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What Is Piv Sex
What is more intimate, oral sex or PIV sex?
I know the ABC of kink · Author has 22.2K answers and 79.8M answer views · 6 y ·
What's more intimate, oral sex or normal sex?
What does giving oral sex to a woman feel like and taste like for a man?
As a straight guy, if a guy begs to suck your dick, what would you do?
As a girl, how did you feel when you first performed oral sex on a man?
If my sister licks up and down my penis and but does not suck it or put both lips on it, is that considered having oral sex? Is that the same thing as getting a blowjob or head?
The search for someone to blame is always successful. · Author has 20.9K answers and 164.9M answer views · 4 y ·
What's more intimate, oral sex or normal sex?
What does giving oral sex to a woman feel like and taste like for a man?
As a straight guy, if a guy begs to suck your dick, what would you do?
As a girl, how did you feel when you first performed oral sex on a man?
If my sister licks up and down my penis and but does not suck it or put both lips on it, is that considered having oral sex? Is that the same thing as getting a blowjob or head?
What is more pleasurable for a man, vaginal sex or oral sex?
Why do some people lick the vagina before sex? What is the taste of vaginal fluid?
Is there any possibility of pregnancy from oral sex?
How does oral sex feel for a woman?
Is being forced to have oral sex considered rape?
Do men like to give women oral sex?
What does receiving oral sex feel like for a woman?
Can guys orgasm from performing oral sex alone on a girl?
Ladies, what does oral sex from a woman feel like?
What is the difference between foreplay and oral sex?
What's more intimate, oral sex or normal sex?
What does giving oral sex to a woman feel like and taste like for a man?
As a straight guy, if a guy begs to suck your dick, what would you do?
As a girl, how did you feel when you first performed oral sex on a man?
If my sister licks up and down my penis and but does not suck it or put both lips on it, is that considered having oral sex? Is that the same thing as getting a blowjob or head?
What is more pleasurable for a man, vaginal sex or oral sex?
Why do some people lick the vagina before sex? What is the taste of vaginal fluid?
Is there any possibility of pregnancy from oral sex?
How does oral sex feel for a woman?
Is being forced to have oral sex considered rape?
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“More intimate” is a subjective thing. It depends on how you define intimacy. It certainly requires a great deal of trust and acceptance on the part of the partners but in many cases “intimacy” requires eye contact and kissing and closeness of the heads for bonding, and these things are often sacrificed during oral sex. If by intimacy you mean trust, desire to please your partner, and open-mindedness then perhaps it does because oral sex has the possibility of bringing pain as well as pleasure, requires the partners to trust each other fully because of the implications of oral-genital contact
“More intimate” is a subjective thing. It depends on how you define intimacy. It certainly requires a great deal of trust and acceptance on the part of the partners but in many cases “intimacy” requires eye contact and kissing and closeness of the heads for bonding, and these things are often sacrificed during oral sex. If by intimacy you mean trust, desire to please your partner, and open-mindedness then perhaps it does because oral sex has the possibility of bringing pain as well as pleasure, requires the partners to trust each other fully because of the implications of oral-genital contact and the like. But it also requires subtle communication as well as specific instruction to maximize pleasure.
It’s important to note that sex itself is not intimacy, only a part of intimacy and only then if it’s allowed to be that. Real intimacy involves an emotional connection, trust, disclosure, affection, support, understanding, empathy, compassion, humor and so on. Any animal can have sex, but intimacy is so much more. To the extent that the partners understand that oral sex is a further extension of their trust and communication, then it surely enhances intimacy, but it seems that it can be seen also as just a rite of passage, a way of passing time, something that people do. There is much anecdotal evidence that the definition of sex and what sex consists of has been changing over the past thirty or forty years to the point that oral sex is sometimes just seen as a past time, not a gesture of special intimacy. In that case, because there is no building of intimacy that oral sex is not “more intimate” than penetration because it’s meaning has changed.
But within the confines of a meaningful sexual relationship it could be seen as a further enhancement of intimacy. But is it “more intimate”? That depends on the partners.








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How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous!
Every week, the crew responds to a bonus question in chat form.
I read your recent column about a guy with a micropenis and would love some advice for the other end of the spectrum: I’m a woman who had cancer 11 years ago that left me with vaginal stenosis . I’m 49 and I’ve been single for four years, so the stenosis is pretty bad (if you have regular sex, it’s often not a huge issue). If I meet someone, it would likely be a long time before we could have vaginal sex—it would motivate me to use my dilators, but it could take surgery. However, I’m a very sexual person and I am sure we would both be satisfied in other ways. So my question is: How do I convey this issue to someone I’m dating? I’m comfortable with saying it in the moment, but I’d hate to really be into someone and have them leave at that point.
Rich : Before we answer, I have a question. If she’s referring to the column I think she is , I answered it and I suggested to the woman looking for men of a certain length that she behave more like men who have sex with men on apps and do all of this negotiation upfront, potentially in one’s profile. Like, it’s not uncommon to see on Grindr someone looking for “8+ inches” or to do certain acts only. Do heterosexuals ever negotiate like that (outside of the realm of kink, that is)? Is it ever socially acceptable to be upfront about your sexual interests in (vanilla-ish) spaces that connect men and women?
Stoya : She might be referring to the question I answered about micropenises a couple of weeks ago, too.
Rich : Ahhh shit. We are swimming in micropenises.
Stoya : I think we need to dig into the divide between heterosexuality and queerdom here. On one side, all things sexual are sex; on the other, only penis in vagina or anus is sex. And I really think heteronormative people would be happier if they got a little queer. You don’t need to put anything inside anywhere!
Rich : Right, I think in some ways these conversations about “WHAT I’M INTO” are easier to engage among queer people, who are used to “deviating” anyway. Once you’ve deshackled from societal expectations, you can really revel in your individuality and the ensuing freedom.
Stoya : This is a context in which I consider myself pretty queer. And yeah, we just assume we’re all going to have different boundaries and comfort zones and triggers. And talking through all of that usually functions as a kind of foreplay.
Rich : Right. Even if it isn’t by way of greeting, the pre-sex conversation about what you’re comfortable with is fairly standard, or at least it should be?
Rich : Our writer should feel free to initiate that conversation early. You know, there are people who project a certain identity based on their proclivities. The archetypical cocksucker, for example. There are guys who just want to suck dick, so much so that it’s practically their sexual position (along the lines of how a top/bottom/vers might identify himself).
Stoya : And people regularly really lead with these things.
Rich : Right. Like, before, “Hello,” if there even is a hello.
Rich : By putting yourself out there early, you risk rejection, of course. But you also leave the opportunity for a strong connection. If I say, “I really want to suck dick,” someone responding to that is likely really going to want to get their dick sucked. And it’s way more fun sucking the dick of someone who really likes it, rather than someone who’s kind of lukewarm on blow jobs.
Stoya : And as a person who has specifics that are … divisive … getting them out of the way upfront is super efficient. Most of the time, I tell people about this column in the first half-hour or 1,000 words of conversation. And the fact of my porn career isn’t far behind. So I find being upfront efficient and useful as well.
Rich : I’d rather be judged swiftly than waste my time. And you know, not everyone, regardless of age, is going to be jumping into PIV sex immediately, and someone who goes around expecting that is setting himself up for disappointment. Our writer has very specific reasons for not having intercourse immediately, but there are many reasons for this, and some relationships take time to build to that. So I don’t think wanting to keep things oral for a period, for example, is going to come off as ridiculous or prohibitive. Not to everyone, at least.
Stoya : If it alienates them, you’re probably better off.
Rich : That’s my general philosophy in most aspects of life.
Stoya : And the earlier you state the potential flag-raiser, the less attached you are when one comes up red.
For as long as I have known her, my wife has been interested in “incest” role play. While it isn’t my cup of tea exactly, I have been willing and happy to support her in her exploration of this kind of fantasy and role play. Often, she will have me dress up as her father, wear his cologne, etc., while she will wear her “high school” clothes. Recently, though, things have started to move in an uncomfortable direction for me. My wife is very close with her older brother, who is also bi, and with whom we often speak very openly about sex and sexuality. A few nights ago, and after a few drinks, my wife got to talking fairly explicitly about some of the “family” role-playing that she and I are into, and her brother—who I thought would be kinda horrified—was not only entirely supportive, but vaguely expressed interest in exploring this kink with us. When we got home, I expected my wife to make it clear that her brother ever joining us in the bedroom was entirely off the table, but instead she seemed to think it was a really good idea .
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I got diagnosed with vaginismus about 3 years ago, but started working on it something like 1 year ago. It was very difficult to handle it with my first bf and then I was single for a long time and didn't felt like working on this alone.
8 months ago, I started dating my current boyfriend so I felt more motivated. I saw a sexologist who gave me exercises, but I feel very weird doing them and it just makes me really sad and useless.
Currently, I'm able to put one finger in, sometimes 2, very rarely three. I'm able to have PIV with my BF if we're very careful, even though it still fails sometimes.
But sometimes, while trying PIV, I either feel nothing (no pain, but no pleasure) or I feel like I'm sooooo close to feeling something good. I don't know if some of you guys are in the same situation?
So to the girls who are cured, what "normal sex" feels like? Is it close to what you feel when touching the clitoris? Or is it completely different?
Sorry if that's a weird question, but I feel like if I know what I should be looking for, it would be easier to feel something good during PIV (even though I guess everyone is different, but any help / advice is welcome)
I don't know if it's 'normal,' as I still struggle somewhat with vaginismus, but for me it feels full in a really nice way. It feels really good as he moves in and out, hitting my G-spot. It's best for me when he doesn't go toooo deep or too fast. When he's on top of me, looking into my eyes, I feel completely safe and loved. Those feelings turn me on, which helps active the nerves and makes it feel a lot better. A lot of sex is psychological; that's why it's so important to be turned on. Everything feels so much better.
I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted, or if it's not helpful. Hopefully you get some more responses who have their own points of view. <3 Wishing you the best; it's not an easy path. I'm not 'cured,' but I'm a lot closer, thanks to my boyfriend being gentle and patient. You too can get there and experience awesome sex! You're not broken. Your path is just a little harder than others'.
How long has it taken you to get to this stage if you dont mind me asking ,sorry I know its very personal .
Yeah I understood how the mindset is so important in having sex, I feel just like you : very happy to have pain-free sex, rewarded with the feeling of progress and just so glad to have this kind of intimate moment, and all of this makes the whole moment feel very good, but only in my head.
My body is still not following my mind : hitting the G-spot does absolutely nothing, I tried with my partner and alone, it's like touching my arm. I do hope that I just need more time and since my boyfriend and I are away from each other currently I can't really "practice" lmao
But thank you for your kind words, it's really nice to be able to talk about this so everything is helpful. Hope you'll work this out too!
Just here to say to that I feel the same way! Whenever I insert fingers I don't feel pain, just a lot of discomfort and a 'if-I-go-any-further-it'll-hurt' type of feel. I do not understand how it can be enjoyable, but that's just on vaginismus I guess🙃
yes exactly I can get two fingers in but its very uncomfortable .
i know I feel the same way you do about sex and pleasure I dont understand how some people crave sex,I know everyone has different libidos but its hard to want to have sex when it hurts so goddamn much or dose not feel like anything .
Exactly! I know that if I go slowly I'm able to insert more than one finger, but the fear of the pain is very powerful. And even when you feel comfortable enough to move it's far from enjoyable.
That's quite infuriating when you know you are pushing the right buttons and nothing happens
I’m in my 30s, not cured and I’m a virgin. I basically avoided anything sexual because of vaginismus. When I started PFT, my psychologist encouraged me to explore my sexuality. In the past I had tried touching myself but I didn’t feel anything. I decided to look into sex toys and bought something to use externally, and finally experienced orgasm! Hurray!
I then started dilators. I’ve seen posts on this sub about masturbating and dilating together, but I decided to focus on dilating alone. When I had stepped up to the second size, I noticed this weird feeling inside my vagina. It felt like a fart haha. But it started to get stronger and I panicked!! I slowly pulled the dilator out, but the feeling became stronger. It was like a heavy ball stuck to my dilator. When I pulled out, it was even more stronger! I was trying not to freak out. I had the dilator not inserted, just resting on the labia lips. As I moved it, it felt like a magnetic ball under my skin and my dilator was magnetic too and dragging it around my labia.
I was in full on panic mode. Could it be vulvodynia?? It wasn’t painful but it was a strong, weird feeling. I talked with a friend and she wondered if it was arousal and my clitoral arms were reacting. So the next time I dilated and felt the magnet ball, I pulled it out and dragged the dilator to my clitoral hood. It was like a magnetic octopus alive under my skin!! WTF!!
Anyway. I experimented with this. When I felt it with the dilator inserted, I would thrust it and it felt nice and warm. When I pulled it out, I’d stimulate my vulva and clit with my dilator. After one dilating session, I used a soft bullet vibrator and immediately felt the clitoral arms come to life, and my orgasm was so much stronger. I bought a slim g-spot vibrator and added that into the mix - when I felt arousal from dilating, I’d insert the vibe. I don’t feel anything with the vibrations so I don’t switch it on at all, but I’ve managed to find my g-spot! I mean... I had felt it before with my finger but it felt like nothing. When I feel aroused and with something that isn’t my finger, it actually felt really good and I could feel my clitoris responding to it.
And this is where I have to wrap up my long reply because I’m still exploring that! I haven’t managed to orgasm from internal stimulation, but while I use a vibe on my clit I thrust with the gspot vibe and it feels nice. I’ve ordered a slim dildo to experiment with thrusting, something more comfortable than a dilator. So - I can’t tell you what sex feels like, but I’m discovering what it could possibly feel like and that makes me excited at the possibility of it happening one day!!
That's very encouraging thank you for taking the time to answer me!
Do you feel like the dilators could have been the key to success? I'm a bit struggling with my exercises and I wonder if dilators could really help but the price is still stopping me.
However I bought a small bullet vibrator, I am able to have orgasms when stimulating the clitoris, I'm starting to feel good when I stimulate the vulva, there's just nothing in the vagina. I struggle a bit when it comes to stimulating the clitoral arms.
But your answer definitely gave me some
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