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Step By Step Instructions How To Cuckold Your Husband Part 1
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VP Jean
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Sep 13, 2016
A girl friend of mine came by the other day to tell me her marriage of 23 years was over, her husband was not happy. Not a new story, they got into a rut and stopped putting in the time it takes for marriage to last. This got me thinking, I have been with my husband for 19 years and how good was our marriage? Was my husband happy?
I realized that I put very little time into my marriage and her story would be my story if did not take a hard look in the mirror and change the way I was acting. The 2 things that take down most marriages is money and sex. In the money department we were very lucky. My husband ran a large company the he founded and we had no money problems. He was for sure the alpha male in the business world.
In the bedroom I called the shots. What I realized is that most of the shots I was calling have become reasons for why we had virtually no sex life. I don’t know how we got there, but, we did. When I was a bit younger I loved sex. The chase, the foreplay, the nasty, slutty and crazy acts, all of it. I was a bit of a slut and had many lovers, all shapes, ages, colors and sizes. Now I was happy once a month with my vibrator and getting mounted on rare occasions. What I saw in the mirror woke me up, because I did not see myself as a “10”, I have shut down as a women, I shut down the bonding between us, I shut down my husband.
Now a marriage is a partnership and if he is bringing in the money, I need to bring in the sex. So I went to my computer and Googled “Female led relationship sex”. The more I explored the more my mind raced with ideas and plans. My spark was coming back and I was wet again between the legs. A female led relationship is one where, the woman helps a man understand his desire, to help him be more intimate, passionate, trustworthy, faithful, and above all, loving . In reading the Female Led Relationship (FLR) sites I discovered that my husband was a “sexual submissive” for sure. The FLR sites took me to cuckolding sites (I had no idea what a cuckold was, but I learned fast that it was very common) and I liked the idea that I could explore other men while my husband just focused on me.
The best advice that I found was to test the waters with your husband to see what really turned him on. It went something like this. Get your husband naked. Now tell him dirty stories or ask him point blank questions and then watch his penis. If he gets hard, or gets harder, than regardless of what comes out of his mouth he is into it. Men have built in lie detectors. You think you know what your mate of 19 years likes and wants in the bedroom, and then you find out that you have no clue on what makes him happy. My husband for sure was a sexual submissive. He responded to stories of me playing with younger men, oral sex with me after he has come in me, masturbating for me, dressing up for me, just about anything that I want I can have, he was right out of the FLR handbook. He loved me and wants me to have a “slutty” exciting sex life.
Now that I had direction, I went back to doing research. What I found was most of what is out there on line will not work in the real world . It reads like it was written by men who fantasies about a women wanting to control every aspect of their lives. I’m not looking to turn my husband into a crossdressing sissy, I’m looking to reconnect with my husband and take control of our sex life, improve or marriage. So I had to approach each site with the attitude that I’m only looking for a few ideas that work in my life that will work in the real world, our world. We have jobs, grown *******, pets, bills to pay we have everyday life to live. I want us to stay as a team, by happy and explore life with each other.
You will need to establish a number of simple conditioned stimuli that you can use throughout the day, even in public, to keep your husbands mind working. By far the simplest and most versatile conditioned stimulus is your voice you should develop conditioned stimuli for all his senses including vision and smell. Each step I took created a spark in our marriage and improved or sex life. The more time I put in, the better things became. We were like 20 year old ******* again except this time I knew what a sexual submissive was, I was getting to be my old slutty self again.
Men are incredibly easy to train if you understand what drives them. I am for sure no expert, I am a real wife who just wanted to improve her marriage, not a professional Dominatrix. So this is a place to start, this is where I started, this is the path that will work for 2/3 of all women:
1. The submissive male needs direction: Some surveys have suggested that as many as two-thirds of men have fantasized about being sexually dominated by a woman. Think about that, 66% of wife’s could take control of their marriage and yet only 23% do! Erotic power, the combination of sex and authority, directly taps into this natural submissive sexual response. Once you learn to tap into that response in the bedroom, you can tap into it any time of the day. He will become putty in your hands. You must work on both his brain and penis. The “teasing” and the “not knowing” what is next plays into how their brains are wired. There focus needs to be directed to you, and ONLY you. Be verbal, reinforce his behavior. Think of it like this, the dog needs to be walked, the cat needs to be feed, and your husband needs time from you EACH day. You MUST tell him what you want him to do, each day. He must be taught that the best gratification comes from you and the more he pleases and obeys you, the better or more frequent that gratification will be. But to start it has to be done with subtlety.
2. Confidence: Yes you CAN learn how to handle your husband. Don’t worry if you lack confidence in the beginning. You can take small steps to find your way. Your confidence will grow with positive results. Do not confuse your initial lack of confidence with a lack of commitment. Be committed and find your way to fulfilling that commitment. Age is not a factor. Weight is not a factor. Beauty is not a factor. These things are simply not relevant. Sexual attraction is 90% mental, only 10% physical. You will be surprised how unimportant conventional standards of beauty are. You don’t need to be a beauty queen to be a sex goddess. It’s all about how you act, not how you look. It’s the attitude. Erotic power is the key to igniting passion in your marriage. Erotic power is a strength and ******* that you can exert to arouse sexual desire in your husband. Erotic power is your capacity to exercise control over your husband through his sexual desire for you. Erotic power is your will and determination unleashed against boredom and familiarity in marriage. Erotic power is the unrestrained exploitation of his sexual desires and fantasies toward your personal goals. Erotic power is the uninhibited expression of your femininity. Erotic power will become the focal point of your renewed marital relationship. This is not to say that it is a substitute for love. On the contrary, it will become for both of you a new and powerful expression of your love for one another. Erotic power will shape and transform your marriage. Erotic power is an expression of love. You express your love for your husband through your erotic power. And you rediscover your love for him as he courts you and submits to your loving authority. You can indulge and broaden your love of him by setting a higher standard and admiring his efforts to meet it.
3. How do you get my husband to do what I say: You must train yourself to be sexually independent if you want to control your husband. Much like a well-trained pet that is happy because he has rules to follow and boundaries to keep him under control, a submissive man will only be truly happy when he is being obedient. Obedience pleases his wife, and when she is pleased, he is satisfied and calm. Submissive men are proud of the service and devotion they can bring to their Dominant females, and this pride leads to a sense of overall happiness and bliss. Correctly obeying orders and receiving praise for a job well done are forms of love and respect for him, and are emotions he dearly craves. Men need to be obedient in FLR relationships because it is what makes them happy, and it is the reason that they gave up control in the first place. It reinforces their submissive role, and allows them to enjoy the emotions of freedom and carelessness that they experience while being dominated. Take one small step at a time so that the male will be totally unaware he is being reprogrammed to behave in the manner that you desire. One small goal after another so that at the end of the journey he will not even realize he has been on a trip. It might help clarify what needs to be done to develop a general theory of female domination. A woman has to use psychology to gain and maintain her control. This brings us to the basic principle of female domination: If the man has to accept being dominated, there has to be something in it for him, his orgasm. Forget everything else you read on line a stick with positive reinforcement. Be sure to praise him when he does something submissive and self-sacrificing for your benefit. This will condition him to find fulfillment in his role as a subordinate person. Sexual energy can then be used to remold his personality. A man's sexual energy, or libido, can be stimulated through sexual teasing. You can give him a peek up your skirt. You can have him help you change clothes. Or you can go about the house from time to time dressed in fancy underwear or a skimpy nightie. This brings us to the subject of lingerie. The first thing to remember about lingerie is that it has a cosmetic value. Not very many of us look like Cindy Crawford or Naomi Campbell, and our intimate apparel can take attention away from whatever figure problems we might happen to have. Men regard our wearing fancy lingerie as something done for their benefit; they are too self-centered to see it any other way. They are totally unaware that we are using it to hide things that we don't want them to notice. A sexual fetish is an object that a man finds to be sexually stimulating in itself. Because the man is stimulated by the object, the object has power over him. So the woman who controls the fetish has all the power over her man. Once you have established promises, you must be prepared to reinforce them. When, for example, your husband does the dishes, you should give him some attention. I recommend a whispered “thank you” or “good job” in his ear as you rub your hand roughly across his crotch. Such an arousing gesture, consistently given, reinforces the association between the promise kept and sex and therefore reinforces the keeping of promises.
4. Domestic Housework: You’re going to ******* yourself when you realize that your submissive husband will take on more of the domestic housework. For 19 years I could have had him cooking and cleaning for me while I relaxed! This is a Win/Win for sure, the trick is you must play with his mind, tap into his submissive side when you want him to be domestic. If you don’t take the time to tease and direct he will just feel that you are taking advantage of him and not respond. Start by getting him naked or in a domestic “outfit” and then give him simple directions ”Honey it would make me very happy if you can get a bath ready for me and then do the dishes”, “Babe could you please pour me a glass of wine and vacuum the family room”. USE YOUR Praise words, “you did a great job”, “I’m so happy”, “Thank you for getting my car washed”. The more praise he gets, the more he will do. DON”T take him for granted. Tell him when he is done with the filth in the kitchen you have some filth between your legs that will need cleaning and watch how fast he gets to work. This is the first “upside” you will discover. It is well known that men love to do domestic chores for a dominant Female. Your submissive husband will enjoy the attention and direction that you will be giving him. You will make it clear on how you expect him to serve you by doing domestic chores around the house. You may discover that what helps your husband with his domestic chores is how you dress him for his tasks. Check his lie detector and find out what is going on in his head. It may be naked, with an apron or dressed up as a sissy maid when he is doing the house cleaning. If your husband likes to dress up this is a good place to do it. Get him an apron, maids outfit or a full girls outfit (many options on line), then all you have to do is lay it out for him and when he is dressed treat him like your personal maid. I have girl friends that even invite her friends around to admire her well trained husband doing his chores.
5. Body Hair: Understand that the symbolism involved by having your submissive man remove a nice mound of pubic hair and keeping his little dick and balls cleanly shaved. It’s a constant reminder of your dominance over him. I removed most of my husband’s body hair, his back, butt, chest, armpits and most important his pubic hair. I only left some hair on his legs and arms, after all in the summer we do go out in shorts. The submissive male thinks that the “alpha” male should look like a “man” and they should look more like “boys”. Your husband sees the difference between his feminized body and the bodies of the masculine men you will tell him that you like. He gains a better appreciation of the things that turn you on. He becomes curious and he even finds the contrast of a large, stud cock attractive when compared to his smooth, feminine body. Again this naturally helps to encourage his submission to you and of course being clean shaven makes his chastity device much more comfortable. We started with shaving his hair with a razor, then I would send him off to be waxed (humiliating for him a bonus), and I liked it so much that I had his hair removed with laser, yes even his pubic hair. He looks better, smells better and he understands that I have taken control of how he looks naked.
6. Clothed Female and Naked Male: This is going to sound a bit odd, but, you want him naked as often as possible, while you remain clothed. ****** nudity is a means of subjugation, and one person’s subjugation is another’s empowerment. ****** nudity produces feelings of humiliation and humiliation is as a tool that serves to emphasize a submissive husband’s sense of being controlled. ****** nudity causes your husband to reveal his private parts to be judged by all and that's a scary thing for all men. Nudity like submission shares an important commonality, exposure. When he is naked and you are not, he is in an exposed, embarrassing position seeking your direction. His entire life he has been told to put cloths on, now his wife is making him take them off. Even if he likes being naked it will become humiliating for him. Use your words and toy with him. If he is soft, say things that get him hard. This will allow him to shift control to you. Clothed women easily dominate and humiliate naked males, one of the many ways the stronger sex has of controlling weaker males. The more often the male is nude, obediently passive, meekly obeying his wife, the more he is reminded of his place. A naked male submissive is a good way to arrange a marriage/relationship, a clear sign that "SHE wears the pants in the house." You will mostly likely find in your area a CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) Party, just google it. At this party the males are naked and the Females are clothed for the entire party. The males are there to serve and entertain the Females. The Females are in charge of the party. They can have the males do whatever makes them happy. The males are not allowed to touch or initiate interaction with the Females without the wife’s permission. When I first heard of this my response was “not in this life time”, but, after doing the research we gave it a try. I WAS WRONG, this was a great training environment. The party was filled with other women that could help me with my husband. Not only was he exposed for all the other women, but the other submissive men. We both learned how the other couples supported the husband’s submissive nature and the wife’s were given respect and control. EVERY wife should try this at least twice. The friends we have made have added much joy in or marriage. Once you have established control you need to expand his submission by taking him to parties, clubs or events where you can expand the “Clothed Female and Naked Male” part of his training. In San Francisco we found the “Power Exchange” and in Las Vegas we found a number of gay bath houses and clubs that we attended. A nude beach is also be fun. He will be naked of course and you should be in your swim suit to emphasize his submissiveness.
7. Masturbation: Many of the sites I saw on line are big into Chasity and NOT allowing your man to masturbate, I 100% disagree . All men masturbate, all men masturbate, and all men masturbate. Now you have a choice, you can pretend that it is not going on, or you can use it to take control of him. I am told that boys under 20 could masturbate up to 4 times each day, 20-30 up to 3 times each day, even men over 50 can average once a day! So what’s important is that you become the center of his masturbation. Now this has most likely been his dirty little secret since he was 12 so you need to “change” the habits. So first get him naked then talk to him. Let him know that you want to take control of all his orgasms and get an agreement that he will let you be in charge of his penis. Then ******* him to masturbate, a lot, more often than he has been doing. 2-4 times a day the first few weeks. You want to drain his balls so much that he gets to the point where he just can’t do it anymore. Then for the next few months 1-3 times a day, then down to 5-7 times per week. This is important, it’s OK for you to masturbate him each day if that is what is required to have him focus on you. Make sure to tell him on occasion NOT to masturbate, you need to mix it up on time and location. You want his mind racing with when your next instruction will come. What you read on line is WRONG, he will be much more willing to please you knowing that his reward is getting to masturbate. Yes taking this away will make him work hard to get the right back, but, take it away too long and he will build resentment and just do it anyway!
8. Oral Sex: Oral sex, by which I mean cunnilingus, is an important element of a wife-led marriage for a couple reasons. First, you want him to focus on your sexual satisfaction, even to the point of giving you orgasms more frequently than you allow him. Oral sex obviously satisfies that, or at least it will once he gets good at it. But as importantly, oral sex has connotations of social hierarchy. Generally speaking, when one person is giving oral
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