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If you’re planning to have sex with someone who has a prostate—or you have one yourself—you might be curious about how to massage a prostate (and what it can do for your sex life ). It might seem intimidating at first, but we assure you there’s a major appeal. You see, the prostate gland, also referred to as “the P-spot,” can feel hella good when stimulated, and venturing into the anal region is the only way to get at it.
Plus, part of the good-sex equation is exploring it in ways that make everyone involved feel comfortable while providing new sensations and experiences. But whenever you try something new—both in bed and beyond—there are health and safety issues to consider. Read on for information about why you might consider learning how to massage a prostate and the best and safest way to go about it.
The prostate is a walnut-size gland nestled deep inside the male pelvis, and it helps produce semen and nourish it with important substances, Mark Hong , M.D., a urologist in Phoenix, tells SELF. Cisgender women don’t have prostates. But for the folks who do have them, the prostate is made up of tissue known as stroma, secretory glands that produce semen ingredients, and muscle fibers. It’s located right in front of the bladder—the ducts in the prostate gland actually flow into the urethra, which is why prostate issues can affect urinary function. For example, if someone has an enlarged prostate (which is common as people get older), they might find that they have a more frequent urge to pee, among other symptoms, the Mayo Clinic explains.
The anus and its surrounding area are packed with nerve endings, Hong explains. That’s precisely why anal play can feel so amazing whether or not you have a prostate. Dr. Hong also notes that the prostate has plenty of blood vessels that swell with increased blood flow. The extra blood helps make the area more sensitive, which can boost pleasure.
Even though the anus is surrounded by nerve endings, it’s also surrounded by stigma. The human body is amazing in that parts like the vagina and anus (and even your mouth) have natural functions but can also be sites of intense pleasure. Trying out different sex-related acts is normal, and discovering new ways to experience pleasure is always a good idea.
“The anal mucosa [lining of the anus] and the anus itself are very sensitive," Hong explains. Although the anus is built to stretch to a certain extent, it doesn’t self-lubricate, meaning without proper precautions anal stimulation can cause pain and tearing (which would leave you vulnerable to infection). This means that it’s super important for everyone involved to prepare for giving and receiving a prostate massage (more on that below). It’s also worth mentioning that this might feel a bit uncomfortable at first. As SELF previously reported , making sure you’re getting in sufficient amounts of foreplay is a big part of lowering the odds that you’ll deal with things like pain and tearing.
When it comes to sex, there are two kinds of safety: physical and psychological. Psychological safety starts with permission , Hong explains. Prostate stimulation “is not something you surprise [your partner] with—it takes some preparing,” Lexx Brown-James , Ph.D., L.M.F.T., tells SELF. That means bringing it up verbally before getting down to business. A simple “You know, there’s something I’ve been really excited about trying...” can help start the conversation , Brown-James says.
If you and your partner both agree to try it, you’ll also need to account for physical safety—which boils down to avoiding anal trauma . So it might be helpful to learn a few best practices before you talk to your partner, TBH. This way you can discuss any concerns they or you might have.
The first step in safe prostate play is washing your hands with good old soap and water. You can use these handy instructions from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). As you probably know from the new coronavirus pandemic, keeping your hands clean (and making sure not to touch your face when your hands are not clean) is one way to avoid spreading germs on your hands to the eyes, nose, or mouth. It’s also a good time to mention that you don’t need any special antibacterial soap for this. As SELF has previously reported, tried-and-true hand soap will do the trick.
After your hands are clean and dry, you can slip on a latex glove if you like. Gloves can protect both of you by making sure any anal bacteria stays away from other areas of the body (like your penis or vagina) post-prostate action. There are a couple of other benefits to gloves: If you have longer nails, they can reduce the chance that your nails will hurt your partner, and they can make any necessary cleanup easier. (Here are some anal sex tips that will make it less likely you’ll encounter any poop.)
One quick FYI is that prostate massages can make people feel like they have to pee, so the person having their prostate massaged should probably empty their bladder beforehand. Then you and your partner should take deep breaths . Deep breathing activates the body’s relaxation response—which is good for everyone involved—and a relaxed anal sphincter is a happy anal sphincter (and one that’s way easier to penetrate). Keep in mind that the more relaxed and turned on one is, the more comfort and pleasure they’re likely to experience.
Another thing to remember: The physical position may make receiving a prostate massage feel better or more feasible. It’s not a guarantee, but some people find that being on top makes anal penetration easier, SELF previously reported . Your partner can kneel with your hand between their legs, for instance. With that said, it will likely take some experimentation to figure out which position feels best for the person receiving a prostate massage.
Now for the how-to: You can first access the prostate via the perineum, a spot right in between the testicles and the anus. Communication is important during every step. Even before you begin, consider talking to your partner about what feels right for both of you. You can decide on things like how many fingers (or which fingers) might feel best. You can agree on whether a firm touch or a lighter touch is in order. Maybe as you talk things through, you’ll discover you both feel comfortable enough to explore and see what feels right in the moment. That way, even if prostate massage isn’t something you regularly want to incorporate into your sex life, you’ll have explored it in a way that feels safe and fun for everyone involved.
If, after talking through a few specifics, you’re still not sure where to start, Brown-James has some techniques. “Bring your pointer, middle, and ring fingers together, then push up into [the perineum],” Brown-James explains. “Stimulating this area with gentle but firm strokes also stimulates the prostate.” It's basically a playground down there—Brown-James recommends techniques like rubbing clockwise for 8–10 strokes, then going counterclockwise, stroking toward the scrotum or touching the penis while you massage your partner’s perineum. Even though you’ve hopefully discussed what you’d both like beforehand, you and your partner should talk about what you think you might each like to do and feel and then, if you agree to test things out, try that next, making sure you’re each being open about what feels good and what doesn’t feel so good in the moment.
If you’d like to move on from the perineum and actually enter the anus, lube is essential. Keep in mind that oil-based lubricant eats away at condoms, and silicone-based ones can damage silicone sex toys . But if you’re using your fingers, either of these should be fine. You might consider lube that’s designed just for anal play like Pjur Back Door Silicone Lubricant ($30; Babeland ) or a more general lube like Please Cream Lubricant ($9; Babeland ). Be sure not to use any numbing agents, either with or without lube. As SELF previously reported , numbing agents that use topical anesthetic ingredients, like benzocaine, are readily available, but that doesn’t mean they’re a good option for anal play. Pain is there to tell you to stop, Brown-James says. If you and your partner are both new to anal penetration, or new to it with one another, it’s a good idea to start with a pinky unless you both decide to start with a bigger finger. Once your finger is adequately lubed up, you can try rubbing your partner’s anus and the surrounding area, then slowly sliding it in—just be sure to check in so that your partner isn’t caught off guard (unless, of course, you’ve both agreed that it should be a surprise).
As someone who’s performed thousands of prostate exams, Hong emphasizes the importance of going at a pace that’s comfortable for your partner. Once you’ve got a finger in and your partner’s go-ahead, it’s up to both of you what happens next. As Brown-James mentioned, the area is a “playground,” so feel free to move your finger around in ways that feel pleasurable and comfortable. If you’re looking for a specific technique, Brown-James suggests moving your finger upwards in a “come here” motion toward the front of their body. Because the prostate is a bit farther in and higher than the anus, that upward motion is a good way to make contact.
If you’re using a sex toy , only opt for one that is specifically made for anal play , meaning it has a flared base or some other feature that makes it so that nothing can go in that cannot come back out. You might try something like the Booty Bling Plug ($28; Babeland ), but there are also toys made specifically for prostate play. The Hugo Prostate Massager ($219; Babeland ) is a sleek toy with two motors for pressure and vibration, and the Duke Vibrating Prostate Massager ($105; Babeland ) has a unique shape that targets prostate stimulation along with perineum pressure and is meant to create a real feeling of fullness. Even if you don’t grab a toy specifically for prostate play, please don’t use random things lying around your house to explore prostate pleasure. “Every physician who’s ever worked in the ER has a story of a household anal sex toy gone awry,” Hong warns. “If you can imagine it, it’s probably been up the rectum.”
If this is all feeling good to your partner, they may orgasm from the stimulation. Don’t be nervous if there’s a climax that doesn’t involve ejaculation—according to Brown-James, that can happen during prostate play. As long as you and your partner are enjoying yourselves, the journey is way more important.
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What if I told you that prostate massage could lead to the most powerful orgasm you’ve ever experienced? That’s right, the prostate (or the p-spot) is one male organ that’s often overlooked but one that can produce immeasurable pleasure.
In this post, you’ll learn about the prostate including what it is and how to find it. You’ll also learn about prostate massage. This includes techniques you can use on yourself or with the help of a partner. So if you’re ready for an earth-shattering orgasm, then read on.
The prostate (or the p-spot) is a walnut-sized gland that produces the seminal fluid found in ejaculate. As such, the prostate is only present in cisgender men and people assigned male at birth.
The prostate is often referred to colloquially as the male g-spot .
The prostate is located between the penis and the rectum. It surrounds the urethra and sits just below the bladder.
There are two ways to stimulate the prostate. Externally you can stimulate the prostate by massaging the perineum (the area between the genitals and the anus). Internal stimulation can be done within the rectum.
The prostate feels different depending on whether you’re touching it externally or internally.
When feeling the prostate externally, you’ll gently push down on the perineum. The part of the perineum closer to the penis is stiffer, while the part near the anus is softer. The softer, fleshier part is what you’re aiming for. You’ll know you’ve found the prostate when you get the urge to pee.
When feeling the prostate internally, you’ll find it feels fleshy and different from the surrounding walls of the rectum. It will also protrude slightly.
In theory, everyone with a prostate should be able to achieve a prostate orgasm. However, mental blocks or medical conditions may make it difficult, if not impossible.
One of the more common medical conditions is Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) . The condition is an enlargement of the prostate gland that causes difficulty in urination. If not treated, the condition can cause bladder infections, bladder stones, and kidney infections.
For those with BPH, it’s not recommended to further irritate the prostate. There is treatment available, though.
The prostate orgasm is often described as similar to a penile orgasm but much more intense and more of a full-body experience.
While not exactly comparable, the prostate orgasm is similar to the female cervical orgasm . There are often a lot of contractions, and trembling is common.
You may or may not ejaculate during a prostate orgasm. Even if you don’t, you may release a milky fluid known as prostatic fluid.
Prostate massage is stimulation of the prostate gland for pleasure. It can be done to oneself or by a partner.
The rectum is bacteria-rich and the lining of the rectal wall is thin. This means any damage to the rectal wall can easily lead to infection. As such, there is always a slight risk where the rectum is concerned.
There are ways to minimize risk. These include washing hands before and after the prostate massage, keeping your nails short and clean, not using objects with sharp edges, and using lubricant at all times.
If using objects for internal stimulation, be sure they are sex toys made for anal use. The base of the toy should be flared so as to prevent the toy from getting stuck in the rectum which can be just as dangerous as it is embarrassing.
Whether you’re the one receiving or giving the massage, there are things you can do to prepare.
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