What Is Cuckold

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cuck·old

| \ ˈkə-kəld

, -(ˌ)kōld \

cuckold
transitive verb

And also, for some reason, making his rusty BFF Mater a cuckold .

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Devon Ivie, Vulture , 4 Oct. 2021

Tom is also a cuckold : Shiv is cheating on him with her ex Nate (Ashley Zukerman), a floppy-haired political operative.

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Meredith Blake, chicagotribune.com , 12 Aug. 2019

Even Shakespeare and Chaucer cracked wise about cuckolds , who were often depicted wearing horns.

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Carl Zimmer, New York Times , 8 Apr. 2016

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One of the more glaring inequities of the English language is that it has a significantly larger number of words for “a man whose wife is unfaithful” than it does for “a woman whose man is unfaithful.” Cuckold is perhaps the best known of these words, and it has many synonyms, including (but by no means restricted to) cornute , cornuto , hoddy-doddy , hoddypoll , horn , ram , and wittol (a man who is aware of his wife’s infidelity and acquiesces to it). What of a woman whose husband is unfaithful? For that our language appears to have but a single word, and an obscure one at that: cuckquean .

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13th century, in the meaning defined above
“Cuckold.” Merriam-Webster.com Dictionary , Merriam-Webster, https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/cuckold. Accessed 26 Aug. 2022.
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Cuckoo birds like dropping their eggs in other birds' nests. Turns out, humans are pretty similar.
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You've probably heard the word used on podcasts , in articles about sex or even alluded to in popular songs , but what is "cuckolding"? Turns out the word originally derives from the cuckoo bird, which has a tendency of laying its eggs in other birds' nests.
When a human is involved in the act of cuckolding , however, the eggs haven't yet been made. Instead, the term alludes to when a man or woman has sex with a partner who is already married to someone else. Sometimes, it's out of wedlock, and the experience is essentially just cheating with a fancy term. Other times, it's a fetish in which some married partners enjoy watching their spouse have sex with other partners.
As the BBC reported in 2009, the female bird's disloyalty to her mate is why we use the term with sometimes negative connotations.
"With that whiff of unfaithfulness, the carefree bird gave us the word 'cuckold,' which came in the Middle Ages to mean a husband with an errant wife," the BBC's Janet Williams wrote. "But there are more subtleties in that rude gesture. The word 'cuckold' also implies that the husband is unaware of his wife's infidelities. And he might only find out on the arrival of a baby — palpably not his. Which takes us back to the cuckoo."
However, it's not necessarily always a bad thing — in fact, sometimes it's what gets spouses off, creating healthy, happy marriages.
"I describe cuckolding as a marriage where the husband derives sexual pleasure from watching his wife have sex with a man who has a larger penis," YourTango contributing writer Dawn Michael wrote. "The couple forms an agreement in their marriage allowing the act of cuckold, which can vary in degree from role play for some couples to a lifestyle of actual cuckolding (the wife engages with sex with other men in front of her husband). This knowledge and tolerance of the wife's activities with other men makes the husband in such relationships a 'wittol,' properly speaking."
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'Cuckolding' is a taboo fetish the rise. But what is it, and why do people enjoy it?
At the most basic level, a cuckolding fetish is about a guy getting turned on by his wife or girlfriend sleeping with someone else. Sound like your worst nightmare? Not everyone agrees. In November the Independent reported reported that Google searches for 'cuckolding' hit a peak, and according to Google Trends, the UK is second only to the Netherlands in searches for the kink.
Why would someone be into cuckolding? As with any sexual fetish it's hard to pin down one particular reason, but psychologists have suggested that sexual jealousy - and getting aroused by it - might be linked to biology. In his book Insatiable Wives , psychologist Dr David Ley outlines the possibility that watching your wife with someone else will turn you on so you can compete and 'beat' their sperm for fertilisation ("This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality," he says, pointing out that references to the kink have existed since the 13th century. "But we're hearing more and more about it these days, and more people are rejecting the social stigma against this fantasy.") But others point out that these kind of biological explanations for fetishes can't account for the complex social factors that can feed into kinks too . Ley also explains that the sheer taboo nature of the fetish - society after all deems adultery a sin - might be a core reason for the turn-on.
In his book 'Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life’, Justin Lehmiller surveyed thousands of Americans and discovered that 58% of men and around a third of women had thought about cuckolding. "Men are more likely to fantasise about cuckolding, and they do it more often - but there are a number of women who have these fantasies as well, which points to the need for more research focused on women's cuckolding desires," Lehmiller told CNN Health in 2018. Dr. David Ley believes that people are drawn to the fantasy because it represents a taboo. "In a society or culture that idealises monogamy, the cuckold fantasy is a current narrative that is available to people to conceptualise their sexual fantasies," he told the same outlet.
From my point of view, finding a partner who gets turned on by watching me shag other people sounds like the sex equivalent of winning the lottery. I get to sleep with whoever I like, then immediately shag my boyfriend while we relive the juicy details? Sign me up. Unfortunately, I've had a go at fulfilling a couple of cuckolding fantasies and the reality is much more complicated than the sexual free-for-all that exists in my own head.
finding a partner who gets turned on by watching me shag other people sounds like the sex equivalent of winning the lottery
There are lots of ways to indulge a cuckolding fetish – you don't have to leap straight in with a badly-spelled Craigslist ad. Some people get off just on hearing their partner talk about past sexual encounters, and in fact this is a great way to test the waters of your burgeoning cuckold fetish. In the past I've been with guys who enjoyed hearing tales of past shags, either as part of foreplay or during sex itself. Naturally jealousy is always a risk, so if you're really nervous about how you might feel, asking your partner to make up a story can be quite a good way to start. You can then move on to real-life encounters, getting her to tell you about hot sex she had with an ex – as long as you pick one you're not likely to get into a fight about later.
Beyond simple storytelling, you could also try sending your partner out on a sex mission, then hearing all the juicy details when they get home. I used to regularly see a few guys for spanking and BDSM, and on a few occasions my boyfriend would sit outside in the car until I was finished, thoroughly beaten and ready to tell him every detail of what happened inside. This option does throw up some ethical questions, such as how much do you tell the third party about what's happening? Personally I'd recommend telling them exactly what's going on – full disclosure saves a world of trouble down the line. And who knows? If you decide to take things further they might be up for joining in.
If you do decide to live out a cuckold fantasy, you'll naturally need one extra person and a hefty dollop of courage. I could be prescriptive here and tell you exactly how your cuckold fantasy might go down, but in truth these encounters can be as varied as any other kind of sex. A quick trawl of Craigslist shows couples who are looking for anything from 'horny guys in uniform' to a simple 'porn star cock' or the more detailed 'verbally abusive dom top hunk who's looking for married couples to worship him.' Good news for potential cuckolders - if you fancy being the extra in someone else's fantasy there are lots of couples out there who'd love to have you. Standard threesome rules apply here, such as 'be nice' and 'try not to get jizz on a stranger's sofa' but alongside these it's also worth clarifying with the couple exactly how they see things going down. Will her husband or boyfriend just be watching from afar? Or will they get involved, offering suggestions or directing the action? If you're part of the cuckold couple, clarify all these things with your third before you get started – there's nothing more awkward than you chipping in with suggestions like an enthusiastic threesome director if they'd planned for you to stay quiet.
We've grown up being told that sex should be between two people, not two people and a guy called Brian
Alongside awkwardness, a cuckold fantasy that sounds fun in theory can be horrible in practice if jealousy gets in the way. Most of us have grown up being told that love and sex should be between two people, not two people and a guy called Brian that you met on the MF4M section of Craigslist. When we see our partners enjoying sex with other people, there's a lot of societal pressure that's primed us to react with horror – demanding an immediate break-up followed by a three-month rebound sex-fest to recover. If it weren't for these ingrained assumptions, cuckolding wouldn't have quite the same fetish status as it has, because breaking these taboos about monogamous sex is often the whole point.
There's a word for the joy you feel at seeing your partner happy: compersion. It's often used by polyamorous people to explain the warm-and-fuzzy feelings they get from seeing their partner happily dating other people. It's not directly tied to sex – it's all about emotion. Cuckolding, on the other hand, is rooted in something closer to sexual humiliation. It relies on the idea that it is appalling for one man to 'take' another man's wife. The word comes, quite pleasingly, from the word 'cuckoo', because a cuckoo lays its eggs in another bird's nest, thus sneakily getting its chick raised by someone else.
cuckolding is often wrapped up in offensive or troubling assumptions
So let's address the elephant in the room: cuckolding is often wrapped up in offensive or troubling assumptions. Firstly, the idea of ownership – that a guy should control his girlfriend or wife, and that if she strays it's not just upsetting to him as a person, but damaging to him as a man, because 'his' woman is getting pleasure elsewhere. It's why the word 'cuck' is now often used by alt-right nobheads as a term of abuse. A 'cuck' is similar to a beta male – someone who is too weak to control his woman the way screaming right-wingers think he should. (There's a female equivalent, with an equally unsexy-sounding name – cuckqueaning).
More disturbingly, cuckolding is also sometimes wrapped up in race. My trawl of Craigslist found a number of ads that specified wannabe cuckolds looking for 'BBC' - a racist term popularised by porn, meaning 'big black cock.' Why? Well, the awkward answer is that just as we have ingrained sexist views about men needing to 'own' or control their female partners, so we also have ingrained racist ideas that feed into people's sexual fantasies. Probably another reason why the alt-right has picked 'cuck' as its insult of choice.
But while it's worth noting the negative connotations surrounding this fetish, it doesn't mean that anyone who h
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