What Kind Of Porn Do Women Like
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What Kind Of Porn Do Women Like
Updated Jul. 12, 2017 3:50PM ET / Published May. 20, 2014 5:45AM ET
One Instagram entrepreneur claims women love porn just as much as men—their definition is just a little different. Welcome to Sarah Gidick’s new site, all about hot guys with manners.
With over 82,000 followers on Instagram , 31-year-old Sarah Gidick’s Porn For Women account has garnered a cult-like following of women who love hot men. Porn For Women, however, strays away from the typical preconceived notion of the explicit content beloved by the male species. There are no naked bodies (at least in the colloquial sense). There is no deeply erotic behavior. There is no awkward suggestive dialogue.
Why? Because that’s not what women want.
“If you Google the word porn, one of the first definitions now is a sensory reaction,” Gidick tells The Daily Beast. “At the end of the day, women and men are not turned on the same way—it’s just the reality of the situation. I acknowledge outliers. I understand that there are exceptions to every rule. But, I think that—I’m 31, and I’ve always had great girlfriends in my life. And they sound really happy nine times out of 10 when a guy is handsome and treats them well. The perfect package is what makes their head spin. I don’t get that kind of call when they’ve just had intercourse with a guy.”
And that’s why Gidick transformed her heavily-followed Instagram account into a full-blown site on May 13, simply dubbed, “a blog for women about hot men.”
The Instagram account made its debut in January 2013 with a photograph of John Hamm smoking a cigarette while cooking up fried eggs for a C magazine shoot. Next came sultry photos of Tom Ford and Aleksander Skarsgaard. Then appeared a series of black-and-white photos highlighting Paul Newman, Christian Bale, Sean Avery, and Rock Hudson. What started as a personal project of admiration for handsome men (and their underappreciated editorial shoots) quickly grew into yet another hashtag phenomenon.
“I was thinking of Instagram names for like two days,” Gidick explains. “Back then I was really into cooking, and I felt like there was so much food porn. It was so ridiculous. [There would be] a picture of French toast, and people would start freaking out. I figured, if I post hot guys, it’d be the same thing. Girls walk down the street, see a handsome man, and get that same ‘oh my god’ feeling. So I was like, OK, [these images are] just like porn.”
But can these photos of Hollywood heartthrobs and images from Vanity Fair shoots really be considered porn? Our culture has only recognized one definition of the word, one that encompasses seemingly trashy, low-budget films produced predominately for males (and typically, as Gidick highlights, cringe-worthy for women). But why should it be so narrowly defined when social media monikers like #foodporn and #shoeporn are ever-present on the Web? It’s not so much about changing the definition of ‘porn’ per se, Gidick explains, as it is about reclaiming a portion of its meaning for women, the same way the aforementioned hashtags have for food and shoe lovers.
“I was [watching a video of] Gloria Steinem [on YouTube] talking about how we have to stop using the word ‘porn’; how it’s slavery to women; why we have to use the word ‘erotica,’” she says. “I was so on-board with her points, but I was like, this word isn’t really going to go anywhere, so if you don’t take a part of the definition of the word for yourself, it’s just going to keep making people feel bad…I think the word is really harsh, and if you make it lighter, it’s just better in the long run for people. I think that girls have to deal with a lot of things that are never really going to get addressed or change—and I think that women feel like the slightest sliver of empowerment by being involved in talking about men.”
After over a year of success, Gidick decided to make the leap into the blogosphere. Pivoting off the success of posting drop-dead-gorgeous photos of a shirtless Ryan Gosling or mysterious British heartthrob Tom Hardy (who Gidick says are two of the account’s most popular men, aside from vintage photos of Paul Newman because “he just can’t take a bad photo”), Gidick wants the new site to be smart. She wants to discuss topics like fashion and women’s issues with her audience and plans to organize and produce her own editorial shoots of men—be it friends-of-friends or longtime industry connections—who are cool, down-to-earth, and of course, ridiculously good looking. But most of all, she wants to create a platform like her idol, Martha Stewart’s—something that “[makes] people feel good.”
“You can put yourself into a shame spiral worrying about sounding lame about your dreams, or you can just own it,” she writes on the site. “I own it. I built a successful social media account applying [Stewart’s] principle of the gold standard to men. I thought about what was lacking for women and I have attempted to fill that void. Nothing too deep, just light hearted, good stuff for women. I launched this site today because I wanted to produce my own content and present great men to women.”
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At least now you know you're not the only one who checks his e-mail when he's not around.
I have a confession to make: When my husband Chris is out of town, I tend to act a little...differently.
I'll wait hours to shower after going for a run, lounge around the house in my grody workout gear, and eat ice cream straight from the tub. I also always go to bed in my comfiest and most unsexy pajamas (a onesie with a butt flap, thank you very much).
I spend so much time bringing my A-game when he's around that it feels a- freaking -mazing to do the complete opposite when I'm left to my own devices.
Of course, one time he came home early and caught me in the act. I was standing in the kitchen, eating ice cream with a fork, while working my holey, '80s-cut running underwear, a sports bra, and greasy hair. It was heaven...until he walked in.
While I was mortified, it still hasn't stopped me from doing the same thing every time he's out of town. And I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who has little habits that I keep from my other half. Just to be positive (because I really, really don’t want to give up my onesie), I took a survey of my married girlfriends. Here's what I discovered (the names have been changed to protect the not-so-innocent):
"My husband never logs out of his e-mail when he's done and sometimes even leaves it up on our computer. So of course I'm going to look at it. I've never found anything even remotely off, but that doesn't stop me from looking around his inbox and sent folder every once in a while." — Sarah
"Sometimes, I'll check out my husband on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter and spend time looking at what he posted. It's kind of weird, but I guess I'm just curious to see what he's talking about and who he's talking with when he's not with me." — Katie
"I've never farted in front of my husband—at least that I'll admit—but sometimes I have a gas problem, especially when I order this one dish I love from a Mexican takeout place near my house that's loaded with onions. I only order it when my husband isn't going to be around for 24 hours so I can fart in peace." — Laney
"Every once in a while, I'll look at my husband's texts. I'm paranoid he has one of those apps that tell you when someone's been on your phone—but apparently not paranoid enough." — Amy
"My husband is big on recapping his workday in detail when he gets home. It's so boring, so I usually tune him out. I discovered that I can say the right things at the right time by reading his facial expressions. If he looks upset, I'll just say something like, 'I'm sorry,' when he stops talking. He thinks I was listening the whole time." — Erin
Here are a few other things many married women do but would never own up to:
Throw out your husband’s ratty Homer Simpson boxers when he’s not around and then pretend to help look for them when he starts panicking about not being able to find them.
Watch the next episode of The Walking Dead without your man, but pretend to be shocked at the twists and turns when you watch again with him.
“Forget” to unload the dishwasher, take out the trash, or make the bed, so he has to do it.
Polish off the leftovers from the night before and then play dumb about their whereabouts.
Talk for ages about how “stressed” and “overwhelmed” you are, so he volunteers to take on your regular chores.
Speed through sex because you really, really want to be done in time for the new episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians .
So, okay, keeping some habits on the DL in your marriage is apparently normal, although I bet women aren't the only ones who do this. Just to be sure, I asked a married guy friend.
His response: "Sometimes I unplug the Wi-Fi router if I lose an argument."
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February 5, 2018 by Jason S. Carroll | Print | Filed Under: Articles
Originally published in the Institute for Family Studies Blog
Perhaps the most consistent finding of pornography studies to date is that there is a sizeable gap that exists between men and women when it comes to their personal use and acceptance of pornography. Dozens of studies have shown that men are more likely than women to view pornography, and this is particularly true of viewing pornography regularly on a daily or weekly basis. This “porn gap” raises a number of questions about dating patterns and the relationship dynamics that arise between men and women related to pornography use, such as:
The answers to these questions are not well understood in the pornography and couple formation literature. In likelihood, the answers to these questions differ from couple to couple and the patterns that emerge likely influence future couple patterns and outcomes – for better or for worse.
In this research brief, we summarize the findings from a study we recently published* using a nationally representative weighted sample of individuals who are in committed heterosexual couple relationships and a subset of matched heterosexual couples to examine romantic partners’ pornography use rates, patterns of viewing pornography alone or together, relationship boundaries related to pornography acceptance, and pornography-related conflict.
In this study, we examined pornography use rates, patterns of viewing pornography alone or as a couple, partners’ values related to pornography, and the frequency of pornography as an area of conflict in couple relationships. Two of the research questions we specifically examined included:
Two samples were used for this study. Both samples came from participants who completed the RELATE Questionnaire (Busby, Holman, & Taniguchi, 2001) during 2011–2013. The primary sample for this study consisted of an individual data set that was weighted to be as close as possible to census norms in terms of gender, race, religion, and education. The sample consisted of 21,555 participants who reported they were in a casually dating (n= 655), serious dating (n = 6,167), engaged (n = 8,720), or married (n = 6,013) heterosexual relationship.
A second data set was used to answer the second research question and consisted of a matched heterosexual couple data set where both partners completed RELATE and indicated that they were in a serious dating, engaged, or married heterosexual relationship (only committed couples are a part of the matched couple data set so there were no casually dating couples). These selection criteria resulted in a sample of 1,486 couples where 23% were seriously dating (n = 345), 57% were engaged (n = 847), and 20% were married (n = 294). See Carroll et al (2017) for a full description of the samples used in this study.
Question 1: What Are Men’s and Women’s Pornography Patterns at Different Stages of Relationship Commitment?
For pornography use, there appears to be a difference between men and women across relationship commitment levels. When compared on the basic pattern of whether they use pornography, women are about twice as likely to report that they “never” use pornography as are men in the same level of commitment. The percent reporting “never” on personal use were:
The pornography gap deepens extensively, however, when frequency of pornography use is examined—with casually dating men being 42 times more likely to report viewing pornography at least weekly or more than casually dating women (50.0% vs. 1.2%); and men in more committed relationships being over 6 times more likely to report using pornography at least weekly compared to their female counterparts (seriously dating = 40.0% vs. 5.9%; engaged = 20.3% vs. 3.0%; married = 19.6% versus 2.9%). While men’s pornography use is less in more committed relationships, with a nearly 50% difference in the level of frequent use between dating men and engaged or married men, there is a consistent pattern of many women being partnered with men who regularly use pornography while they report little or no use (see Figure 1) .
Also, it appears that many of the couples who have congruent use patterns are those in which both partners refrain from using pornography. As individuals who use pornography enter into couple relationships, the question arises as to whether they view pornography alone or they view it together as a couple. We found a similar pattern of together versus alone use across relationship types.
Specifically, we found that men across relationship types are about three to four times more likely to report viewing pornography always alone (i.e., 100% alone, 0% with partner) compared with women in similar relationships.
Women, on the other hand, were about three to four times more likely to report a pattern of use that was primarily or completely couple-based in viewing pornography together with their partner (i.e., 25% alone, 75% with partner or 0% alone, 100% with partner).
Pornography Acceptance and Conflict
In terms of pornography acceptance, it is clear that pornography is a debated topic across relationship types, with anywhere between one-third to one-half of both men and women in our sample expressing disapproval of pornography depending on which value question is examined. Nearly one-third of engaged and married women report that they view pornography as a form of “marital infidelity” and a sizeable portion of men and women (between 34.6% and 52.3%) agree that pornography “objectifies and degrades.”
In engagement and marriage, approximately one in five partners believe that pornography use is only acceptable when it is viewed together. With regard to conflict about pornography, a portion of individuals in all couple commitment types reported that they agreed that pornography had been a source of conflict in their relationship. A notably high amount of casually dating men (44.6%) reported that pornography had been a problem in their relationship. This is striking given that this is the relationship type where women seem to misjudge the amount of high pornography use among their partners. Perhaps dating men sense that the women they are starting to date often disapprove of frequent pornography use and they are worried about it being a problem, even before their partner knows about it. For committed couples, less than 10% of partners in seriously dating relationships reported pornography conflict; whereas between 1 in 8 to nearly 1 in 5 engaged and married partners reported that pornography had created conflict in their relationships.
Question 2: How Aware Are Partners at Different Stages of Relationship Commitment of Their Partner’s Pornography Use?
The amount of awareness that romantic partners have of each other’s pornography use is one of the most critical, yet understudied, relationship
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