Women Talking Sexy

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The ritual begins in high school, in bedrooms, one girl hugging a teddy bear to her chest as she talks, the other drawing graffiti on her blue jeans while she listens. As adults, women continue the tradition—while drinking champagne at marble-topped bars, sweating in saunas together, or walking down snowy city streets.
We talk about sex. We talk about you.
The transcripts are funny, when they're not sad. As complicated as quantum physics, or as simple as strawberry pie. These talks, if you overheard them, would be strange, or disheartening, or stunning, or filthy, or most likely all those things on the same page.
Sex is a dark place, and everyone's swinging a lantern, finding their individual ways. When we compare notes with our girlfriends about adventures in the wilderness, we're also leaving footprints of why we feel, what we think, and how we dream. If you follow our tracks, we'll take you back to where we live.
(Want the best sex of your life? Check out the Men's Health Big Book of Sex to last longer, give her a mind-blowing orgasm, and learn 44 amazing sex positions.)
Polite, But Not Really
We can do locker-room rundowns as aggressively as any athlete, but women first use a delicate code in our inquiries with each other. Did you have fun last night? Was he sweet? These are graphic questions, but they're folded into a blank envelope so the inquiree has the option of sharing or not sharing X-rated details. (Although every woman has that friend who always tells us everything we never wanted to know, so the next time we see her boyfriend, we can't look him in the eye.)
In the uncommon but always interesting case of two women having "overlapped," (gone home with the same guy on different nights), that delicacy applies: What did you think? This is asked as if two women had just read the same bestseller ( It was a page turner, only took me a couple of hours to finish ) or ordered the same grilled-lamb special ( It was lean and spicy; I would get it again ).
Don't believe the hype: As much as people love to say that for women, sex is about love, what women often love about sex is sex.
What's Good, Anyway?
Good question. In fourth grade, a bunch of us thought we were little Kierkegaards, arguing on the bus what we believed was the most existential question ever asked: How do I know that what I call blue is the same color as what you call blue?
If whether a guy is "good" is the hinge to every conversation about sex, it's a crooked, fallible one. I might tell my friend I had good sex, and she'll be glad for me, but we'll unknowingly be picturing two completely different scenarios.
A missionary episode that I might consider boring, preppy, vanilla sex, my friend might think is brutally sincere, slow and hard, elegantly simple lovemaking. What this proves is that the best sex is sex tailored to the person in bed with you. Love the one you're with, not the idea of someone or some act, not according to a generic prescription for sex, not in pursuit of some abstract goal, and then any sex can become good.
Put confidence in your ability to learn about each other; enjoy the process of slowing down, even backing up, turning around, and trying again.
Skillz
Sometimes a woman casually refers to things like "twisting the tiger's tail" or "resonant orgasms" as if her girlfriends know exactly what she means. (Many of us won't betray ignorance but will say things like Oh, yeah, twisting the tail, love it , then Google the technique later.) In this way, our talk functions like a Tupperware party: A leader spells out tips for her crew, and the pointers trickle into the homes of many. It's a pyramid system of carnal knowledge.
If, however, we try on you something that's obviously newly acquired, and we grimace as if we were assembling an Ikea armoire from 18 pages of diagrams, you should feel free to gently show us how to do it better. Or in some situations just get us off the hook and into the next activity.
In terms of your skills, it's true, there's the occasional superhero who lifts cars with a finger and flies over tall buildings (or however that translates sexually). That man who lets a lady go first, or who can go again and again, and then again, or who is diabolically dexterous, is welcome at my dinner table.
But a skill or a tool without a heart behind it is worth nothing. In all honesty, we talk more about a guy's general, soulful presence in the office than we do about how fast and accurately he creates a spreadsheet.
If you've got a new skill, by all means, break it out. But do so with respect for the mood, and for her reaction; if it's not working, let it go.
Silence
However, if his skills are too good, we don't talk about it at all. No one needs other women peering in the bedroom window, steaming the glass like kids lusting after a train set in an icy storefront at Christmas.
If you somehow hear that your girlfriend is the quiet one in her crew, don't feel left out. Feel euphorically proud.
The Naughty Story
Often a woman will tell a friend a kinky story piece by piece, gauging her listener, pulling back if she senses disapproval, and elaborating if she perceives approval. She'll be bragging as much as trying to figure out if what she did the night before is legal. This reminds me of being 10 and eating an ant on the playground for a dollar; it took many tellings of the story, testing my public, to determine if I was cool or I was a loser.
That's because inside each one of us argyle-sock schoolteachers, there's an Amsterdam hooker wearing a gold thong and suspenders. Inside her is a wool-suited librarian reshelving books of 18th-century poetry. And inside her is an 18-year-old Iowa cheerleader on some sinful mission in her Trans Am. And at the heart is Eve, barefoot in an orchard.
It's not just that society likes to get two antithetical things from us; we ourselves want to be two antithetical things. This results in a kind of organic and fun schizophrenia. And if you can just go with it, everyone might be very happy.
We hash out the naughty stuff with our girlfriends because even a hedonist occasionally feels an amphitheater of superego judges watching her. And then we have a crisis of confidence about whatever lascivious thing we've done: I know I did the beautiful, raw, rude, ecstatic thing, but did I do the right thing?
If we go out on a sexual limb, it's amazing when you assure us it was worth it. Tell us you loved it. In 5 minutes, tell us again.
Debacles and Damage Control
You drunkenly wet the bed. You pull out your house keys and Viagra spills like candy. She finds a scarlet negligee on the bathroom doorknob, an earring glittering in the sheets.
She's going to talk about it with someone. She can talk about it with her friends, or with her mother, or on her widely read blog. So it never hurts for you to be the one to bring it up, make light of it if necessary, or gain back her trust if possible, because then you might be the only one she talks to about whatever happened.
Relationships that convert disasters into bonding memories last longer.
The Oprah Factor
Sometimes, though, a woman will have a conference with friends on handling a crisis, and her friends will not be shy. We all like to feel like Oprah.
After such sessions, without necessarily knowing they've occurred, you might have that feeling that someone's been in your house, even if nothing's missing or moved.
And sometimes to no good end. Love is the most inexact science, and we ladies feel we counsel with the best intentions, but our own lives get in the way. I recently listened as a gang of women advised a friend to leave a guy. But behind those friends' earnest faces was unhappiness in their own relationships, or jealousy, or pain. Secretly they transferred their own grudges.
Whenever I'm about to put friends' advice before my instincts, I hear my father's voice: And what if they told you to jump off the Brooklyn Bridge? If the woman you love looks like she's spinning from too many directives, don't attempt to prove your reasoning on top of it all. Make her feel safe; be receptive. When she feels good, she can open up. At first you may feel like you're doing battle with a tribe of her invisible allies, but wait.
A good talk between a man and a woman always simmers down to the two real people in the room—the two people who matter.
Morality
Men might be confounded by the Victorian lace of logic women cite in the average sexual anecdote: If he likes doing that to me, then I LOVE it, and if he loves it, then it's all I want; but if he doesn't really like it, I can't enjoy it knowing that he's not enjoying it, you know? Or I didn't have to, but he didn't expect me to, so I figured I would. It's a daisy chain of tiny ethical decisions.
If we get a faraway, concerned look in our eyes at some pivotal moment in bed, we might be thumbing through a virtual, heirloom manual of dirty etiquette in our head, looking for the chapter on whatever we're about to do, or what we just did, or what we want to do.
Give us a moment; we'll figure it out if we don't feel pressured.
Storytelling 101
What might take a man a minute and a half to tell his friend becomes for a woman an hour-long story. She'll tell her own friend everything from what gin was in her martini to whether the guy pulled out her chair to how she ordered her steak cooked, and eventually get to how many times she came, and how hard. This reflects the truth of women's sexual reality: Everything matters.
If you honor the bits and pieces along the way, you make an extraordinary investment in the possibilities.
Speechless
I have friends who over the years have never discussed the sex they have with their husband or boyfriend. They keep it locked up, like a diamond on blue velvet in a safe-deposit box. And it gains power for being so dearly and privately held. After all my talk here about talk, there's a lot to be said for discretion.
Besides, when it comes to describing the real thing, when a woman has stumbled on the right man the right way, she'll be short of explanation. She'll blush, look at her friend, look away. I don't know, it's just . . . I don't know. This dumbfounding is more of an achievement than any thesis-length treatise we've ever given.
Being in love, even if just for a night, bewilders everyone, sends us back to the beginning. Makes us wordless as the day we were born.

"Keep it clean but nasty at the same time, if you understand what I'm saying."
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I think it has to be so in the moment and so natural,
if it's forced you sound ridiculous.
Good dirty talk is the perfect combination of like,
well the perfect middle ground between
being anatomical and then being like, metaphorical.
Like I don't want explicit names, anatomical names,
like I don't want you to call it a vulva.
But I definitely don't want you to call it like,
Good dirty talk I would say is kind of
I don't like the name calling too much, you know.
just keep it kinda clean but nasty at the same time
when you're really confident and like you know what you want
like if you say it with confidence and not sound awkward,
What makes bad is definitely when someone's like
trying to be more macho than they are.
You like have to be into it otherwise
I just am gonna start laughing at you.
If it's too intense and if it's too,
it's got too much energy behind it,
it gets a little bit too much and then I can't stop,
you know, cracking up cause I'm nervous.
Bad dirty talk is definitely when you say
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Most men would enjoy nothing more than laying back and enjoying the slow, sensuous feel of a pair of wet lips wrapped around their penises. Unfortunately, some women aren't the biggest fans of the act, but worry not; there are others who would love nothing more than to greet a man's member with their scarlet lips.

Thus today's focus is on oral sex and what women adore and abhor about the sport, so to speak. So everything you've been dying to know about what your woman might be thinking when she's giving you a blowjob may lie in the answers the following women provide.
Thanks for joining me, ladies. Let's get started. To start, what do you enjoy about performing oral sex?

Nicole: I love the fact that I can make a guy squirm by using my mouth to caress his penis and testicles. Knowing that I have such control over his pleasure is flattering.

Bianca: I like doing it because he loves it. I know that when I'm getting down on my knees for him, he feels like a king and that makes me want to do it.

Toula: I'm not very keen on performing oral sex, but what I do like about it is the fact that whenever I do it, I can get whatever I want out of my husband.

Linda: I enjoy the taste and texture of certain penises. Some guys just smell great and taste sweet. Nothing compares to a smooth penis.

Uh-huh... my colleagues demanded that I ask the following... do you prefer to spit or swallow?

Toula: I've tried swallowing and I have to say, it was the most disgusting thing I've ever tasted. It was bitter and foul, not to mention I nearly puked. My poor husband was trying his hardest to comfort me even though I know I ruined his orgasm in the worst way.

Linda: I used to swallow my husband's, uh, "juice" all the time. It was a given that whenever I would fellate him, I'd swallow. It tasted amazing but unlike anything I've ever tasted before. But I wouldn't do it with just any man.

Bianca: Yeah, I agree, I think that swallowing is a very intimate thing and should only be done with a man that you trust and love. It's very flattering to a man that his woman would ingest his sperm, but if she did it with every guy, then how special is that?

Nicole: I don't see what the big deal is; I would never swallow. It's just disgusting. Even when I taste the pre-ejaculate, I feel like vomiting. One boyfriend begged me to and even tried to get me to do it by not telling me he was ready to release. I ended up spitting it out in his face. I'm certain he'll never try that again. That ought to teach him... Has a man ever told you that you were terrible?

Linda: I think that men are so excited to get you down there that even if you were chewing on his penis like it were a hot dog, he would grin and bear it. So no, I've never gotten any negative feedback.

Toula: I have. Considering my husband is the only man that I've experimented with, I used to fellate him on a fairly regular basis and one day he asked me to do it without using my teeth. Then he proceeded to give me more directions until I was doing something completely different than what I was accustomed to. That's when I realized that I sucked, both literally and figuratively speaking.

Bianca: I've gotten nothing of the kind. I've been told that I give the best oral sex ever. Although I did once fall asleep with "it" in my mouth. (The women look around in a confused manner.) Oh it's a long story... I was drunk — let's just leave it at that.

Nicole: I've never been given any feedback, good or bad. But the guys do reach orgasm so I guess I must be doing something right.

What's the kinkiest thing you've ever done when it comes to fellatio?

Toula: A friend of mine gave me this flavored, heating lube that I could use to enhance the experience. Although it was great at first, it ended up turning into a sticky mess and started to taste like saccharin. It was fun though, and my husband and I laughed for hours and still do whenever we talk about it.

Bianca: My ex always wanted to be in a threesome and although I would never let him penetrate another woman, I decided to bring my roommate into the room once and we both spent a long time pleasing his manhood. I would suck his testicles while she would suck his penis and then we'd massage the entire area with our hands. Needless to say, he nearly hit the ceiling when he ejaculated.

Nicole: I performed on two guys at the same time. While I masturbated one, I would fellate the other and then switch. As well, we were in a public place and although I would never do it again because the guys treated me terribly, I don't regret it.

Linda: I placed my ex on the bed on all fours with his legs spread, I placed myself underneath him facing his penis but with a lot of pillows under me so that I wouldn't have to strain to suck on him. And while I used my mouth, saliva and hand to massage his penis, I used my other hand to massage his prostate. Oh man, did he go crazy!

What do you dislike about fellatio?

Nicole: I hate it when a guy hasn't washed and doesn't tell me. And when I get down there, there's all this nasty dirt that ends up in my mouth. Oh, and the taste of semen, ugh!

Linda: That's called smegma and it builds up over time more often on uncircumcised penises. Anyhow, I think it's disgusting when a guy doesn't trim down there simply because it limits my ability to go crazy on him. I think all guys should be taught to keep that area clean and proper.

Toula: I dislike it when I get no feedback. When the man just lies there like a corpse. How am I supposed to know if I'm pleasing him unless he tells me? I don't have a penis; I don't know what the sensation is like

Bianca: I don't really hate anything about it, especially considering that I wouldn't wrap my mouth around just any penis. But what I can't understand is why a guy would refus
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