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A threesome is the ultimate sexual fantasy for many guys. But making that fantasy a reality is no easy feat. So how can one determine whether the person they’re in a relationship with would ever be open to one? I personally have know idea. That’s why I’ve reached out to somebody who does know.
The person I spoke to was Chris Maxwell Rose, an independent sex educator and one of two founding members of Pleasure Mechanics , a website that serves as a vast electronic library of sexual knowledge, the riches of which are shared through online classes taught by both Rose and her partner. When it comes to threesomes, you could say Rose wrote the book on it. Because, well, she did.
Using the knowledge from her comprehensive guide , "How To Have A Threesome," we’ve compiled some key traits to look for in a partner who’s willing to have a threesome — because if she isn’t, results can get ugly. Let’s make this fantasy happen, guys!
Before you even consider a threesome, you should probably take some baby steps prior. By doing this, you can better gauge her interest. “Whether it’s bringing new toys into the bedroom or having sex in the great outdoors , try a few adventures that are just for two before considering bringing a third on board,” Rose says.
“The first step towards having a great threesome is talking about it in explicit detail,” Rose begins. “Flesh out your fantasies together and see where your desires overlap. If she can’t talk in dirty details, she’s not ready for the real thing.”
“Not all women are into porn — but if she’s down with watching porn together once in awhile, it’s a good sign that she’ll be up for a threesome,” Rose point outs. For best results, Rose advises you let your lady be in charge of the pornographic material and have her compile a sexy playlist (“Try feminist porn or amateur porn,” she suggests) and then discuss what you both find hot as you watch. This will frame the fantasy and give you some ideas to play around with.
“In our book How To Have A Threesome , we outline several baby steps (as mentioned earlier in this article) towards a full-on threesome so you don’t have to risk it all at once.” So instead of going all-in, Rose suggests you instead experiment with small steps (again, like we’ve mentioned prior; you can watch porn together , share fantasies, whatever it may be) that will help you find your comfort zone together without risking your entire relationship in the process.
“To have a great threesome, you need three people who really love sex,” Rose states. “This doesn’t mean she has to be multi-orgasmic or acrobatic in bed, but an authentic enjoyment of touch, sensuality and arousal will go a long way.”
Many women struggle with sexual confidence , and any shame or guilt about sex is going to get in the way of a great threesome, Rose says. What are some traits of these sexually confident women? These women are happy lounging naked, have no problem being seen in the throes of orgasm, and are open to experiment in the bedroom. “These are all great traits for her to have before you invite a third to your party,” she adds.
“Our culture encourages intense competition between women — and this pattern can get in the way during threesomes,” Rose declares. To enjoy sharing her man with another guy, a woman needs to love the company of other women, be turned on by other women’s bodies, and not freak out if the other woman’s boobs are bigger or her orgasms are more intense, or whatever else might incite sexual competition. “Of course, the same goes for guys if you are planning a MMF threesome,” she adds.
“If she can’t handle watching you flirt with other women, forget about a threesome,” Rose advises. “But if you both get turned on by watching one another turn on the charm, it is a good sign that you’ll get super aroused watching one another during a threesome.”
“Compersion” is a term coined to describe the opposite of erotic jealousy. Compersion is all about feeling pleasure when your partner receives pleasure from someone else,” Rose mentions. “Does she get excited when you have a great night out with the guys, or does she sulk? Is she happy for you when you spend a day finishing up that project in the garage, or does she make you feel guilty? Check in about how much compersion vs. jealousy she is expressing, in and out of the bedroom.”
The ultimate sign that she’ll be up for a threesome? It’s her fantasy as well! “You can look for signs that she’ll be into a threesome, but ultimately you can never convince or coerce her into participating if threesomes don’t authentically turn her on.” The best way to find out if she is into a threesome, you say? Ask her!

We've had threesomes before but it was M/F/F. I guess I'm just worried it'll make her respect me less but I'm not sure if I'm being irrational.
My girlfriend wants a threesome with another guy is this a bad idea?
Guys would you let your girlfriend have a threesome with another guy?
Girlfriend wants a threesome...but with another guy! What should I do?
Girls, If you decided to have a threesome with your boyfriend and another guy, would it be someone you knew or a stranger?
Girlfriend wants to have MMF threesome. What should I expect?
Who wants to move to California, or do you need an invitation?
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If you're fine with being cucked, emasculated, and basically also coming out of the closet, then go for it. Then again, you're saying you've done it before, so I guess you're already all of those things. Honestly speaking, I couldn't respect any man who let his wife f*ck other people right in front of him, or any woman in the same situation. That's quite literally cuckoldry! It's evident your woman already doesn't respect you as a man and I can't blame her. And if you had any respect for yourself, you wouldn't have ever done these in the first place. Neither one of you are in a proper "relationship" and neither one of you respect each other as people.
Talk to her, tell her a list of your fears about this type of mmf interaction. If she listens and tried to assuge you (helps calm your fears and worries) then you can ask her more about why she wants it, your boundaries, and what you wish to see happen during it if you guys do it. BUT if she tried denying your fears and worries, calls you childish and insecure and belittles you ( either sugar coating it or looking nice or just being blunt and harsh) then tell her no. That you were going she'd listen, help you through your insecurities and fears but you feel as though she only cares about what she wants. Because from the sounds of how you type sure you'd give her the same respect as my first senario I've listed.
you already had the m-f-f, so she wants her m-m-f, fair is fair seems like she gave you what you wanted now you are hesitating on her turn? i dont ever think 3 sums are good or end well, a neighbor did one with her husband he wound up leaving her for the other lady while she was at work...
I don't think it will effect respect. she just wants to be banged by 2 guys. if your comfortable with it and think you can emotionally and physically go through with it do it!! I could see myself having a MMF threesome but if it came down to it all the stars would have to align... actually seeing another dude boner would be a turn off. now the MFF count me in all day long!!
Well, she did the mff. If you got to bang the other woman then you kind of owe her. Then again are you the man of the house? Or is she? You say what goes, but be a fair leader. Think of her needs but also how it will effect your view of her and her view on you. Have heard that some veterans suggest first timers to use a blindfold on the woman, makes for a less intimate banging sessions.
Not a bad idea , but just make sure you want to do it too. You need to be on the same page with her. It can be a ton of fun. Talk to her more about it and why she wants to do it
Doesn't matter what sex the participants are, it is an all-around BAD IDEA. Research that topic on here -- you're not the first to inquire about this very thing. It's a recipe for disaster, trust me
Well only the two of you can decide if it’s a bad idea or not because it’s your relationship. But you said it’s something she wants so I’m just confused as to why you think she would respect you less.
It's a bad idea, if you're not into the idea, but it's a good idea if you are. No reason why it would make her respect you less, why would you think that?
Because he's literally letting another man f*ck his wife while he watches?
If she wants to try F/M/M you should do it as she's already given you a M/F/F. The two of you should set some rules, like you won't DP and you don't want her swallowing his cum, or whatever works for the two of you.
Does havng threesomes strengthen your relationship?
Like if you already did threesomes before whats the problem with mfm im sure you can talk to her so you dont do anything with the other guy if you dont want to
It could be a bad idea. But you already had one MFF, so this is all fair. You can't really say no now. It would be selfish.
You've done it more times, at some point a M M F was bound to happen, so you should agree for your partner. But talk it out.
Inviting a new person in the bedroom is always a bad thing
Maybe you can get one with another girl afterwards.
This is why I refused to give someone I dated one you don’t get to decide what makes you look down on someone …a threesome is a threesome.
Dude, why would that be a bad idea? You already have ffm before. It would be fair for you to comply with her request. He probably wants to try an DP. Help her feel like a Queen.
Nah go for it, spit roast the shit out of her, then DP her, such fun!
It's an extremely hot idea imho, perhaps she wants you to experiment with versatility?,,,
U r irrational. U did ffm, so it would be generous for ur girlfriend to try mmf.
It kind of does. There was a girl on here who suggested a FMF threesome. Her boyfriend agreed, but didn't really like it. Thrn she wanted a MFM, which he flat out denied. She thought that since he agreed to the FMF, he had to agree to three MFM, despite her suggesting the first one.
The guy still did it. And asking for mmf is the same as ffm. If one did the latter for ur girlfriend, y would they back off all of a sudden? Not everything matches up.
Because they don't like the idea of another dude's dick in her. Plus her suggesting another girl means she is okay with his dick in another girl. For example, the only way I would have a threesome with two guys is if I am the 3rd guy. As long as I smooth my girlfriend I want to be the only guy she has sex with. I know she wants to be the only girl I have sex with, but if she wanted to add another girl I wouldn't mind, while I would if she wanted to add another guy.
Your last sentence was all it was necessary. Have a nice day, I guess.
I would say she's not happy in the bedroom with you. Try suggest a sex toy
If you've done it before like that, only fair to do what she wants.
see if she'll do a 4some then there's another girl there also

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Pro tip: Make sure the bed is actually big enough for all three of you to sleep in together afterward.
While having a threesome right now is def not the best idea given the pandemic, the idea of ye olde ménage à trois remains one of the most popular evergreen sexual bucket list activities in healthier times. And why shouldn’t it be? A threesomes isn’t just the male-oriented fantasy that pop culture makes it out to be sometimes. There are plenty of reasons a woman would also want and seek out a threesome—and you should be encouraged to explore that territory if it’s something that turns you on. Whether you’re in a committed couple finding a third, looking to join an existing couple in a threesome as their unicorn or invite a third into your relationship, or just trying it out amongst friends, it’s easier to have a threesome than you’d think.
Sure, there can be planning involved, but if you’re going to go by movie standards, it’s rarely the wordless kissing of a tangle of strangers and then waking up the next morning as if nothing happened. You’ve gotta talk it out and make sure everyone’s on board, and sleeping on the decision is never a bad idea.
Before we get into the stories of three anonymous women who have dabbled in threesome arts, here’s a quick list of their tips for having a successful threesome—from experience!
Woman A: I had actually just lost my virginity to the guy that week, but we had been talking for a while. The both of us went out with my friend and one thing led to another. I figured “go big or go home.”
Woman B: I was single, and I volunteered to be the unicorn with a M/F couple I met on Tinder.
Woman C: Nope. It was me and two random guys I met at bar.
Woman A: Both my friend and I were always open to the idea of threesomes, but it definitely wasn’t planned. She just didn’t go home at the end of the night, and suddenly we were all in bed.
Woman B: The boyfriend of the couple was the one who ran the account, although both of their pictures were on the profile. This proved contentious when I ended up enjoying her company a lot more than his—he wouldn’t let me text her directly, which I maintain was because he was afraid we’d run off together!
Woman C: One of the two guys, who I’d approached at a bar in the wee morning hours of New Year’s 2020.
Woman A: I really liked the dude I was seeing, but I didn’t expect it to go anywhere, so there wasn’t a real pressure if it went badly. My friend, I knew it would never be weird, so when the opportunity came up, I thought why not. The handful of beers definitely helped as well.
Woman B: As a bisexual person on Tinder, I get a lot of “unicorn” offers, most of which I turn down. That said, when the guy told me he was reading transcripts from the Salem Witch Trials and his girlfriend was an aerialist like me, I was sold on the idea of at least going on a date with the pair of them—I figured I was in for a weird, fun evening and something that would eventually be a story, if nothing else.
Woman C: It was quite serendipitous, actually. I approached one of the guys and started flirting with him, thinking, Hey, it’s New Year’s, maybe we’ll make out or something . But then he introduced me to his friend and asked if I wanted to have a threesome. I thought I was being punk’d and asked them a bunch of times whether they were serious, and they insisted they were. I told them to buy condoms to prove it, and they went to the bodega around the corner and each bought a pack, which I thought was very funny.
Woman A: I hate to be that person but it just happened!
Woman B: Scheduling a date with one person is a nightmare; scheduling with two is exponentially worse! We didn’t go home together after the first date (it was a Monday night and who wants that), meaning it took us two weeks of frustrating texting to lock down a second, by which time we all wanted to kill each other, especially because we kept teasing and competing with each other.
Woman C: Honestly, it was so easy. There was no planning. It was a gift dropped into my lap to kick off 2020, and I am so grateful.
Woman A: I think I’m actually way more nervous about any potential future threesomes than I was that night.
Woman B: I found that having a threesome amplified the “Am I going to get murdered?” factor that comes with any app date. Something about a couple talking about how they have never done this before but are so excited to play with you (yikes) really ups the potential cartoon villain ante.
Woman C: They were two random guys I met and who proposed a threesome. I was like, What’s their deal? Are they gonna murder me? Why me? But to be fair, I did look amazing that night, and I introduced my roommate who was out with me to them first to get a gut check on the situation.
Woman A: We both were a little tipsy and he kept trying to show us this movie. We were decidedly not into that, so we all went to bed. I laid in the middle, fully okay to either fall asleep or do something. I think she started rubbing his head and that got him into it. He never actually had penetrative sex with her, and it was mostly overwhelming for me as the center of it all, TBH.
Woman B: The Tinder girlfriend opened the door to me in a trench coat that opened to reveal a full-body fishnet stocking, which set the bar for hotness incredibly high.
Woman C: I had just had a New Year’s party, so I offered them some snacks and a drink but they declined. I went to the bathroom to freshen up (aka pee and give mys
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