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Length or girth? You'll be surprised what they had to say.
The question of whether penis size really matters has long been argued among men, women, sexperts, and researchers. Although this debate has been raging since time immemorial, no one seems to have quite come up with a straight answer.
Now, as if men didn’t have to worry about their penises enough, there’s a new dick debate at play. We’re talking the ultimate game of Would You Rather: Would you rather have a short, chubby penis or a long pencil dick? Or, put another way, which matters more: length or girth ?
Typically, when we talk about penis size, we tend to focus on length rather than thickness. And this is actually unfair to guys, says Ariella*, 35, who points out that girth and length provide "two different but equally valuable feelings in the vaginal area. One is a sense of fullness (girth) and the other is the sensation of going in and out (length),” she told MensHealth.com.
So which is preferable? To find out, MensHealth.com polled 100 women between the ages of 18 and 71 via SurveyMonkey, asking them all about penises and what matters most to each of them. The survey was sent out through various social media channels, including Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. (NB: Because some studies show that men who have sex with men tend to have higher levels of anxiety about penis size, for the purposes of this survey we limited our sample to women who have sex with men.)
You may be surprised by what the women surveyed had to say — suffice to say, there's more to your wang than meets the eye.
If you have a classic fatty , or what is known in some circles as a "chode," don't be bummed about it.According to our extremely scientific survey results, a whopping 70% of women preferred girth to length — or, as Mal*, 36, puts it, “What is length without adequate girth?”
In fact, only 18% of respondents said that length was most important to them. So if you're one of the 20% of men who worry they're too small , rest assured you're probably fine.
As it turns out, the old saying is pretty much true: it’s not the size of the boat that matters, but the motion of the ocean. “It’s not about size at all, it’s about how you use your size to your advantage. It’s all in the hips and teasing,” says Grace*, 26.
In fact, 12% of survey respondents said penis size didn't matter to them at all. Other studies have yielded similar results, with one UCLA and Cal State LA report finding that 84% of women are totally happy with their partners' size.
Ultimately, "the girth and length of a penis are less important than the man's ability to listen to what feels good for his partner. Girth and size don't matter if you aren't spending time on foreplay and warming her up,” says Dr. Kristie Overstreet , a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist .
Put another way, if you have a gargantuan penis and you're flailing it around like Godzilla unchained instead of paying attention to your partner's needs, she's not going to be impressed.
We've said it before and we'll say it again: clitoral stimulation, people!
The truth is that 75 to 80 percent of women cannot reach orgasm from penetrative sex alone. Sure, the feeling that comes with being penetrated can be enjoyable, but it rarely provides the big O.
So what does bring on the big O? Clitoral stimulation, of course — and that's true regardless or whether you're packing a gherkin or a firehose. “There are some men who don't understand that the majority of women orgasm from clitoral stimulation, or a mix of clitoral stimulation and penetration. They think that using their penis like a jackhammer is best. It doesn’t work, especially for those who may not be as big as they would like,” Overstreet says.
The results of our poll aside, at the end of the day the length vs. girth question largely comes down to personal preference. “No one penis size is ‘best,’ there is no penis hierarchy. For some, big and thick is ideal, but for others it might not be.” Emily Morse, sexologist and host of the Sex With Emily podcast, tells MensHealth.com .
At the end of the day, if you don’t know how to give her an orgasm (and especially if you don't even bother trying), the size of your member means next to nothing. “Remember that satisfying sex has less to do with penis size, and way more to do with everything surrounding actually penetration,” Morse says.
* Last names have been withheld to allow subjects to speak freely on private matters.
Gigi Engle is a certified sex coach, educator, and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.
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A study revealed that only 14% of women wish their man's penis were larger.
According to research, among women who say they care about penis size, fewer care about length than girth.
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In previous blog posts, I’ve tried to reassure anxious men that penis size doesn’t matter to the substantial majority of women. And every time, comments have poured in from gals calling me a fool, saying that size matters a great deal to them.
Okay, size matters to some women. I’ve never said it didn’t. But based on decades of conversations with sex therapists and many women, I’ve concluded that the substantial majority of women don’t care, that they’d rather be with men who are warm, kind, solvent, caring, and funny, who share their values and interests than one who has a phone pole in his pants. Unfortunately, I couldn’t back that up with research because I knew of no study that explored women’s feelings on the subject. Now the verdict is in.
Recently, researchers at UCLA and Cal State Los Angeles published a report showing that 84 percent of women feel “very satisfied” with their man’s penis size. Fourteen percent wish it were larger and 2 percent would prefer smaller. The 84 percent figure means that seven out of every eight women think their man is just fine, corroborating my assertion that size doesn’t matter to the substantial majority of women.
This study is particularly persuasive because its methodology goes way beyond your run-of-the-mill survey of 100 college undergraduates. The researchers posted their questions on MSNBC.com and got responses from 26,437 women ages 18 to 65. Respondents were a self-selected group, which raises questions about demographic representation. But 26,437 is a huge number, a number so large that statistically it obviates concerns about self-selection and strongly suggests that the findings are truly valid.
The survey also attracted responses from 25,594 men. Two-thirds of them rated their penises as “average,” exactly matching what the women said about their partners. But women were only half as likely as men to call their man’s penis “small,” and were more likely to call it “large.”
Our equation of manhood with a big penis stands in marked contrast to how the ancients viewed genital size. In Aristophanes’ play, The Clouds (423 B.C.), a character admonishes delinquent young men that if they continue to behave badly, as punishment , their penises will grow larger, but that if they repudiate their wicked ways, their organs will remain as they should be, small.
Five centuries later, the Roman novel, Satyricon , (c. 50 A.D.) describes bathers at a public bath who make fun of one character’s large penis, calling it as ridiculous as contemporary reactions to the outsized shoes of circus clowns. Like the Greeks, the ancient Romans thought the most attractive penises were on the small side.
The classic view that small is beautiful persisted through the Renaissance. Consider Michelangelo’s David or male nude sculptures by other artists of that period. The penises are surprisingly small. At that time, “masculinity” had less to do with the size of a man’s penis than with the size of his scrotum. A big scrotum that hung full and low suggested large testicles, which in turn, suggested great potency. During the Renaissance, penises were considered little more than incidental injection devices for what really counted, sperm.
That changed in the second half of the nineteenth century as photography (invented around 1840) and motion pictures (1890) paved the way for modern pornography . Porn has always been primarily a masturbation aid for men. Male masturbation is all about erections, so porn transformed penises from injection devices into the center of attention —and for portrayal in photography or film, the bigger the better.
To most people, “penis size” implies length. Some two dozen studies have measured it. Most measure on the top side from the pubic bone at the base of the penis to the tip of the glans—without pushing the ruler into the gut or pulling on the shaft to stretch it. The results:
Ironically, among women who said they care about size, fewer care about length than girth.
The taller the man, the longer his arms and legs—and penis. But according to the survey, compared with the shortest men (5 feet 2 inches) the tallest (over 6 feet 4 inches) reported feeling only slightly more satisfied with their size.
Weight is another story. The slimmest men are much happier about their penis size than men who are obese. This makes sense because as weight increases, the lower abdominal fat pad grows and envelopes the base of the penis, making it look considerably smaller.
Want to make the most of what the good Lord gave you? Forget all the pills and potions advertised on the Internet. They’re all cynical frauds. To be all you can be between the legs, lose weight. But do it for yourself because there’s an 84 percent chance that the woman in your life is perfectly happy with your penis as it is.
Lever, J. et al. “Does Size Matter? Men’s and Women’s Views on Penis Size Across the Lifespan,” Psychology of Men and Masculinity (2006) 7:129.
Clarke, J.R. Roman Sex . Harry N. Abrams, NY, 2003.
Michael Castleman, M.A. , is a San Francisco-based journalist. He has written about sexuality for 36 years.
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