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Remember: sex is about the journey, not the destination
Rimming, ass licking , analingus (if we want to use its Christian name), or simply a rim job, involves licking, penetrating with the tongue, sucking, kissing, or otherwise orally stimulating your partner's bum. Despite the misconceptions out there, rimming is not merely a stop on the road to anal sex – it's a fun sexual activity in its own right that can be enjoyed by people of all gender and sexual identities, if they so wish. Some people might consider it the main sex act of the day while other people might view it as a way to prepare for anal sex – it's totally up to the individual and their partner, and what they both fancy.
As with *every* sexual activity between consensual partners, trust and communication are necessary for enjoyable rimming. Thankfully, Jess Wilde, sex and bondage expert at Lovehoney , was able to share her invaluable wisdom on what a rim job is and give her advice and tips for the best ways of giving and enjoying a rimming.
A rim job is when one partner licks, kisses, sucks, and stimulates their partner's anus with their mouth and tongue. It doesn't have to always involve penetration of the tongue, but it can if you and your partner are into it! It can be a wonderful, pleasurable act on its own. But it can also be a great way to prepare for anal sex and get comfortable and ready for penetration.
Once you and your partner have decided that rimming is something you’d like to try, it’s time to prepare. For both of your benefit, it’s a good idea to have a thorough clean before you begin. This can be a bath or shower or, if you want to, you can use an anal douche before you play. It doesn’t matter how you do it, just do it.
If you want to have a really thorough clean, you can try an enema or anal douche. It’s pretty obvious why this is important to the person performing tongue play (taste, smell, bacteria, sweat), but it’s also really important for the receiver. It’s understandable that a lot of people have concerns about cleanliness in that area due to its 'day job' (plus it’s pretty tricky to get a good look at your own bumhole) so knowing that you’ve given yourself a jolly good clean will help you relax.
The more relaxed you are, the more pleasure you’re likely to get from the experience.
For some reason, a lot of people who choose to trim their pubic hair seem to forget that it grows much further than the perineum. Most people have a hairy butthole (even if it’s just a straggler or two.) Don’t believe me? Go take a look in the mirror.
Now, clearly body hair's a choice, and if you like having short and curlies around your pink balloon knot, then that’s cool. But, if your partner has a real aversion to body hair and you want to some bum-fun (and are happy to compromise) you might like to consider giving your bot-bot some grooming attention the next time you’re in the area. Not only will it help prevent the old hair-between-the-teeth scenario for your partner, but the less hair you have between your skin and theirs, the easier it’ll be for your partner to get their tongue and lips where you’ll feel it most. Less hair = better stimulation = bum-holy-bliss!
Even with a thorough clean, a lot of people still feel a little uneasy with direct tongue-to-butthole contact, and that’s OK! Any genital contact can lead to the transfer of bacteria and STI s. If you and your partner haven’t had a recent anal STI check, or one of you would just feel more comfortable with a barrier between you, pick up a dental dam . They create a physical barrier between you and whatever you're licking. The person receiving can still feel everything without direct contact. Some are even flavoured for extra delectable derriere licking.
We all know that most meals taste better with a little seasoning. Take the same approach when it comes to salad tossing and drizzle your lover’s anus with your favourite flavoured lube. It’ll have the double benefit of helping your lips and tongue slide over sensitive areas, as well as tasting delicious.
Try Lovehoney's range of flavoured, water-based lubes - we love this strawberry version .
You can always give the lube to your partner and get them to pour it wherever they want your tongue to travel...
Remember: sex is about the journey, not the destination . When it comes to rimming, I recommend roaming, rather than setting your crack-nav to “quickest route”. Don’t make a beeline for the B-hole. Explore your partner’s body as much as you can in other ways to excite their mind and awaken their skin before you get to Their Precious (yeah, that was a Lord Of The Rings reference).
Start with the furthest points and work your way in towards the bullseye. You could use a lickable massage oil or lubricant and begin massaging, squeezing, licking and kissing their bumcheeks and inner thighs.
When you’re ready to start getting closer to your aim, begin gently parting their cheeks so you can see their anus. For now, resist the temptation to touch it. You simply want to tease the area, as close as you can, with your fingers, lips and mouth, so they’re pretty much begging for it when you’re done.
A great tip to stimulate their actual anus without physical contact is to use your breath. Breathe warm air over their bottom as a final tease before you make contact. When you’ve decided they’ve had enough teasing torture, then it’s time.
Experiment with different shapes , movements, pressure and tongue shapes. Some people love a firm lick from a broad, flat tongue, while others need the delicate tickle of the tip of a tongue circling their opening. Everyone is different.
If you and your partner have discussed trying some penetration, you can delve a little deeper. Try poking your tongue into their anus just a little . Really only the first inch or so is uber-sensitive, so it isn’t a case of “the deeper the better” with this sort of play. If you’ve both decided you do want to try this, only very shallow penetration is needed (even if you’ve been blessed with a Gene Simmons tongue!)
For your first time, I recommend taking it slow, experimenting with a few moves and seeing how your partner reacts. Keep an eye and ear on their body language, breathing and vocal response. If your partner is a quiet one, and you’re not sure how things are going or you like clear communication in the bedroom, you can absolutely check-in with your partner and ask what they like best . Ask if they like it, want try something different or want you to keep doing what you’re doing (when your mouth isn’t full, of course!)
For extra satisfying rimming pleasure, playing with two or more erogenous zones at the same time will really heighten the pleasure. While your lips are busy with the (rim) job at… mouth... why not use your hands to stimulate other areas of their body. Reach up for their nipples, penis, clitoris or any other hot spot you know they like. Can’t reach? Encourage your partner to play while you lick, or bring in a simple sex toy like a bullet vibrator .
Which position you play in should be comfortable and offer easy access to all the areas you want to play with / have played with.
Popular positions include the receiver laying on their back or with legs akimbo, on their stomach with a pillow under their hips, all-fours, face-sitting or on the edge of a sofa with the giver on their knees. Really, you can experiment to find which works best for you both.
If you feel like advancing analingus further, bringing in toys like spreader bars , sex swings or position enhancers can be great for this.
Anal sex toys are a great next step once you're comfortable with rimming. Start off small with beginner's anal toys and explore all the incredible sensations they provide.
This extra petite butt plug is perfect for beginners who want to (and should) take things slow. It has a rounded tip for easy insertion and has 3 inches of insertable length.
If you want a beginners anal vibrator, this petite plug from Rocks Off is perfect. It's super slim, has 7 speeds to choose from and made from silky soft silicone.
Anal beads are a lovely toy for beginners as they're slim and start with the smallest bead, meaning you can insert them slowly and comfortably. Plus, when you pull them out they feel amazing.
This vibrating butt plug from Lovehoney is powerful and has 20 vibration patterns and speeds. It has 3 inches of insertable length, is rechargeable and waterproof.

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Welcome to the wonderful world of analingus.
Anal play is all the rage at the moment. Everyone is talking about butt stuff —and no, we're not just referring to anal sex . With people trying everything from anal toys to pegging , there are no limits in this game, friend.
For those curious about expanding their anal repertoire, might we suggest the rim job? Rimming—also known as analingus, tossing salad, ass eating, peach munching, eating the booty like groceries, etc.—is when you use your tongue and lips to stimulate your partner’s anus. The move "is referred to as 'rimming' because often, the rim or outer edges of the anus [are] the focus area[s]," says Dr. Kristie Overstreet , a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist. "This doesn't mean that only the rim is stimulated."
Rimming can involve penetration of the tongue into the anus, circling around it, or licking or kissing all the around the rest of the butt. “This region of your butt is a highly erogenous zone with a plethora of nerve endings,” explains Dr. Evan Golstein , founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical and The Future Method . This is why rimming feels good, regardless of sexual orientation or gender. "The sensations are indescribable,” he says, "though most people compare it to having their most sensitive and ticklish areas kissed or licked.”
Although rimming has traditionally been thought of as a fringe sex act, it's been on the rise recently, with shows like Girls and Nicki Minaj's " Anaconda " bringing it into the mainstream. In fact, according to a 2008 study of American men, 24% said they had performed analingus on their partners, while 15% said that a partner had performed it on them. More recently, a 2012 Esquire poll of 500 men found that 12% secretly wished they were getting more anilingus. Alas, it's tough to find more recent data. Most studies have focused on how common anal sex is, but not rimming, specifically.
It's possible. Hepatitis A, herpes, HPV, syphilis, and gonorrhea can be transmitted through a rim job, Goldstein says. Hepatitis A is directly spread through feces, whereas syphilis , HPV (genital warts), and herpes are spread through skin-to-skin contact, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). While herpes is usually located in the mouth or genitals, you can also get it on your lower back and buttocks—known as sacral herpes . Oral gonorrhea can be spread by rimming, too.
There are a couple of things you can do to decrease the likelihood of STI transmission during rimming. First, keep an eye out for cuts or abrasions on the tongue, lips, gums, or rectum. These cuts can become entry points for infection and transmission, the CDC notes.
Second, there's the option of using a dental dam, Goldstein says. Dental dams are thin, latex or polyurethane sheets used between the mouth and vagina or anus during oral sex. They’re not as easy to find at local corner stores as condoms, but you can pick them up from Planned Parenthood or purchase them online .
“You can get bacterial infections like e.coli and salmonella from rimming,” Goldstein says. “Giardia, a microscopic parasite that is passed through feces, and other parasites can also be transmitted through rimming.”
Luckily, this is pretty easily preventable. The key is washing around your anus with soap and water. But make sure to use antibacterial soap! Also: “Avoid rimming if you or your partner has been sick or is experiencing symptoms of a possible stomach bug,” Goldstein says. That’s because “bad” bacteria usually comes from contaminated food, and most people experience diarrhea or stomach pain after ingestion. So if your partner's stomach is upset, they’re more likely to transmit bad bacteria to you through rimming.
Contrary to popular belief, you don't need to douche or enema to prep for rimming. “Doing an enema is typically for play that goes a bit deeper," says Alicia Sinclair, a clinical sexologist and CEO of the sex toy company b-Vibe . When you rim, you don’t penetrate the anus. You’re licking the external anus, for the most part. (Perhaps you can get a half-inch inside the anus with your tongue, but that’s really it.) So an enema is not necessary the way it is if you’re being penetrated with a penis or dildo.
Let's get one thing straight right off the bat: before you put your tongue or mouth on anyone’s butt, you have to ask for your partner's consent. Make sure both you and your partner are down to give this a try. “Being able to trust your partner and talk about what does or does not feel good makes a big difference in the experience,” Overstreet says.
If you go down south without asking your partner if it's OK beforehand, that won’t be fun for anyone. It could even be traumatizing for them. “Shock or discomfort also makes the anal muscles tense up, which means less pleasure for all parties involved,” Sinclair warns.
Once your partner has given you the OK (or you've given your partner the OK), you can simply incorporate it into your regular sex session. “If you are the receiver, you can ask your partner while they are giving you oral sex [or a hand job] to back up and stimulate the anal area,” suggests Overstreet.
Sinclair suggests stimulating your own anus to get used to the sensation beforehand. It’s important to figure out what might feel good for you. You can do this using your fingers or with a small butt toy. Be sure to use lots of lube .
You might be wondering: OK, so how do I actually lick this butt now that I’m down here? Start by trying to put your partner at ease, says Sinclair. "Massage around the bum a bit, slowly making your way in towards the anus with gentle movements,” she says. This will help them relax.
Sinclair says one of the best analingus techniques is to “swirl the tip of your tongue in a circle around the opening,” she says. “You can [also] flick the tip of your tongue up and down just over the opening.” Another tip? Try softening the tongue and licking up and down the entire anus, “sort as if you were eating an ice cream cone.”
Again, communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn’t, and always listen to your partner’s body. “When the receiver gets more aroused, or when you find a move that really works for them, you might notice that the anus relaxes and expands a little bit," says Overstreet. This is a good sign. It means the body is responding positively to the pleasure.
If you're receiving, offer feedback about what feels good to you. Overstreet says to breathe into your body, focus on the pleasure, and try to relax as much as possible.
If you find you enjoy it, go forth and experiment! Try rimming on your back, or maybe give facesitting a try. Don’t be afraid to venture into new territory. Sex is fun and we should all get a little creative every once in a while. Otherwise, what’s the point?

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