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Somewhere between half and 90 percent of men over 65 suffer some level of erectile dysfunction.
Chronic health conditions, not psychological problems or relationship issues, are the main causes of sexual dysfunction in men over 75.
With enough penile massage and/or fellatio, men with semi-firm or even flaccid penises can still have orgasms.
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As I write this, I’m pushing 70. That’s the younger side of old as demographers define it. But sexually, I’m elderly—and familiar with the changes that afflict aging men, notably gradual erection loss. This problem is more prevalent than many men admit. Fortunately, with a few adjustments, elder sex can feel as fulfilling as ever—maybe even better.
If elder men can raise erections, they usually owe them to Viagra, Cialis, or Levitra. However, for many (most?) men over 65, the drugs turn out to be a disappointment:
Bottom line: Most men over 65 bid farewell to erections and penis-in-vagina intercourse and opt for other pleasures; mutual genital hand massage, oral sex, and toys.
Meanwhile, for 43 years, I’ve been a journalist specializing in health and sexuality . Studies abound showing that later-life sexual function decline can be delayed with a healthy lifestyle: daily exercise, no tobacco, a plant-based diet , sleeping eight hours a night, and no more than two alcoholic drinks a day. I’ve done my best to live that way, and thought (naively) that I was immunized against the sexual ravages of Time. Alas, no.
As sexual elderhood hit me below the belt, I stamped around the house, cursing Fate. My wife of 47 years said, “For God’s sake, Mike, you’ve been writing about this for eons. You know what’s happening and why. Get a grip.”
Eventually, I did. And like millions of older men before me, I discovered that erotic changes don’t necessarily scuttle sex. Yes, erection loss can be unnerving, but here’s the upside: Men don’t need erections to enjoy great sex and marvelous orgasms. This bears repeating: In an erotic context, with a supportive lover, men with semi-firm or even completely flaccid penises, can still experience great fun between the sheets capped by satisfying orgasms.
Before the Food and Drug Administration approved Viagra in 1998, the conventional wisdom was that older couples simply stopped having sex, so researchers didn’t focus on it. But since Viagra, over the past almost 20 years, elder sex has become a hot topic, and two recent Australian studies show that older men’s situation, while not horrible, isn’t pretty.
In one study (Hyde 2012), Australian aging researchers surveyed the health and sexuality of 3,274 mostly white, independent-living men aged 75 to 95 (average age 82). Respondents’ demographics— education , smoking , alcohol use, single vs. partnered, etc.—differed a bit from the U.S. but not by much, so the findings can be reasonably extrapolated to Americans:
Problem Whole Group (3,274) Partnered (857)
Compared with the whole group, erection problems were considerably more prevalent among men with regular sex partners. This is not surprising. It’s easier to raise erections during masturbation than partner sex. In solo sex, you only have yourself to please. In partner sex, the man’s needs and desires must mesh with the woman’s, and things get complicated and erections suffer.
The same was true for both premature ejaculation and difficulty ejaculating. Men having only solo sex have better ejaculatory control than those who have partner sex.
Despite general awareness that men’s sexual function declines with age, a considerable proportion of these men were still upset about it.
Finally, a good deal of direct-to-consumer advertising pitches older men on testosterone supplementation, and many physicians are happy to prescribe it. But in this sample, only 7 percent actually had “low T,” and among those who did, the hormone deficiency was associated with only one sex problem, lack of libido. Testosterone level had nothing to do with erection, orgasm , or ejaculatory control.
The main causes of this sample’s sex problems were not psychological problems or relationship issues but rather chronic health conditions: obesity, arthritis, cancer, diabetes, heart disease, sleep disorders, and high blood pressure.
As part of the Adelaide Male Aging Study (Martin, 2012), a different group of Australian researchers asked 271 men, aged 65 to 80, about their health, libido, and erections.
Risk factors for low libido included: anxiety, depression , insomnia , sedentary lifestyle, and more than two alcoholic drinks a day.
Risk factors for ED included: anxiety, depression, diabetes, insomnia, cancer, smoking, obesity (especially potbelly), high blood pressure medication, more than two alcoholic drinks a day, and obstructive sleep apnea (OSA).
Surprisingly, OSA, little investigated for ED, was the health problem most closely associated with it. OSA results from either a loss of muscle tone in throat tissue, or obesity-related excess throat tissue. People with apnea (mostly men) exhibit persistent snoring interrupted by choking silences that temporarily shut down airflow into the lungs. The breathing interruption sets off biological alarms that rouse the person, which restores airflow. But OSA disrupts sleep and reduces the amount of oxygen in the blood. Erection depends, in part, on normal blood oxygen. Apnea reduces it and contributes to ED.
So somewhere between half and 90 percent of men over 65 suffer some level of ED. That's depressing. However, elderly couples who wish to remain sexual can still enjoy great sex and orgasms—if they make a few simple erotic adjustments:
Many older men respond to age-related sexual changes by retiring from sex, especially when erection drugs don’t work. If that’s how you decide to proceed, it’s your call. But I’m in my late sixties, and I can happily testify that without drugs, with the adjustments just mentioned, elder sex can feel as fulfilling as ever—maybe even better.
I would love to hear from older men and women involved with them. What can you add about the real sex lives of men over 65?
Surprisingly few older men use erection drugs
New York Times , March 28, 1998, “U.S. Approves Sale of Impotence Pill. Huge Market Seen.”
New York Times , Dec. 4, 2005. “Sales of Impotence Drugs are Declining.”
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Chia, S.J. et al. “Clinical Application of Prognostic Factors for Patients with Organic Causes of Erectile Dysfunction on 100 mg of Sildenafil Citrate,” International Journal of Urology (2004) 11:1104.
DeBusk, R.F. et al. “Efficacy and Safety of Sildenafil Citrate in Men with Erectile Dysfunction and Stable Coronary Artery Disease,” American Journal of Cardiology (2004) 93:147.
May, M. et al. “Erectile Dysfunction, Discrepancy Between High Prevalence and Low Utilization of Treatment Options: Results from the Cottbus Survey,” British Journal of Urology International (2007) 100:1110.
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Pickering, T.G. et al. “Sildenafil Cittrate for Erectile Dysfunction in Men Receiving Multiple Antihypertensive Agents: A Randomized Controlled Trial,” American Journal of Hypertension 17:1135.
The studies of the sex lives of men over 65
Hyde, Z. et al. “Prevalance and Predictors of Sexual Problems in Men Aged 75-95 Years: A Population-Based Study,” Journal of Sexual Medicine (2012) 9:442.
Martin, S. et al. “Clinical and Biopsychosocial Determinants of Sexual Dysfunction in Middle-Aged and Older Australian Men,” Journal of Sexual Medicine (2012) 9:2093.
Michael Castleman, M.A. , is a San Francisco-based journalist. He has written about sexuality for 36 years.
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Sex with younger men is more experimental but when it comes to older men, the sex is more quality because they are seasoned. There are many advantages of having sex with older men and here ois a list of 5 benefits that you ought to know.
Older men are way more confident in bed than younger men because of the sheer experience that is if they had an active sex life. They are ready to lead and there will not be a moment of awkwardness for them. They know where to focus
Older men are way more evolved and they are mature when it comes to understanding women. They will be less judgemental and will help you even if you are inexperienced.
Boys are more of the fascinated sorts while grown men are romantic. They tend to ease in with romance and intimacy before going for it.
Men consider your opinion and they respect it too. Unlike boys they will try to please you. They admire it when you tell them what you want and when you are honest about something. They work on a better performance as well.
Unlike the youngsters, most men are not in the “time-pass” or conquest game. They are probably searching for something meaningful. Young men or boys are generally interested more in hooking up unless they have made an official commitment. So sex with them may just be safer for the emotional souls.
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We dated. The chemistry was sizzlin’. The fact that he was more than double my age felt entirely irrelevant (but also, conceptually, quite hot ). When it became obvious that we were going to sleep together, he looked me dead in the eye and said, “You’re dying to see my naked body, right?” I nodded.
On the page, I know it sounds sleazy. But, honestly, I remember being so turned on, knowing that I was about to see an older body up close. An older man’s body is not something we come across often enough. While we may obsess about sex in our culture , virtually all sexual representations in novels, in films and in TV shows lead us to believe that sex is only for the young.
Anyway, the sex was pretty ordinary. But I found him inexplicably compelling. We hooked up occasionally for the next four years. The last time I saw him, I casually mentioned that his eldest daughter was now the age that I was when he had first eyed me up. He didn’t like that.
I spent most of my teenage years and early twenties thinking that much, much older guys were “ it” , but now in my thirties the novelty has worn a little
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