Wife Makes But Cant Make Her Pregnant

Wife Makes But Cant Make Her Pregnant

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Many spend the better part of their fertile years actively trying not to get pregnant, so it might be surprising to learn that conception isn't always that easy . Indeed, there's a relatively short window during the menstrual cycle that's ideal for conceiving, whether or not a person is on birth control or actively trying, says Anate Brauer, M.D., a reproductive endocrinologist at the Greenwich Fertility and IVF Centers and assistant professor of OB-GYN at NYU School of Medicine.

According to the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) , 85 out of 100 people of reproductive age who are sexually active, can become pregnant, and do not use contraception will become pregnant within a year. The takeaway: Always use protection if you're not trying to conceive. Wondering what other factors make pregnancy less likely? Check out what the experts say.

Hormonal birth control methods such as the pill, patch, ring, implant, shot, or IUD significantly decrease your chances of getting pregnant, but they don't eliminate your chances.

These methods work in various ways. For example, IUDs block sperm from reaching the egg, while the pill, ring, and patch prevent ovulation, explains Dr. Brauer. Even if you're committed to your birth control method, you still have to use it correctly and consistently.

Also, if you rely on contraceptive pills , take note: Some pill packs contain four to seven days of inactive pills that don't contain any hormones. On rare occasions, this may be long enough to allow for the recruitment of a mature egg. "This is often referred to as 'escape ovulation' and is one reason for oral hormonal contraception failure," says Dr. Brauer. Missing doses of hormonal contraception (or not taking it at the same time each day in the case of daily pills) can also increase the chances of accidental pregnancy.

If you're on the birth control pill and following all instructions perfectly, your chances of getting pregnant are generally less than 1%. The effectiveness decreases with "typical use" (i.e., not using the method correctly and consistently for every sexual encounter). According to the Department of Health & Human Services (HHS) , about 9 out of 100 people will become pregnant while on the pill within a year with typical use.

While it's not impossible to get pregnant while on your period , your chances are pretty slim. If you consider what's happening inside your body, it's easy to see why: The egg that was released from your ovaries wasn't fertilized, and as a result, your uterine lining sheds (this is the blood that's released). In other words, your body flushed the unfertilized egg during your period.

Your lowest chance of getting pregnant while on your period is during the first day of bleeding. But the chances increase with each passing day as you get closer to your ovulation window . If your typical menstrual cycle is close to the average 28- to 30-day cycle, then the likelihood of getting pregnant while on your period is low. But if your cycle is shorter, your chances of getting pregnant while on your period go up.

The only way you can get pregnant from sex during your period is having a particularly short cycle with ovulation that occurs soon after menstruation. "Sperm can live in the uterus for up to five days, so if you have intercourse towards the end of your period, sperm can still hang around long enough to fertilize an egg that is released days after your period ends," explains Dr. Brauer.

It is possible to get pregnant by having sex while on your period, but the chances are extremely low for most people. The exact risk depends upon the length of your cycle. Though length can vary from cycle to cycle, you can estimate when you are typically most fertile by tracking your cycle .

The pull-out method may be the world's oldest form of birth control, but like all methods, it's not foolproof. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), 22% of people will get pregnant within a year with this method. So, when used alone as a form of birth control, it has a moderate rate of failure, but it may decrease your chances of getting pregnant—mainly when used with other methods.

The pull-out method, also known as withdrawal, involves pulling the penis out of the vagina before ejaculation. One problem is that pre-ejaculate or pre-cum, the bodily fluid released from the penis before actual ejaculation, can contain active and viable sperm . Successful withdrawal also relies on a high level of bodily awareness and control for the partner with the penis, right at a moment when inhibitions are understandably much lower.

Additionally, Mark Trolice, M.D., reproductive endocrinology and infertility specialist at The IVF Center in Winter Park, Florida, explains that most people aren't aware of when they release this precum. "Because it's hard to predict when pre-ejaculation occurs, the withdrawal method is often fraught with peril and certainly not the most reliable method out there," he says.

While some studies have found that withdrawal can be as high as 96% effective with perfect use, it isn't easy to maintain perfect use with this method. Typical use failure rates can be as high as 24%. So, if you want to avoid pregnancy, choose a different contraceptive method (or double up with another method, such as condoms).

When using a condom to avoid pregnancy (or sexually transmitted infections, for that matter), it's vital to use it correctly. Correct usage means the condom is rolled onto the penis (or inserted into the vagina in the case of internal or female condoms) before there's any contact between genitals and skin. In addition, you can make condoms even more effective by pairing them with another form of birth control, like an IUD or the pill, or using them in combination with the pull-out method.

According to the HHS Office of Women's Health , with typical use (accounting for human error), the chance of getting pregnant with male condoms is about 18%, and with female condoms, it's 21%. With perfect condom use every single time, those odds decrease to 2% .

Some nursing parents use the lactational amenorrhea method (LAM) or "breastfeeding method" to prevent pregnancy after giving birth. While it can be an effective method, people often misunderstand how it works. LAM as a form of birth control relies on the temporary pause in ovulation that often accompanies breastfeeding in the first several months postpartum.

"While breastfeeding, the hormone estrogen, which is responsible for getting your period each month, is suppressed," explains Sherry Ross, M.D., OB-GYN, Women's Health Expert in Santa Monica, and author of She-ology: The Definitive Guide to Women's Intimate Health. Period (Savio Republic). "Additionally, the hormone that stimulates breast milk production, prolactin, also prevents ovulation from occurring because it inhibits the hormone that triggers your ovaries to grow and release eggs."

But using LAM to avoid pregnancy is not as simple as just breastfeeding your baby. In fact, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), there are specific criteria to meet the definition of LAM, including:

Breastfeeding disrupts a person's hormones and can effectively suppress ovulation. However, the absence of periods after giving birth is temporary, and menstruation can resume even when a person is still breastfeeding. According to the World Health Organization (WHO) , with consistent and correct use, fewer than 1 out of 100 people will become pregnant relying on LAM during their baby's first 6 months. But with typical use, that number increases to 2 out of 100.

Thanks to that good-old biological clock, a person's chances of getting pregnant wane over time . According to ACOG , people with ovaries are born with some one to two million eggs. By puberty, that number drops somewhere between 300,000 to 500,000, and by your late 30s, it's closer to 25,000. By menopause, there are only around 1,000 eggs remaining.

This all means that the chances of becoming pregnant in your mid-40s are pretty slim, though not impossible. Between 40 and 45 years of age, fertility decreases by as much as 95%.

According to Dr. Ross, people over the age of 44 have a less than 5% chance of getting pregnant each month. That said, age in and of itself is not an effective "method" for avoiding pregnancy. You should continue to use other birth control methods until you've officially entered menopause (a period typically defined as starting 12 months after your last period ), which varies from person to person.

Though your chances of unexpectedly getting pregnant are greatly reduced if you fall into one of these categories, they aren't nonexistent if you're fertile. If you want to avoid pregnancy, it's best to have an effective birth control method that you will use correctly and consistently. And since no form of birth control method outside of abstinence is 100% effective, you may also want a backup such as emergency contraceptives on hand.

I'm purposely trying not to get my wife pregnant.
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I'm in my later 20's. My wife is still in her early 20's. We currently have no kids, two dogs and have been married for only 7 months. My initial plan was to be married for two years and get established in our jobs, which are fairly new, then start trying for kids. I really do want them and I've expressed my concern to her, but she doesn't want to hear any of it. This person got pregnant, this person is due anytime, her friends from high school/college are having kids, etc. She wants a baby.
We dated for a total of three years before we got married. The first two were a sex filled romp. My wife is a freak in bed and she sure showed it. After we got engaged, it slowed down a bit and she wasn't as freaky, but it was still satisfying. Now that we're married, she doesn't want anything intimate unless we are trying. If I say, "Hey, wanna have sex", or even attempt foreplay, she brushes me off...but...if I say, "hey, let's make a baby!" she turns back into freak mode.
My wife is one of those that thought if a guy ejaculates inside a woman, she will become pregnant no matter what. She didn't realize about ovulation and peak times and whatnot. So, after she learned about it, she asked me to download the Flo app and chart her cycles for her. I did, but manipulated the whole thing. When she thinks she's ovulating, she's not and the chances of her getting pregnant are slim to none.
Sometimes I'll tell her that her "peak" day(highest chance of getting pregnant) is coming up in a few days so we should start early. We have crazy sex for 3-4 days in a row and then nothing while she's actually ovulating.
I'm a bad person. I will eventually give her a baby. Just not anytime soon.
When you discussed the timing of having children pre marriage, and I know you did because it’s so important to this woman, what did you agree upon? Or, more concisely, what does she believe you agreed upon? That’s your starting point in terms of having an honest conversation on this.
This is a huge red flag for both of you. You need to sit down and talk with her to discuss how and when you want to have a child. Unless you guys completely skipped out on talking about offering before marriage (which if you didn't, no offense, but that would be so stupid because it's so important to a successful relationship) then you should have past conversations to draw from. Point out finances, have her do research on the costs of having and raising a child and explain to her that it would make more sense to wait a few years and be more stable (especially since you just got married and weddings are expensive). But don't lie to her or trick her, because that's really shirt to do in any relationship. If you think it will be difficult, go to a marriage/couples counselor together to have some mediate your discussion and hopefully come to a good compromise or have her see things from your point of view.
Edit: I meant "Offspring" not "offering". And "Shit" not "Shirt" but clearly y'all understood that one.
Just try to lay out as plainly and logically (like literally budget it out) how much better of a financial decision waiting is. Wherever you are when you have a kid is often times where your income will be frozen for a long, long time. 18 years to be exact.
You don't have time/flexibility to change careers if its not working or seek a better position, because all the risk falls to your child. And even if you get modest gains in income over a decade, it's still just going to be balancing things back to how they were when your expenses didnt include a whole other human.
Also, it's just selfish to stunt your whole family's progress where it is rn to satisfy her baby fever (especially if it's just a couple years).
Just try to get her to see this rationally, and if not, that's definitely going to be an indication that she might not know how to compromise, and that's not at all a good quality in a partner.
Sounds like she might not have been ready for marriage, more just eager about the idea of being married and having a family (because her friends are). That's not a life you want to hastily scrape together.
Honestly, if she starts thinking she’s infertile, it could be really devastating and affect when you actually want kids
Yeah. No sex unless in baby making mode should be a deal breaker. Intimacy is the glue that binds your relationship. Serotonin and dopamine and oxytocin.
Your marriage is circling the drain
This so much this. OP, listen to this.
1- Sperm can live up to two weeks inside a woman after you ejaculate in her. You Are Playing With Fire.
2 - If she will only Fuck you now to make a baby, what's gonna happen after you're done making babies? You gonna swear off sex until you decide to co-parent with her and go back to dating? After what promises to be a much more complicated divorce with kids than it would be without.
Kids make it 1000x more complicated. If shit is fucked without them, shit will be so much more fucked with them it's not worth makin them.
Wanting to have a baby right after you get married is a horrible sign. Most newly married people are focused on building a life with each other, not creating another life to focus on. If I was in your shoes i’d start to wonder if she was completely satisfied and committed to our relationship. I’m not saying she isn’t committed to building a life together, and I can’t understand everything thats happened in a few paragraphs, but thats what i’d think based on what you said. Sex drying up after marriage is also a bad sign, and again, would make me wonder if she was truly ready to commit. Overall, I agree with Maxassin, it raises a lot of red flags.
It doesn’t sound like it’s at this point yet, but if she gives an ultimatum between baby and divorce at some point don’t give in. If she’s so unhappy without a baby that she would divorce you over waiting a few years then she will probably divorce you at some point anyway. Also, children can sense things like this. I’ve heard about this ultimatum being used, so be prepared.
That being said, fertility cycles can be irregular, and there’s no guarantee she wont get pregnant using the method you described. Think about how you would feel if she got pregnant like this. Would you grow to resent the child? The ugly truth is that if she’s desperate for a baby and can’t get pregnant with you after awhile (year[s]), it’s possible she may assume something is wrong with you and use alternative methods to get pregnant. It depends on how desperately she wants a baby. Desperation for something can make people do things they normally wouldn’t do. Best of luck to you and your marriage.
No, the red flag here is that they only been together for 3 years, and she will only have sex to make a baby. Now that's a red flag
Kids are expensive, I have four. None of them were "planned", but would I trade any of them for a "stable" income....nope. It never happens and before you know it, you've hit 40 and you are trying to chase around kids 40 years younger than you.
What if she starts going on meds because she thinks shes barren?
It has some kind of anxiety or stress breakdown because she believes she's infertile.
I wonder how OP is going to explain what they cant go to their fertility doctor because they haven't actually been "trying unsuccessfully" for over a year.
That won't happen. A doctor will test and verify all kinds of things before giving it fertility drugs
This sounds like the kind of lie that could really hurt your relationship if she found out. I know I would be devastated if somebody I trusted made a fool out of me like this instead of us openly communicating. And if communication hasn't worked, then maybe there are other problems you two should be working on...

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