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None of which involve installing a sex dungeon or painting your walls red.
Setting the mood for sex is important. Anyone who's briefly considered getting busy while on vacation at a dirty/smelly/not-so-clean hotel (ha, no, thank you) can vouch for that. And while you might not think about your bedroom as lacking in sex appeal (it has a clean bed, right?!), you might be surprised by the little tweaks that can make a huge difference in terms of your desire.
So forget about the ways to make your space extra-chic or extra-cozy—here are some genius ways to turn your bedroom into a sultry love nest. Seriously, we dare anyone to enter and not leave satisfied.
Create a Sex Altar
First, you have to decide that your bedroom will only have two main uses: restful sleep and amazing sex. "You have to eliminate the things that detract from that sensibility," says Ian Kerner , Ph.D., author of She Comes First . To do that, make literal space for the things that turn you on. Maybe you invest in a gorgeous lingerie chest or you pick a drawer, chest, or even an out-in-the-open spot for sexy items like your favorite massage oils or toys ( these sex toys are so subtle, they can hide in plain sight ). Finding these items a permanent home gives them a little more importance and makes you more likely to use them.
Buy Brightly Colored Sheets
Pristine white cotton sheets can be chic and luxurious, but not so great if you plan to use lubes or oils or have period sex, says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., associate professor at Indiana University and author of Sex Made Easy: Your Awkward Questions Answered for Better, Smarter, Amazing Sex . Experimenting with textures and colors with your bedding is also a great way to heighten your senses. And since red makes everyone look sexier and more adventurous, why not incorporate the color of lust?
Get a Heavy-Duty Lock
Distraction is the worst when you’re trying to lose yourself in the moment. “Studies have shown that for women to cycle through the process of arousal and achieve orgasm, a mental deactivation needs to happen,” says Kerner, which means that you aren’t likely to have a mindblowing orgasm if you’re worried your roommate or kids will burst into the room at any second. So sure you could use your regular lock, but installing a heavy-duty one can provide a playful BDSM twist and put your mind completely at ease.
Put Up Sexy Photographs
Since women are prone to distraction during sex, Herbenick suggests you remove photographs of loved ones from your room (don't worry, there's plenty of space for them in the living room). Because really, do you want to accidentally glance at that photo of you and your parents at graduation when you're this close to an orgasm? Instead, choose images that are conducive to sexy times—maybe a boudoir shot you took before your wedding or a passionate abstract painting that makes you feel things. Really, even stark landscapes are better than pictures of you and your little brother at summer camp.
Install a Dimmer Switch
“A lot of men and women grapple with lighting,” says Kerner. “Either it’s too light or its not enough light for visual stimulation.” And according to a recent Women's Health survey, 74 percent of men and 72 percent of women want those lights dimmed during sex—but not totally off. The easy solution: a simple dimmer switch. Here's how to install one for way hotter sex .
Light the Right Candles
Ditch that vanilla-scented candle you've had forever and replace it with a pumpkin one (yes, we give you permission to splurge on pumpkin spice accessories). Research from the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation found that the smell of pumpkin pie can increase penile blood flow and vaginal blood flow , implying that it may boost arousal.
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Dirty laundry is not sexy. Neither are stuffed animals. To bring sexy back to the bedroom, you might want to considered taking these suggestions into consideration.
1. De-clutter. Bedrooms can become a dumping ground for newspapers, magazines, kids toys, you name it. Get rid of all that extraneous non-bedroom stuff that’s laying on the floor and bedside tables. And if you have an unused piece of exercise equipment in there, it might be time to let it go.
2. Turn off the overhead light; it flatters noone. Instead, get a lamp or two; use no more than 60 watt bulbs in them. To enhance skin tones, you might want to use pink-tinted bulbs.
3. De-stink-a-fy. Get rid of the dirty laundry; wash the bedding. Buy a candle or two.
4. Pick a soundtrack. Television theme songs don’t set the mood; the right kind of music does. Turn off the t.v. or even remove it from the bedroom and replace it with a small stereo.
5. Kick the cuddlies. Boo-Boo kitty might be great to cuddle on a chilly night, but to set the mood, Boo-Boo really has to go-go.
6. Add reflection. Mirrors are notoriously sexy. Adding one discreetly to the bedroom lends a little sparkle and thrill.
7. And a bonus suggestion just for me: put Johnny Depp between the sheets.
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Without equivocation, the master bedroom is the most important room in your residence. It is the personal and secret place where you and your spouse can take off the blues after a long day, imagine, dream, communicate and listen, caress and engage in some of the most sensual acts that defy imagination.
However, for many married couples, their sanctuary is neglected over time, and it becomes more like an untidy living room with clothes, old socks, briefcases, stained carpet, laptops and dusty books and magazine. As the hue of leaves begin to change into the beautiful autumn colors, wouldn’t it be nice to transform your bedroom into a sex room that continually sizzles with warmth and passion during this wonderful fall season. Here are six ways that you and your spouse can implement this transformation:
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Repeat after me: Monogamy is *not* synonymous with boring sex.
Fact: It can, at times, be difficult to keep your sex life fresh when you’re in a long-term, serious relationship. Once those initial butterflies fade and you settle into everyday routines, it's easy for things to become a little blah in the bedroom, even if you’re still totally attracted to your partner. But whatever your sex sitch, there are always ways to spice up your sex life (20 of 'em, to be specific).
First things first, it’s important to communicate openly with your partner about what you think could improve your sex life. "Make sure there's a dialogue about what feels stuck," says Jenni Skyler, PhD, a certified sex therapist, sexologist, and licensed marriage and family therapist for AdamEve.com . Approach your partner when you're in a relaxed environment, such as while laying in bed at night or cuddling on the couch, so that the conversation feels low-pressure and free of accusations.
You can say something, "Hey, I was thinking about how it might be fun if we tried using some handcuffs. What do you think?" Then, come to an agreement on doing something different you both are into, like having sex outside of the bedroom, trying new positions or incorporating toys into the mix, Skyler says.
But, actually finding ways to add a dash of "ooh" and "aww" to your next romp can be easier said than done. So, if you need some inspo, look no further. Ahead, certified sex experts—who know a thing or two about brightening up your hump day—share the 20 best ways to spice up your sex life (and even add a little kink , if you're into that kinda thing!). Start taking notes... now .
"Don’t get arrested, but having sex in public is a fantasy for many people," says Wendasha Jenkins Hall , PhD, a sex educator and researcher based in Atlanta. "They like it because there’s the possibility and the thrill of getting caught."
You have to be careful, though, because each city and jurisdiction has its own laws about public indecency, Jenkins Hall advises. Pro tip: Stay in your car or go into a secluded place at dusk to keep yourself away from potential viewers.
That is, if you and your partner(s) are comfortable with switching it up. "Think about pegging, which a lot of people are into," Jenkins Hall suggests. "It’s a perfectly safe way to explore your boundaries for using different sex toys with your partner." It can also open them up to another aspect of pleasure, since the prostate is a very sensitive area, she adds.
As long as you have prior consent, spanking is yet another fun and sexy way people can add some kink into their bedroom situation without going too ~advanced~, Jenkins Hall says. "Just make sure that you’re spanking safely by sticking to the fleshy parts of your partner’s body as opposed to hard bones or organs," Jenkins Hall advises. (Noted!)
"Vacations are good, especially for those who are in a long-term relationship or have children," Jenkins Hall says. "When you’re in the house, there’s a lot of things going on. Moving yourself from your space where you don’t have to clean, or you can order room service allows you to relax enough to feel sexual." In short, you don’t have to worry about interruptions or making sure things stay tidy afterwards.
"Anal play doesn’t have to be intimidating," Jenkins Hall says. "There are anal beads, small butt plugs, or strap-on dildos, and just lots of ways to explore this with your partner." You can even just try oral sex on the anus (a.k.a. rimming ), which doesn’t have to involve any kind of penetration.
Maybe spicing up your sex life means getting in tune with how you really feel about the act overall. "If you’re having painful feelings during sex or anxiety surrounding doing it, it might be helpful to speak with a professional," Jenkins Hall says.
This is especially true if you feel these reactions might be a result of trauma. Whether you see a gynecologist, a nurse practitioner, a licensed therapist, or a clinical counselor, know that you’re taking a step in the right direction toward healing, affirms Jenkins Hall. "Reach out to those healthcare providers because you can’t expect your partner to treat you," she adds. "Then, talk to your partner about those feelings you're having, and come up with a game plan that includes sex that is relaxing and pleasurable for you."
"This has a bit of nostalgia to it. For a lot of people, it reminds them of a time when the only place for private sex was in their car," Jenkins Hall says. "Just make sure you’re doing it in a space where you won't get in trouble." (ICYMI, it’s not hot to have your neighbor knocking on your steamy car door.)
"Makeup sex is a way that many people reconnect after a conflict or tension in their relationship," Jenkins Hall says. Coming together (literally) after an intense argument is "hot because you’re getting all that energy out on each other," says Jenkins Hall, "but make sure you address the real problem going on." Don't consider sex a cure-all for your relationship issues, but it can help you and your partner get back on track toward reconnection and conflict resolution.
Sound fun to you? Great. "It’s basically an example of putting a new twist on something you might do routinely," Jenkins Hall explains. "Doing it upside down is just a new element." Of course, make sure you’re trying out this new position safely and with comfort in mind, she adds.
Wondering how to do it? Try laying down horizontally on the bed, facing the ceiling, with your head just barely hanging over the side. Then, your partner can meet your face with their genitalia, giving you the freedom to lick, suck, tease, and all the like. The angle that your partner’s genitals (or vice versa) hits your mouth will provide them with a new sensation which, yup, will definitely spice things up for you both.
An activity that brings a new element to your sex life? Games, especially ones that include spontaneity like dice or playing cards, says Jenkins Hall. "There’s an element of chance, but you’re committing to whatever the outcome is," she explains. "They're also great for communication." How? Well, sometimes ~sex talk~ can be awkward, and games give you the opportunity to bring up topics or experiences you might not have been comfortable sharing without the game's natural conversation starters.
Odds are you've known your significant other for quite a while at this point—so why not get to know someone else for a change? (Kinda.)
Try spicing up your sex life with a bit of role play, Brito suggests. If you're not sure where to begin, Brito says a romantic dinner is a perfect for newbies. "Go on a date as a chance to connect, but then pretend you're only meeting for the first time. It brings some spice back," she explains, since anticipation will build as you prepare to "meet" each other.
Do what you would to "get ready" for a date, like putting on an outfit that makes you feel confident, and tell your partner to "pick you up" at a certain time, Brito suggests. Then, when you're ready to head home, you can carry on with the charade and pretend you're sleeping together for the first time, too. (Very hot!)
"Get in the front seat of your sex life, and tell your partner what you want. Whether it’s telling them where you want to be kissed, touched, or held, it’s all a way to ensure you get the orgasms that you desire," Jenkins Hall says. Why sit on the sidelines of your own sex life when you could be coaching the team, right?
If you're not sure where to begin, start with a simple script. "Speak up and say 'touch me here' or 'do this slower,' and you’re going to get the pleasure that you seek," she advises. Directing your partner not only helps ensure you’re actually getting satisfying sex, but will empower them to repeat those moves next time because they know that's what you like.
Try having both you and your partner do some pre-sex yoga, as it can totally help you get in the right mindset—especially after a stressful work day or an afternoon of juggling kiddos. (Hey, don't knock it till you try it!) "When people are doing yoga, they tend to be more mindful," Jenkins Hall says. "When you’re in tune with yourself and you have a clear body and mind, that can translate to the bedroom." Translation: Yoga can teach you to be more aware of your body and your partner’s body, which can, in turn, make sex more pleasurable.
"Lingerie is becoming a lot more inclusive for all body types," Jenkins Hall says. Humans are extremely visual creatures, she adds, which is why amping up the outfit you’re wearing adds another layer of sensuality and can increase sexual allure. "Lingerie can even help you become more comfortable with your own body, to have sex and be seen, to be present," she adds. In short, it can be a freakin' confidence builder. (Win!)
Another way to spice up your sex life? Incorporate temperature play into the bedroom, says Janet Brito, PhD, an AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and founder of the Hawaii Center for Sexual and Relationship Health . Try classic techniques like grabbing an ice cube and gently running it up and down each other's bodies, Brito says, or blowing hot air onto each other's legs, arms, or necks with deep inhale and exhale breaths. In short, the various temps bring a new phys
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