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At the Back of Your Mind: Anal Pleasure through Oral Sex
This article was scientifically fact-checked by Human Sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz .
This year is predicted to be the year of the broken taboo , particularly as it pertains to the exploration of anal pleasure. Outdated stigmas and assumptions are being shed and we’re shifting towards a more tolerant cultural space, even if it doesn’t always feel like it.
Our fans have not been shy in asking us about all sorts of pleasure, and we were impressed with (but not surprised by) the amount of inquiries we’ve received recently received about rimming.
Below we shed some light on this oral skill, and give some helpful hints and tips as well!
Sometimes called a rim job, analingus (sometimes spelled ‘anilingus’ as per its first use by sexologist Richard von Krafft-Ebing back in 1886) is the sexual stimulation of the anus and rectum, orally. This area on the body is filled with nerve endings, and the gentle pressure of lips and tongue combined with the lubrication of saliva and/or lubricant can make rimming extremely enjoyable for both men and women to receive (and give).
It’s worth noting that, while the concept might seem shocking to some, blow jobs and cunnilingus were similarly thought of as taboo acts into the 20 th century (and all three were invented centuries before we even had names for them).
Of course, many people enjoy that very sense of taboo; the idea of doing something naughty and outrageous in the heat of the moment is certainly a valid reason for enjoying any sex* act. So, whether you want to take a walk on the wild side or simply like the sensation, there’s nothing wrong with indulging in a little oral-anal play.
All STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections) that can be spread through cunnilingus or fellatio can be spread through rimming, plus a few more that are specific to the act and outlined here in detail.
Our advice, beyond having an open conversation with your partner about sexual health and histories, is to employ a lot of the same common-sense advice that we give for all anal play: precede sex with a thorough (but gentle!) washing of the perineum as well as anal region with soap. Washing or scrubbing too vigorously can cause micro-tears that increase your chances of infection. Of course, if either partner has a cut in or around their mouth (or in the anal region) then this act should be put on hold until it heals.
The use of a condom or dental dam (with water-based lubrication ) is a great way to prevent infection, and allow you to switch from oral-anal stimulation to fellatio or cunnilingus without chancing a bacterial infection.
Let’s move on to how oral-anal sex is actually given. Firstly, it is worth reminding that surprising someone with rimming is generally not a great plan. If you’re interested in doing it (or having it done), discuss this with your partner!
You can warm up to stimulation by using your (well-lubricated) finger or fingers to caress the area. Start by licking the perineum (the area between the penis or vagina and anus) to get your partner used to the sensation. This area is particularly sensitive on the male body, and can bear strong pressure from your tongue.
Now, bring the wetted tip of your tongue toward the anal opening in swirling or an up-and-down motion. Experiment with different speeds and pressures, using your partner’s moans as cues for what works best.
After plenty of warm up, you might want to try for actual penetration with the tongue; which can generally fall into the category of ‘shallow’ or ‘deep’ stimulation.
The first can precede the second, or be ‘as far as things go,’ so to speak, according to what’s most comfortable and pleasurable for the giver and receiver. To do so, you simply continue the motions of external stimulation with slight (only a few centimeters) of the tongue within the receiver.
Deeper insertion depends a lot on the length and flexibility of the giver’s tongue, and when inserted to its entirety, it is best to slow the motion to large circles, accompanied by masturbation of the penis or gentle stimulation on the perineum or testicles, or massaging the clitoris or G-spot .
While the 69 position might seem like the best for giving and receiving a rim job, there are plenty of other positions perfect for beginners.
It can be much easier to have the receiving partner bend forward. This can be in the standing position , or in a doggystyle position ; both have their pros and cons, and are highly dependent on the relative height of partners. Because this act doesn’t involve the typical body parts we involve in sex, it’s good to have hands free for stimulation of other erogenous zones either by hand or small vibrator .
Still Curious? You can read more expert articles about anal sex or go back to our Ultimate guide to everything about anal.
*In this article, for ease of reader understanding, we are using the words sex and intercourse as synonymous, as is done in popular culture in general. Similarly, we use the word “foreplay” the way it is used in popular culture (i.e., the sexual acts such as oral sex that come before intercourse). However, as aptly pointed out by our sex expert Laurie Mintz, we would also like to acknowledge that such language exalts men’s most reliable rout to orgasm and linguistically erases women’s most reliable route to orgasm—clitoral stimulation, either alone or coupled with penetration. Indeed, only between 4% and 18% of women reliably orgasm from penetration alone. We look forward to the day when such language is not commonly used in culture.
Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., is a professor at the University of Florida, teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of students a year. She has published over 50 research articles and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association. Dr. Mintz also has maintained a private practice for over 30 years, working with individuals and couples on general and sexual issues. She is also an author and speaker, spreading scientifically-accurate, sex-positive information to enhance sexual pleasure.
Katy Thorn is a post-grad writer with a passion for writing about sex, sexuality, and all things rated R. She received her degree in Women’s Studies with a focus in Intersectionality at the University of California, Berkeley (Go Bears!). She has a cat named Yoko, drinks too much black coffee, and hates writing bios.
Laurie Mintz, Ph.D., is a professor at the University of Florida, teaching Human Sexuality to hundreds of students a year. She has published over 50 research articles and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association. Dr. Mintz also has maintained a private practice for over 30 years, working with individuals and couples on general and sexual issues. She is also an author and speaker, spreading scientifically-accurate, sex-positive information to enhance sexual pleasure.
I dont know if this is the place to ask but i’m curious, in porn they go anal to vaginal without cleaning or condom, how dont they get infections etc? Or maybe they just do and get meds…? Any input?
Ps great article! Im sending it to my gf…we’ll see what happends
Hi there! It’s always key to remember that any porn video you watched will have been edited, and sometimes a half hour video will be created from an entire day’s worth of shooting! It’s entirely likely that some clean up has been done between, as health is of utmost concern to performers.
I as a male totally enjoy giving analogues. Even the aroma of a clean anus is very stimulating for me. I do find most women do not want there anus licked or kissed. To me it is so giving for a woman to offer her anus as a lovely part of her body
I love pleasuring my woman with my tongue and that is both holes, that really gets me in the mood. But it is better if she reciprocates. These acts lead to great lovemaking.
I was only recently and happily introduced to anal sex by my lady friend, and have become an avid fan. Both of us are older, and though each of us have had many sex partners over many decades, I just didn’t engage in ass play with any of my partners, and only one former lover of mine did with her ex-husband. Frankly, it just didn’t interest me, mostly due to my preconceived notions that it was “dirty.” My current lover however, prepares ahead of time and is very clean. She really enjoys anal intercourse, and led me to discover the purely wonderful pleasures of ass fucking; we incorporate it regularly into the repertoire of our always imaginative and varied sex play together. Recently though, early into one of our usual hours-long sex sessions, I found myself tonguing her ass and gently penetrating her with my tongue. The experience was so exciting, making for a heightened arousal in me that she thoroughly enjoyed. When I had earlier brought the subject of “rimming” to her in the recent past, she was reluctant and hadn’t done that before, though she loves anal intercourse. On our way home, I mentioned my tonguing her ass. At first she said she was somewhat embarrassed, but then found the experience very pleasurable and very exciting. It now is a regular part of our play, and the notion of “taboo breaking” makes it all the more enjoyable and fun.
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Rimming, also known as analingus or salad tossing, is oral sex to the butthole. (See also: the part in Nicki Minaj’s “ Anaconda ” where she raps, “Toss my salad like his name Romaine.”) For some among us, rimming might be an immediate “ O h hell no. " (Which is fine—all sexual activities are on an “as wanted and fully revokable at any time” basis.) But maybe you’re curious or you watched that scene on Girls where Marnie looked pretty damn happy receiving a rim job. If you fall into the latter category, these rimming positions might be all it takes to make you an analingus afficionado.
“Rimming is a rather taboo adventure, but the anal opening is rich in sensitive nerve endings, and when licked, sucked or French-kissed with a hot wet tongue can feel incredibly pleasurable and highly erotic,” says Domina Doll , a passion, pleasure, and empowerment coach, and writer at Sexpert .
Listen, if the idea of eating someone’s butthole is something you permanently want to erase from your mind forever, we totally get it. But if you take the right measures to ensure a clean, sexy, positive experience, well…don’t knock it till you try it.
“A way to overcome the fear of ending up with a ‘potty mouth’ is to make sure everything down there is squeaky-clean. Make sure to have a shower or bath beforehand and thoroughly clean your a-hole with mild soap and water,” says Doll. “Don’t eat anything for a few hours before your ass-licking sesh, especially gassy foods that may make you fart.” (Sorry to shine a light on that particular Special Relationship Moment.)
And beyond avoiding all gasses, rimming also requires safety just like any other form of sex. “Dental dams are a great way to protect yourself from STIs and other infections when rimming. If you don’t have a dental dam on hand, cut up a medical glove or condom to make a dental dam,” says Isabelle Uren , a certified sexpert and writer at sex positive website Bedbible.com . To prevent infection, don’t switch from rimming to other forms of oral sex.
“Variety is key,” says Uren. “Change up the sensation by varying the patterns and pressure —try zig-zagging your tongue, making small circles, or making figure-eight motions. You can also lightly blow on their skin to create a cool tingle of pleasure as your breath cools the saliva or lube.”
“While rimming can feel amazing, combining it with other types of stimulation can be truly mind-blowing!” says Uren. “For penis owners, you can massage the perineum to stimulate their prostate or get their scrotum and penis in on the action. For vulva owners, try adding in some fingering or clitoral stimulation.”
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Want to do a little exploration in private ? “If you want to experience rimming but don't have a partner close by, b-Vibe has a rimming plug with rotating beads to mimic the sensation of a circling tongue,” says Uren. (If you’re liking it, here’s a bunch of other butt-focused toys to try.) You can also lube up a finger and try tapping, rubbing and making circles around your bum hole to see what you might like.
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If you’ve tried rimming before and you already know you love it, try face-sitting for an ~extremely~ direct approach. “You can either be facing them directly for some intimate eye contact, or facing away from them to be able to touch their body (or yourself),” says Alma Ramírez Acosta , co-founder of Vibio , a women- and LGBT-owned startup making app-controlled sex toys and inclusive content. Try a toy on your clit for double stimulation.
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You can easily adjust the classic 69 position for rimming. It’s pretty much the same, but you’ll both need to curl up a bit more to get butt-access. “The receiver performs oral sex on the giver while the giver eats their partner’s bum. Defo a win-win for both parties,” says Aliyah Moore, PhD , resident certified sex therapist at SexualAlpha . Remember: Don’t switch from butt to genitals to avoid transferring germs.
Easy, basic positions work well for first-timers. Get yourselves showered up, then the receiver lies back with their knees bent up toward their chest. “This position still gives the giving partner easy access to the receiver’s breasts and clitoris—or with a male butt, access to the penis and testicles—for stimulation fun,” says Kenneth Play , sex coach. “If you want to use a barrier for your rimming but don’t have a dental dam handy, a quick sex hack is to grab some plastic wrap to use instead.”
“A nice position for beginners is to lie down on your stomach,” says Erika Lust , feminist erotic filmmaker. “Enjoying anal play is often all about being able to relax, and this is one of the most comfortable positions for the receiver. It can also be helpful to put a pillow under your hips to raise your butt slightly. Plus, you can always use your free hands to pleasure yourself at the same time.”
“It can be a really hot introduction to take a shower together and start practicing some rimming while you’re in there,” says Lust. “For beginners, I recommend doing a simple standing position. The receiver can stand up, holding on to the wall if they need, and the other person can crouch down behind them. I recommend this for people who feel self-conscious or worry that rimming isn't hygienic or clean.”
One person stands on the floor and bends over a bed, the other kneels behind them. Easy, sexy, ergonomic. “Standing and bending over can feel more comfortable for some folks, or it can feel more exposed and vulnerable, which can be exciting. It also lends itself well to sensual spanking, etc.,” says sex and relationship coach Charlie Glickman . “Experiment with how far apart you spread your legs to find the most comfortable spot.”
Some finger foreplay to rimming never hurt, right? “Get connected with some caressing and washing, then make your finger a little soapy and move in concentric circles toward the anus, making sure to get into the crevices and ridges around the entrance,” says Play. “You can also move your finger a little bit inside the actual hole. I also sometimes do a little finger play here too, which is great if you think you’ll be moving from rimming to anal penetration later on.” Enhance the rim job with something up front —a waterproof toy, well-aimed shower head, or hand.

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