TEMPERAMENT PROFILE: ESTP (Se-Te-Fi-Ni)
Choleric/Sanguine (C/S) = Decisive Improviser
Tim LaHaye
The second-strongest extravert among the blends of temperament is the C/S. C/Ss are almost completely given over to activity. Most of their efforts are productive and purposeful, but watch out for their reactions; they can become volatile in a moment! They are natural promoters and can sell almost anything. And they have enough charisma to attract and get along well with others.
They are the best at motivating others and thrive on a challenge. They face every new venture with fearless and boundless energy. Their spouses often comment “He has only two speeds: wide open and stop”. C/Ss are the people who never go anywhere unnoticed and attract friends with no effort. Convincing debaters, what they lack in facts or arguments they make up in bluff or bravado. Whatever their professional occupations, their brains are always in motion.
The chief weakness of this individual is hostility. C/Ss combine the quick, explosive anger of the Sanguine (without the forgiveness) and the long-burning resentment of the Choleric. This is the one personality type that not only gets ulcers but also gives them to others. Impatient with those who do not share their drive and energy, they pride themselves on being brutally or sarcastically frank.
It is difficult for them to concentrate on just one thing at a time, which is why they often enlist others to finish what they start. They are opinionated, prejudiced, impetuous, and inclined doggedly to finish projects that probably should not have been started in the first place. If not controlled by God, they are apt to justify anything they do, and rarely hesitate to manipulate or walk over other people to accomplish their ends.
Most C/Ss get so engrossed in their work that they neglect family and friends, even lashing out at them if they complain. A wife married to a C/S becomes an emotionally shell-shocked woman who feels unneeded and unloved. She usually admires him, fears him, and is resentful toward him. When the children grow up, she may leave him because he has made her a nonperson. Once he comprehends the importance of his love and approval to his family, however, he can learn to love them as individuals and transform his entire household.
Unwritten Grace
Generally the “alpha” girl/guy within a large group of friends. Excitable and short fused, they may be the life of the party and leader of the gang. They usually like to be around people, particularly people who can live up to their need for action and excitement, as long as those people don’t get in their way. They are quick to act and speak; the choleric’s drive to achieve, combined with the easy openness of the sanguine can make the C/S prone to losing their temper and arguing openly without thinking through what they are saying. They are fairly open with their emotions, but less so when it could expose weakness. C/Ss struggle with subtlety. For example, what may appear to be ostracising someone they have argued with by talking to someone else, is more likely to be them dealing with a strong urge to vent to someone, while struggling to forgive the other person. If they apologise, it may come across as forced. If this is the case, the best thing may be to calmly but firmly explain exactly how their actions have affected you, rather than assume they don’t care.