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Sex Love 16
'People expect you to have sex at 16. You don't want to be abnormal'
Three teenagers open their hearts about love and sex
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I don't have a girlfriend. For the moment, it's more about what you do at parties. If you get with a girl at a party, then that gives you more man points, more ego points.
You want people to know what you have done at the weekend – if you've met a girl, if you've kissed – but you want them to know without showing off. With all the communications people use, they will probably find out what you have done without you even having to tell them. For teenage boys, it's all about what girls look like: if I was to kiss a girl who had got a good reputation, someone who does not get around, that would be more highly regarded.
The longest I've been with a girlfriend is two months. I was younger then – it was a year ago. I'd meet her at a park after school, once or twice a week: I wouldn't have said it was love, because we got bored after five or six weeks. I didn't sleep with her – it would probably have to be with someone I actually really like.
I haven't been in love. I think when you are in love, there is a certain feeling that you are not bored seeing someone. I think at our age, people get bored very easily – I don't really want a girlfriend at the moment. Having a girlfriend is more about commitment, and I don't think commitment is widely regarded as a cool thing. Making out with girls at parties is much more what people – boys – aspire to. I don't think it's the same for girls.
In my year group, of my friends who are boys, I'd say about 40% or 50% have had sex. If you get with someone, it means you kissed them, or made out with them – not that you slept with them. Most of the girls I meet are on Facebook, so I wouldn't take her number. I'd find her on Facebook, add her as a friend and contact her like that.
I first started using internet porn a couple of years ago. I'd never buy a porn mag – why would you? It's all free on the computer. It's possible that my parents know I look at it on the computer at home, the one I share with my younger sister. I think they might not want me to look at it, but I'm not sure – we haven't talked about it. They're quite shy about that kind of thing.
When I was 10 and my sister was 11, my mum showed us how to use a condom: she demonstrated using a banana. My parents always wanted to make sure I knew everything I needed to know. They were very open. I remember it being slightly embarrassing, but I'm glad she did it. She wanted to get to us before we refused to listen. It was nice learning slowly – so I didn't panic when I got my first period or started thinking about sex. Last year, a friend of mine didn't know how, so I showed her on a banana.
I've been going out with someone for the past year and eight months – that's a long relationship. I've known him since I was eight and we've been friends for years. He asked me out when I was 16. We'd been on holiday together, and realised that we got on really well.
I had sex for the first time when I was 16. We had been going out for two months and 12 days. I remember it pretty clearly: it was a weird experience, the first time. We'd talked about it first, so I felt I was ready; I felt really comfortable with him. In some ways it was a big deal, in other ways it was not like it changed everything. It was more fun than serious.
I told my friends at school straight away. But people expect you to have sex at 16. I have one friend who has been with someone for a year and not done more than kissed, and people think that's a bit strange. I think most want to get it out of the way when they are 16: you don't want to be abnormal. For guys it matters more – they have to have done it. For girls there is not the same pressure. But on the other hand, people do lie. A lot of people think everyone is having sex and it's not true.
I told my Mum a few months afterwards, when I wanted to go on holiday with my boyfriend. She asked me if I'd had sex with him. She was cool about it, but said she hoped I was using contraceptives. I was like, "Shut up, Mum."
My friends have been panicked a lot about being pregnant. Most are on the pill and they completely freak out if they've forgotten to take it; then they have to buy pregnancy tests. A couple of girls in my sister's year have had children, but none of my friends have.
I know if I had a baby now, it would stop me getting any qualifications and my partner would stop studying and have to go into full-time work. It would stop both of our lives from happening properly. I wouldn't want to have a child at this age. I'd want to wait until I was in my 20s.
I don't want the relationship to end, but if it did, it wouldn't be the end of the world. There are a lot of guys out there. We are still quite young.
I've been going out with my boyfriend for seven months. It's hard to tell if it's love, but I do tell him I love him and he says "I love you" back. I feel different about him from the other boys I've been out with; I see more of a future with him. I think you grow into love. We have similar interests, goals and aims. We are both Christians and like classical music.
He's the third boyfriend I've had and the most serious. I first had a boyfriend when I was 13; we were together for nine or 10 months. I kissed him, but that wasn't very important. It was more about having a buddy at school. We didn't see each other much outside school: he wasn't taking things that seriously and he was annoying me, so I ended it.
I liked it when I began to realise guys found me attractive in that kind of way. That gave me a new kind of confidence. My friends were very impressed. His friends gave him quite a hard time for going out with me, because I wasn't like a lot of the other girls: I wasn't interested in looking super-feminine, like a Wag. In the end I was quite hurt by him. He started going out with someone new two weeks after we split up.
My parents did ask me once if I wanted to talk about sex. I said no. My family takes religion seriously: I think my parents' expectation would be that I wouldn't sleep with a boyfriend before marriage. That was part of the reason why I felt so awful when I did sleep with my boyfriend earlier this year. I told him we shouldn't do it again. I hadn't wanted to sleep with anyone until we were married.
I would call myself a feminist and a progressive, but I feel strongly about this area. I've been brought up to believe that having sex is sacred. I don't know if my parents would feel disappointed; my worry is they might look at my boyfriend differently, like the person who had defiled their daughter – although they wouldn't talk like that. When he stays over, he stays on the sofa downstairs.
The first time it happened, there was a bit of a rush for a morning-after pill. I was staying at his house; his parents are not the kind of people who would bat an eyelid at us sleeping in the same bed. I wasn't expecting it to happen, so we were not prepared. It was surreal. In some ways it was funny, and I was laughing, but I felt pretty horrible about it afterwards. I think for guys it is not the same, but he did feel bad for me. I don't think people will think less of me because of it, but I do wonder.
There have been a couple of slip-ups since then. Our position is that, for the moment, sex should not be part of our relationship, but it has happened occasionally. I did enjoy it subsequent times. There is an extra burden because of my religion but it is my decision. I don't resent it really.

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✨ Find out what’s in store for your love life this week! 💖
What’s happening: Tonight, Venus and Mars, the love planets, square off—plus, the Sun is opposite Neptune, the planet of mysteries and secrets. Mercury opposes lucky Jupiter on Sunday, while the Sun harmonizes with Pluto, the planet of power and transformation. Then on Tuesday, Venus connects with Uranus, the planet of surprises, and on Thursday, the Sun enters Libra, marking day one of Libra season 2022!
You’re very horned up this weekend, Aries, and you’re dead-set on getting some action. Pro tip: Just because you’re super in the mood doesn’t mean that you should lower your standards just to get your rocks off! Sunday’s astro indicates that someone sexy will approach you, so you don’t even need to worry about going on the prowl—and it also looks like it’ll be a coworker who wants to get in your pants. Libra season = cuffing season for your sign, so you can expect puh-lenty of action to come your way!
If you're in a hot-and-cold relationship/situationship, you can expect things to be very hot this weekend! You’re feeling lusty, your partner’s 110% in the mood, and good sex, if not great sex, is all but guaranteed! Here’s the thing, though. Just because your sex life is going spectacularly doesn’t mean that the emotional side of your relationship is equally as great. Don’t overlook problems just because the sex is great! If there’s trouble in paradise, the problems are coming to the surface, so try to deal with those issues before they blow up.
You’re super in the mood this weekend, but casual hookups just don’t seem to be doing it for you. You want more . So, how can you get it? First, be honest! Let your date know beforehand that you don’t just want a quickie. Even if you meet on a hookup app, there's no harm in saying, “Hey, I’m down to clown around, but I’m also in the market for something a little more serious.” You never know! They might be equally interested. P.S.: Libra season is one of the best times of year for your love life!
An ex is coming back around this weekend, Cancer, and you might feel really tempted to reconnect. I suggest you don’t—they’re your ex for a reason! If they message you first, don’t take their honeyed words as the truth. They’re probably just interested in a quickie, and nothing serious. That being said, if you’re down to hook up, there’s no harm—as long as you can keep healthy boundaries and make sure the hookup stays a hookup. Keep your expectations low!
There’s some sexual tension between you and that cutie in your crew, so if you’re down to start a FWB situationship, this is the weekend! Here’s the thing, though. It’s Mercury Retrograde , so miscommunications are very likely, and you need to be very clear with your intentions. You don’t want them catching feelings if all you want is to fool around, and you definitely don’t want to lose them as a friend. Be upfront with your intentions so you can avoid unnecessary drama and heartbreak.
With Venus, the planet of love and beauty, in your sign, there’s no doubt that you’re getting tons of attention right now! Make sure you’re open about what you’re looking for, though. If you’re looking exclusively for hookups, let your potential paramour know before you invite them over to your place. If you’re looking for love, tell them that you want something serious before you meet up with them. Make sure you check your dating apps, too—it looks like someone sexy is sliding into your DMs on Tuesday!
This weekend’s astro (plus Mercury Retrograde’s influence) makes it look like there’s an ex of yours sliding into your inbox. If you’re interested in hanging out or hooking up, there’s no harm in that, but if you’re 100% over them, just hit block to make sure they stop bugging you. Lucky Jupiter is activating your chart’s relationships zone on Sunday, so whether you end up spending time with your ex or you meet someone new, you can count on getting some action before the end of the weekend!
You and a friend have been getting a little flirty lately, and this weekend, they’re making a move! They’re taking that first step to get with you, but it’s in your hands to determine where the relationship goes. You’re a total catch, Scorpio, and they’re delighted to spend time with you in or out of the bedroom. You’re in control right now! If you’re looking for a serious LTR, however, make sure you take things slow. It’s Mercury Retrograde, after all, which is one of the worst times to DTR.
Your partner is ready to upgrade your relationship, but you feel like they’re moving a little fast. Usually, this makes your fight or flight instinct kick in, and you might be tempted to hit the road. Instead, why not sit down, take a breath, and talk things out? Instead of flat-out rejecting them, why not just tell them “not yet,” or “not right now”? Taking it slow is one of your least favorite things to do, but I think it’ll be worth it if you just give it a shot.
It’s all in your hands now, Capricorn! You’re reaching a major moment in your relationship, and you need to decide if you want to take things to the next level, or break things off. Do you like your partner enough to fully commit? Or do you think they’re not quite worth it, and want to fly solo for a while? Take this week to think things over, and try to avoid making any solid decisions until the end of Mercury Retrograde.
You struggle with coming off as cold or aloof, but this weekend, it’s much easier for you to let your walls down and express affection. If you’re feeling particularly sweet, don’t be afraid to let your partner know how much they mean to you. As far as your sex life goes, this is a great time to let your boo sit back and relax while you service them. You’ll be amazed at how turned on you get just from watching your partner get pleased by you!
You’ve been feeling super attracted to someone, and now’s the time to let them know exactly how you feel! You just need to avoid coming on too strong. Like, instead of blowing up their phone with a billion texts full of hundreds of heart emojis, just send them *one* sweet message and ask them if they want to hang out. Less is more right now, Pisces, and you can make a ton of magic happen through just one convo, as long as you choose your words carefully.

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“We didn’t really know what we were doing, but it wasn’t awkward at all because we trusted each other a lot.”
Having sex for the first time can be a big decision. It might feel awkward, exciting, confusing, or a combination of all those feelings and more. But it’s so important to remember that everyone’s experience with first-time sex is different, and that the definition of sex and “losing your virginity” varies from person to person. What matters most is that you and your partner both consented to sex and that you’re using protection .
Your first sexual experience with a partner might involve vaginal, anal, or oral sex, or no penetration at all. You might orgasm the first time you have sex, or you might not, and that’s totally normal. It can take time to understand and learn what you like and don’t like sexually, and what turns you on. While everyone’s experience varies, hearing about others’ experiences can help you determine if you’re ready and navigate your own first time. To help you understand what it might be like, below, 16 guys get real about the first time they had sex — including how it happened and how they felt afterward.
1. “ I had just turned 17 and my girlfriend and I had been dating for a few months when we decided it was the right time. After waiting two or three nights out of anxiety, we were finally able to share the experience. We waited for her parents to go to bed, and after what seemed like hours, they did. We fumbled around with the condom in the dark, but eventually realized it would be easier with the lights on.” — Jay, 18
2. “ I was 18 and in my first semester of college. The girl I lost my virginity with was a good friend of mine. One night, we were both coming back from a party. In the Uber home, we started flirting and making out. When we got back to her dorm, we went at it. Five minutes in, we heard a voice say, ‘What are you guys doing?!’ It was her roommate — sitting upright, staring at us from her bed. We were so busy hooking up that we forgot to check if she was asleep.” — Jake, 19
3. “ We had been hooking up and hanging out for about three weeks when I was 21. We got really serious, really quickly, basically spending all our weekends and some weekday time together. She was staying at my family’s house for the weekend — the first time either of us had met another’s parents — and when we realized everyone had left for a few hours one morning, we gave sex a shot. We didn’t really know what we were doing, but it wasn’t awkward at all because we trusted each other a lot. We laughed when we decided to leave the bedroom doors wide open, since it was important to hear people coming back. At the time, I was pretty pumped. And sweaty. Two days later, we became official.” — Landon, 22
4. “ I met a girl off of Tinder. On our third date, we were watching movies at her place and getting along well. We just cuddled, kissed, and went slowly from there. I never told her it was my first time because of male stereotypes — I didn’t want to seem inexperienced. I thought telling girls that I had never had sex would hurt my chances. I was nervous and excited at the same time, and it didn’t last very long. She might have known that I was a virgin (or thought I was bad).” — Isaiah, 20
5. “ I lost my virginity when I was 18 years old. As a guy, you feel a certain pressure to lose your virginity, but I still wanted my first time to be special. She was a junior in college and I was freshman. We met when she started hitting on me at a diner after a party. We started hooking up every weekend. Three weeks later, we came back to my room and things were different. Neither of us planned to have sex, but it happened. It was good, but I was so nervous, I didn’t truly enjoy it. Afterwards, she told me I was amazing. Although I didn’t realize my romantic dream, I didn’t and still don’t care. We continued hooking up for the next few months until one day she told me she was getting back together with her ex-boyfriend. To this day, I still haven’t told her that she took my virginity.” — Tyler, 21
6. “ We were both 13. I made her laug
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