Venture Capital, Thoughts and Much Less - Rami Beracha
Rami Beracha blogs about the venture capital world. Rami is the co-founder and CEO at Sosa.
The issue of miscommunication is very serious. I'd venture to say that it's a dangerous hazard that we have created .. It's a matter of just a few seconds after contact, and then ends with an incredible explosion...
The biggest mistake we make is when we believe that there is complete alignment in each other's expectations, without ever trying to comprehend our partner's expectations. We're almost always in total alignment with our counterpart, minus one thing that he does not take advantage of the opportunity to expand this gap . No one is there to inform us about the imminent clash.
There are many causes of communication issues. They usually are related to our personalities. Square personalities are more likely to miscommunicate more than liberal people, while aggressive personalities may have difficulty aligning their expectations with those of passive individuals. This isn't difficult to spot - we recognize squared from liberal and aggressive from passive.
But, they may not realize that they are so different. There is a chance that there exists a gap in their personalities that we do not know about. It has never been discovered or reported on or investigated by anyone. !
Ladies and gentlemen, I'd like to introduce you to a different kind of personality that we all share: The FULL CIRCLE and the HALF CIRCLE types! !
Note: A behavior guideline - when you read the following analysis, attempt to determine which personality most accurately describes you and also try to figure out who your partner in life is. If you realize that you're different types that you can be satisfied. It could be the reason behind many of your differences. If however, you're both of the same kind, then I'm sorry that I'm unable to explain the reasons why your relationships look awful.
Let's get started...
Humans can be classified into two groups. There are two kinds of people one of which is the "full circle" type, who is self-contained and completely comfortable being by themselves. It is true that he may need a partner. Absolutely! It's all true ... But, he'll be able to survive without a dream partner until he finds one. He will continue living his life in a relationship with the person he is going to marry once the time comes to find one.
The other side of humanity is made up of "half-a-circle" kinds that are (no it's not full circles that got damaged during the birth) - ... It's true, they need an accomplice They want an ally desperately, yes, they are always in a constant searching, even religious, to find a suitable partner... and , yes, it's the same for national security that they find their partner because they just cannot live without one. They'll never let go of the idea once they've found their miserable companion. In order to make one happy circle, they will be able to almost join their victim... however, don't let them do this absurdity of living together! The Halves aren't willing to compromise on anything less than staring one at the opposite from a distance of a single pixel throughout their lives. Their desire to merge with their spouse and make a complete unit can only be fulfilled by something less intimate.
One interesting distinction between these types is the decision to let go a partner. The full circle will naturally be able to let go of an individual he no longer has the chemistry of. The 'half-a circle' type , however, will redefine what it means to have the same chemistry as their partners. They'll claim that they're 'holding onto this B..ST..RD until they can replace him with a more effective upgraded version.
Imagine a dance where the half-circle and the full circle are trying to please their partner. However, the half is able to make two steps to the left of the comfort zone. This unexpected invasion into his personal space is a bit intimidating. So he fixes this zone-invasion-problem by making a gentle step backward. But the problem is that he did the Half move out of his comfortable zone ...... The Half is aware that the Full made an innocent mistake, so he makes another step backward.. But the Half is soon upset and begins to take an even bigger and more aggressive step.. They know why but for in the absence of a proper term and the inability to properly describe their plight and turn towards the wrong directions! It could be a lot easier for them to live if they had known the difference between Half and Full.
There isn't a single answer to this essay. However, there are some action items:
1. Find out who you are
2. Find out who your partner really is
3. There is a distinction.
3. Respect that distinction!
Let's be honest and say that there's only one conclusion Let's live and let go.