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By day, I was a women’s studies minor, wrote a weekly feminist column for the student newspaper, and was president of the National Organization of Women on campus. By night, I really, really, really just wanted to be spanked.
By day, I was a women’s studies minor, wrote a weekly feminist column for the student newspaper, and was president of the National Organization of Women on campus. By night, I really, really, really just wanted to be spanked.

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My first spanking was at my 16th birthday party. My guy friends tackled me on the kitchen floor and took turns giving me 16 spanks. And maybe one for good luck. I don’t remember. Once freed, I was livid. I was mortified.
In the years to come, I got some playful spankings, during which I was always twisting, giggling, and trying to get out of it. My first serious boyfriend loved to smack me on the ass as a joke, as did my second serious boyfriend. The more I protested, laughingly telling them to stop, the more they did it. And getting playful spanks always, always led to making out. I look back now and see that both guys realized I loved getting spanked long before I did.
You could say I was in denial about my spanking fetish. It wasn’t that I thought slapping booty was abuse, nor was my starched WASP upbringing to blame. No, the problem was my feminist sensibilities. I realize now that the term “feminism” is vague and means different things for different people, but when I was younger, I assumed there was a way a feminist should think and act. So, even though I liked the feeling of getting spanked, I felt conflicted about giving up my physical power, thinking spanking wasn’t something an independent and opinionated woman should enjoy . Just how, I fretted, could a partner take me seriously as a thinker, a doer, and a creator when I wanted to be submissive to him? What if people think I’m weird or screwed up?
But my sex drive proved mightier than my hang-ups and spanking became a main course of my sex life—albeit a shameful one—in college.
And I was, by a few different guys who, to varying degrees, were down with giving me spankings. But I still felt kind of ashamed because they themselves didn’t enjoy it, but they spanked me anyway because they knew it made me happy.
When I was 21, right after I graduated from college, I began dating Brandon, a brilliant, charismatic, confident 22-year-old. I loved how his dominant, even arrogant, personality manifested itself between the sheets. (Really, the only place I could put up with such a personality.) I didn’t have to ask for him to spank or dominate me because he did it naturally, and I didn’t feel like I was “choosing” to be submissive. But when we broke up after nine months, I knew I wanted the next guy I dated to be dominant in bed, like Brandon had been. I did a little Googling about submission and spanking fetishes and discovered it was a lot of other people’s fetishes, as well.
Fast forward a few years, and a few sexually un-fulfilling relationships, to Charles, the first guy who made me feel like there wasn’t anything wrong or un-feminist about wanting to be spanked. I’d known Charles for years, so he knew about my feminist activism and the writing I do about women’s issues. Once Charles learned about my dom/sub fetish, he knew—and respected—how conflicted I felt. Charles wanted to spank a woman as badly as I wanted to be spanked, and that was what mattered to him. Plus, he’d struggled with apathetic partners, as I had, and he owned a paddle! Alas, Charles also had a girlfriend.
Not that that stopped us. No, we were selfish: Charles cheated on his girlfriend with me. But those few weeks were sexually charged, passionate and wonderful. And other than feeling guilt about the cheating, I didn’t feel ashamed about what we were doing. Getting spanked and dominated in bed by an enthusiastic partner was the most sexually liberating feeling of my entire life.
Eventually, Charles and I ended our relationship when he wouldn’t end it with his girlfriend. I talked with my therapist, Dr. B, about how the emotional part of the relationship hadn’t been right, but my sexual chemistry with Charles had been spot-on.
However, instead of addressing how disappointed I felt that my intimate relationship had ended, or why I was in yet another relationship with an emotionally unavailable man, Dr. B focused on why I liked to be spanked. She kept steering the discussion back to what being submissive must mean in the grand scheme of things. Did I think I was bad? Did I think sex was bad? Did I think I deserved to be punished? Was I working out my relationship with my parents? Was it oedipal?
No, I kept telling her: I wasn’t hit as a kid, I was never abused by my parents, I’ve never dated an abusive man, and I’d never hit my own kids. But week after week, she’d ask me these same questions, and I’d have to tell her, nope, I still don’t hate myself, and I still wasn’t abused as a kid.
Eventually, our therapist-patient relationship ended, too, when I realized Dr. B didn’t get it and likely never would. I’d gotten over my conflict, and there she was bringing it up again. I may be a submissive, but I wasn’t going to put up with my shrink’s judgment!
I’m still coming to terms with my feminist beliefs, and how they interact with my desire for submissive sex, especially my spanking fetish. At this point in my life, at 25, I finally feel comfortable choosing to be submissive in a relationship with a man in the bedroom, as long as he is choosing to behave in a dominant way and he respects me outside of the bedroom. My love of a good spanking is not a conflict for me anymore. In fact, I respect myself more than I ever did for knowing exactly what pleases me and not being afraid to ask for it.
It took me far too many years to realize that it wasn’t very feminist of me to police my own sexuality, to label it “good for feminism” or “bad for feminism.” It is what it is! After I saw “Milk,” the movie about gay rights activist Harvey Milk, I decided I wanted to be someone who completely owns her sexuality, even if it’s not mainstream. I’m not ashamed anymore, and I don’t have to pussyfoot around asking for what I really want: I absolutely have to be submissive and spanked often, if not all the time, in order to enjoy sex.
Even though my sex life is the best it has ever been, it’s more important to me that I’ve figured out how I define my feminism for myself. The thrills of a dom/sub relationship might not work for other women and men who use the same “feminist” label that I do, but I’m not worrying about them anymore. I know I can enjoy a bedroom dynamic which, outside the bedroom, wouldn’t be acceptable. And I can still call myself a feminist.
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My friends often ask me about where to find spanking partners. There is actually a rather clever little method.
You might think you would need to join a fetish dating site to find like-minded lovers. Although this is not strictly wrong, there is a far better route to take. You see, the trouble with fetish dating services is they charge a lot of money - in my experience, anyway. They also tend to have very few members, which can be a real problem if, like me, you live outside of a major town or city.
The solution - with a twist, though - is a general dating community; one with a big list of members.
What you need to do is join a well-known dating service that has several million members. There are at least ten sites like this available to us. Once you have created your profile - just like you would make a Facebook or myself profile - you can do a search - and this is where to find spanking partners very easily.
The benefit of choose a big general dating community, compared to a niche spanking personals site, is you get access to millions of people, you can usually join without spending any money, and you can put in clever searches to find people with a spanking fetish.
So when you do your search for local people, simply add the criteria that you only want to see results of people who like spanking. Some dating services will actually have a box you can tick of people who like this fetish; others will have a keyword field where you can type in words that are found on profiles, giving you a list of local people who have written that word or phrase.
In this way you will almost always get yourself a big list of local people who share your love to spank or to get spanked.
If you want to know where to find spanking partners, I recommend here -------> Find Spanking Partners [http://www.ampersonals.com].
You can do everything I suggested in my article and this dating community is one of the biggest in the world.
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Confessions Of A Woman Whose Boyfriend Asked Her To Spank Him
Date nights for me and my boyfriend came around quite often! We were both living away from home for our studies and even though my PG did not allow boys to stay the night, his flat had no such restrictions. So almost every weekend I would be chilling at his place instead of mine.
This one night we were just watching a movie together, I can’t remember which one it was, but it was really boring. So, for obvious reasons, we started making out. In the middle of it, he lightly spanked me! A little weirded out because he had never done this before, I asked him ‘What was that?’
‘A spank?’ he asked, more than answered.
‘Oh.’ I replied back. ‘Was that weird for you?’ he asked after a few seconds. ‘No, I mean, yeah, it’s just that you’ve never done that before.’ I replied.
‘So you’re saying nobody has ever spanked you before?’ he asked. By now we had actually stopped making out and were just talking with me on top of him.
‘No.’ I replied flatly, feeling like a bit of an amateur.
‘And you have never spanked anyone either?’
He turned me over and sat on the bed on all fours, putting me in a strategic position to spank him. I laughed, ‘You’re such a weirdo!’ I said as I lightly spanked him.
‘Give it another shot.’ He said ‘No! This is weird!’ I replied ‘Is it? You didn’t like it at all?’ he asked. I looked at his cute little butt in front of my face and sighed – I did kinda like it. So I spanked him again. Then he actually helped me understand how much pressure I should apply and where. After three or fours spanks, I actually found myself quite aroused.
‘Hey, come here!’ I said, pulling him closer so that now he was on top of him. And while we kissed and the kissing led to other hotter stuff, I threw in a few spanks here and then. Even though I would never have believed it if someone would have told me this five minutes ago, I actually enjoyed spanking him. What’s better? He liked getting spanked too!
Overall, it turned out to be quite a night for us. One during which I figured out one more thing I like about having a boyfriend! *Wink*
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hi it's holly
IÃ¢ÂÂm 23 and my mother in-law spanks me. And my friends and my sister in-laws (I have 2) spank me to. I hate it, my mother in-law spanks me the most. Almost every day some times more then once a day. She mostly spanks me over her knee bare butt., no matter whoÃ¢ÂÂs around or were we are. Last week me and my family (my husbandÃ¢ÂÂs side) went to the park. I forgot the pop so then my mother in law turned me around pulled my skirt up and spanked me. Everybody was watching I was so embarrassed. But not as embarrassed as I was on the 4th of July. We went to go see fireworks and the day was already overwhelming I had a lot on my mend. Well I was supposed to bring blankets and chares and I missed counted and didnÃ¢ÂÂt bring enough. 100s of people saw my mother in-law put me over her lap, bare my butt and spank me. I was crying in embarrassment more then in pain (donÃ¢ÂÂt get me wrong it hurt like hell). Yesterday me and her went to the mall. She got mad because I spent to much. We got into a big fight. I made the mistake of calling her a bitch. (this in the parking lot) she slaps me in the face then bends me over the car takes a hire brush she just got pulls my skirt up and spanks me. On the way home she mead me sit in car with a bar of soap in my mouth the whole way. About 2 weeks ago i ran into her car. As soon as I saw it was hers I knew I was in deep $%!@. She spanked me the side of the road and when the when we got to her house. That was a long and very painful spanking. At the house she took my all my clothes off and spanked me over her knee. She used her hand for like 30mins, then she used a hire brush. 20 something mins later I got the paddled. an hour and half in to my spanking my mother in-law put me on the spanking table (yes she really has a spanking table) tied me and paddle me. Her arm was getting tired from betting me so hard that she had my sister in-laws help spank me. They all took tarns spanking me. They each spent 15min with a wood paddle, 20mins with the strap. And the 10mins with a mettle paddle that my father in-law mead. And because I cant afford to fix are cars IÃ¢ÂÂve been getting daily spanking, 1-2 hours long . and with a paddle. TodayÃ¢ÂÂs spanking her friends (4 of them) came over. So I figured IÃ¢ÂÂm not getting spanked today. Man was I wrong. She had me get butt naked and she put me over lap. I was laying there for 3 some odd hours getting spanked. Because my mother in law and her friends were talking she was spanking light so it didnÃ¢ÂÂt hurt much it was just embarrassing. But if I talked she would hit me hard. Tomorrow I think my sister in-law go to spank me. My sister in-laws donÃ¢ÂÂt spank me much they just help there mom spank me.
I have 3 friends that spank me. They love to paddle me my friend kelly uses a mettle paddle on me. It hurts. 3 hard storks with that then IÃ¢ÂÂm crying and thrashing. When my friends spank me it can last a long time last Saturday I spent all day with them from 6 in the morning till 11at night. Getting spanked all day long (we did other staff to but most of the time they spanked me)
Hi Holly! You are not alone! I feel your pain. I am 25 and my MIL has been spanking me since I married her son, even when we were engaged! Do you enjoy being spanked--at the time, or just thinking about it afterwards? My MIL checks me for wetness and I get extra, even down there, when she finds it.
My Husband spanks me too, but not nearly as hard or as often, and he usually has his way with me when he has finished reddening my bottom, which makes it all worthwhile. But when He decides I need a real punishment, he sends me to His mom. She uses her hand, hairbrush, and cane on my bare bottom and does not stop until I am done bawling and kicking and just lie there in total surrender. I don't get it as often as you, but often enough--almost every weekend.
Maybe as an extra incentive to behave you should be put back in diapers for a couple of months.
A chastity belt may do you some good as well.
hi penny thanks for letting me know im not alone. i hate when i get spanked it hurts. she spanks me beond what i can take. and i get spanked more than my in-laws
hi holly, my DIL is the same age as you. like your mother in-law i spank her daily even if she dose nothing wrong. to remind her to be a good girl. i love her but she needs discipline

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