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“The clit, the clit, the clit, the clit!"
Seriously, why is there no female version of the masturbation scene in American Pie ? That minute of cinematic magic normalized the bizarre masturbation habits of guys everywhere. Now, it's time for ladies to embrace that same desire to get freaky however they please.
There are so many ways to explore the inner (and outer) workings of your bod—from trying new masturbation moves , to exploring different vibrator settings, or experimenting with sex toys.
Need some inspo for where to explore next—and how? These 10 women are sharing their favorite techniques:
“The clit, the clit, the clit, the clit! If you don’t know where it is, you better find it! Just get in touch with that thing and BOOM. Your life will be changed forever.” —Jessica, 26
“I like to put a blanket or t-shirt between my vagina and my vibrator. It deadens the feelings a little bit in a way that feels like another person is touching me. I do this while watching some seriously raunchy porn. I won’t get into the kind of porn because…awkward! But it works!” —Malia*, 24
“I'm in a long-distance relationship, and we see each other about once a month for a long weekend. Since we can't be together as often as we'd like, phone sex and masturbation obviously happen a lot. A couple of things that help both of us:
“One: We have a shared, private Dropbox folder where we upload sexy pics and videos. Watching him get himself off is very arousing, and it gives me clues about what he likes, for the next time we're together.
“Two: We intentionally leave clothing (pajamas, underwear...) at each other's homes. Smelling him on one of his t-shirts definitely gets me in the mood, if I'm not already.” —Frankie*, 36
“Find a vibrator that works for you and marry it. I went through a bunch of sex toys before I found a vibrator that does it for me every time. The thought of not having it or it breaking gives me serious anxiety. No thanks!” —Hannah, 29
“I really enjoy my favorite clit-vibe. It’s a small toy, but it is powerful! I just stick it right on my clit. I can have an orgasm in a few minutes flat. It’s the best way to relax ever. It’s better than sex.” —Britney, 29
“I need penetration to orgasm. I always have. So, sometimes masturbating is hard. Or, I guess it WAS hard for many years. All my friends thought I was weird for not just ‘rubbing one out.’
“I’ve finally got it down and I’m hoping other women will appreciate this info. I use a suction dildo, one of those dildos that can stick to a wall or floor or wherever—but I put it on a chair. That way I can lower myself onto it, cowgirl-style. I then use my hand to get my clitoris in on it, too. It works great for me!” —Michelle, 32
“I like to come down from the top of the clitoris. If I put anything right on it (even during sex), it’s kind of a bit too much, you know? If I approach the clitoris sort of from a downward angle with a vibrator, it gives me all the pressure I need to come, but without making it so over the top that I can’t get there. I also like experimenting with different kinds of vibrators and really take my time with it." —Angie, 36
“I don’t know if this is cheesy, but I set a whole mood for myself. I light candles, have a special playlist, and take a long hot bath. I guess I’d say it’s seducing myself. If I want to enjoy masturbation, it needs to be a complete experience or I don’t like it as much. It’s especially great when I’m in a bad mood or have had a really stressful day. I remind myself that I’m sexy and it feels really good.” —Julia, 28
“My girlfriend and I usually masturbate together, which is hot. It’s sexy to see her touch herself and it definitely turns her on to watch me. We sometimes watch porn, but mostly it’s just the two of us. I even think about the times we’ve gotten off solo-but-together when we’re having partner sex sometimes. It’s just so hot and weirdly voyeuristic.” —Janis*, 30
“To be honest, my best technique for masturbation is just doing it a lot. The more you masturbate, the better it gets. At least, for me. I try to keep it consistent as much as possible. I’ll be lying in bed and think, ‘Oh, I haven’t masturbated in a few days!’ So, I grab my vibe and go for it. If I go more than a week or so without using my vibrator, I find it harder to get off next time I get around to it.” —Lily*, 29
Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.
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Female masturbation is often seen as a taboo subject. You’ve probably tucked yourself into a corner to read this article, peering over your shoulder for fear of odd looks from passers-by. To be honest, I even found myself hiding my notes for this piece when colleagues casually approached my desk to ask if I’d like a cup of tea.
Women discussing wanking is not the done thing, but that shouldn’t be the case. Despite research showing that women masturbate as frequently as men, it's still not a topic that all females openly discuss. The Swedes have even created a new term for female masturbation in an attempt to stop women from being put off talking about the topic by the usual male-associated words.
To help us shake off the persistent social stigma, we’ve created a guide to female self-pleasuring. We spoke to women about their own experiences of masturbation and got some expert tips on how to make things work for you, including from Strawberry Siren, former Miss Burlesque Australia and the creator of the Pussy Play Masterclass, a workshop on the art of playing with yourself.
The only thing to do now is read on, and plan an early night.
Understanding the different bits of your body is the first step towards successful stimulation. Don’t be put off by the fact that you may not know the names of your parts, as the first and most important step is getting to know how to ‘use’ them, say the experts.
Lisa Lister, author and creator of wellness website The Sassy She says that getting to know your body, and not getting hung up on terminology, is the best approach.
“It would be great if we were taught the technicalities in school, but unfortunately we’re not. Though it’s good to know the terminology, it’s not essential. My advice would be to explore, get to know what things feel like, and if it feels good, keep going!”
To help us on our quest to become more familiar with our anatomy, Lisa has provided us with simple, straightforward definitions for some of our bodily bits from her book Love Your Lady Landscape.
Vulva: "This is the outer part of your lady landscape. It includes the clitoris, labia lips, urethra and entrance to the vagina, and its opening is almond shaped."
Clitoris: "When people people talk about the clitoris, they’re usually just talking about the glans – the very sensitive outside part, but the bean-like bump you can see on the vulva is just the tip of the iceberg. It's the only organ of the body with the sole function of providing pleasure."
Vagina: "This is a pulsing muscle that opens and closes between the cervix (at the base of the uterus) and the external opening."
Lisa also thinks getting to know your menstrual cycle is an important way of ensuring you get the most from the experience.
"Some people find that they’ll want to be playful and explore more around ovulation. You may not feel the urge to masturbate during your pre-menstrual cycle, but the orgasms will actually be way better, even if they do take a bit longer."
Put it into practice: Use the Pussy Play Masterclass ‘Rise and Sine’ approach to get to know a variety of these areas at once.
"Using the tips of your fingers, lightly tap the pubic bone above the clitoris to wake the vulva up. You may also want to press down and rub in a circular motion."
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Lisa thinks that, though sex toys can be a good way to introduce newcomers to the self-pleasure game, it's best to avoid becoming dependent on them.
“The real fun and pleasure comes through when you use your fingers,” says Lisa.
“Personally, I think that using a toy can desensitise the whole experience. You want to be able to touch yourself, so that you can be playful and get to know the speed and feel you want.”
Put it into practice: Put your fingers to the test with the ‘Scissors Sisters’ technique.
"Making a peace sign with your hands, place each finger on either side of the outer labia. Then, while pressing down lightly, wiggle the fingers towards each other, squeezing and lifting the labia together between the two fingers."
Get to know your clit "Your clitoris is awesome," says Lisa. As mentioned above, the clitoris is more than just the outer, bean-shaped part. "It's the most nerve-rich part of the vulva, containing over 8,000 nerve endings, which is twice as many as the penis. This makes it the powerhouse of pleasure."
Lisa explains that there’s more to the clitoris than initially meets the eye. “This tiny erogenous zone spreads the feel-good-love to 15,000 other nerves in the pelvis, which explains why it feels like your whole body is being taken over when you orgasm."
Put it into practice: Make your wildest fantasies come true and try out the 'Princess and the Pea' technique.
"Making sure the tip of your finger is nice and moist, slowly pull the hood over the clitoris back and gently stroke the head of the clitoris. You may also want to use a small circular motion, depending on your preferences."
There’s more to masturbation than the big O.
It's important to enjoy the whole experience, rather than racing to the finish line. Lube can be particularly good for assisting in the arousal process.
Lisa believes that engaging in foreplay can be beneficial for your relationships too.
“Be as indulgent as possible. Give yourself the full experience by making time to be exploratory and playful. By doing so, you’ll build a better relationship with your own body and as a result, be able to have more confidence in a relationship to say exactly what you want and when.”
Put it into practice: Warm yourself up by trying out the ‘Escargot’ technique
“Starting at the base of the vagina, lightly drag your fingertip at a snail’s pace towards the clitoris. Make sure you don’t put your finger in too deep at this point, as you want to avoid touching the urethra."
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Don’t act like you have plans tonight.
You’re home, you’ve got a few hours all to yourself, and you’re hornier than a rhino dressed as a devil for Halloween. What’s a woman to do? Masturbate, of course!
Whether you incorporate a sex toy or go the ole-fashioned finger route (no wrong answers here!), solo play isn't just a fun way to spend "me time," it’s also legit good for you —more on that in a sec.
Plus, it's good for your sexual partner(s), too. Because you're able to experiment on your own, masturbation is a low-pressure way to learn what feels good, explains Megan Fleming, PhD, a psychologist and sex therapist. Maybe you realize clitoral stimulation is absolute must to climax, or perhaps you discover deep penetration is what gets you to O-town (and beyond). "Relay that insight to your partner and you’re destined for better partner sex, including orgasms, which promote bonding," says Fleming.
Need another reason to enjoy your ~alone time~? I've got four...
The fact that it feels phenom is reason enough to get down with your bad self. But the health perks will have you reaching into your panties faster than you can say "vibrator." These perks include:
Before you can "rock your body" Justin Timberlake–style, you first have to know your body. "It's essential for women to be able to identify their anatomy," says Janet Brito , PhD, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu.
That’s why she recommends using a combination of diagrams and hands-on learning to suss out what's going on down there...
Admit it: The last time you looked at a diagram of the female anatomy was during your seventh grade health class (just me?). Spend some time looking at and even memorizing it. As you do, be sure to say the anatomical words out loud. In a world that undervalues vulva-owners, doing so can be an act of power.
Unless you’re in Cirque du Soleil, getting a real good look at your vulva and vagina is going to be physically impossible. That’s why Brito recommends beginning your personal investigation with the basics, which is to say, a hand-held mirror. It’s really the best way to see what your vulva *actually* looks like, she says.
The clitoris (a.k.a. your best friend) is where the masturbation magic usually happens. Home to a whopping 15,000 (!) nerve endings, it should come as no surprise that some 37 percent to 73 percent of vulva-owners NEED clitoral stimulation to orgasm, according to research . Depending on your anatomy, finding your clit may be easier said than done, but it's worth the effort.
True, odds are high that you’ll need clitoral stimulation to cross the finish line. But that doesn’t mean touching allllll the other parts of your vulva can’t feel good, too. Brito suggests taking your time to explore and name all parts of your body to figure out what feels good and what's just meh. "Touch gently and, with curiosity, label the parts that feel most sensitive, arousing, ticklish, and uncomfortable,” she says.
"At best, we’re told to never discuss [masturbation] and keep it to the confines of our bedrooms. At worst, we’re taught to avoid it altogether," Hall explains.
The result of these (lack of) teachings leave some masturbators with a challenge to overcome: Believing that masturbating is wrong, says Fleming. But nothing could be further from the case. "There is absolutely nothing shameful about self-pleasuring, and there’s nothing to feel guilty about after you do it," she says.
If shame comes up for you, "start by owning that that’s what you’re experiencing," she says. "Then, tell yourself that those feelings are a result of internalized sex negativity." If a self pep-talk isn’t enough (it may not be!), she recommends seeing a certified sex therapist. They specialize in replacing what she calls "the wet blanket of shame" with pleasure.
You change the sheets, light candles, and cue up your fave sex playlist when you're about to get it on with another person, so why not put the same amount of effort into DIY time?
It's kinda hard to feel sexy if your room's covered in month-old laundry and yesterday's takeout containers. So, "start by creating a relaxing, comfortable space in your home, full of privacy and free of interruption," says Brito.
Plus, she notes, Marie Kondo–ing your space can help clear your mind, giving you more room to focus on identifying what feels pleasurable and, consequently, increasing your chances of having that big O.
This one might seem obvious, but so many people skip it. Locking your door, even if you're home alone, can clear your brain of any worry of someone barging in. Sometimes, that's all your mind really needs to get centered.
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