Sex Toys: Overcoming Triggers

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Trigger. This name terrifies all men in the world and, well, their partners too. Basically, it consists of the momentary and transient loss of erection. Although the penis is not essential in a sexual relationship, and many things can be done with other parts of the body, that a trigger is presented in the middle of it, usually cuts the roll completely.

Don't confuse trigger with erectile dysfunction

Trigger and erectile dysfunction are not the same. The trigger is an uncomfortable situation in which there is an erection problem but momentarily and temporarily. Erectile dysfunction, on the other hand, can occur in a generalized way in all sexual relations. Moreover, erectile dysfunction usually prevents erection completely, from the very beginning of the sexual encounter, while the trigger occurs at any time, and after the erection has occurred for a while.

Causes of triggers

Having a trigger is quite common. At least 50% of men suffer from it or will suffer from it at some time in their lives. That said, and given its high probability, it is convenient to know the causes that produce it.

Physical causes

There are different causes classified as physical that can produce trigger in men. Including:

The use of certain medications, such as antidepressants
Using alcohol, tobacco, or drugs
Having low testosterone levels
Having diabetes
Being hypertensive
Being tired (whatever the cause)
Some neurological diseases

Psychological causes

And yes, as if physical causes were not enough, there are also psychological causes.

The mood can cause the trigger: being depressed, stressed ... Therefore, it is common to suffer trigger in the first few times, because of the stress of losing virginity or a first sexual encounter, and having the pressure to do it well.
Having some sexual trauma
Having previously suffered a trigger, which causes us to be afraid of it happening again
Having problems outside the sexual relationship can affect us when it comes to suffering a trigger: everything is because of the concerns that can cause us economic, work, family problems ...

Halfway between a physical and psychological cause, we can also talk about the moment in which we must put on the condom. Since it produces a small pause along the way, it can produce a trigger motivated by that moment of preparation. If, in addition, in the past, the man had problems placing it, he may feel certain nerves so that the moment when he put it wrong or took time to put it, is not repeated.

How to act in the face of the situation

As no one is free to suffer a trigger, surely it helps you to know what you should do, and what not, to face it.

What to do

It is best to assume that it has happened and, naturally, think about other sexual alternatives. There are sex games for couples and other sexual practices that can help you end the sexual act without the need for the penis to come into play.

What NOT to do

Say that "I fix this". Putting even more pressure on "fixing" it can be even worse. It is not good for us to bring more stress to the situation.

Can triggers be prevented?

When we talk about nerves before a sexual relationship, or fear of not meeting expectations, in a way we can prevent the trigger. Just relax, or at least try. You must think that sex is learning, and nobody is born knowing, so understanding that making mistakes is something natural will help you face the relationship with greater relaxation.

The other partner can also help prevent triggering. Male stimulation is sure to help the man feel more relaxed and aroused.

Don't give it more importance than it has

Having said all of the above, we cannot fail to take the matter away from it. We understand that it is a total roll cut, but you must see the trigger as something normal that happens, or can happen, to anyone. It could only become worrying if it is too recurrent, in which case you can go to a specialist to help you find the origin of the problem and help you solve it, treating it as it should.

We hope that now that you know a little better what a trigger is and why it can occur, you can try to avoid it or, at least, understand it a little better.