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Hi, i'm a [...] female virgin, i masturbate regularly (at least once a day) and am generally really comfortable with my sexuality and talking about sex but I'm currently feeling a bit stuck! I'd really like a vibrator from Ann Summers(a sex store), i've done plenty of research into different products that are safe and simple and would be suited to my needs and wants, I've found one that i feel would heighten my pleasure, and i feel like i'm ready, competent and comfortable to use a vibrator, but i'm not sure how i'd be able to get one! I feel uncomfortable talking to my parents about it, my dad is under the impression that i'm still a young girl and oblivious to the world of sex, and my mum is quite conservative and would certainly not react well if i asked for a vibrator! I've been trying to wok out how i could buy one using the internet but i don't have my own credit/debit card and my parents would find out if i used their cards or paypal accounts. I think I would be allowed into an Ann Summers store as i am very tall and mature looking, but i know it's risky as well as dishonest, and my nearest Ann Summers store is a train and bus journey away anyway! I do feel like i understand all the facts about safety and hygiene, and I am mature and wouldn't snigger or be confused at the sight of a sex toy like I know many young people my age would (including many of my own friends and classmates). I've a lot of thought and consideration into what I want and need, but I don't know what to do at this stage. I don't want to have to wait another four years to be able to get something I've been pining after for several months already! What do you think I should do? Please help! Izzy

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Hi Izzy,

Unfortunately, I'm not sure there is a great way for you to get this particular vibrator for yourself. As you said, without credit cards of your own there's really no way to do business online. The only solution I could think of here is if you had a prepaid credit card; sometimes people will get those as gifts and can use them like any other credit card. I suppose if there's anyone in your life who tends to give you gift certificates as presents you could mention this, but it's a little awkward and, in most situations, rude to dictate what sort of gift someone gives you!
In terms of going to the store yourself, I know that most stores of this nature are very meticulous about checking the ids of customers who come in, so despite how old you look you will probably not be able to do this in person.

There are some drug stores & big box stores that sell vibrators (often labeled as "personal massagers") and although the selection at places like these will be much smaller, that may be your best option at this point.
Hi, thank you very much for such a quick reply, as you said it might be a bit rude to ask for a prepaid credit card, but i'll look into what you said about pharmacies, that sounds like a good idea!
I totally get where you are coming from. I was in a similar situation a few years ago, but I had my own credit card, so I was able to purchase one.

The only other thing I can think of is to ask a close and accepting friend/relative to buy one for you. I know may be awkward, but if you have someone who can legally buy a sex toy in a store or can use their own credit card to buy one online, you could tell them what you wanted and they could give it to you privately.

Also, about the gift card thing, you don't have to ask someone for a sex toy gift card. If an online sex toy shop takes American Express or Visa, its likely that they will take an American Express or Visa gift card, so you could just ask for one of those instead.

And Mo is right. One of the most popular vibrators is actually a back/neck massager- the Hitachi Magic Wand. However, I've heard this one is super powerful though, so you might want to go easier for your first time. You could probably get a 'personal massager' from Brookstone or Bed Bath and Beyond- those are the only stores (online too!) that I know of, there might be others where you live.

I'm not sure if this helps. Good Luck!
Hi itssixmilesdeep,

I just wanted to throw this article your way in case you're interested in ways to try out some different vibrator options that are D.I.Y while you work out how to get one from a store.
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It’s easy to see why: Vibrators can be used either solo or with a partner, are known to increase sexual desire and arousal , and are even a science-backed treatment for various sex-related medical issues. In other words, buying a vibe is a powerful act of self-care.
But how do you shop for a vibrator (and incorporate it into your sex life) if you’ve never tried one before? We’ve got you covered.
“I think a good place to start is to look at what kind of stimulation you already enjoy,” advises Amy Norton , a sex educator and sex toy reviewer. “If you’re into clitoral stimulation, I might suggest something like a bullet vibrator; if you’re more into G-spot stimulation, I might suggest something that’s designed for internal use. If you like both at the same time, that’s where a rabbit vibrator or dual-stimulation vibe can come in handy.” You can assess this by thinking about how you tend to masturbate and/or what aspects of sex you particularly enjoy. Grinding? Oral? Fingering? Penetration? Something else entirely?
The next thing to consider when choosing your first vibrator, Norton says, is whether you’re into broad stimulation or more pinpointed sensations. When you receive oral sex, for example, what tends to feel better for you: a wide, flat tongue pressed against your whole vulva, or the tip of a tongue tracing your clitoris or labia? This distinction can inform whether you’ll go for a big, all-encompassing vibrator, like a wand, or something slimmer, like a bullet.
Intensity of vibrations is also an important factor. It can be hard to know what you need in this regard if you’ve never used a vibrator, but Norton suggests thinking about whether you tend to prefer firm, rough stimulation (say, from a partner’s hand, or your own), or a lighter, gentler touch. If you’re not sure, or if your preferences tend to vary, she recommends getting a vibrator with multiple vibration modes and different speeds, as opposed to a classic two-speed wand (“I like to say that they have two settings: ‘high’ and ‘holy shit,’” Norton says).
Another crucial consideration is vibration quality . According to Bex Caputo , a sex educator and former sex toy salesperson, there are two main types of vibration: rumbly and buzzy. Rumbly vibration can be felt more deeply in the body, tends to cause less of the temporary desensitization some people dislike about vibrators, and is usually found in midrange to high-end toys. Buzzy vibration, on the other hand, feels more surface level, is more prone to causing numbness, and is most prevalent in cheaper toys. “If you can get your hands on a toy”—such as at a sex shop—“you can notice whether that sensation feels pleasant on your fingers,” Caputo says. If your fingers start to feel numb, itchy, or uncomfortable just from holding a vibrator while it’s turned on, the vibrations probably won’t feel good on your genitals either.
Lastly, Caputo emphasizes that it’s important to think about how you intend to use your vibrator. For example, if you’re just going to use a toy solo, you may not particularly care if it’s large or has a less-than-sexy aesthetic—but if you plan on incorporating it into partnered sex, you may want it to be slimmer or sleeker. You should also consider whether you’ll have noise constraints to contend with—like a roommate with hypersensitive ears or in-laws occasionally staying in the guest room—in which case, you may prefer to get a quiet vibe.
“Sex toys come in many different materials,” Caputo explains. “Make sure the one you get is non-porous.” Porous materials, like PVC and elastomer, cling onto bacteria and can never be fully cleaned—which, naturally, isn’t ideal for a product you’ll be using on your genitals. Look for vibes made of materials known to be nonporous, such as ABS plastic and medical-grade silicone. These do tend to be slightly more expensive, but then, having recurring vaginal infections can get expensive, too, so you may as well save up for something body-safe.
Another reason to avoid porous materials is that they often contain phthalates , a type of chemical plasticizer associated with cancer, birth defects, and skin irritation, among other things. “There are so many terrible, unsafe toys out there and it makes me very upset,” Norton says, “because they’re so often specifically marketed to beginners who don’t know any better.” When in doubt, do your research, read reviews, and stick to silicone and plastic vibes.
Provided your toy is nonporous, you can clean it between uses with water and a mild soap. It’s easiest to do this if your toy is waterproof. You can also sanitize a nonporous toy by dipping it in a solution of one part bleach to nine parts water, letting it sit for at least 10 minutes, and rinsing it very well. Typically it’s not necessary to sanitize a toy if you’re the only one using it, but you’ll definitely want to do so between uses if you’ll be sharing it with partners or want to use it both anally and vaginally.
With this expert guidance in mind, we’ve rounded up the best vibrators for beginners, below. Happy exploring.
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Though there are countless bullet vibes on the market, this one sets itself apart with its powerful motor, thoughtful design, and multiple vibration patterns and intensity levels. Whether you’re using it solo or with a partner, it’s sure to be a hit.
If you’re not quite sure what type of vibrator you’d prefer—internal, external, or both?—Norton recommends starting with a curved G-spot vibrator like this one. “You can use it internally, but you can also use it for clit stimulation, so it’s versatile,” she says.
The most classic of classic wand vibes, this one is particularly great because it’s rechargeable, so you’re not chained to an outlet. And if it dies midway through your session, you can just plug it in and keep going.
Asked which wand vibrator she thinks is best, Norton says, “Doxy all the way. Doxy every single time.” Said to have 30% more power than the Magic Wand, this British-made vibe is ideal for people who need a lot of stimulation. But its intensity is adjustable, so you can start on low(-ish) and work your way up.
If you think you need wand-level vibrations, but you’re not necessarily thrilled about holding a big, bulky wand head against your bits, consider throwing an attachment like this one into your cart. It focuses those thrumming vibrations into a smaller shape, which can be used to stimulate your G-spot, clit, or both at once.
The cute, friendly aesthetic of Dame products makes them feel more approachable, especially for beginners. This one has a uniquely shaped concave tip that can create either pinpoint or broad sensations, depending on how you hold it.
Caputo recommends this little vibe for solo users as well as people who want to incorporate vibration into sex with a partner, because it fits neatly in the palm of your hand. “It has a solid range of vibrations, so it goes from incredibly low to fairly powerful,” he says.
Unlike most other bullets, this one has 20 (!) different settings and some flexibility to it, which you may find more comfortable. It’s fully waterproof, so you can take it into the shower or tub next time you need some me time.
This large G-spot vibe is best “if you know you like something hefty” internally, Caputo says. That ribbed texture massages the G-spot and vaginal walls for a full-bodied sensation. The fabulously strong motor in this toy is great for external stimulation too.
The flat head of this toy is meant to locate and target the G-spot (hence its cute name). It’s rechargeable, waterproof, quiet, and has a travel lock feature, so it might become your new favorite vacation companion.
For connoisseurs of clitoral stimulation, it’s hard to go past the Eroscillator. It oscillates rather than vibrates, which can lead to deeper, stronger orgasms and less of the temporary numbness some people experience from vibrators. It comes with multiple attachments, too, so you can experiment to find the one you like best.
I sold at least a few of these every week when I worked at a sex shop, because so many people came in looking for budget-friendly beginner vibrators, and this is simply one of the best ones you can get for under $20. Made of hard plastic, this toy has a versatile shape and a dial for adjusting its speed, so you can get a sense of how and where you like to use vibration before potentially upgrading to a pricier model.
This G-spot vibe can be used either internally or externally, depending on your mood. It connects to We-Vibe’s smartphone app, so you can create and loop your own vibration patterns or even allow a long-distance partner to have their way with you via vibration. Hot!
If you like to masturbate by “riding” or grinding against things, this unusual hands-free vibe might be right up your alley. It stimulates your clit, vaginal opening, and perineum (the sensitive area between your vagina and your anus) while you rock against it.
This ultra-discreet vibe is designed to look like a USB flash drive (it charges via USB too) so it’s a
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