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For many young women and men, the end of August marks the start of a new chapter of life -- one of higher learning, critical thinking, problem solving, horizon broadening, and lots and lots of casual bonking.
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For many young women and men, the end of August marks the start of a new chapter of life -- one of higher learning, critical thinking, problem solving, horizon broadening, and lots and lots of casual bonking . It's a whole new world of unchaperoned independence and freedom combined with 18-year-old hormones -- which can result in a lot of really bad life decisions. If you are the kind of wise-beyond-your-years person who only has sober sex with people you're in a committed relationship with, more power to you! If not, follow these rules to save yourself from (at least some) sex-related humiliation and regret up in your ivory tower.
1. Keep your condom shelf fully stocked at all times. Whether you're a man or a woman, make sure you keep a healthy supply of condoms on hand, for you, for your friends, for friends of friends. Invest in decent ones, with lubrication (but not spermicide), because everyone could use a little rehydration after a night of drinking (and, good or bad, many of you will have been drinking... heavily -- see tip #3). Replace the condoms when they get close to their expiration date -- because the only thing worse than not having a condom is having one that breaks mid sesh.
2. Carry a condom on you at all times. Do you see a theme here? (And we don't want to hear about how we're living in a "post-AIDs/HPV-vaccine world" in which condoms are no longer a requirement; STDs still exist!) You never know when nookie is around the corner, especially on nights out. Keep a condom (more if you can manage it) cool and dry in a purse or loose pocket, not crammed in an overstuffed wallet or squeezed into the back pocket of your skinny jeans.
3. Don't do it drunk. Chances are, you will get drunk. Too drunk. Way too drunk. Probably on more than one occasion. We're not talking about a good, healthy buzz -- because let's face it, that's the most likely time sex is going to happen for you this year -- no, we're talking completely sloshed. And when that happens, when your balance starts to fail and your voice gets really loud and the room spins a bit, try with all your might NOT to hook up. Have a friend or three on hand who've got your back (and will tell you when to "turn back/back off now"). Because the chances of it not going well are exceedingly high. Think: poor sexual performance, blackouts, accusations of date rape, actual date rape, mid-sesh vomiting, forgotten birth control, accidental pregnancy, viral videos, the list goes on.
4. Have a no hook-up zone. Ground zero is your dorm room and the zone radiates out from there. The closer anyone lives to ground zero, the less advised you are to hook up with them. So: students in other dorms = fair game. Students in same dorm = proceed with caution. Students on same floor = enter (or be entered) at your own risk. Immediate neighbors = turn back now! Roommate = NO!!! And while we're on the topic of roommates, have respect for yours -- don't keep locking them out while you're showing someone your dorm room etchings, especially on nights before exams.
5. Don't sleep with anyone to get them to like you. This will not work. Sleep with someone because you are attracted to them and would like to have sex now, but only if you can do so without any expectations of a future relationship. If you think sex tonight means you're dating tomorrow, think again.
6. Avoid having sex in a fraternity/sorority house. But especially a fraternity house. Because in close-knit community living like that there are no boundaries: people will walk in on you while you're doing it. Sometimes they'll stay. They might try to take pictures.
7. Don't hook up with your friends' exes. We know college is inherently incestuous. But you've got four more years with your friends. Don't make it awkward.
8. Be open and honest about STDs. You're jumping into a pool of smart, well educated, fun, attractive, decent people -- many of whom have sexually transmitted diseases. Hell, you probably have one right now too! There's nothing shameful about that -- it's just statistics. But that doesn't mean you can shirk your civic responsibility to be honest about anything you've got that might be transferrable -- oral herpes counts too! The more people talk about it, the less stigma there will be, and the smarter everyone can be about protecting themselves and the ones they lust.
9. Don't schtupp your professor. It's so cliche. The affair might feel naughty and transgressive, but ultimately it's an abuse of power on their part. Plus, it's not worth it for the inevitable mediocre B you'll get.
10. Get familiar with your health center, campus security, and your school's policy related to sexual assault. The health center is your friend: a good one will have free condoms, STD information and check-ups, Plan B and pregnancy tests. Familiarize yourself with campus security: put their number in your phone and memorize it, call them if you need to be picked up or any other kind of help, and know where all the emergency phones are on campus. Finally, now that schools are being forced to actually do something about the on-campus sexual assault epidemic (according to a 2007 study funded by the National Institute of Justice, one in five women will become the victim of an attempted or complete sexual assault during college), review your own school's current policy so you know your rights and whether you need to insist your school do more.
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The Sex Life Of College Girls combines Mindy Kaling’ s sharp-witted writing, along with a knack for choosing a cast to bring her words to life, both of which are also on display in her Netflix series Never Have I Ever . The entertaining young adult comedy derives great humor from its contained college environment.
The HBO Max series takes place at the prestigious Essex College, an amalgamation of Ivy League universities, including Dartmouth and Yale, the respective alma maters of Kaling and her co-creator Justin Noble. The setting allows for scathing comedic takes on staple collegiate topics: Greek life, student bodies, first crushes. It captures the exciting tension of the post-high school, stepping-into-adulthood phase.
Four roommates from different walks of life—aspiring comedy writer Bela (Amrit Kaur), naïve scholarship student Kimberley (Pauline Chalamet), cool athlete Whitney (Alyah Chanelle Scott), mean and posh New York City transplant Leighton (Reneé Rapp)—find common ground in their newfound freedom and discover their adventurous sides.
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SLOCG ’s central quartet isn’t stuck with any limited descriptors. Each character’s experiences are a solid mix of engaging and empathetic, even if the stories are borderline predictable. The cast chemistry is compelling; they efficiently sell their bond, progressing from an initial awkwardness to believably overcoming their dissimilarities, especially Leighton and Kimberley, who hail from very different socioeconomic settings.
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Chalamet—yes, she is Timotheé’s sister—brings an endearing, wide-eyed appeal to Kimberley. The shyest of the lot, Kimberley is the most relatable as she works hard to open up and expand her worldview. Rapp mines from her time as Regina George on Broadway’s Mean Girls, but with surprising vulnerability; Leighton is also a closeted lesbian from an affluent, conservative white family.
Whitney is unfortunately bogged down by the teen TV trope of a student-teacher romance, an arc that trots along without any inventive subversion, at least not in the first half of season one. Yet, Scott parses through her character’s roller-coaster emotions with depth. Kaur might be the breakout here. Bela is horny for dudes with abs, but her real goal is to thrive in Essex’s comedy scene. The only catch is that her parents still believe she’s a good ole nerd acing all her classes. Kaur’s zealous performance adds a hilarious jolt to any scene, no matter who her on-screen partner is; she crushes her deadpan delivery of one-liners, and guards Bela’s bubbling emotions when she gets involved in a couple of particularly distressing situations.
Season one serves up an interesting variety of love stories, like Kimberley’s sweet and budding one with Leighton’s dreamy brother, Nico (Gavin Leatherwood), and an unexpected team-up between Leighton and a new friend she makes at Essex. Whitney is saddled with secretly dating her assistant football coach, Dalton (James Morosini). Meanwhile, Bela is content with hooking up with fellow hot college students.
SLOCG might initially put off audiences because of its title. However, much like Sex And The City from over two decades ago, the HBO Max series focuses on crafting authentic friendships between the group. The camaraderie makes it easy for them to also divulge secrets, sexual mishaps and victories, and makes room for personal growth.
The depiction of sex isn’t nearly as risqué as in fellow teen comedy Sex Education , but Sex Lives Of College Girls is still Kaling’s boldest work so far. The young characters here are uninhibited thanks to the lack of adult supervision, lots of empty rooms, and the ability to freely drink. The way the show tackles how teens cope with sudden freedom is both funny and truthful.
In fact, SLOCG rarely dwells on any parental subplots or drama. The entire focus is on Bela, Leighton, Kimberley, Whitney, and their peers. Their respective parents—played by guest stars including Sherri Shepherd, Rob Huebel, and Nicole Sullivan—only sporadically show up or are mentioned after dropping their kids off at Essex. There’s a pivotal and unnerving family dinner in the sixth episode, but the show holds on to its unbridled vibe even in the more dramatic moments. This coming-of-age story is a joyride.

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If You Like Sex Education , You’ll Love Mindy Kaling’s The Sex Lives of College Girls

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Mindy Kaling knew what she was doing when she titled her new HBO Max comedy The Sex Lives of College Girls . It sounds like a phrase you’d see splashed across the cover of a 1950s pulp novel or a ’70s Times Square marquee—which is sure to get all kinds of subscribers clicking play . The truth, Kaling recently explained to the Hollywood Reporter , is that she and co-creator Justin Noble “wanted to tell a story of four passionate, bright girls in college. The romantic stuff just felt like a good hook.” In fact, as TV shows about young adults go, this one is pretty wholesome.
Which is not to say that it isn’t also frank about, well, the sex lives of college girls. Premiering Nov. 18, this warm, observant and often gleefully raunchy show follows four very different freshman suitemates through their first months outside the nest at Vermont’s prestigious, fictional Essex College. As a creator, Kaling has historically struggled to rework, rather than just recycle, the clichés of genres that she knows inside and out (see: her rom-com series The Mindy Project and Four Weddings and a Funeral ). But, taken together with her Netflix teen hit Never Have I Ever , College Girls suggests that coming-of-age stories might be her forte.
At the core of the show’s appeal are the mismatched main characters, each one lovable and frustrating in her own way. Fresh off a run as toxic alpha Regina George in Broadway’s Mean Girls , Reneé Rapp plays rich New Yorker Leighton, an Essex legacy with a frat-boy older brother, sorority ambitions and a pair of high-school friends who dumped her as a roommate. Her polar opposite is Kimberly (Pauline Chalamet, best known for The King of Staten Island and being Timothée ’s sister), a naive, working-class aspiring girlboss who’s still dating her hometown boyfriend and feels uncomfortable surrounded by so much wealth. Whitney (promising newcomer Alyah Chanelle Scott), a soccer phenom whose teammates don’t know she’s sleeping with the coach, is the daughter of a senator (Sherri Shepherd, in a fun recurring role).
While College Girls positions Kimberly as the regular-girl audience surrogate at first, its true hero—in my estimation, at least—is Bela (played by inevitable breakout Amrit Kaur), a recovering dweeb who’s determined to reinvent herself. “Four months ago I was an Indian loser with cystic acne, sweaty armpits and glasses,” she reminds her parents on move-in day. “But with one Lasik procedure, an Accutane prescription and medical-grade Botox injected into my armpits, I’m normal.” She’s hoping to get a coveted staff position at white-male-dominated campus humor magazine The Catullan , whose alums tend to go on to distinguished comedy careers, despite her parents’ impression that they’re paying for a STEM degree. (Considering that a similar magazine plays a crucial role in Dear White People , it’s probably fair to ask whether comedy writers have an outsize view of those publications’ centrality to student life.) Mostly, though, Bela wants to get laid. Nightly, if possible.
Kaling always seems to enjoy tinkering with stock characters and story lines, and this might be her most effective fusion of classic and contemporary to date. We’ve seen plenty of white guys in this genre who fit Bela’s general description before, but female equivalents of any identity can be hard to find. Leighton is what happens when you grow up acting like a Gossip Girl character while suppressing everything about yourself that doesn’t fit the Blair Waldorf mold.
College Girls occasionally fails to resist squeezing low-hanging fruit; the humorless feminists who wax poetic about their ovaries during an open-mic night at the women’s center aren’t exactly revolutionizing campus comedy. But most of the time, Kaling manages to make old rites of passage feel new by updating the attitudes with which the show approaches them. Yes, the girls have crushes and first dates and tipsy one-night stands. They bump up against everything from their parents’ expectations to misogyny (even when they’re not at frat parties). Yet the characters are savvy enough not to repeat the mistakes of the unfortunate girls in after-school specials. The show is affirming of the suitemates’ nascent sexuality without pretending that they, at age 18, know exactly how to wield it or always end up having a good time with their partners.
Although they’re still trying to figure out who they’re going to
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