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If provided sex education must INCLUDE abstinence
If provided sex education must STRESS abstinence
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HIV-specific criminal law including sex, spitting/biting/blood exposure, sex work/solicitation, sentence enhancement
Communicable disease law that imposes criminal punishment for STI exposure or transmission
General felony law has been used to prosecute people living with HIV
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Women with incomes 200% above the federal poverty level or higher
Women with incomes between the federal poverty level and 199% of the federal poverty level
Women with incomes below the federal poverty level
As a journalist, I have confronted a Pakistani government official about nuclear proliferation. I've interrogated a leader of the Revolutionary Armed Forces of Colombia about drug trafficking. I've even stared down a member of the Taliban in Afghanistan when he told my escort that I was out of line for speaking too loudly in public.
But for some reason, whenever I've had to talk to someone about matters pertaining to sex, my heart begins to pulsate wildly and I start to giggle involuntarily. Throughout the years, I've profiled swingers, people who practice polyamory, those into kink and countless sex workers. Inevitably though, when asking about specifics, I become that little girl, who at 8 years old was told by my grandmother, "never let a man see you naked — even your husband."
Yes, she really said that. Grannie proceeded to tell me that all of her interactions with her husband, my grandfather, happened in the dark. And that was with her own husband. Sex before marriage was a non-starter. My other grandmother, a devout Christian, had persistent, dire warnings for me: "never commit the sex sin."
Then, in Mrs. Spect's 5th grade class, a permission slip went out to all of the parents for consent to allow their kid to sit through a two-hour sex ed discussion. Every kid in the class came back with a parent's signature except one: me. Incidentally, if my recollection serves me right, I believe I was the only Asian kid in the class as well. Asians as a culture aren't exactly the most communicative bunch, especially when it comes to personal matters. I told my teacher that my dad flatly refused to sign the paper, saying, "Sex ed in 5th grade? No way!"
Mrs. Spect felt compelled to make a personal visit to my home to talk to my father. I recall her telling me that it was the first time she ever went to a student's house. She explained to Dad that the course was more about anatomy than sex. It was important, she said, for kids this age to be aware of their bodies in order to be able to keep themselves safe. Not to mention, she added, that I would be the only kid to have to leave the classroom and go to the library while the course was in progress. Dad reluctantly agreed, but the whole scenario left me feeling pretty ashamed.
That's pretty much how I've always felt about sex -- ashamed. Let's put it this way, it took me a long time to be able to have the lights on during intimate moments.
But I don't think I'm alone in still finding it hard to talk openly about sex. And that, as I've learned first-hand, can adversely affect one's relationships and health.
Now in my forties, I can honestly say that my inability to talk about sex has led to some risky behavior throughout my life. I haven't always been responsible about condom or birth control use, so I've left myself open on numerous occasions to unwanted pregnancies and STDs, both of which are rampant in our country, the latter now more than ever.
While our teenage and unwanted pregnancy rates have declined significantly, we lag far behind many other industrialized nations, and have gaping disparities based on race/ethnicity, income and geographical location. And across the board, our STD rates have reached an all-time high. We spend an estimated $16 billion treating sexually transmitted diseases every year. $16 BILLION.
Access to affordable healthcare services is certainly an important factor, but how much of this is driven by societal stigma and taboos when it comes to having real, honest conversations about sex in America?
As the mother of two little girls, one of whom is 4 years old and constantly asking about how Mommy and Daddy made her, I know that I don't want to impart fear and shame onto my daughters when it comes to sex. I want them, one day, to be able to enjoy it, while knowing that not being careful and communicative can have dangerous emotional and physical consequences.
Because sex, after all, is nothing to giggle about.
Lisa Ling is the executive producer and host of "This is Life with Lisa Ling," which airs Sundays at 10 p.m. ET/PT starting October 1 on CNN. You can follow her on Twitter , Instagram and Facebook .
Lisa Ling goes back to school to get an inside look at the controversial state of sex education in America
It was pop quiz time in Leticia Jenkins' health class at James Monroe High School in the North Hills neighborhood of Los Angeles. The students were huddled in groups, whispering and writing down their answers on personal dry erase boards to questions like, "What do we call the name of the surgical procedure that removes the foreskin of the male penis?" and "What do we call the official name of when a woman receives oral sex?"
On the wall by the entrance of the classroom was a bulletin board covered in colorful construction paper with markered in words like "fallacio," "hymen," and "coitus interruptus."
Jenkins says that having the vocabulary is a crucial part of helping young people feel empowered to talk honestly and openly about a subject she believes is too often considered taboo.
"Let's stop kidding ourselves, this is real. Do we want to learn this or not?," Jenkins said. "I'm not just teaching the act of sex. I'm teaching how to take care of themselves. We're talking intimacy and respect and relationships."
Jenkins has been a health educator in the Los Angeles public school system for 16 years. She says that a new sex ed law, the California Healthy Youth Act, implemented in the state's public schools for the first time in the 2016-2017 school year, has given her legal backing to teach what she believes all health educators in the state should have been doing all along.
That is, providing sex education that is medically accurate and current, unbiased, does not promote religion, and is inclusive of all sexual orientations, gender identities and gender expressions. Beyond teen pregnancy and STD prevention, the curricula must also include lessons on consent, sexual harassment, relationship abuse, the negative impacts of gender stereotypes, and sex trafficking.
For Jenkins, what she's teaching to her primarily 9th grade students is laying the foundation for navigating decisions about their sex lives not just today, but into adulthood.
"We later see as adults that they could have learned this, but they didn't and then they repeat the same cycle," said Jenkins.
The unintended pregnancy and teen pregnancy rates in the US have declined significantly in recent years and the latter has reached a record low, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Despite this progress, rates in the US are still higher than many other industrialized nations. Teen girls in the US are more than twice as likely to become pregnant than teens in Canada and France, and seven times more likely than their counterparts in Switzerland. And in America significant disparities along racial/ethnic, income and geographical lines persist.
At the same time, STD rates have reached record highs.
The issue of sexual assault and consent, particularly on college campuses across the country, has made its way to the forefront of the national conversation about what our society is teaching young people about sex. A 2015 survey done by the Association of American Universities projected that 23% of undergraduate women and 5% of undergraduate men on college campuses experience sexual assault or misconduct from physical force, threat of physical force or inability to consent (through incapacitation).
Campus sexual assault is becoming a big issue in Washington. During his tenure as Vice President, Joe Biden launched the "It's On Us" campaign to end sexual assault, and the Obama administration issued guidelines for handling accusations brought on college campuses. President Donald Trump's education secretary, Betsy DeVos, recently announced that her department is taking steps to rescind that guidance. She says she plans to eventually introduce another system in its place.
Back in her classroom, Jenkins was working in a discussion on consent and what it looks like into an exercise where her students were tasked with creating an order of events for proper condom use. "Consent" came somewhere between "talk to your partner about having sex" and "check the expiration date" in most students' paper cut-out line ups.
California's law, when implemented to its full potential, is more the exception than the norm, says Deb Hauser, the president of Advocates for Youth, an organization that promotes what it calls a "realistic" and "honest" approach to adolescent sexual health. She says where you go to school in the United States absolutely dictates what kind of education you get when it comes to sex, or whether you receive any at all.
"People like to say, 'education causes sex,' but that's no different than saying 'umbrellas cause rain'," said Hauser.
Today, only about half the states in the US require schools to teach sex ed. When sex ed is taught, more than a third of states require instruction that stresses abstinence until marriage.
"If inherent in contraception education there is an underlying either implicit or explicit normalization of teen sex, then that is either an implicit or explicit encouragement to engage in risky behavior," said Valerie Huber.
At the time of our interview, Huber was president and CEO of Ascend, an organization focused on promoting "sexual risk avoidance" for young people by stressing abstinence until marriage. Today she's chief of staff for the assistant secretary for health at the US Department of Health and Human Services.
Huber says this approach isn't a matter of religious beliefs or morals, but is a public health argument. "We don't say that sex outside of marriage is wrong. We say, waiting for sex until marriage is the healthiest choice to make," said Huber of the sexual risk avoidance approach. "That is different."
A number of studies show that sex education that includes instruction on contraceptives is not associated with increased rates of sexual activity among teens.
Huber says information on contraception should be included in sex education, but that emphasizing the failure rates of these methods should be a key part of that instruction. Moreover, the sexual risk avoidance approach focuses on emotional well-being and social success, she says, pointing to data that shows that teens who are sexually active are more likely to have lower grades.
Today, the percentage of teens who report having become sexually active is significantly lower than in previous generations, according to the CDC . Among never-married teens age 15 - 19, 51% of females and 60% of males had ever had sex in 1988, compared with 44% of females and 47% of males between 2011 and 2013. For proponents of sexual risk avoidance education, this is an indicator that abstinence messaging is resonating with young people.
Still, two out of every five high school students in the US will become sexually active by the time they graduate.
"There are no sex education curricula across the country that I know of that teach about contraception and condoms that don't also teach about abstinence," said Hauser. "So the question is, are you only going to give young people part of the answer or are you going to give them the full answer and help them to make the best decision for themselves as they grow older?"
For Jenkins, sex education should ultimately not only include what young people need to know to make healthy decisions, but take seriously what young people want to know.
"I think it's one of the worst types of acts that an adult can do. Shush a kid. Or not ask for their input," she said.
If not in the structured environment of a classroom, kids will educate -- and mis-educate -- themselves about sex, particularly in the age of the internet, social media, and pornography available at their fingertips.
"Your kid's going to hear this one way or another," she said.
What's it like to date while living with HIV and other incurable STDs? Lisa Ling investigates issues of stigma, disclosure and even criminalization.
It was potluck night recently for a group of men in Los Angeles who gathered to fight a persistent enemy: Stigma surrounding HIV.
"People use the word 'clean' to represent 'negative,' and it happens all the time," said Orren Plaut.
There was a resounding, collective "Ugh!" from the rest of the group, seated in a circle on patio furniture and floor pillows. "It's something we of positive status hate," said Plaut.
"It's like, yes I shower," another member added with an eye roll.
Plaut is the executive director of The Thrive Tribe Foundation, an LA-based social network for gay and bisexual men working to eliminate the negative stereotypes that surround HIV through a combination of education, community support and increased access to health care. Most of the men gathered here are in their 20s and 30s and are too young to remember first-hand the height of the HIV and AIDS epidemic in the United States. Medical advancements made it possible for the virus to become a manageable chronic disease, but haven't necessarily wiped away the stigma.
In recent years, the number of new HIV diagnoses has dropped dramatically, down 19% from 2005 to 2014, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Antiretroviral therapy (ART) has been a game-changer when it comes to reducing the risk of transmitting the virus. Those on the treatment who are able to achieve viral suppression (a very low level of the virus in the blood) or an undetectable viral status not only reduce but, according to multiple different studies, completely eliminate the risk of transmitting to a sexual partner.
Meanwhile, Pre-exposure prophylaxis, more commonly known as PrEP, is a once-a-day pill that when taken consistently, can reduce the risk of HIV infection by 92%, according to the CDC.
In spite of this progress, for a younger generation of people living with HIV, stigma still plays a very powerful role in their life, particularly when it comes to disclosing their status to their sex and dating partners.
"It never feels good to get rejected," said Chris Villalobos, Associate Director of The Thrive Tribe Foundation. He's 29, single, and was diagnosed with HIV at age 24.
"I don't want a conversation to start with 'How'd you get infected?' and, 'Were you dating a guy? Or were you just [having casual sex]'?'"
His HIV status has become a natural filter for him in the dating world. "That person wasn't meant to be in my life," he says of those who respond with hostility or cruelty, "because I'm a f----ing fantastic person, and they are missing out at this point."
"Stigma has prevented people from living whole lives," said Jesse Milan, Jr., the president and CEO of AIDS United.
Milan lost his partner during the height of the epidemic, and has himself lived with HIV for 35 years. He says that stigma keeps people from getting tested, accessing health care, accessing support, and from disclosing their status to their sexual partners.
The reluctance to get tested and treated has real consequences. Of the 1.1 million Americans living with HIV today, one in seven haven't been diagnosed, according to the CDC. Among young people under the age of 25, that number is one in two -- 51% don't know they have the virus. HIV is disproportionately spread by those who don't know they're positive.
Despite the efficacy of ART, only 30% of people living with HIV in America are virally suppressed. Of those who are not virally suppressed, 66% have been diagnosed, but are not receiving treatment.
When one partner is HIV positive and the other is negative, PreP has the potential to play a crucial role in reducing stigma, supporters say, by helping to redistribute the responsibility of prevention between both positive and negative individuals.
"I completely respect the people that are going on PrEP," said Villalobos, "because not only are they protecting themselves, but it sends a message back to the HIV community that they're aware of what's available to them and they want to do their part."
But this new method of prevention itself has been stigmatized. Similar to what can happen to women on birth control, Villalobos says there is "slut shaming" of those on PrEP based on a fear that it will lead to an increase in condomless sex and a higher number of sexual partners.
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