Pregnant Suck

Pregnant Suck

Pregnancy

My Pregnant Life

Pregnancy Emotions

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When I was carrying my twin girls, I bonded with friendly strangers over bizarre food cravings, unprecedented spousal solicitousness, and even descriptions of potentially worrisome cervical discharge. How could I not? As soon as women see your titanic belly ready to burst forth with imminent adorableness, they simply must comment on your radiance and relay their own pregnancy tales. This compulsion, of course, comes from a good place: the desire to share in your presumed joy. But I always felt a bit outside the club when someone would inevitably say, "Pregnancy was the most wonderful time of my life. Especially after the first trimester, I felt great, physically and emotionally. I wanted to have sex, like, all the time, and the orgasms were off the charts! I felt like I could do anything ! Don't you?"

Somehow, "Nope, I actually feel like complete and utter crap!" didn't seem appropriate. Nor did "I haven't slept well in months, I am exhausted and anxious, and I can't keep anything down except Popsicles -- specifically, orange ones -- and it might be my imagination, but I think even my face is getting wider!" Admitting that I irrationally resented my husband for knocking me up also didn't seem right, especially since we had undergone infertility treatments. Clearly, I had asked for this! I had no sex drive and was so big that even if I had wanted to have an orgasm, I'm not sure anyone could have found the key parts.

When talking to a close friend in those early months, I'd admit that I wished I could go to sleep and wake up on my due date with two clean, pink little sweeties who were no longer occupying my body like anti-government protesters. Aside from being totally thrilled with the strongest, longest fingernails I've ever had, I'd never felt worse. I knew I'd love my girls; that wasn't the issue. The issue was that I wanted my body back, like, yesterday.

Thanks to nausea, heartburn, and near immobility in the later weeks, I didn't get to enjoy many of the things I had been looking forward to, like eating doctor-sanctioned extra calories, calmly shopping for the ideal city stroller, or taking prenatal yoga classes, for instance. I tried yoga once, early in my second trimester, and accidentally invented a new position: hyperventilating cow. I wound up lying on the mat, panting and marveling at what the other women's bodies were able to do. I didn't feel beautiful; I felt huge and ungainly.

I read about moms who played their fetuses Spanish language tapes, exercised, and ate perfectly to produce healthy, brilliant babies. I worried that I wasn't able to give mine even the bare minimum in utero: sustenance and a stress-free environment in which to thrive.

And it wasn't just the physical discomfort. I was pretty freaked out about the fact that I was having twins. When you've had a hard time getting pregnant , you really don't imagine that you'll end up with multiples, even though you've been told the odds. It took me the entire pregnancy to wrap my brain around the fact that I was going to need lots of help, probably more than I was comfortable accepting. My irritability didn't exactly help my relationship with my husband, either. He tried to be supportive, but it's pretty hard

to support a two-ton cauldron of hormones with constipation.

I knew I wasn't the only one who wasn't having a "good" pregnancy. I couldn't be, or that term wouldn't even exist. By midway through my 37 weeks, I'd openly admit to anyone who'd listen that, no, this wasn't the best time of my life, and in fact, I couldn't wait for it to be over. A few others acknowledged that while they, too, considered themselves blessed, being pregnant basically sucked. After a while, I stopped feeling bad about feeling bad and just went with it, which made me feel better.

Still, I was surprised that so few women alluded to anything but rosy memories. Maybe this is because they so love the result of their pregnancies -- their children -- that they've let the unpleasant parts fade from their psyches. Perhaps it felt like a betrayal of their babies to admit that their pregnancies were not so wonderful. I know my own initial hesitation in being more candid came from the pressure I felt to act as if everything was perfect. You have to believe you can do this motherhood thing. It's too late to back out! So you choose to fake it until you make it.

Eventually, of course, the babies came out, and I was finally able to begin the real business of motherhood. In retrospect, I see that pregnancy is to parenting as planning a wedding is to marriage. We have so many expectations of what the experience will be like, and we work so hard to make it perfect, when the truth is, what really matters is the lifelong relationship that follows.

If you're like me and pregnancy isn't the glowy, glorious experience you expected, rest assured that's fine. Take it from the mother of now 10-year-old daughters: You have a lot to look forward to. I promise you, having them outside your body is a whole lot more fun than inside, where you can't even hug them.

Originally published in the October 2013 issue of American Baby magazine.

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It’s no secret on how I feel about being pregnant. I will tell anyone and everyone who asks that it just plain out sucks. The outcome is the absolute best thing in the world but the 9 1/2 months leading up to that moment is just….rough.
I know there are many out there that just don’t see it the way I do, some might agree but just don’t want to admit it because they feel like they will be looked at as a terrible person, and there are a few that whole-heartedly agree. I don’t think feeling this way makes me a terrible person or a bad mother, I’m just being honest. It SUCKS!
So why does it suck you may be wondering. I bet you think I’m just going to complain about being tired or morning sickness. Nah, everyone hates that. There are other aspects of my pregnancies that are hard for me to handle and I’m not afraid to admit them!
Reason #1 – Major Case of the Uglies…All.The.Time.
As much as I’ve tried to find clothes – maternity or not – to flatter my ever expanding bod, you just feel less than cute. I know a lot of people love the way their bump looks, and sometimes I do…but other times I just feel like a bloated, hot mess. Looking in the mirror I can see my face expanding along with my giant ass. I envy those women who barely gain an ounce of weight while I fall in the category of ogre.
Reason #2 – I can’t eat THAT either?!
We all know the typical foods and beverages that all pregnant women should stay away from – alcohol, caffeine, raw fish – but cmon! Cold Cuts, hot dogs, soft CHEESE?! Now you are cutting me to the bone. I love cheese, all kinds of cheese, especially soft cheeses. And do you know how hard it is to order a chicken salad sub at Publix when all I want is a freakin’ turkey and cheese?! Ugh. I know, I can eat it if it’s heated up, but I like my subs and my cheeses cold – it’s just not the same. Even though I don’t eat hot dogs on the regular, when I am watching back-to-back episodes of Diner, Drive In’s & Dives and Guy keeps hitting spots that make those decadent pork delights, when you’re pregnant, you want one. Right then and there! I could totally go for a chili cheese dog right now btw, just sayin’.
Reason #3 – Sweating like a pig on the regular.
Never get pregnant during the summer time! You are hot and sweaty as it is, adding in 100 degree weather along with humidity is absolute torture. If you are not in a pool or in the AC, you are pretty much screwed.
Uh, since when is this a freaking symptom of pregnancy!?? With my first, I was absolutely miserable with morning sickness and swollen feet, this time around freakin’ bloody noses almost every other day! I will admit as I am nearing the end, they have gotten better, but damn, it was bad!
Reason #5 – Snoring like a lumberjack.
You’d think I wouldn’t know I snore and that this would really only bother my husband, which it 100% does, but I wake myself up from snoring so bad. It’s not even normal snoring, it sounds like someone is choking me and that I am struggling for breath. I hear it in my dreams and it wakes me up. Bad enough every time I wake I have to get out of bed to pee, but seriously, I need all the sleep I can get and this snoring totally ruins it. Even if it doesn’t wake me up, you still don’t get a great sleep with a night of snoring. The absolute worst.
Reason #6 – Pelvic pain to the nth degree.
This is one of the worst things about being pregnant and absolutely deserves a spot on this list. Pelvic pain is probably the most painful thing EVER! With my first I literally thought my lady parts were going crack and shatter to a million pieces. I know our bodies are widening and making room for the baby to pop out but I can’t even begin to describe the pain or the feeling, but if you have ever had it, you know what I’m talking about. I had to get a special belt to wear to hold my hips in, try sleeping comfortably in that thing!
Reason #7 – All the damn doctor appointments.
It’s pretty annoying. Every month I have to go to a high-risk doctor to check on the baby, then my OB every 2 weeks and to my endocrinologist every couple months. So basically I have about 3-4 doctor appointments a month, for 10 months. 2 hours out of my day for each appointment, give or take a half hour. Yeah, yeah-I know its for the good of the baby, but it’s just annoying! Don’t even get me started on the labs-I think they have taken at least 30 viles of blood from me since I found out I was pregnant. They know me by name at Quest. I will say, the only plus about all these damn doc appointments is I get a to see the baby every month and get some good ultrasound shots.
It’s bad enough our bodies get distorted, bloated, cellulite-y and stretched to the limit, our cute little belly buttons get pushed to its extreme. Not only does it hurt when touched or when my clothes rub against it, but it just get ugly looking. Now, I have seen some really bad pushed out belly buttons – like my poor sister. She has an outtie and that thing stuck out like 3 inches with all her pregnancies. It was weird, unnatural and that thing could hurt someone! And after having babies I totally regret getting mine pierced back when I was 18. It makes my stomach look that much worse and gave me stretch marks! If only I could get in my Delorian and go back in time that one day in Daytona Beach when that immature teen was getting pierced and show her what it looks like now.
Reason #9 – Hemmroids & Constipation
And Reason #10…the most important one… NO ALCOHOL!
Yes, this is a major reason why it sucks. I can’t enjoy a delicious extra-dirty vodka martini or a bottle of vino (yes, a bottle!). My husband and I are drinking buddies and it sucks to sit there sipping on a lame ass “mocktail” of cranberry juice and seltzer while your hubby unwinds with mixed drink of delicious vodka and bubbly club soda with a twist of lime and lemon. Mmmmm. Even though our dinners out are a hell of a lot cheaper now that I am not partaking in the fun but damn do I miss it! My tolerance may be at an all time low after the baby but holy crap will it be nice to have a Happy Hour at the end of August. Who’s in???!
So those are my top 10 reasons why being preggo sucks. There is more..lots more, but I thought I’d spare you all. You’re welcome.
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Childbirth is one of the miracles of life – but pregnancy does bring along some bodily changes that may be considered unwanted.
One of the main concerns mothers have during pregnancy is how much their bellies grow. While they understand that a large tummy comes with pregnancy, they still wish they can fit into their old jeans. The classic move would be to simply suck in their stomach. However, can they suck in their stomach? Or more importantly, is it safe?
For the most part, sucking in your stomach when pregnant is perfectly safe as the pressure caused is not enough to affect the baby protected by the womb. As long as it is not done for prolonged periods of time or when lying down, sucking in the stomach when pregnant is safe to do.
This article will detail the several factors pregnant mothers need to consider before they can suck in their stomachs.
Even though pregnancy and giving birth are life-changing moments, most women would typically discover that they are pregnant between Weeks four to seven . Upon learning about their pregnancies, most women would be too overwhelmed to think about their growing bellies. However, soon enough, some might start wondering when they will have to look for maternity clothes.
If a woman discovers her pregnancy early, they can actually prepare for quite some time. While it may be different from one woman to the next, pregnancies typically begin to show between Weeks 12-16 . If they are concerned about having a big belly, they can actually use this time to prepare.
For example, they can use this time to prepare a wardrobe that can effectively hide the baby bump. Women can use maxi dresses and empire waist dresses that can help shape the body in a flattering manner even when pregnant.
Another thing pregnant women can do to help them with their belly is to do sit-ups. While there is a misconception that exercise would be too much of a physical strain on a pregnant woman, exercise is actually recommended.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that pregnant women should do at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic physical activity per week. Best spread throughout the week, physical activity is recommended for overall health.
Sit-ups are great for training the core. Since the exercise specifically targets that area of the body, some might be hesitant to do sit-ups during pregnancy. As a rule of thumb, exercise is safe to perform up to Week 16. It is also highly recommended to confirm with your doctor whether you are capable of doing exercises during your pregnancy or not.
It must be understood that sit-ups will not be able to help hide the baby bump. However, the strengthening of the core will be helpful when giving birth. It will also help the woman’s body bounce back after the pregnancy.
Going back to the original question, pregnant women can most definitely suck in their stomachs. Sucking in their stomach can help them get into certain clothes and make them feel good about themselves. Understandably, women are concerned if whether sucking in their stomachs is safe for the baby or not.
For the most part, sucking in your stomach when pregnant is perfectly safe. While you might be concerned that you are putting pressure on the baby, you must understand that the baby is found within the muscular walls of the uterus – it will take more than just sucking in your stomach to put enough detrimental pressure on the baby.
When you suck in your stomach, you use your abdominal muscles to pull in the belly, effectively moving the intestines, the stomach, and other internal organs around. Fortunately, all this will still not be able to affect the developing baby inside the womb. However, it should also be recommended that you don’t suck in your stomach for prolonged periods of time.
Understandably, you will need to stop if ever you feel any discomfort while sucking in your stomach. You will have to learn to listen to your body to find out what feels right and what feels wrong.
You can even exercise the movement of sucking in your stomach. Since it is safe, you can do this anytime. All you need to do is take a deep breath, suck your stomach in, and slowly release the breath and the stomach simultaneously. The repetition of this exercise might make it easier for you to suck in your stomach.
While sucking in your stomach may not necessarily have any safety issues for the baby, it is highly advised to avoid sucking in your stomach while lying down. The act of sucking in your stomach is not the problem here – it’s gravity. The combination of sucking in your stomach and gravity might pose problems for your blood flow.
Specifically, an important vein can be found in the abdomen – the inferior vena cava. This major vein collects deoxygenated blood from the lower half of the body and brings it all back to the heart to be pumped through the lungs and become oxygenated once more.
The problem with sucking in your stomach and lying down at the same time is that you might be putting too much pressure on this vein. Of course, this refers to lying down on your back. This means that sucking in your stomach while lying on your belly should be fine as well. To reiterate, it is imperative that you listen to what your body feels.
When discussing sucking in the stomach during pregnancy, it is difficult to avoid the topic of diastasis recti. Diastasis recti is the condition where the rectus abdominis muscles (the muscle considered as the six-pack) separate in the middle. Diastasis recti is commonly identified by a visible bulge in the middle of the abdomen. The condition is often compared to a zipper that has burst at its seams in the middle.
Many people are concerned that sucking in your stomach when pregnant can lead to diastasis recti. This correlation is probably from the fact that pregnancy is a common cause of diastasis recti. The probability of developing diastasis recti can even increase due to having multiple pregnancies.
Other risk factors that can cause diastasis recti include bodybuilding, weightlifting, and laborers. The common denominator of all these risk factors is a high strain on the abdominal muscles.
Although pregnancy does increase the likelihood of diastasis recti, there are no studies stating that sucking in the stomach when pregnant can further increase it. As long as the sucking of the stomach is not done for prolonged periods of time, it should be safe to do.
While diastasis recti does not necessarily affect the development of the baby, it can have troubling consequences down the line. The most common issue caused by diastasis recti is fetal misalignment. The fetus inside the womb is positioned very specifically. Lacking support from the mother’s core, the baby can be misaligned, an issue that can potentially affect labor.
Lori Herbert lives in a house of all males - a husband and three lively boys. She believes that parenting is messy, and that's okay. Thanks to her experience in Psychology, she's learned how that was the case for most people - and that the best way to help them open up was through kindness, compassion, and communication.

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