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Wife Dresses Like A Slut
My wife decided to dress slutty and go out without me. We argued over this. Am I in the wrong?
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My wife and I are recently married, we're both young, in our mid 20s. It's halloween and there was this party (not a house party but more like an event in the local amusement park so it's a public place). Although heaps of people at this place are in costume, the level of 'sluttiness' (sorry I don't care for the politically correct term - it is slutty and I am sticking to my words) of clothing is limited to very short mini skirts.
Bit of background, my wife is a bit of a party girl. She is very attractive (not just to me) and she knows it. She loves to go clubbing and she's a bit of that sort of stereotype. In the past, every time she goes clubbing with her girlfriends, I'm fine with it. She wears very short skirts and I'm fine with that because that's how the other girls look. So the context is I haven't been stopping her from showing herself off in public - I know some women get off on that and it's a self esteem boost / harmless fun, whatever. I'm open minded. So far she's proven to be faithful and I have no reason to doubt this. I trust her completely, the issue here isn't that I feel there's a probability she will cheat, it's a different issue altogether which I will continue to explain.
So she decides to wear this costume that's obviously bought from one of those online costume shops (in the adult section). The skirt literally comes out at a 20 or 30 degree angle. If she bends over I can see her g string outline. Her top is backless and I can see her bra strap. Basically it was something I would call ridiculous for public wear. At this point I would like to reiterate that this was not a house party, it was a halloween party in a public place.
I saw her before she left and we had a massive argument because I told her I was uncomfortable with her looking like this in public, especially without my presence. I told her to go home and change. I tried reasoning with her how there's a limit to how slutty she can look before I intervene (which I haven't till this event) but despite all my reasoning, she disagrees or doesn't understand. Whatever, fine. My last ditch effort was explaining to her that "REGARDLESS of any logic or reasoning, the MERE FACT that I am uncomfortable with the way you look tonight means you should do something about it. As your husband you should care that you're making me feel uncomfortable". So the ISSUE I'm mad about is the fact that she continued to do something that makes me sad, even after I made it clear that I wanted her to not do it.
She doesn't listen, goes ahead with party, comes home, argument continues. It's now the morning after, I still feel very very angry towards her. She is apologising and acting all 'sorry' now but I'm not buying it because she had every chance to turn the car around, change, and return to the party, all at the cost of being just an hour or more late.
SOME of you might be wondering what the big deal is. Well the thing is, and call me out if I'm wrong here, I believe my wife shouldn't be wearing bedroom wear in public. It's a special exclusive right of mine to be able to see her in that state, and I don't believe it should be shared.
So reddit, where do I stand in this argument? do I have a point or am I being unreasonable? I've never asked for public opinion on personal matters before in my life but this time I do want to get a group opinion.
edit: many of you are alluding to the possibility that my attitude stems from religious beliefs. No, I am not religious in any way, if that makes a difference. Also, and I mean no offense when I say the following - I would appreciate viewpoints from married men and women. Thank you!
Thank you. This thread is purely for my own information and 'mind broadening' exercise. I do discuss with her openly and calmly everything.
She's grown. You were right to tell her how you feel, wrong to demand she change.
You went at it wrong, and now you see what you got for it, rebellion instead of compliance. You need to get to know how your wife ticks better. Best way to figure that out is to ask her when you're both calm, how to address problems like that in the future in a way that won't make her want to spite you.
Everybody gets to look, you get to touch. Chill on the protestant moral stance, it won't do you any good with a gorgeous woman on your arm- she only gets to be considered gorgeous for so many years- let her enjoy it.
She was wrong for being spiteful and not taking your feelings into consideration.
Unless her parts touched someone else parts, stop being booty-hurt and get over it. You have a gorgeous wife. This is a gift in life, both the beauty and the loving spouse. Don't sweat the small stuff. After all, if you're too jealous and insecure about it, you can easily be relieved of said gorgeous wife, and you may not get so lucky twice.
Every complaint has an expiration date, and this one is way past it. If it's such an issue to you, accept her apology, make her do some token penance that she'll agree to, and call it even.
But seriously dude, let it go. Both parties were wrong, she knows where you stand, and y'all need to sort it out ahead of time next time.
Since you gave great advice, I'll ask you this:
Don't you think a g-string (if it's an actual g-string and not just a thong. I have a feeling it wasn't a g-string though) is a bit too much? That's almost naked.
Also to OP if you see this: why didn't you go with her out to the party?
thanks mate your reply made the most sense and I agree with many of your points.
If a woman will leave a man because he's too insecure and jealous about her behaviour, what kind of woman is that? no amount of beauty (or anything else positive for that matter) justifies keeping a woman whose investment in the relationship can be undone by something as small as the man being insecure / jealous.
Not sure why your reply is being upvoted because this made very little sense to me. It's rhetoric without much meaning. Care to explain what you mean to say? Elaborate please.
Let her have her fun. She'll probably grow out of it. Even if she doesn't though, it sounds like this is a habit you were aware of when you got married, so you knew what you were getting yourself into.
Look mate, I'm sorry to have to say this, but you need to hear it.
You sound like a jealous, controlling, overbearing prick. You really do. You sound like the type of guy that would drive a girl up the wall.
So far she's proven to be faithful and I have no reason to doubt this
So, she hasn't cheated on you, or given you any other reason to think she'd be unfaithful. You trust her completely and she's, as you admit, a party girl who clearly enjoys being social and gets her jollies from attending social events in large crowds.
If all of what you say is true, why would you take issue with it?
the MERE FACT that I am uncomfortable with the way you look tonight means you should do something about it.
Well, look at it from her point of view. She's a "party girl" and always has been, right? So, by your very own logic, aren't you also being unreasonable to expect her not to do something that she's always done and enjoyed, simply because you happen to take offence?
Also, by saying that she should do something simply to appease you further proves that you're becoming controlling. You're treating her (in this instance) like a possession, or a pet who should bow to your whim, simply because you're the master.
Do you not see how this attitude is unhealthy?
I believe my wife shouldn't be wearing bedroom wear in public
So you're also getting into the realms of deciding what is and what is not OK for her to wear in public?
How would you feel if she did this to you? Fuck, how would you feel if anyone said that to you?
You'd be like "It's my life, I'll wear what I want.", right? Yeah, that's the same courtesy you should pay your wife.
Just because you're married does not mean that she should change who she is just because you say so. She's not yours, she's with you. There's a difference. One that will be rectified if you keep this up.
I'm not trying to be a dick to you, I'm trying to help you see that your whole attitude towards this situation is unhealthy and if the mentality continues will lead to issues in your marriage.
May I ask if this is a new thing, or whether you've honestly had these thoughts and opinions in the past, or not?
Again, don't take my tirade against you as a negative, I truly just want to help. I know what you're feeling.
I've honestly always held these opinions for as long as I can remember. In fact they were stronger in the past than they are now. She's forced me to become much more flexible / tolerant / open minded over the years because of the way she is.
And apparently according to the replies so far, I'm still no where near as tolerant as I should be. Well I am surprised, but I accept all logically presented viewpoints.
One thing I want to raise -I honestly feel I have the right to stop my wife from wearing bedroom wear / adult costumes in public (generally clothing that's on a whole tier above what is considered reasonable / acceptable for public wear). I can't fathom why I don't have a say in this.
Some of the other replies argue that I know what I got myself into because I married her. That's not fair on me - I met this girl in high school, she wasn't like this back then. As we grew together, her being with me allowed her self esteem to grow and I nurtured her self awareness of her own beauty. She chose what to do with it a few years after we started dating (going clubbing, wearing revealing clothing etc) and I'M FINE WITH THAT. I just had to intervene this time because she's beyond the threshold of belief now. As in, last night when I saw her, I was in disbelief that she planned to wear that.
Hard to explain feelings. I feel that I have a say when things get ridiculous. !
You obviously don't trust her. Why not? Learn to trust your wife, and let her know that what she did bothered you.
Next year go as Borat and see what she says. Yeah that's nice.
I dont see what the big deal is because it's a halloween party. It would be one thing if she was dressing like that to just go out for a night on the town. It's not like she dresses like that normally. You said so yourself that she's hot so what would have been the big deal if you went with her.
I agree with the other person when he stated it was wrong for you to tell her what to do.
as mentioned, going with her was not an option because it was a girls night out sort of thing. i would have been the only guy in her circle of friends (or so I was told, maybe that's a LIE haha)
I know everyone here is going to blast you for it, but I'm with you on this one buddy. You guys are young and the both of you still have some growing up to do. So consider this growing pains. When my wife and I first got married she thought there was nothing wrong with having a sleep over with a guy friend (it was a hypothetical argument). As a husband I felt it was inappropriate for my wife to be having slumber parties with guys. lol. Anyway, you probably shouldn't have demanded that she go home and change. You really should apologize for that. The other thing is, when you get married the two of you belong to one another. You both have a responsibility to one another. You should sit down with her, apologize for demanding that she change. State your case again, and ask her to consider your feelings on the subject. Don't argue. It will just turn ugly. Then ask her if she's willing to take your feelings into consideration the next time it comes up. If she says she won't, then I would seriously suggest counseling, because at that point it sounds like the two of you would be heading into damaging territory. I feel for you bro, but hang in there and don't forget. This is the woman you love, treat her right, respect her perspective and do what's right for the both of you regardless of what the popular opinion is.
Thank you for the good advice. For the record I would also have a problem if my wife decides it's appropriate to have a sleepover at a guy friend.
As a guy who has been the 'guy friend' many times - yeah, I know what guys are thinking... haha
She's an adult. She can dress however she'd like. You are entitled to voice your opinion. She's entitled to completely disregard it.
If I were her, I'd be confused because it seems like you never had any protest to how she dressed before? It's Halloween. It's a party full of people. She was going with friends and not alone, right? I don't really know what there is to worry about.
What did you want her to do about it, anyway? Run into the bedroom and put on a bathrobe? Fall to her knees in forgiveness. If she was meeting friends, I can see why she wouldn't have wanted to run late because her husband suddenly decided the way she's dressed before bothers him now.
What I find more worrisome is that she has tried to apologize and you don't want to hear it. You want to keep on being mad over a Halloween costume. Think about it. The ruckus is being caused over a Halloween costume you didn't like. Really, dude? You want to go to bed angry ANOTHER night over that? Really?
You don't have "exclusive rights" to her body. SHE has exclusive rights to her body and showing as much skin as she sees fit or not. Sorry to break it to you.
Yeah that's really shitty, the fact that it seems society's general consensus is even in a marriage the guy has no say over the woman's body. I disagree wholly with this. She has a say over my body and mind in exactly the same capacity as I have a say over hers. Same for property and life decisions.
I see couples with your sort of thinking among my circle of friends and their relationships just seem so.. shallow. It's like two individuals temporarily together for the sake of practical considerations instead of anything deeper. How can a genuine bond form when you don't have any exclusive exchange of truly important things like authority over things like your thoughts / body / decisions etc etc? Isnt that the point of finding a life partner in the first place? to be with someone who you can truly share to that level?
You don't have any 'special exclusive rights' to your wife's body or mind.
What you have is a right to express your feelings.
Does that mean she also doesn't have any special exclusive rights to my body or mind?
Shit is this how modern society is like, really? How deep can relationships go if two people are together but there's absolutely nothing that either can exclusively require / demand / request of the other? Meaning can be lost easily in my word choice, but I think it's easy to understand what I'm getting at.
So really what is the point of getting married and dedicating yourself to another individual when there's nothing differentiating them from another random individual?
I can honestly say that she has a special exclusive right to direct my mind in many aspects of life, purely because she is my wife. And I expect the same in return.
If it makes her happy-WTF do you care?



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Aug 5, 2020


Hello to everyone.

Recently, my 30 yo wife (I am 35), started wearing much sexier outfits sometimes when we go out just the two of us or with two particular (male) friends of ours.

I am talking about tight, opaque leggings, very short, tight dresses (she has a fit body), very high heels, and now in the summer, tiny thong bikinis, sometimes even going topless.

Talking to her about it in a nice way, she said that I exaggerate a little, and it is totally normal, that the fashion is changing and she wants to follow. However, I really do not know if wearing high heels and a dress that friends and strangers can clearly see your (transparent) underwear the whole time while we are sitting at the bar is part of the fashion. Or if the extremely ripped denim shorts and fishnet top (no bra) is some kind of trend. Or if the topless with a tiny thong bikini in front of guys we barely know is something normal.

I have to note that we have a good sex life, no cheating or messing around from any side and there is good communication. This is why I am so confused and I would like to hear some opinions, if I should worry or not.
No matter what one's shape is, I despise it when women wear leggings as if they were pants.
If she has never worn revealing clothing before, then something is up. Some women have never worn a top to the beach or anything else, really depends on where you live.

If she started wearing these new clothes around the two male friends, I would consider this a red flag.

Is she dressing like this when she is around others friends?

Does she dress like this when she goes out by herself?

Is she dressing like this when it is just the two of you?

She is dressing like a hot/**** wife for someone and it doesn’t sound like it is you. Her reason she gave is bullcrap. Fashion can be sexy and still not reveal her entire body.

How long have you know the two male friends?
I suspect something is up could be as small as a crush on a man she wants to impress.

Most likely it's secret communication with someone.

However you may see a progression over time so be alert. Possibly for now mouth shut eyes open, you don't want whatever might be going on to go further underground.

An increase or decrease or new activity in you sex life can also be a red flag.

What do you know about these two male friends are they yours or hers.
could it just be that she is either feeling really good about herself right now, or even just that she is trying to hold on to her youth? I know when my wife is feeling especially good about herself, she seems to start wearing more "sexy" outfits when we go out.

Are you sure it is related to these two other men, or could it just happen to be those guys have been around recently? Have you gone out recently with other people and she did not dress this way?
Trust your guts. If they are telling you that something's wrong then most likely yes, something is wrong. It could be nothing and all very innocent, but trust your guts. For now mouth shut and eyes wide open. these days a good indication that something is going on is the phone.

If she has never worn revealing clothing before, then something is up. Some women have never worn a top to the beach or anything else, really depends on where you live.

If she started wearing these new clothes around the two male friends, I would consider this a red flag.

Is she dressing like this when she is around others friends?

Does she dress like this when she goes out by herself?

Is she dressing like this when it is just the two of you?

She is dressing like a hot/**** wife for someone and it doesn’t sound like it is you. Her reason she gave is bullcrap. Fashion can be sexy and still not reveal her entire body.

How low have you know the two male friends?

Maybe she has some exhibitionist fantasies, find a place where you can be nude without getting arrested and let it all hang. Get it out of her system.

...a dress that friends and strangers can clearly see your (transparent) underwear... extremely ripped denim shorts and fishnet top (no bra)... topless with a tiny thong bikini in front of guys we barely know...



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Aug 5, 2020



No matter what one's shape is, I despise it when women wear leggings as if they were pants.


Well, for some time now, leggings are the only pants she wears. Usually with high
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