Your Son's A Fuck Up

Your Son's A Fuck Up
While one of the simplest ways to deal with bullies is to avoid them... that's not always possible. Sometimes they live in your house. Sometimes they're even related to you -- by blood .
Dysfunctional family dynamics are often written off as "That's just the way my family is." But you don't have to let yourself be manipulated, or tolerate abusive behavior. Instead, hold your ground with these strategies:
Your older sister has been tormenting you for years about the way you look. (The size of your nose. Or your butt. Or the way you dress.) Sometimes she even smacks you, though she says she's "just playing." You've learned to accept her hurtful words and behavior over the years; after all, what else can you do? She's treated you that way since the day you were born.
The hard truth? According to a study published in Pediatrics, aggression between young siblings can escalate into adult bullying . If that's the case for you, well... now that you’re an adult, you can defend yourself. “Don’t play the game,” says Janice Harper, Ph.D., a cultural anthropologist specializing in conflict. Instead, take the Dog Whisperer 's approach when it comes to your pack... uh, family: Be calm and assertive à la Cesar Millan. "Let the [bullying] family member know you love them, but that you won’t be a target," Harper says. "Don’t engage in self-defense, and don’t engage in counterattacks.” Example: Your sibling says, "Everyone in the family knows you've always been spoiled rotten." You say... nothing. You don’t respond. You just stay calm and keep doing what you were doing.
According to Harper, one of the most common forms of family bullying is shunning -- better known as the silent treatment or the cold shoulder . “Shunning is cruel, unnecessary and pointless,” she says. Don’t mistake it as a break from the abuse -- and don’t let the bully get away with it. Instead, keep speaking to the bully at family functions, including him or her as best you can and ignoring the fact that they're pretending to ignore you . Attempt to talk to them and resolve the conflict, but if they refuse to respond-- or try to shift accountability to you or someone else -- move on and don’t engage. This isn’t a return of the silent treatment; this is you allowing the conversation to end on your terms.
First things first: Shunning and bullying are abuse. “Any family member who encourages others to shun you is not only abusing you, but damaging your relationships with other family members,” says Harper. The longer the shunning or bullying persists, the harder it is to break the cycle. The strongest tactic? Distance yourself from the bully -- even if he or she is your parent. “Let them know you will not participate in your own abuse,” says Harper. Use your words to create a strict boundary: "I’m not going to tolerate this behavior. I’m not going to be around you until you treat me with dignity and compassion." Don’t call. Don’t visit. Don’t bad-mouth them to others. And though this might sound odd, don’t defend yourself. Why? Because bullies need you to react to their behavior in order to keep that behavior going. “[Reacting] only leads to arguments,” says Harper. “You have to protect yourself emotionally.” So stand your ground -- and in the meantime, surround yourself with the friends and family members who do support you.
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AIZAWL: In the rarest of rare cases, a 35-year-old man of Zemabawk locality in Aizawl forced his 15-year-old son to rape his step-mother on July 10, a delayed report said on Sunday.Sources said the sexually perverted man tied up her 40-year-old wife after stripping her naked and forced his son (of his first marriage) to rape her.When his son resisted and said this was not what one should do to his mother, this man pulled off his pants and threatened to beat him if he refused to obey his words.After the boy fulfilled his father’s order, the father then fulfilled his own sexual desires on his wife.After this, he sent the boy and his step-mother to attend a Sunday church service, the sources said.The woman told the local vigilantes about her husband’s diabolical acts, who furthered informed the police.(UNI)
The police immediately arrested the man and sent him to jail, while the 15-year-old boy was sent to a remand home.
Sources said the man had killed his first wife and mother of his 15-year-old son.
The woman said she was a victim of constant physical abuses from her husband, who sometimes pressed her fingers with pliers. UNI
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I had been married to my husband for a year, but it was a struggle as he only married me because I got pregnant. His parents further complicated the matter by insisting we wed. We always fought. It was so bad that we had to separate in August 2015 until further notice. His family has been very good to me, especially his father. Even after the separation, he always makes sure my son and I are taken care of financially. I ended up sleeping with his father last year in December. I found out last week that I am pregnant and there is no way it is my husband’s child as we have not been intimate for over six months. Please help.
Since both you and his father are both adults and you willingly participated in making this baby, you both need to sit down and decide on the way forward. There is no easy solution or slapstick answer for this one! Remember abortion is a crime. Enough said.
Afraid of committing to my older lover, help
I’m a 28-year-old man and I have been dating this 32-year-old lady since May last year. I’m just a bit scared to commit because of the age difference, and of what my family and friends will say.
These are not the stone- age-days, today age is nothing but a number. Don’t be naive, commit and see where it goes! After all, as sages say, love is blind; it knows no age, race, class etc.
I got saved and now can’t cope with hubby
I have been married for two years and we have a daughter. I recently got saved, and I am now very active in the church. My husband on the other hand is not born again. Now that I have changed my life there are things that he does that anger me. I do not go out to drink and party like I used to, but my husband still does. I have been trying to get him to come to change, to come to church with me and to also get saved, but we always end up arguing and annoying each other, please help.
I’m sorry, you are the problem. Just because you are now born again you want him to also follow suit? Come on! Plus that doesn’t give you the moral authority to judge him harshly. When you married him you knew what he was, so do not forget your vows, and maybe try praying for him instead!
Should I confess my bad past to new lover?
I’m just getting into my first proper relationship with a lady I love. However, I am terrified about discussing my past with her. I am worried if she finds out the truth about me, she will leave me. Is it okay to wait until later on to tell her?
Of course not! If you love this woman like you claim, then tell her the truth now. Better the devil you know than the angel you do not know!
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I had been married to my husband for a year, but it was a struggle as he only married me because I got pregnant. His parents further complicated the matter by insisting we wed. We always fought. It was so bad that we had to separate in August 2015 until further notice. His family has been very good to me, especially his father. Even after the separation, he always makes sure my son and I are taken care of financially. I ended up sleeping with his father last year in December. I found out last week that I am pregnant and there is no way it is my husband’s child as we have not been intimate for over six months. Please help.
Since both you and his father are both adults and you willingly participated in making this baby, you both need to sit down and decide on the way forward. There is no easy solution or slapstick answer for this one! Remember abortion is a crime. Enough said.
Afraid of committing to my older lover, help
I’m a 28-year-old man and I have been dating this 32-year-old lady since May last year. I’m just a bit scared to commit because of the age difference, and of what my family and friends will say.
These are not the stone- age-days, today age is nothing but a number. Don’t be naive, commit and see where it goes! After all, as sages say, love is blind; it knows no age, race, class etc.
I got saved and now can’t cope with hubby
I have been married for two years and we have a daughter. I recently got saved, and I am now very active in the church. My husband on the other hand is not born again. Now that I have changed my life there are things that he does that anger me. I do not go out to drink and party like I used to, but my husband still does. I have been trying to get him to come to change, to come to church with me and to also get saved, but we always end up arguing and annoying each other, please help.
I’m sorry, you are the problem. Just because you are now born again you want him to also follow suit? Come on! Plus that doesn’t give you the moral authority to judge him harshly. When you married him you knew what he was, so do not forget your vows, and maybe try praying for him instead!
Should I confess my bad past to new lover?
I’m just getting into my first proper relationship with a lady I love. However, I am terrified about discussing my past with her. I am worried if she finds out the truth about me, she will leave me. Is it okay to wait until later on to tell her?
Of course not! If you love this woman like you claim, then tell her the truth now. Better the devil you know than the angel you do not know!
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