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"I orgasmed at a Grateful Dead concert."
Orgasms can be pretty hard to come by (pun intended) for many women. So when reports about someone accidentally climaxing during an abs workout or even while peeing start to surface — it can prompt some some major question marks.
But accidental orgasms are totally a thing. And they happen way more than you probably realize. Take it from these nine women who experienced the pleasure shock first hand (or, well, via other miscellaneous objects). Prepare to be amazed.
"One time, I was laying alone in the leaves under a really tall tree while raindrops were hitting my face. I don’t know what came over me but I suddenly felt a super-intense connection with the nature around me and realized I was legit orgasming. It was the coolest thing that's ever happened to me." — Ella, 24
"I was grinding against my boyfriend’s leg in high school and wound up coming all over his leg. I even got his jeans wet." — Grace*, 27
"I’m a 43-year-old mother of three who found out that labor and [vaginal] delivery makes for a very memorable orgasm. It’s called ecstatic birth and it’s a little-known ancient secret in our society." — Marev, 43
"I discovered orgasm while jogging for the first time at the age of 15. Something about rubbing legs together. Then it happened again while doing jumping jacks at a dance class and once it happened while dancing jive at a ballroom dance party!" —Celeste*, 37
"I am really into massages. Long story short, halfway through any massage, I have an orgasm. I try to relax and think about something else, but once that feeling is coming over me it feels like there is no way to stop it." — forgedinhades , Reddit
"[I orgasmed] at a Grateful Dead concert. The combination of the music and vibe and various substances in the air, combined with my dancing and swaying just suddenly did it for me. It was surprising, amazing, and, most importantly, made me realize at a young age that orgasm could happen outside traditional sexual experiences." — Jenn, 47
"I hopped in the shower in preparation for an awesome double-date night. In anticipation of some possible sexy times, I began the process of achieving silky-smooth legs. I finish with the right, after some careful balancing and maneuvering, and begin to move on to the left. I shift around, testing different positions for best access. Finally, after a good two minutes of moving around, I find the prime stance. And it just so happened to be the stance where the water was being launched straight at my crotch. And so the battle began.
"It became a race between my shaving abilities and my orgasm control. Much to the amusement of my girlfriend, I lack willpower when it comes to the second. I get halfway through shaving the lower half of my leg when I know exactly what's about to go down: me. I lost my balance, began to slip, and in my pathetic throws of shower head violation-induced passion, ended up smacking my head into the wall. So now, here I sit, a bag of frozen veggies soothing the lump on my head, and half of a fuzzy leg." — creepycreepercreepin , Reddit
"I discovered the wonderful and beautiful showerhead in my bathroom one day while taking a bath. It was this warm, amazing feeling down below. Then, well, it was fireworks. I felt like I was doing something bad, but I guess I didn’t care because I took a LOT of baths after that." — Mia, 31
"I once had the most powerful orgasm you can possibly imagine in my sleep. I woke up drenched in sweat. I had to jump in the shower. It was insanely intense. I’ll never forget it." — Brea, 27
Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.
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Though a ruined orgasm might sound like it has a simple definition — an orgasm that is ruined or halts before full climax – it can have multiple meanings. Some ruined orgasms are intentional, while others are not and can leave one feeling sexually frustrated. Those that are unintentional can also have multiple causes, both physical and emotional, which vary from person to person.
To get to the bottom of what can cause a ruined orgasm , the difference between an intentional and unintentional ruined orgasm, and how to stop having unintentional ruined orgasms, we reached out to healthcare providers and experts to get professional advice on everything to do with ruined orgasms.
“A ruined orgasm happens when a partner's genitals are stimulated to the brink of orgasm and then the stimulation is suddenly stopped,” relationship and sex expert Pamela Madsen tells O.school. “At this point, two things can happen — either no orgasm occurs, or if it does, it will be much less satisfying than what it would have been [if stimulation continued throughout the orgasm].”
Dr. Michael Ingber , a urologist with a sub specialty in sexual health, explains what happens during the sexual response cycle of a ruined orgasm:
1. During the arousal phase, blood flow is increased to the genitals. This is usually when an erection or clitoral engorgement begins.
2. With repetitive stimulation of the penis or clitoris, there is typically a sympathetic nervous system discharge, causing a climax or ejaculation.
3. When a ruined orgasm occurs, the partner is brought just before this climax phase and then stimulation is stopped.
4. Oftentimes, this results in ejaculation without actual orgasm, or a much less intense orgasm.
A ruined orgasm can be caused by physical conditions, or it can be brought on by thoughts and emotions.
According to Dr. Jess O’Reilly, resident sexologist at Astroglide , a ruined orgasm can occur when “your partner says or does something that turns you off,” causing you to not orgasm or for your orgasm to be less intense than it would have been.
Clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Christopher Ryan Jones adds that a ruined orgasm can be related to stress, anxiety, preoccupied thoughts, and/or guilt.
There are a few physical factors that may cause a ruined orgasm. For example, you could lose your orgasm if your partner stops stimulation right before climax. Dr. O’Reilly also states that a ruined orgasm can be related to something as simple as your Wi-Fi going out while watching porn.
Dr. Jeffcoat tells O.school that those who experience pain during sex often deal with ruined orgasms. They may often be dismissed by medical providers with statements such as “It’s all in your head,” or “It’s a normal part of aging.” However, Dr. Jeffcoat states that a ruined orgasm can be caused by the following physical conditions:
1. Vaginismus (involves muscle spasms in the pelvic floor muscles)
2. Vulvodynia (chronic, unidentified vulvar pain)
3. Vestibulodynia (chronic, unidentified pain in the vestibule area of the vulva
4. Endometriosis (a painful disorder caused by tissue that lines the uterus growing outside of the uterus)
5. Interstitial cystitis (a chronic, painful bladder condition, now called painful bladder syndrome.
7. Dyspareunia (painful intercourse)
9. Nerve entrapment (in more severe cases)
Depending on the cause behind the ruined orgasm, there are mental, emotional, and physical steps one can take to prevent unintentional orgasms from happening in the future.
“Typically, I would tell a client who has trouble achieving orgasm or trouble having a satisfying orgasm, to stop trying!” Dr. Jones tells O.school. “I would recommend sensate exercises [intimate touch exercises that teach one to be fully in their body during sex] for a period of time. The amount of time is determined on the exact problem and the severity of it.”
For sensate exercises specifically, Dr. Jones recommends that partners set aside time for kissing and touching — and kissing and touching only. “They could allow their fingers and kisses to roam around their partner’s body slowly and playfully. The purpose is two-fold, to turn your partner on and to collectively discover new areas of pleasure.” The goal of this exercise is to focus on the pleasures and sensations leading up to orgasm. If fact, Dr. Jones adds that orgasming is discouraged.
“Depending on the situation, I may suggest they stick with touching and kissing for a week, then maybe touching and kissing and light oral play, and then gradually progressing,” states Dr. Jones. “But it is important to emphasize that in each of these sessions, they do not reach orgasm. That would be counterintuitive … See, often people are so focused on the orgasm that they totally ignore and miss all of the pleasure and sensations leading up to orgasm, and then they are only let down.”
If one’s own thoughts — “you get nervous that an orgasm isn’t going to happen or you feel shame for having an orgasm” — are the cause of a ruined orgasm, Dr. O’Reilly advises asking oneself the following questions:
2. What shame can you release from your sexual scripts?
3. Where did you learn these messages of shame and are those sources trustworthy?
4. What positive affirmations can you use to replace negative sexual scripts (e.g. I am worthy of love. I am worthy of pleasure. Sex is healthy.)?
5. What are the real benefits (and potential risks) of sex?
Dr. O’Reilly states that practicing mindfulness during sex can also help — especially if intrusive thoughts are causing ruined orgasms. According to Dr. O’Reilly, one can perform the following steps to assist with this:
1. Visualize your problem or stressful thought and visualize placing it in a box.
2. Continue to visualize yourself carrying the box out of the room and storing it somewhere safe so you can get back to it at a later time.
3. When the thought creeps back in again during sex, accept it without judgment and remind yourself that you don’t need to think about it right now because it’s shelved in another room waiting for you.
4. Bring your focus back to one sense. For example, focus on the sense of touch. What do you feel in terms of temperature, movement, textures, rhythm, etc.? If your partner is touching you, tune into the feeling of their skin against yours to bring yourself back into the present moment.
No matter what the scenario, make sure to communicate with your partner what’s going on. Talk it out and discuss how both of you can work together to solve the problem. If the situation doesn’t improve, you can seek help from a sex therapist.
If you are coping with any of the physical conditions listed above, Dr. Jeffcoat recommends reaching out to a pelvic floor physical therapist for help. Such a therapist can create a specific treatment plan to help patients meet their goals, and can even provide a home program. If you’re not sure what your pain is related to, consult your doctor as soon as possible.
If your partner is the one who is causing the ruined orgasm, Dr. O’Reilly emphasizes the importance of communication: “If they stop as soon as you start breathing heavily or loudly, they may think that your orgasm is complete; explain to them what your orgasm tends to look and sound like. Does it last a few seconds or do you tend to have contractions and an overwhelming sense of pleasure for a full minute?”
Since everyone has different desires, it’s important you show your partner exactly how you, personally, like to be touched before and during your orgasm. You should also give them a verbal cue to “keep going” when what they’re doing is bringing you pleasure. “You’ll likely find that your orgasms are less likely to be ruined once you start communicating more clearly and specifically,” states Dr. O’Reilly.
Madsen also emphasizes, “It's important to think of the entire body as a sexual organ — not just what's between our legs.” This can involve touching, kissing or nibbling the nipples, neck and other parts of the body.
“In the BDSM community, a ruined orgasm is the practice of stimulating a partners genitals right up until the point of climax, then stopping abruptly,” sex therapist Angela Watson tells O.school. “This can either mean stopping just before an orgasm occurs, or just as ejaculation begins.” This will cause the orgasm to be less intense than it would be if stimulation continued. “In [people with pensises], this will cause semen to dribble out as opposed to shooting out, and [they] will not experience any pelvic muscle contractions.”
Watson mentions that ruined orgasms are especially enjoyed because they can allow a dom (dominant) to feel in control over a sub (submissive). She adds, “It can also be enjoyable for the sub as well, since it will intensify the denial and teasing which come with chastity play.”
Lorrae Bradbury — a sex, love, and empowerment coach, and founder of Slutty Girl Problems — reinforces that an intentional ruined orgasm “could be part of a chastity, edging, or orgasm control dynamic, [in which] the partner is denied the full satisfaction of orgasm, even if there was a physical release.”
If you’re interested in experimenting with a ruined orgasm, Bradbury advises, “[Work] up to the point of orgasmic inevitability or even the beginning seconds of orgasm, then completely remove the touch or sensation. This allows the contractions of orgasm to continue, without the additional sensation to make it more deeply pleasurable.”
This is similar to edging, which is another orgasm control practice. It differs from a ruined orgasm because it is a repetitive process that actually results in an orgasm. It occurs when a person brings themselves to the brink, or edge, of an orgasm before they climax. They then repeat this process until they allow themselves to fully orgasm, resulting in a longer, more intense orgasm. It can also be used as a treatment method for premature ejaculation .
If you’re not sure what’s happening with your body, or if you’re dealing with painful symptoms, consult a doctor before trying anything else. If you’re coping with mental health issues, consult a doctor or therapist. For therapy specifically related to your sex life, speak with a sex therapist.
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You may have read about edging and sex before and thought to yourself, “edging...like edging toward the end of the bed?” Does it mean you’re on edge before getting into bed with your partner? Does it have to do with geometry, perhaps? And the answer is D) None of the above. Edging actually refers to an orgasming technique that you may or may not have been doing already. And if you haven’t, then read on. We’re going to explain exactly what edging means and different ways you can try it out for yourself (with or without a partner!).
Edging, or orgasm control is a practice done during solo or partnered sexual activity, in which a person brings themselves (or is brought) nearly to the brink of orgasm — aka the “edge” — and stops before the climax. This cycle is usually repeated several times before the person allows themselves to orgasm. Edging is meant to make orgasms longer, stronger, more explosive. “Think of it as endurance training,” says Danny Garrett , certified sexual wellness expert. Basically, it’s a marathon, not a sprint.
If you can have an orgasm, you can ride the edge!
“The key here is to sustain the prolonged state of arousal, nearing orgasm, without falling off ‘the edge,” says Janielle Bryan, MPH CHES , sexuality educator and creator of the sexual health pop-up, The Sex Exchange . “This can be done by keeping the actions constant, toning down the stimulation gradually, or stopping completely. This really varies from person to person.”
Note that orgasm can be experienced in a number of ways, so the more familiar you are with your arousal and genitals, the better you can navigate edging. It’s important to really get to know your orgasm and what that moment — that just before the edge moment — feels like, and what you need to do to reel it back in.
“As you get closer to orgasm, [one might] pant and feel hot, your body will be tighter, maybe you’ll experience increased vaginal lubrication or pre-cum, this is when you’re about to climax,” explains Sophie McGrath, head of Customer Satisfaction at Adult Toy Megastore. “This is when you’ll want to stop,” she advises.
Edging is a practice that can be enjoyed both solo or partnered. “Your partner can stimulate your genitals or you can masturbate together, or it can be done through solo-masturbation,” Garrett tells O.school.
The practice of edging was originally conceptualized in 1956 by James H. Seman as a treatment option for premature ejaculation (PE). He developed the stop-start method specifically so that people with penises experiencing distress around their PE could learn how to delay their orgasms over time. This method has been proven to help people with penis maintain a state of
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