What Does Anal Feel Like For Men

What Does Anal Feel Like For Men
Straight Guys Reveal What It's Like To Experiment With Anal Play

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Any guy who has ever tried some anal play sexually knows that it doesn’t always come naturally. Of course, I could get into how usually things come out of there instead of go in and therefore it always feels pretty weird at first, but instead I’ll keep in scientific because I still have standards when it comes to writing — even if it is about ass play.
Anal, for men, is as close to a clitoral orgasm as we’ll ever get. Located inside the anus, the prostrate is essentially a male G-spot . When hit properly, whether it be with a finger or whatever else you’re using, it can send you over the edge and make you orgasm harder than you ever have before. It is for this reason that so many guys, despite which gender they’re into, tend to explore their butt over time. However, for some straight men there is a lot of shame, guilt, and confusion around admitting you enjoy anal. To these men, to enjoy butt stuff is to admit that they enjoy something predominately revered in the gay community.
Heck, all it takes it looking at how Kanye West reacted to Amber Rose's iconic hashtag #FingersInTheBootyAssBitch to understand how much of a stigma there is when it comes to straight men admitting they enjoy their butts played with. For these men, it is this antiquated idea that to be on the insertion end of anything sexual would detract from their masculinity. And while it may seem insane, it does make sense. In our heteronormative culture we’re used to imagining a man penetrating a woman, and anything outside of that is considered “other.”
However, in an effort to beat back this stigma, I asked 12 of the most sexually open men I know about the first time they played with their butts:
“I remember seeing it in porn and wanting to try it. I think I didn’t realize just HOW much lube you would need so it was super painful the first time. I think I tried to use the handle end of a plunger!” - Bradley, 29
“I was with my ex at the time and she was blowing me, she slowly worked a finger in there and I was so in the moment I didn’t really realize it was happening. I’ve never cum harder in my entire life.” - Oliver, 24
“I remember trying it for the first time when I was 20. I was totally grossed out by the idea of putting a finger in there so I started with other items such as a highlighter and such. Have you ever tried to stick a highlighter up your ass? Don’t. As I got more comfortable with it I switched to fingers and it was allllll great.” - Mitchell, 25
“I went for the gold! The girl I was seeing at the time had a strap-on and we tried it out. By far some of the best sex of my life.” - Joshua, 28
“I’ve had a girl ask if she could rim me in college. At first the idea really grossed me out….but then she did it and worked a few fingers in there and I came without even touching myself.” - Matthew, 23
“I think the first time I tried something with my butt is when I was a young kid. I would jerk off and put fingers up there and it felt incredible. I admitted it to a bunch of my buddies years later and he seemed so disgusted…in my opinion, though, you can’t knock it until you try it.” - Aaron, 30
“I mean, I tried it because the same ole same ole was getting boring. If there is anything I’ve learned about putting things up my butt is that it can feel amazing sleeping with a girl….but it’s almost (but not) as good as cumming when you’re fingering yourself.” - Mike, 24
“Men… please play with your butt. You will thank me when you hit the wall behind you from coming so hard. I remember the first time I did it I was shocked at how intense the orgasm was.” - Alex, 25
“I had a girlfriend for a while who would want to use her double ended dildo with me when she was feeling wild. It was so hot, and sure, it is a little uncomfortable at first…but ultimately it feels like heaven.” - Travis, 29
“I definitely didn’t do enough research on it before hand. I kept having to stop because I thought I was going to shit on myself at least 5 times.” - Liam, 27
"The first time I ever did anything butt-wise, I was 25 and had watched some gay porn just to see what the hype was about. They seemed so into it, so I went out and bought a vibrator and a bunch of lube. I don’t think I left my house that weekend it felt too good to stop.” - Jeffrey, 29

by Zahra Barnes Published: Apr 17, 2015
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Here’s what they really feel about going through the back door.
Do men really think of anal sex as the holy grail of bedroom activities? If you pay attention to pop culture, it certainly seems like it: Take that “accidental anal” episode of The Mindy Project , for example. We went straight to the source to find out dudes’ uncensored opinions on exploring your poop chute, and IRL guys’ thoughts on this somewhat taboo act vary from gung-ho to meh . If you’re into anal action, what you’re about to read is proof that you won’t have to look too far to find a guy who’s on the same page as you. But if you’re not, we're guessing these men's insights will offer some major relief.
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“I have had anal sex exactly one time. Well, I count it as anal sex, even though it was more of a ‘stick it in and see how it feels’ kind of situation. My ex-girlfriend and I tried it one afternoon just for the hell of it. She'd actually lured me away from the college football game we were at with a promise that we could try anal if we left at halftime, which seemed like an okay deal to me. [I'm pretty sure] every guy wants to at least try anal, if for no other reason than to say they've traveled that path. There wasn't really anything too special about it, to be honest, and she certainly wasn't enjoying it, though that was probably due to lack of proper preparation and lubrication. I would do it again, but I don't think I'll ever be one of those dudes who is constantly asking his girlfriend if she wants to ‘do butt stuff.’ Afterward, all my friends kept asking me if I had gotten poop on my penis. I had not.” —Scott
“Why go to the sewer when there’s a playground right next door? Okay, I’m joking. But I’ve just never felt the need to explore that area. From what I’ve heard, it’s not all that enjoyable from the woman’s perspective, physically speaking, and the tightness aspect isn’t convincing when it already feels so good elsewhere. But if a girl seemed really into it and wanted me to try it, I would.” —Paul
We asked guys what really turns them on. Find out what they had to say:
“Anal sounds like a good idea when you’re tipsy or really horny. It’s like if you’re binge-eating cake: another piece seems like a good idea because it’s more of what you’re already loving. Sometimes you just want more of everything she has. But the vagina is where it’s at. As soon as you finish with anal, you’re no longer as turned on so you’re just kind of wondering why you thought it was a good idea. The vagina is right there, and it’s clean and self-lubricating. The poop thing is a real risk. A little got on the condom when I was 16 or 17, and I didn’t try it again until my mid-20s. The thought still makes me shudder.” —Mauricio
“Anal sex feels great, although not greater than vaginal sex to any exponential degree. There's more pressure on your penis, which provides more stimulation for it. It's like having vaginal sex with someone who knows how to engage their pelvic core.” —Dan
“Anal sex is interesting, great—for me, at least—and not what I expected. It’s very different from vaginal sex. A friend of mine had explained that to me, but I didn't fully understand until I tried it. To put it bluntly, vaginal sex puts pressure all over your penis when it's inside. With anal sex, there’s not much past the hole, so during the act itself, I had to focus on a lot more movement than I was expecting. Lucky for me, my partner was far more comfortable with it than I think I would have been! Although she did emphasize the need for ‘lots of lube.’” —Alex
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"PIV sex feels like putting on skinny jeans and anal feels like fucking a water bottle."
Whether you've given anal sex a go before, it might have been something that's passed your mind before. And when it comes to your first anal experience , there are some things you need to know – it’s not the same to vaginal sex and there are plenty of different things about it too. Then there's the emotional side: plenty of people want to try anal sex because it turns them on or they are curious about what it feels like, but others come under pressure to try it through expectations set by porn or partners. Remember, there's nothing wrong with you if you don't fancy doing certain things in bed. However, if *you* want to try anal, then that's great! First up, it's always a solid plan to educate yourself on what to expect first .
Below, 21 men get real about what anal feels like, how anal feels compared to vaginal sex, whether they think anal is better and what they like about anal sex and vaginal sex.
1."[Anal sex] feels grainier if that makes sense. I don't enjoy it as much as vaginal because you also have to prepare a lot for it. It's a much more vulnerable area than the vagina and I can't go as fast or powerful when doing anal. The novelty wore off on me very soon." [via]
2."Hearing a partner moan from anal sex is different than hearing a moan from vaginal and I find it sounds a bit hotter... It's also the act of someone surrendering completely and a dominance thing, for myself. PIV > anal but options are always nice." [via]
3."PIV sex feels like putting on skinny jeans and anal feels like fucking a water bottle." [via]
4."Vaginal is a sensation of tightness across the entire penis, whereas anal is more of a single ring feeling because the sphincter is the tightest point. For me anal feels a little tighter so there's more friction. It's not more enjoyable for me, and most of my friends don't feel like it's more enjoyable either. It's just something that's different and treated in common culture as taboo, which makes it more interesting." [via]
5."I actually think in terms of physical sensations, that the vagina feels better than the anus. The vagina has more texture, is wetter, and in general it feels better. My love of anal is purely psychological. For me, assplay is one more thing I like to incorporate in my sexual toolkit, so to speak. Just one more way to give and receive pleasure from each other." [via]
6."Vaginal is a wet and smooth feeling. Multiple ridges and muscles along the vaginal canal. When in strokes, it feels like a series of tight waves made slick by lube or the person being wet. Anal is a tight push feeling. It feels like a firm solid grip on the penis that only lets up when you sink all the way in." [via]
7."Besides the obvious of the butt being extremely tight, it's almost like a sucking feeling once the penis is a few inches in. So it's like getting a blow job at the same time that you're having sex." [via]
8."I prefer vagina. Anal feels different but not in a good vaginal way. Just different. I can't explain it more than: vagina feels really good wrapped around my dick and anal, well it's OK if that's what she's into." [via]
9."Vaginal is clearly better. No mess (except during menstruation, but whatever). More tight. More responsive. Anal is only fun when the person receiving it enjoys it. But mostly, anal is overrated. At least heterosexual anal sex is." [via]
10."I'm a bigger guy with pretty average junk. I'm bigger though, so my fat can get in the way somewhat. The girls I'm normally with are bigger too, so positions like doggy are almost impossible PIV, but anally, works like a charm." [via]
11."To me, the vagina just feels better, both psychologically and physically. Psychologically, it's much more intimate because she and I can interact much more freely and communicate clearer than doing it anally. Physically, a vagina feels much warmer and wetter. She has full control of how she can squeeze me while I'm in her pussy, and what I feel overall. That's not to say that anal is bad. I don't do anal much because it requires a lot of preparation for us, especially her. However, in the occasions that we do, I absolutely love it. Sure it's not as good physically, but I think this makes me last a bit longer than PIV which my SO likes." [via]
12. "A lot of it is mind-driven for many people, personally I do enjoy the feeling more as well. In addition to the whole taboo part, for me there's also an aspect of feeling trusted. There is some extra portion of intimacy to accept the additional preparation and the vulnerable state it puts the receiving party into." [via]
13. "Vaginal is a wet and smooth feeling. Multiple ridges and muscles along the vaginal canal. When doing in strokes, it feels like a series of tight waves made slick by lube or the girl being wet etc. Anal is a tight push feeling. There is one 1/4" point of a very tight muscle (much tighter than a vagina), it grips you hard and steady until you pass through into the rest of the space in the colon. When doing in strokes, it feels like a firm solid grip on the penis that only lets up when you sink all the way in." [via]
14. "It’s not a preference for it instead of vaginal, it’s just something to throw in every now and then. Why? Because my girl has a beautiful ass. I’m obsessed with it, and to get to fuck it every now and then is a huge turn on. Nothing could replace vaginal sex. Anal is just about occasional variety, and it’s status as being “taboo” makes doing it occasionally really hot." [via]
15. "Vaginal feels like a warm wet hug thats tight all the way through. Anal feels tight round one area then it opens up into warm velvet. Nothing grips the head of a dick like an ass. I will say this; Vaginal feels physically better to me, but anal plays on more than just feeling. It's a major kink of mine so it also plays on my mind a lot. Because of this, I cum harder...a lot harder than I do with vaginal." [via]
16. "Vaginal has more 'pressure', if I go as deep as I can I can feel that I'm pushing against something with the tip of my penis. There are things in the vagina that stimulate different parts, even deep inside where there's more space. Not sure what they are. Maybe the cervix rubbing the side, maybe parts of the vaginal wall, whatever. Because of this I find vaginal sex WAY more pleasurable because it has more stimulation and pressure for me.
"Anal sex feels like one fairly tight ring or tube, maybe one or two inches of tightness, then no real resistance. Anal will kind of feel like it's sucking you in, even past that initial tightness, which is good. But for me, the pressure isn't there as much, particularly for the glans, so anal physically feels less stimulating because of that." [via]
17. "I had a fetish for anal in porn for many years until I got the chance to give it a go. Couldn't get the angles to work very well and despite many attempts with various stages of drunkenness and lube, it seemed to hurt my partner and do absolutely nothing for me." [via]
18. "Anal is an entirely new sensation. It starts out a bit tight, but as you get into it, it relaxes more and loosens a bit. The pressure and sensations can be amazing as the muscles contract and loosen repeatedly. Some of the most intense orgasms I've had have been via anal." [via]
19. "It's a different sensation, and variety keeps things fun. I wouldn't want anal over PIV all the time but its a nice change up sometimes." [via]
20. "As someone who has a partner that likes anal performed on her I can say that there is a difference for me but it's not nearly as unique as it may sound. It's tighter in general than a vagina and the position is different (have to be a little higher or angle higher for me to get it in for instance). And depending on the position, we can also do multiple stimulus (anal/vaginal). It does feel different too since the texture is not like a vagina. It's not a huge reason to desire it over vaginal." [via]
21. "Anal feels tighter, almost suction-like. Initial penetration is also much more exciting as passing the outer sphincter is more intense than inserting into a vagina. Friction is also 'adjustable' with anal depending on the quantity and type of lubrication whereas with vaginal, it's dictated by vaginal lubrication (assuming additional is not needed). Plus there's the social taboo. Anal isn't quite mainstream but it's made great strides in that regard in the last couple decades which adds some mental stimulation too." [via]

By Zachary Zane Published: May 14, 2020
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Zachary Zane is a Brooklyn-based writer, speaker, and activist whose work focuses on lifestyle, sexuality, culture, and entertainment. He was formerly the digital associate editor at OUT Magazine. His work has been featured in Rolling Stone, Washington Post, Playboy, and more.
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