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Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity. This post also uses the term "sex work" in place of "prostitution," following the recommendations of many in the industry.
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When you think of the term “ sex worker ,” what kind of characteristics come to mind? Most people envision a stereotype: Someone who is desperate, who has no other choice. Something must have gone wrong in their life for them to end up doing such a job.
As a society, we attach negativity to sex positivity. This is especially true when it comes to sex workers . When someone meets me for the first time, they are greeted by a petite, upbeat redhead with a positive outlook and a can-do attitude. They meet a well-educated woman with multiple college degrees and a passion for higher education.
When asked to guess what my career of choice is, sex worker is one of the last things people tend to guess. Once people meet me and realize I’m college-educated and not really any stereotype they have of my profession, they often ask me why I chose to become a sex worker .
Without jumping into a full exegesis of every single decision that led me here, I’ll just sum it up by telling you a few things about myself. My first relationship was with another woman, and shortly after that time period I learned it was very easy for me to develop feelings for multiple people at a time.
After some time had passed, I learned a little more about relationship paradigms and stumbled upon an academic paper on polyamorous relationships. This culminated in reading a book by Christopher Ryan titled Sex at Dawn that discusses the prehistoric origins of human sexuality and relationships. It made a lot of sense to me that, speaking from a neurobiological perspective, evolutionary biology dictates that humans aren’t naturally monogamous any more than we naturally wear clothes. Cultural norms, gender roles and other hegemonic and counter-hegemonic forces shape the current view of relationships, as does the byproduct of those forces, religion.
After this moment of recognition, it dawned on me that I’m naturally a polyamorous person and that I shouldn’t feel shame about being attracted to and being able to love more than one person at a time. More specifically, I was naturally incapable of resisting developing feelings for and being sexually attracted to people outside my existing relationship construct.
When it came to career options, there were countless opportunities afforded to me compliments of my extensive education. Despite holding multiple degrees, I found the relevant jobs to be largely uninteresting, thus sparking my exploration of alternative employment options.
Being a very sexually expressive person, I once tried doing a webcam show. It was a mostly empty experience. I wasn’t really challenging myself in any way, and so like I always do, I started looking for something else.
Being sapiosexual — someone who is attracted to intelligence — I thought it might be an interesting experience to work at a brothel since I’m sexually uninhibited and able to sexually enjoy multiple relationships at once as well as to have feelings for multiple people at once. Additionally, I’m able to be attracted to the mind of the people I’m around without the necessity of finding their bodies attractive, and I’m not afraid to try new things. So, with no uncertain amount of pomp and temerity, I went for it.
I found I enjoy this occupation on a much different level than a lot of the ladies here at the Moonlite BunnyRanch . Part of the reason is that I get to offer a genuine girlfriend experience because I connect so easily with a wide range of people from all walks of life. My attraction isn’t limited to physicality — if anything, the more I get to know someone, the more engaged and excited I become. I genuinely look forward to spending time with my guests and discovering all the unique ways I can enhance their lives both in and out of the bedroom.
The challenging dance of sales with genuine romance and my job is genuinely healing people and making them happy. I mollify their worries and help them recover from devastating things like the loss of a wife or girlfriend, the crushing social shame of virginity and even help those who are disabled and unable to have normal relationships feel the genuine comfort of a romantic partner in a way they may never, ever get to enjoy outside an interaction with me.
I think this is a very noble job. I help others, people in my community, improve the quality of the relationships of couples, get to work with couples to improve their romance, offer sex education and even provide dating advice. Imagine you’re terrified of women; wouldn’t it be nice to have a dinner date with a girl who you can be not only romantic with, but if you ask can give you pointers on anything you might be doing wrong so you can be more confident when you start dating? I get to do all that and so much more.
So, I suppose the real question is, “How could I not become a sex worker?”
A version of this story was published February 2018.
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GWYNETH Montenegro slept with more than 10,000 people as an escort. Now she’s written a book revealing what men pay for.
A FORMER prostitute who has slept more than 10,000 men has answered the golden questions that many women ask — including “what do men really want from sex?”
Gwyneth Montenegro, 39, from Australia , spent 12 years in the industry and has written a book revealing the surprising things that men will pay for.
In her book, on “being financially successful in the sex industry”, she said “most gentlemen don’t always go for the kinky services”.
In fact, in the decade Montenegro was in the industry, the most important thing to her clients was “feeling of being needed and wanted”.
“Wanted badly by a horny woman. It is their ultimate fantasy after all,” she said.
Montenegro said it was vital, therefore that whatever sex acts you are doing “you make [it] look like you want him bad and are enjoying him so much (even if you aren’t).”
Many girls in the industry tried to “outdo” other women with the acts or techniques they used, but this was to be avoided, according to the kinky author.
“Don’t try and keep up with, or outdo anyone else, or this can backfire. You only want to work within your boundaries,” Montenegro said.
“They are regular everyday men who just want some fun, and they want to know that you are having fun too.”
One of the biggest questions that she found girls asking was whether or not getting bigger boobs would be beneficial.
Thankfully the former prostitute revealed most men preferred the feel of real boobs and there was a market for every body type.
“If you’ve got them, there’s a market. If you don’t, there’s a market too. I wouldn’t lose too much sleep over it,” Montenegro said.
“A little-known secret in the punting world, is that there are quite a lot of men who will actively seek out escorts who are not the hottest of the hot women and go for someone who isn’t as classically beautiful, because they feel shy and sometimes a little inadequate themselves.
“You don’t have to be the hottest femme fatale, but as long as you are well groomed, comfortable and confident in your own skin, have a great vibe, energetic and you are professional … then this is what it takes.
“There are many, many different women of all shapes, ages, sizes and backgrounds than you can think of making money from their body.”
Montenegro said that one of the biggest myths was that men only want younger women.
In her experience, women can be successful at any age, and she has witnessed escorts in their 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s earning good sums of money.
She even heard of one escort who started working at the age of 83, and carried on for four years charging $330 an hour.
In fact, many men want a genuine conversation and connection — something they might not get with girls the same age as their daughters.
“Talking to one of my amazing male friends, who is in his early 50s, he said ‘Well that makes sense. Can you see me wanting to book a 22-year-old? If I wanted to have some conversation and connection and to feel like I was getting the attention I wanted, do you think a 22-year-old would necessarily give me that kind of service?’” Montenegro said.
And getting men excited about bedroom action often had little to do with skimpy outfits out in public.
When it comes to the clothes you wear, she said: “You don’t have to have ‘it all hanging out’ to make money in this business.”
Men like a bit of mystery and would rather pay for something that other men don’t always get to see, according to Montenegro.
“You don’t have to slut yourself out in how you dress, to get the attention of the men,” she said.
Montenegro revealed she had written the guide to empower women thinking of entering the industry and to teach them how to survive.
“In my line of work I am approached by practising escorts almost weekly and the trend is alarming,” she said. “More and more reveal that they are disheartened, bitter, broken and financially struggling. They are desperate.
“How could I sit back and stay quiet, when I know how it’s done? With my much talked about 10,091 encounters behind me, I don’t need the knowledge any more, so I passed it on.”
This article originally appeared on The Sun and has been republished with permission.
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GWYNETH Montenegro slept with more than 10,000 people as an escort. Now she’s written a book revealing what men pay for.
A FORMER prostitute who has slept more than 10,000 men has answered the golden questions that many women ask — including “what do men really want from sex?”
Gwyneth Montenegro, 39, from Australia , spent 12 years in the industry and has written a book revealing the surprising things that men will pay for.
In her book, on “being financially successful in the sex industry”, she said “most gentlemen don’t always go for the kinky services”.
In fact, in the decade Montenegro was in the industry, the most important thing to her clients was “feeling of being needed and wanted”.
“Wanted badly by a horny woman. It is their ultimate fantasy after all,” she said.
Montenegro said it was vital, therefore that whatever sex acts you are doing “you make [it] look like you want him bad and are enjoying him so much (even if you aren’t).”
Many girls in the industry tried to “outdo” other women with the acts or techniques they used, but this was to be avoided, according to the kinky author.
“Don’t try and keep up with, or outdo anyone else, or this can backfire. You only want to work within your boundaries,” Montenegro said.
“They are regular everyday men who just want some fun, and they want to know that you are having fun too.”
One of the biggest questions that she found girls asking was whether or not getting bigger boobs would be beneficial.
Thankfully the former prostitute revealed most men preferred the feel of real boobs and there was a market for every body type.
“If you’ve got them, there’s a market. If you don’t, there’s a market too. I wouldn’t lose too much sleep over it,” Montenegro said.
“A little-known secret in the punting world, is that there are quite a lot of men who will actively seek out escorts who are not the hottest of the hot women and go for someone who isn’t as classically beautiful, because they feel shy and sometimes a little inadequate themselves.
“You don’t have to be the hottest femme fatale, but as long as you are well groomed, comfortable and confident in your own skin, have a great vibe, energetic and you are professional … then this is what it takes.
“There are many, many different women of all shapes, ages, sizes and backgrounds than you can think of making money from their body.”
Montenegro said that one of the biggest myths was that men only want younger women.
In her experience, women can be successful at any age, and she has witnessed escorts in their 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s earning good sums of money.
She even heard of one escort who started working at the age of 83, and carried on for four years charging $330 an hour.
In fact, many men want a genuine conversation and connection — something they might not get with girls the same age as their daughters.
“Talking to one of my amazing male friends, who is in his early 50s, he said ‘Well that makes sense. Can you see me wanting to book a 22-year-old? If I wanted to have some conversation and connection and to feel like I was getting the attention I wanted, do you think a 22-year-old would necessarily give me that kind of service?’” Montenegro said.
And getting men excited about bedroom action often had little to do with skimpy outfits out in public.
When it comes to the clothes you wear, she said: “You don’t have to have ‘it all hanging out’ to make money in this business.”
Men like a bit of mystery and would rather pay for something that other men don’t always get to see, according to Montenegro.
“You don’t have to slut yourself out in how you dress, to get the attention of the men,” she said.
Montenegro revealed she had written the guide to empower women thinking of entering the industry and to teach them how to survive.
“In my line of work I am approached by practising escorts almost weekly and the trend is alarming,” she said. “More and more reveal that they are disheartened, bitter, broken and financially struggling. They are desperate.
“How could I sit back and stay quiet, when I know how it’s done? With my much talked about 10,091 encounters behind me, I don’t need the knowledge any more, so I passed it on.”
This article originally appeared on The Sun and has been republished with permission.
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At the start of a new relationship, sex expert Nadia Bokody ended up at the doctor’s office with a very surprising diagnosis.
A $160/h sexpert has found her niche teaching couples how to open their relationship.
A woman’s self-esteem has hit rock bottom after one thing that her partner told her about the way she looks.

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