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Sex during marriage is known as one of the pleasures of this world.
Sex during marriage is known as one of the pleasures of this world.
Disclaimer: The subject-matter and contents of this article are intended for a mature audience only, discussing sex within the context of marriage. Reader discretion is advised.
Sex is a normal and essential part of life. For Muslims however, the open discussion of sex is frowned upon usually for cultural reasons but mostly because Islam considers sexuality to be a private matter between husband and wife. This doesn’t, however, mean that discussion about sex should not happen, with plenty of hadith from the Holy Prophet discussing sexual etiquette between husband and wife .
This article explores how sex is perceived in Islam , what its benefits are and the Islamic guidelines for a healthy sex life for both men and women.
Sex between husband and wife is known to be one of the pleasures of this world. It is narrated that once Imam Jafar Al-Sadiq asked his students,“What is the most pleasurable thing?” To which they responded, “There are many pleasurable things.” He then says, “The most pleasurable thing is making love with your spouses.” (1)
In another instance, Imam Jafar Al-Sadiq tells his students “Whether in this world or in the hereafter, one has not, and will not, perceive a pleasure more pleasurable than sexual relations with women, and certainly, this is the commentary of the words of Allah in the Quran (3:14):
“To mankind has been made to seem decorous the love of (worldly) desires, including women and children.”
Imam Jafar Al-Sadiq then goes on to explain: “Indeed, the people of heaven do not take delight in the pleasures of heaven more than sex; neither food nor drink has that much pleasure for them.” (2)
A hadith from the Holy Prophet states,
“In your world, women and perfume have been made dear to me.” (3)
It was reported from Abu Dharr that the Prophet said: “In the sexual intercourse of any one of you there is reward.” They said, “O Messengerr of Allah, when any one of us fulfils his desire, will he have a reward for that?” He replied, “Do you not see that if he were to do it in a haraam manner, he would be punished for that? So if he does it in a halaal manner, he will be rewarded.” (4)
There are many traditions relaying the importance of sexual relations .
A narration mentions that the Holy Prophet (pbuh) addressed one of his companions on the day of Friday and asked: “Are you fasting today?” The companion replied, “No.” The Prophet asked: “Have you given anything as charity today?” The companion replied, “No”, so the Prophet told him: “Go to your wife and that is your very charity to her.” (5)
Another hadith mentions that three ladies went to the Prophet to complain, one complaining that her husband doesn’t eat meat, another that her husband doesn’t use perfume and the third complaining that her husband doesn’t sleep with her. The Prophet was very unhappy and went to the pulpit at the mosque where he said,
“What has happened, that a group from my followers don’t eat meat, or don’t apply perfume, or don’t go to their wives? Whilst I eat meat, I apply perfume and also go to my wife. This is my sunnah, and any person that turns away from this sunnah is not from me.” (6)
In a similar narration, the wife of a companion came to the Prophet and said: “Oh messenger of Allah, every day my husband fasts and in the evenings engages in prayer” (i.e. – he doesn’t sleep with her). The Prophet was so angered that he went to the man’s house without wearing his sandals, and told him:
“Allah has not sent me to be a recluse, I swear by Allah that has instigated me to this pure, orthodox and easy religion, I fast, I pray and I go to my wife, and anyone that likes my custom, must be bound by my sunnah and custom, and sexual intercourse is from my Sunnah.” (7)
There are no specific rules for sexual intercourse; whatever is mutually pleasing is right, and likewise, whatever is mutually displeasing should be avoided; the only exception to this rule is what the Shariah clearly forbids . However, there are several recommended acts that, if followed, will inevitably lead to a more pleasurable experience. These include brushing your teeth, avoiding eating unpleasant smelling foods prior (like garlic or onions) and generally ensuring you don’t have bad breath.
It’s also recommended to ensure that you smell pleasant – the worst smell is of sweat! It’s important to remember that women, in particular, are sensitive to smell. The Prophet famously says that there is no extravagance in the buying of perfume.
Satisfying one’s wife is extremely important for Muslim men. Lack of satisfaction over a long period of time can lead to frigidity and dislike towards the husband. A tradition from Ali ibn Abu Talib states,
“When any of you wants to sleep with his wife, he must not rush her for indeed women have needs too.” (8)
It is important for the husband to be aware that a woman’s sexual desire takes longer to express itself, but once it is elicited, is very strong, whereas a man is quickly aroused and also can quickly be satisfied. It is interesting to note that the importance placed by Islam on the satisfaction of both man and woman, is a clear indicator of the justice and fairness of Allah. Indeed, it is repeatedly stated in the Noble Quran that man and woman were created from a single soul, and this is just one example of this.
If a man has intercourse with his wife and wants to come back to her a second time, he should do wudu. A hadtih of the Prophet says: “If any one of you has intercourse with his wife then wants to repeat it, let him do wudu between the two (actions), for it is more energizing for the second time.” (9) If he is able to do ghusl between the two actions, this is better. (10)
Acts that aren’t recommended included making love when standing, without a covering, and when someone else is in the house. It is forbidden to have sex in public or in front of children, during a woman’s period, when fasting and when in Ihraam (a ritual one takes on during the pilgrimage to Makkah).
It is also important not to reveal specific details about your intimate relationship to outsiders. A hadith mentions that the Prophet said, “Would any man say what he did with his wife? Would any woman tell others what she did with her husband?” The people kept quiet and did not answer. The narrator replied, “Yes, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah, women do that, and men do that.” He said, “Do not do that. It is like a male devil meeting a female devil in the road and having intercourse with her whilst the people are watching.” (11)
It’s Islamically very important for a husband to satisfy his wife , and engaging in sexual intercourse quickly and hastily is not deemed correct. There is an average difference of eight minutes between the time a man and a woman reach climax; a man usually takes two minutes to reach climax and a woman takes ten minutes to reach climax. Therefore, in order to fully satisfy his wife, a man should caress her and engage in foreplay so that both partners reach climax at the same time. Islam greatly stresses the importance of foreplay. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said,
“Do not engage in sexual intercourse with your wife like hens; rather, firstly engage in foreplay with your wife and flirt with her and then make love to her.” (12)
In another tradition, the companion of the Prophet, Ali ibn Abi Talib says, “Whoever wants to get close to his wife must not be hasty, because women before engaging in the act of lovemaking must be engaged in foreplay so that they are ready for making love to.” (13)
It is also reported that Imam Jafar Al-Sadiq once taught: “The Angels of Allah and those who are witnesses over all the actions of man are watching them in every state except at the time of horse riding competitions and the time that a man engages in foreplay with his wife before engaging in sexual intercourse.” (14)
Foods that increase sexual desire include carrots, onions, meat, eggs, melon, fresh pomegranate, fresh milk, sweet grapes, wheat oil and the centre of a date. Foods that renew and charge sexual desire include honey, walnuts, dates and bananas.
Massaging oil is very beneficial for a healthy body as well as sexual desire, so much so that there are hadith on this. Ali ibn Abu Talib stated: “To anoint the body with massage oil softens the skin, improves the mood, makes the flowing of water and fluids in the body easy, eliminates roughness, ruggedness, bad health and tightness of earning and brings light to the face.” (15)
Recommended oils include violet oil, catkin oil, lily oil and honey oil. Olive oil, in particular, is great for sexual desire. If olive oil is mixed with honey and drunk instead of water for three days, it increases the sexual strength. A teaching from Imam Jafar Al-Sadiq states, “Consuming olive oil increases the sperm and sexual capability.” (16)
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There are no particular rules and laws either in foreplay or in intercourse. The only laws and rules are the ones reached by the lovers by mutual and often unspoken understanding. Whatever is pleasing and satisfying to both the husband and the wife is right and proper; and whatever is mutually displeasing is wrong. The only limitation to this general rule would be any Shariah rule which goes against the wishes of the husband or the wife.
Islam emphasizes on foreplay. Imam ‘Ali (A.S.) says, “When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled).” 1
Sex without foreplay has been equated to cruelty. The Prophet (S) said, “Three people are cruel: …a person who has sex with his wife before foreplay.” 2
Another hadith equates sex without foreplay to animal behavior: “When anyone of you has sex with his wife, then he should not go to her like birds; instead he should be slow and delaying.” 3
As for the role of a woman in sexual foreplay, the Imams (A.S.) have praised a wife who discards shyness when she is with her husband. Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (A.S.) says, “The best woman among you is the one who discards the armor of shyness when she undresses for her husband, and puts on the armor of shyness when she dresses up again.” 4 After all, modesty and chastity in public is the hallmark of a Muslim lady.
These sayings clearly show that the husband and the wife should feel completely free when they are engaged in mutual stimulation which is known as foreplay. There is nothing wrong, according to Islam, for a woman to be active and responsive during sex. As for the Islamic Shariah, all the mujtahids are unanimous in saying that the act of sexual foreplay in itself is mustahab (recommended). Likewise, it is recommended not to rush into sexual intercourse. 5 The operative word is mutual pleasure and satisfaction.
As far as the methods of mutual stimulation in foreplay are concerned, the Shariah allows the husband and the wife to see, kiss, touch, smell and stimulate any part of each other’s body. Therefore, oral sex, as it is known, is allowed. Imam Musa al-Kazim (A.S.) was once asked, “Can a person kiss his wife’s vagina?” The Imam (A.S.) said, “No problem.” 6
The only restriction is that no foreign object should be used. The restriction on the use of foreign objects is based on the following hadith . ‘Ubaydullah bin Zurarah says that he had an old neighbor who owned a young slave-girl. Because of his old age, he could not fully satisfy the young slave-girl during sexual intercourse. She would therefore ask him to place his fingers in her vagina as she liked it. The old man complied with her wishes even though he did not like this idea. So he requested ‘Ubaydullah to ask Imam ‘Ali ar-Reza (A.S.) about it. When ‘Ubaydullah asked the Imam (A.S.) about it, the Imam (A.S.) said, “There is no problem as long as he uses any part of his own body upon her, but he should not use anything other than his body on her.” 7
Though masturbation (i.e., self-stimulation of one’s own sexual organ till emission of semen or orgasm) is not allowed, in the case of married persons, there is no problem if the wife stimulates her husband’s penis till the emission of semen or the husband stimulates his wife’s vagina till orgasm. This is allowed because it does not come under “self-stimulation”; it is stimulation by a lawful partner.
Is there any particular position for sexual intercourse which is forbidden in Islam? No! As far as the basic coital positions are concerned, there are no restrictions. The term ‘basic coital positions’ denotes the positions known as the man above, face to face, woman above face to face; side position, face to face; rear-entry position in which the husband penetrates the vagina from the rear. Actually, the Shariah has left it on the husband and the wife to explore and experiment as they wish.
However, it is makruh to adopt a standing position, or to face the qiblah or keep it on the backside during the intercourse. It is advisable to refrain from the acrobatic positions given by some sexologists of the East and the West which might even cause physical harm. Remember, the basic rule is mutual pleasure and flexibility. If one partner does not like a particular position, then the other should yield to his or her feelings.
It is highly emphasized that at the commencement of intercourse the partners should recite Bismillaahir Rah’maanir Rah’eem (In the name of Allah the Beneficent, the Merciful).
The opinions of our mujtahids vary on the permissibility of anal intercourse. The majority of the Shi’ah mujtahids have derived two conclusions: (1) that anal intercourse is not haraam but strongly disliked ( karahatan shadidah ) provided the wife agrees to it. (2) And if she does not agree to it, then all mujtahids say that it is precautionarily wajib to refrain from it.
However, during the last decade of his life, Ayatullah al-Khu’i departed from the majority view and gave the ruling that it was precautionarily wajib to abstain from anal intercourse no matter whether the wife agrees to it or not. 8
Maulana Sayyid Muhammad Rizvi says, “I would strongly advise against anal intercourse,” and quotes the saying of Imam Ja’far as-Sadiq (A.S.) and Imam ‘Ali ar-Reza (A.S.) about anal intercourse: “ Woman is a means of your pleasure, therefore do not harm her.” 9
After the intercourse the partners may first wipe their genitals with clean pieces of cloth. It is recommended that the same cloth/towel must not be used by both of them.
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Is it permissible for a man to insert his finger in his wife’s private part?
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I hope you’re doing well, insha’Allah. May Allah bless you for your concern to observe limits and propriety in your actions.
(1) All sexual practices are permissible, besides the specifically prohibited (such as anal sex) or harmful. Allah Most High says, “Your spouses are your fields, so approach your fields whichever way you like.” [Quran, 2.223]
(2) The basis of all relations, including marriage, is mutual agreement (taradi), so any sexual activity needs to be be consensual—and while both spouses are obligated to fulfill the reasonable sexual needs of their spouse, neither is expected to agree to any type of sexual activity that they aren’t comfortable with, especially when unusual.
(3) The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) encouraged each spouse to strive to fulfill the sexual desires of the other. Given that many men would neglect satisfying the sexual needs of their wives, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) actually discouraged intercourse without foreplay [Abu Dawud]

Regarding your specific questions, all the things you mentioned are permissible—with mutual consent. However, while looking at each other’s private parts is permissible without dislike, it is from Prophetic proper manners—as understood from the hadith of Sayyida A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) to avoid doing so.
(1) Sexual intercourse is an action, and the Prophetic way (sunna) is to do all actions with sincerity—seeking Allah Most High thereby. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) d
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