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Dear Prudie, I’m 16 years old and have an awkward dilemma. I’m thinking about buying a vibrator because I am very curious, but the thing is, I want to talk to my mom about it first. We have a very close and open relationship, and she says I can talk to her about anything. I’m just not sure about this. I’m scared that it will make her feel awkward (even though she’s a nurse, so she likes talking about gross stuff). I already tried talking to one of my best friends about it, but she seemed pretty repulsed by the idea. I’m still a virgin and not planning to change that for quite some time, so it’s not like I’m going to be romping around with teenage boys. The vibrator would be for my own private use, and having my mom to talk to first would be especially helpful to me. Should I tell her?
Dear Curious, If you want instructions on proper vibrator use, I can probably help you: Add batteries, aim, fire. If you want permission, I can help you, too: Masturbation is perfectly normal, and a teenager doesn’t need to check in with her mother before engaging in it. It’s wonderful that you and your mother are so close that you feel you can talk to her about this—but just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Part of your job as a teenager is to start separating from your mother, and masturbation may be a good place for you to establish a zone of privacy. I’m sure your mother—since she’s a nurse and all—would understand your desire for orgasms and appreciate the fact that you are seeking them solo. And if she hears a suspicious buzzing from your room, she probably won’t conclude that you’ve taken up woodworking. Once you do become sexually active with more than an inanimate object, it’s great that you’ll feel able to turn to your mother for guidance because young women can use help making sure they’re protected from disease, pregnancy, and bad choices. But your adventures in vibrator-land may be something you need to confide only to your diary.
Dear Prudence, I’m 26 and engaged to a wonderful 33-year-old man. He’s absolutely the person I want to spend the rest of my life and have a family with. We both want kids fairly soon, but there’s one problem. For the past few years, my fiance has had some problems with a testicular infection, and the doctors say there’s a chance that it has left him sterile. Having children is extremely important to me, but if it turned out that he couldn’t have them, I’d work around it, i.e., adoption or sperm donation. However, not knowing is killing me. He says he doesn’t want to get fertility testing until we’re ready to start trying to get pregnant. Is it unreasonable to want to find out whether my future husband will be able to have children?
Dear In the Know, When any two people marry, there’s no guarantee that they won’t face fertility problems. Your anxiety is understandable: When you conceive of your future together, you want to know your chances of conceiving. But to him, your insistence probably sounds less like a desire to know what’s going to happen than a way of possibly getting out of the relationship before you marry someone who will not be able to father children. Let’s say you had had a pelvic infection that might have harmed your fertility. Wouldn’t you resent a fiance who wanted you to undergo a battery of tests prior to your marriage, just so he had a better idea of your ability to get pregnant? The doctors have only raised a possibility, not given you a definitive finding. If this is the man you want to commit to, accept that being together will make it easier to deal with all the surprises life has in store.
Dear Prudence, When I was 14, I severed ties with my dad. I was a messed-up teenager, living with my certifiably nutty mother and visiting my dad on weekends. When he remarried and had another baby with my stepmom, I was furious. I treated them badly, cursed at them, hollered at them, stole from them, and went so far as to set “booby traps” in the house so my stepmom and new baby brother could get hurt (luckily, they didn’t). I treated my stepmom like dirt, even though she was never mean. After I stopped answering my dad’s calls and threatened to report him to the cops as a stalker, he stopped trying to get in touch with me. I can see now that he and my stepmom were good people who wanted only the best for me. Now that I am 27, I am trying to get back in touch with my dad, because I’m getting married. However, he will not respond to mail, e-mail, or Facebook messages. I’ve asked my uncle and cousins to tell him that I want to see him. They told me that he was too hurt by my behavior and has no desire to get in touch. Am I wrong to try to re-enter his life? Should I just leave him alone?
Dear Regretful, Write a letter to your father and stepmother very much like the one here—explaining that you were a miserable, troubled teen who, following the troubled-teen guide book, took out your unhappiness on the nearest target (although you don’t need to mention the booby traps). Say they showed you extraordinary patience, and looking back, you appreciate that they were the one stable, loving influence in your life, and you are sorry about how you treated them. Explain that you’ve worked hard to be a decent, productive adult, and now you’re getting married. Add that as you are about to become a spouse, and contemplate becoming a parent, they will be role models for how to deal with difficulties. Tell them that your fervent hope is that they can be part of this new phase of your life. Then ask one of your relatives to be the go-between and deliver the letter. Accept that your father and stepmother may feel they did everything they could for you at the time, and that the breach was so painful, they’ve decided not resuming contact is the best choice for their family. If they don’t contact you, following the wedding, you could send a short letter and some photos saying you don’t expect to hear from them in return, but you hope they don’t mind that you wanted to send them this update about your life. If you never do re-establish contact, take comfort that you’ve come out of a difficult, painful childhood and found happiness and love.
Dear Prudence, I am a woman who started working at a company earlier this year. I share an office with a man who doesn’t really want me there. Because I do my job well, it creates more work for him (which is actually great for business!). I ignore any smart comments he makes, stay professional, and get my job done. My work is beyond reproach. Here is the problem: We have to share a bathroom. He changes into his uniform and leaves his dirty socks there during the week, then takes them home on Friday. (Yuck, I know!) I think he leaves the bathroom this way to protest me being there. The issue is really about the toilet seat. He refuses to put it down. It is his final act of protest against me. I have asked him repeatedly to lower the seat and am completely disregarded. I have talked to my boss about this, and he said he would mention it to my co-worker, but he either forgot, or it didn’t help. I told my co-worker that if I have to put up with his dirty socks, he can at least put the seat down. No reaction. There is another bathroom, but it’s not close. I don’t feel I should have to go out of my way so he can have his own personal bathroom. Any advice for how to handle this?
Dear New Girl, Go into the bathroom, rip off a few squares of toilet paper, and holding them between your thumb and fingers, lower the seat. Your work may be beyond reproach, but dumping the matter of the toilet seat position on your boss is neither a way to make friends with your co-worker, nor have your boss feel anything but dread at the sight of you. Probably your co-worker has been piling his stinky socks in the bathroom since before you came, and it is only because of your objections that he now sees the socks as a biological weapon. Consider that your superior attitude and stream of complaints may have something to do with your co-worker’s reaction to you. So if you can’t live with the bathroom as he leaves it, instead of getting pissy, just decide you could use the exercise and hike to the other facility.
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But "Hysteria" is far from the first film to highlight a lady's electric best friend. While the topic isn't exactly common, there are plenty of mainstream comedies that include some memorably good vibrations. Sorry, fellas, but we kept the users strictly female.
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Whether you realize it or not, there are many situations in which knowing how to convert household items into homemade sex toys is a real plus. Maybe you’re away from home and realize you’re without your favorite sex toy ; maybe things have gotten heated and you don’t have time to hunt for a vibrator ; maybe you’re looking to try a new kink without investing much money. Or maybe you just want to surprise your partner (or yourself).
Whatever the reason, Barbara Carrella , a certified sexologist and author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, says a DIY sex toy (which she calls a pervertible) is never far: “Pervertibles are every day, non-erotic items that can be easily converted into sex toys. They can be found absolutely everywhere, and once you start finding them, it’s hard to stop seeing the erotic potential in all sorts of everyday items.”
We spoke to a variety of sex educators and experts about their top picks for unassuming everyday objects you can bring into your sex life, either with a partner or by yourself. While there’s no true replacement for a body-safe sex toy , Rae Chen, sex and beauty editor of TheNotice.net , tells SELF: “There are a lot of household items that can double as sex toys for the brave (or very, very horny). Ideally, I recommend using only new, clean items."
From spatulas to throw pillows, Carrellas says once you start looking for pervertibles, “you can expand your erotic imagination and increase your pleasure possibilities.” (And save money too.) Below, we’ve rounded up a few of the best homemade sex toys, as well as expert recommendations for how to safely enjoy them.
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Ice cubes are a great gateway to the DIY sex toy game because they’re not messy and can easily be tossed down the drain if you’re not feeling it, Gigi Engle, resident sex educator at 3Fun and author of All The F*cking Mistakes: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life , tells SELF.
As for how to employ the ice cubes, she says: “The nipples are a hot zone (pun intended). Run the cold object around your partner’s nipples and then over each one, taking note of how they respond. If they’re clearly enjoying themselves, move down their body. Focus on the inner thighs and hip bones.” And if they’re into that sensation, engage their penis or vulva last.
Be sure you always have fresh ice cubes ready to go—a task made easy if you own a useful refillable silicone ice cube tray like this one above. (Before you ask, they’re molded like coffee beans , we promise.) For more traditional shapes, try these freezer trays from Amazon .
“A wooden spoon is an excellent toy for spanking when you’re ready to move on from a flat palm,” Engle says. She advises that the spoon be on the newer side and finished, as you wouldn’t want to give your partner splinters in their rear. Once you’ve pulled the spoon out of its drawer, use the back of it as a paddle, but(t) don’t hit with full force. “Work your way up to more intense strokes,” Engle adds. “As beginners, it can take some time to get your bearings. Remember, always ask your partner if something feels good or is too rough.”
You don’t have to invest in a full-on BDSM kit to incorporate some light bondage into your play. Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations , recommends pulling out a bandana, which you might already have lying around (or maybe now’s the time you buy a cute scarf like this one from Madewell, which comes in an Afterglow Red colorway).
Crucially, avoid bandanas made of fabrics as slinky as silk or satin, as those materials get dangerously tight when you knot them. “Fold or twist a cotton bandana or scarf, however, and you can tie wrists much more safely,” Queen says, adding that you should still be able to slide one finger between the scarf and skin.
Another way to use a bandana? As a blindfold, tied to the side so the wearer doesn’t have to place their head on an awkward knot.
“Swishing around mouthwash (or sucking on a mint ) before or during oral sex will create a pleasurable tingling sensation which will feel amazing for your partner if they’re into that type of stimulation,” says sex and relationship therapist Malika O’Neill , LPC, and founder and CEO of The Pleasure Collective, LLC . This homemade sex toy has the added bonus of freshening your breath too.
“ Humping items like pillows , blankets, and sofa arms can be perfect for external stimulation,” Chen says. “Just be sure to cover them with something you can launder.”
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