for NYC Wingwoman LLC, a relationship coaching service based in New York City. 'NYC Wingwoman' offers matchmaking, wingwoman services, 1-on-1 Coaching, and intensive weekend bootcamps. Imad services 100+ clients, men and women, to improve their dating lives through authentic communication skills. He has a BA in Psychology from the University of Massachusetts Dartmouth.

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