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Wife Watches Lesbian Porn
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Jan 13, 2012
So I truthfully stumbled (did not snoop!) across a bunch of lesbian porn and google searches for lesbian sex on my wife's devices. When I saw it I was very shocked. I thought for sure it was a mistake or someone must have gotten a hold of her device without her knowledge. You see, in our house it is generally not a talked about topic (porn). I do watch porn myself so I'm not trying to be hypocritical in anyway. She's aware I have done it but we don't speak of it but in rare instances. She did admit to me some years back that she masturbated once. That was sort of a big deal to her to admit that to me. (lots of shame and guilt tied in for her on this I think)
Anyway, after careful back tracking I can say with certainty it was her watching it and it appears it was a few days ago and then the last time I found traces was a few months ago.
So, my question is, how do I approach this? Should I even approach it with her?
Looking for thoughts and suggestions from both the H and W that have been in this situation and just any advice in general is appreciated.
For the record, our sex life is much more active than most of our friends. We engage several times a week on average and both appear to be very "into" each other, however we are not all that adventurous-which is partially why this finding was such a surprise to me.
Ask her if she wants to watch lesbian porn with you. She might surprise you.
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Jan 13, 2012
Ask her if she wants to watch lesbian porn with you. She might surprise you.
No don't bring it up. She is enjoying herself and being sneaky is part of the fun. Let her have her fun. If you let on you know it will probably spoil it for her and make her feel embarassed.
This tells you what turns her on so use it carefully to enhance your sex life.
Thats my 2 cents.
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Why approach it at all unless it's creating trouble?
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Hahaha reminds me of wifey, BI-IN-DENIAL.
Hhmm
I'm trying to figure out in my head if I would rather find out my wife watched lesbian porn, "regular" porn, or gang bang porn.
I'm going with the lesbian porn.
The first question should always be, "If it's that bad, why are you still there?
OK, you screwed up, it happens. Now apologize. But apologize just once. Make it loud, clear, short, to the point, and directly to those you trespassed against. Then move on .
I kinda like lesbian porn. I watch it with my hubby though. Usually. If he found out I watch it by myself sometimes - heck, if he found out I watch ANY porn by myself once in a while - I'd probably be slightly embarrassed but it wouldn't be THAT big a deal. Who knows, maybe he DOES know and just thinks it's amusing.
People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.
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I kinda like lesbian porn. I watch it with my hubby though. Usually. If he found out I watch it by myself sometimes - heck, if he found out I watch ANY porn by myself once in a while - I'd probably be slightly embarrassed but it wouldn't be THAT big a deal. Who knows, maybe he DOES know and just thinks it's amusing.
I kinda like lesbian porn. I watch it with my hubby though. Usually. If he found out I watch it by myself sometimes - heck, if he found out I watch ANY porn by myself once in a while - I'd probably be slightly embarrassed but it wouldn't be THAT big a deal. Who knows, maybe he DOES know and just thinks it's amusing.
Oh, I am not in denial. I'm pretty sure I am somewhere on the spectrum
People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.
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Hhmm
I'm trying to figure out in my head if I would rather find out my wife watched lesbian porn, "regular" porn, or gang bang porn.
I'm going with the lesbian porn.
Real women don't want flowers and chocolate.
They want vodka and Taco Bell.
What if you brought up the idea of fantisies in general with her lets say after the two of you have had sex and just having some pillow talk. She may not feel so inhibited at that point to bring it up. Or, you could ask her if she minded that you join her in watching some porn once in a while, and ask her what she would like to see. There's lots of amateur sites out there that might interest the both of you.
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Jan 13, 2012
Yes it does bother me. Ever since I found out I've been obsessing over it! However, I don't want it to bother me that much. But I do think I need to approach the subject with her. Hey, who am I to judge, I watch it too! But to me, it isn't a healthy thing. In 8 years of marriage I've NEVER come across anything even remotely like this with her. So, it was a shocker! I've got three things to battle with 1. The fact she looks at porn at all! 2. That it is lesbian porn exclusively. And well, 3. That somehow I may not be all she needs in bed (but that's probably just my own insecurity).
Anyway, I'm trying to figure out how to approach it with her. I think for my sake I just need to find out how she feels about it in general. Is she really ashamed of it? But in any case, this may be a good opportunity to open up about our sex life in general. Who knows.....
You watch porn. Should your wife feel the way that you do about her watching it? That she's not enough in bed for you? I watch lesbian porn sometimes, it just seems more...sensual in a way that the men in porn seem to lack. I also like looking at a woman naked, but have no desire to ever do more than that. But meh, I don't watch any of it enough to say what's what lol.
Really, I don't think you should bring it up, but if you do, I guess you could just ask her if she wants to watch some porn, and if she says yes, ask her what kind she'd like to watch. If not, I'd really let it go, unless it's effecting your sex life.
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I wouldn't let her know that you know because it will only embarrass her and possibly make her angry at you.
Try watching porn with her but start out with heterosexual porn so that she is more comfortable, or tell her that your fantasy is to watch lesbian porn with her.
Yes it does bother me. Ever since I found out I've been obsessing over it! However, I don't want it to bother me that much. But I do think I need to approach the subject with her. Hey, who am I to judge, I watch it too! But to me, it isn't a healthy thing. In 8 years of marriage I've NEVER come across anything even remotely like this with her. So, it was a shocker! I've got three things to battle with 1. The fact she looks at porn at all! 2. That it is lesbian porn exclusively. And well, 3. That somehow I may not be all she needs in bed (but that's probably just my own insecurity).
Anyway, I'm trying to figure out how to approach it with her. I think for my sake I just need to find out how she feels about it in general. Is she really ashamed of it? But in any case, this may be a good opportunity to open up about our sex life in general. Who knows.....
As far as love...the only thing you will regret in life is the risks you never took.
-mineforever
Scanner,
You have been a very active poster and replyer but, this one is very interesting.
I personally would love for my wife to be openly aroused by lesbian porn. The fact that we would be able to share the beauty of other women that could be arousing for both of us is on some level (ok alot of levels) arousing. My wife interminttantly admits to being aroused by other women. When I bring up watching Porn together sometimes she is OK with it, other times she is not OK so we have never done it and i have never pushed it. I can see the slippery slope issue but, can see the potential fun/benefit.
I think society does/has kind of mess with women. On one hand they kind of glorify (or at the very least don't condemn) the whole college experimental lesbian stuff. On the other hand i think the double standard is still live and well. My wife has admitted to some level of this but, i still don't think i know the whole truth to this and i don't push it. I am confident however, that my wife likes di#% too much to ever go lesbian on me. In fact she is never satisfied unless there is penetration to finish her off.
The same is true of my wife's vibrator use. I purchased it and she resisted any attempts to get her to use it so i gave up. Several months later it was not where it had been and I found it loaded with batteries. I played dumb and suggested we use it and caught her in a lie. She again tried to deny ..finally having no option to do otherwise she admitted to using and also to really liking it. I think this exemplifies the whole notion that she feels she "shouldn't like this sort of thing" even though it is widely accepted as OK by society on some level.
As far as your concern it is great for you to admit to your hypocracy. In fairness we are all hypocrites to some degree and i have my own so not to judge or critisiz.
It is funny how people think. IE to say "what is the big deal with ME watching porn but" are threatened by our S/O watching it. Is it jealousy or control or dissappointment that you cannot be her "everything" in the sex department.
While i think that many men try to get their wife's to watch but, if they find they are doing it on their own they are shocked.
Personally it i were in your shoes i am not sure i would let it be my wife's little secret. There seems to be too much opportunity for enhanced sexual experience. That said it is likely that you will have to go through some delicate prodding and you should
accept that she may likely deny it and/or be defensive and/or be embarrased.
There was a study or two that indicated that many women (regardles of sexual orientation) respond to girl/girl favorably. I am not sure what your concern is. I mean some of the things that i see in porn may be arousing but, i have no desire to act on them. I agree with others that this is likely fantasy and not that she actually wants to be with another women.
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Jan 13, 2012
For the record, I know this whole porn thiing is hypocritical (see my original post). I think ultimately we should be open with our spouse regarding these things. I do not talk to her about my porn habits because I assume she would feel hurt or insecure by it. I'm sure on some level she thinks and even expects I do it but just ignores it. So now that I'm aware she does it too, then that it was brings me to a crossroads. I think being open about it may be awkward and embarrasing at first but ultimately may be an opportunity to grow closer together.
I still have my own hangups about masturbation and porn (is it right/wrong, usefully/damaging) so I sort of assume she has the same hang ups on it.
She has been away for work the past week so I've had time to myself to wrestle with all this without her around which is good. I'm able to battle through my own initial reaction (shock) and come up with a reasonable approach to the subject. I will be as delicate as I can and probably lead with opening up about my own porn watching habits.
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