What Is A Rigger Bdsm

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Have you heard of a rigger kink or rope bondage before?
Sometimes known as the art of kinbaku or shibari. Those that have a rigger kink fantasize about tying up a partner in rope.
Shibari or rope bondage is one of the most artistic forms of sensuality, intimacy, and surrender.
Imagine the rope as a tool to express connection and attunement between those involved. The rigger (the person tying) and the rope model / rope bottom or guided (the person getting the rope on their body) explore the notion of give and take while embodied into one connective medium of rope. Immediately, non-verbal communication and cuing of body language comes into play between those involved.
If you are the type of person who likes to learn a new skill set, if you are the type of person who wants to practice submission by physically being bound, if you are interested in the idea of trusting someone to tie you up, this may be a kink for you.
Go to fetlife.com and look for rope / shibari dojos or who the teachers are in your local community. Although youtube videos are great for rope (I have made some myself), it is not like going into a place where someone will teach you more about the type of rope to use, the tension of rope, and beginner ties.
When you think of a rigger kink, imagine creating something intimate for the person you are guiding. Imagine surrendering into something that feels safe and containing.
People practice BDSM relationship styles just like others practice egalitarian lifestyles. You know how you may really look forward to getting or giving an engagement ring. A person within a BDSM relationship with a rigger may see the same amount of significance with their rope kit.
A rope kit contains your rope (nylon, hemp, or jute), cutting shears, and all hardware you will need for the rope scene you want to do!
When you have a rigger kink, usually you have a style of rope you enjoy receiving or being put in.
The rope kit will get cut to your body size and shape so that when you are doing certain ties, the knots fall in places that will not harm your body.
Rigger kink is fun…until we get to the warnings! Rope is edgeplay. You are allowed to consensually hurt one another as adults. Yet “do no harm” is an important motto for when you are getting into more serious rigger kink play. Suspensions and tying rope around certain limbs incorrectly or for too much time will cause damage. Similarly, if you are going to tie someone in rope and you have never CUT your rope, you must do this first.
What this means is you must know how to cut the person out of the rope! If you check out the work of Lew Rubens or Georg Barkas, you will see two very different styles of rope bondage.
Those who are riggers carry a rope kit on them, their carabiner hardware, often two (or more) cutting implements, a first aid kit with liquid bandage. A blanket for their rope bottom after the rope scene, a water bottle, a granola or protein bar.
I strongly recommend that you take lessons privately or at least visit your local rope dojo in the beginning. If you are not tying weekly, or daily, you are significantly behind those who practice the art of rope bondage for rigger kink.
Learn a somerville bowline and watch some of our rope videos:
Practicing rigger kink can provide both rigger and rope bottom with a strategy that meets their love languages . Acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation exchanged, gift giving of rope kits, and physical touch of the bondage are all achieved in rigger kink. Rigging and rope bondage can be a great way to experience intimacy and fun with your partner.
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Erotic practices involving domination and sadomasochism
This article is about consensual adult sadomasochistic activity. For the medical condition involving non-consensual ideation or behaviour, see Sexual sadism disorder . For the medical condition in which pain/humiliation is required for sexual arousal and causes distress or impairment, see Sexual masochism disorder .
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A man with gagged mouth and clamped nipples
Left: A typical slave collar , along with ring for possible attachment of a leash . Such collars are worn by bottoms on their neck as a symbol of ownership to their masters . Right: The ring of O as a finger ring.
Sex, nudity and torture performed at public BDSM events, like the Folsom Street Fair in the U.S. , have been labeled as being against the law, even though the events are accepted by the local administration and police, and all acts are done with consent. [223] Left: Demonstration of cock and ball torture on a nude man at the Folsom Street Fair. Right: Breast torture done on a nude woman at the fair.

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