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While to some, golden showers are the butt of a Donald Trump joke, to others, they are an extremely erotic experience. Golden showers are one form of piss play , which is exactly what it sounds like: sexual play involving piss. Though they may seem easy to make fun of because most of us grew up with bathroom humor, we should probably be nicer when it comes to the topic of golden showers because a lot of people are into them, and kink-shaming isn't cool .
Some people engage in golden showers as part of BDSM . BDSM involves a power exchange in which one partner is submissive and the other partner is dominant. In this particular scenario, the dominant partner typically pees on the submissive. Other people just try them out because they're horny and bored. Let's talk about all the reasons people love golden showers and what you should know if you're interested in trying out this particular kink.
This particular kink is actually incredibly ordinary, according to the experts. "Urophilia — golden showers, piss play, and the like — is such a common kink that there are piss parties full of folks who want to explore this," says New York sex therapist and relationship counselor Michael DeMarco . New York City-based professional and lifestyle dominatrix Goddess Aviva adds, "It’s so common! People love to be peed on. And quite a few of them also like to drink it." In fact, an Australian survey says that around four percent of men have a piss play fetish, and Pornhub stats show that searches for "golden shower" (along with related terms) increased exponentially in 2017 after it was alleged that Donald Trump enjoyed watersports.
There are also quite a few online communities for folks to go who are interested in golden showers. In fact, the "watersports" (another name for piss play) group on the kinky social media website FetLife boasts over 25,000 members. Additionally, there are dating apps and websites specifically tailored to folks looking to find other kinky people to hook up with, including KinkD , BDSM.com , Fetster.com , and more.
Any time you are exchanging bodily fluids, there is going to be some risk. According to Kimberly Langdon, an OB/GYN and clinical advisor at Medzino Health , it's only true that urine is sterile if the person peeing is completely healthy. "Urine can spread disease, including bacterial, fungal, and viral infections," she explains. During a golden shower, this most commonly occurs if the recipient has an open wound.
"Regarding skin contact , urine will usually cause no harm if there are no fissures, broken skin or open wounds," Langdon adds. "If this is, however, the case, then urine can cause infection if the partner urinating has a bacterial infection and the urine comes into contact with wounds and mucous membranes."
So, if you're enjoying golden showers with someone whose health status you are unsure of, make sure there are no open wounds on you, and ask them to aim somewhere besides the mouth, such as on your stomach. Discuss your health with your partner; professional dominatrixes are already on it.
"With anything where you're sharing bodily fluid, you need to make sure that you’re not sick or have any kind of infection. It’s also really important to hydrate. The other factor that you should consider, is how close you are to someone’s mouth. A way to avoid that is to be above them," Goddess Aviva says.
First off, the person performing the golden shower will probably want to drink a lot of water an hour or so beforehand. Like, a lot. It's also important to pick the right place — golden showers probably shouldn't take place in your bed. "If you’re curious about golden showers, an easy way to do it is to be in the shower or bath. And if you’re not really into it, you can rinse it off right away," Goddess Aviva says.
Once you've figured out where it's going to happen (and who it's going to happen with), make sure that all parties know what the plan is and are fully consenting. Consent is the most important part of any sex act, after all. Have everything you want for clean-up nearby, and everyone should have a safe word ready, too.
Remember what we've discussed above — that urine isn't sterile, and that the person receiving the golden shower shouldn't have any open cuts or sores. If this checks out, then you're good to go, but be patient, especially if it's the first time trying this for either of you. Lastly, when you're all done, clean off, and if you feel like it, keep the fun going .
Other than clean-up and potential risks from fluid exchange, should this be something you want to try, you just have to make peace with your desire to try giving or receiving a golden shower and then discuss it with your partner(s) so you can experience one from a place of mutual enthusiastic consent.
"Owning your sexual expression from the get-go will put you on more solid ground once you're in a relationship to be able to have awkward or challenging talks about sexuality and how your sexual expression might evolve," Langdon says. Now that you know all about piss play, there's only one thing left to do if you want to try it for yourself — go find a partner who is into it, too. Happy kink month , babes.
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My wife (38f) and I (40m) have been married 15 years and been together since our teens. She is normally a bit conservative a has only been with me. I bust my ass and make good money, nice, house, nice cars and we have two great kids (12&14).
She works part time jobs for extra income and to get out of the house. In the beginning of June she started working a few days a week at a new company and became close friends with a woman there named Misty. She constantly talks about her and texts back and forth every night, but I hadn't met her yet.
Last Saturday night my wife wanted to go have a food and drinks with Misty at a local gastropub. I was totally cool with her going and she said she would be home by midnight. Her car was in the shop getting some minor paint work repaired so she drove my truck.
At 12:45am she still hadn't come home, so I sent her a text. She never replied to my text, so I stayed up watching TV till she arrived. At 2am I hear a car pull into the driveway and looked out and I could see her and the female driver exit the car. I could see that there were three other people still in the car.
I could tell that my wife could barely walk as the two of the approached the front door. I was concerned, but I figured that her friend being nice enough to make sure that she made it into the house safely. When I opened the door, her friend says " Hi, i'm Misty your wife best friend". I look at my wife and she is completely trashed, barely knows where shes at.
Then her friend says "we are here to get your ROKU (streaming device for Netflix)". I said "yeah, I think we are gonna call it a night". Then Misty says "we are going back to my place to watch Stranger Things. I said"not tonight". Meanwhile, my wife is totally out of it, I have never seen her this way.
Misty grabs my wifes hand and says "we don't need your permission" and starts leading her back to the car. I walk after them and see that there are actually three guys sitting in the car, two in the back and one up front. as I approach them I grab my wife hand and tell Misty to "Go the Fuck Home".
My wife at this point has enough sense to walk back over to me and then one of the guys in the car starts running his mouth. This asshole has the audacity to says "you don't own her". Hes talking about my Fucking WIFE, the mother of my two children. Then hes says "do you want me to kick his ass?"
At this point I lose my shit and reach in the car and grabbed him by his neck. I could see the fear in his eyes and the other two seemed like they wanted nothing to do with this. By, now my wife is walking back in the house and her friend Misty is calling me a violent controlling abuser.
I tell them all to get the fuck off of my property and I go inside to find my wife puking in the shower. I put her to bed and waited for Sunday morning to talk. When she woke up, I asked where is my truck and who the fuck were those guys? She says "what guys", I say the fucking guys who brought you home to get the ROKU so you guys could Netflix and Chill at Mistys' house."
Shes like "they came here?" I said "OH YES". She claims that her and Misty were having a couple drinks after eating and these guys kept coming over to "talk with Misty". She remembers having a few drinks with them but claims to not even remember getting in the car.
I asked her if she did anything that I should know about and she swears up and down that she would never. I told her that this was complete BULLSHIT and that this shit will never happen again. Then I told her the entire story about her friend coming to get the ROKU and she thought that I was joking.
I showed her the actual ring doorbell recording. She was in complete shock at herself and couldn't believe the shit her friend was saying. I told her that she could drop the friend or move the fuck out. She chose to drop the friend and even agreed to quit the job.
Then Misty started blowing up her phone and my wife blocked her. Later on Sunday a police car showed up and I thought for sure I was getting arrested for choking that asshole, but Misty had called in to have a wellness check on my wife because she thought she was in danger. Today that bitch Misty called me at my job and said "I know shit about you".
I told her to fuck off and that I would get a restraining order if she ever contacted us again. I asked my wife WTF she was talking about and she acted like she had no idea. Now i'm not 100% sure that my wife is as innocent as I thought. Not sure what to do next.
If your wife is telling the truth, which I believe she is. You said she’s conservative, which to me translates as: lightweight. She was under the influence. I don’t think she cheated on you though but that’s just me
I kinda got that vibe too. Also, studies of drink spiking have shown the most common drink spiking agent is more alcohol. Buying people doubles when they want singles, adding vodka to beer, that sort of thing. Also just peer pressure to drink more than someone is capable of.
If they had roofied her I don't think they would have driven back to the marital home, they would have just gone someplace private.
Either way, that crowd seem sketchy as fuck, and someone in the group definitely had plans for the drunk girl. Probably the one who got all agro. And Misty sounds like someone who loves drama and saw the whole corrupting the conservative chick thing as a fun hobby.
Also just peer pressure to drink more than someone is capable of.
Probably this specifically rather than the other ways of spiking with more alcohol. Getting someone another round when they didn't ask for it, "let's all do shots!" etc.
That crowd was definitely sketchy as fuck and that guy did not get all aggro for no reason. Misty sounds awful. Why would you want to keep your shitfaced friend around a group of sketchy guys she doesn't know? Nevermind the fact she doesn't usually drink, nevermind the fact that she's married. Why would you put a friend in danger like that? They're not drunk 15-year-olds. Adults should know better.
I also wonder if Misty tried to coax information out of the wife when she was drunk that was blown out of proportion by Misty, or just plain misconstrued.
Misty: You're so much fun when you're drunk! Why do we never do this?
Wife: Oh husband and I aren't big drinkers. This is rare for me.
Misty: You're husband doesn't let you go out with your friends? He's so controlling!
Seriously if a friend is on that level of drunk, drugged or not, you get them home (or to a safe place) and make sure they have water and support.
One of the worst things a friend has ever done to me was leave a party without telling me (I had asked him to let me know when the group was walking home so I could go with them) purposefully to leave me alone with the dude who had been hitting on me all night, because my friends all thought I should hook up with him. I was pretty high, but I had repeatedly told my friends that I was not going to do that as I had a boyfriend. Ended up walking home by myself at like 4 am but I was pissed the next day.
Long story short, good friends don’t leave you in questionable environments when you’re intoxicated. They get you the fuck home.
Seriously if a friend is on that level. . .
I mean, it sounds like she hasn't know her for long and this bitch said
uhhh. . . yeah, sure you are. . .two months doesn't make you a best friend. . .
I mean Misty is clearly not a good friend. That was my point.
JFC, they knew you had a bf and still tried to hook you up with that guy?
Yeah I was pretty mad. My boyfriend and I were long distance, but monogamous.
I realized the friend trying to set that up was toxic as hell. He’s gay, and was sort into the guy he wanted to me to sleep with, and basically wanted me to do on his behalf??? It was weird. And definitely inappropriate.
The other friend I was with was too drunk to know what was going on so I don’t blame her. I’m just glad I wasn’t too high to walk myself home.
I shouldn’t judge people I don’t know but those sound like some shitty friends
Me and my mates had a hard rule of “never leave someone alone at a party” if there was 5 of us walking in, and 3 left, the last two would leave together, no matter what.
Being fucked up drunk/on drugs alone is not good
That should be the norm. In college I remember this lesson vividly because as a freshman we had an incident where a guy was left by his buddies, drunk, at a frat party and tried to walk back to his dorm in the middle of winter. He walked into a field of deep snow, passed out, and ended up paraplegic for life. 1 mile from town/campus.
I’m in my 30’s now and making sure everyone gets home safe, even though we’re all “old boring” fogies, is still a paramount priority for me. Take keys, call Uber’s, get water always , whatever you need to do, if it’s your friends group. If you don’t have friends who would do the same, they aren’t your friends.
Yeh it was just a no question rule with us. No matter what, no matter how fucked up the night got, there was always 2 minimum. We’d be out until well past daylight more than I want to admit, but always go home with a buddy.
Also, Misty bringing a trio of sketchy guys to a house willing to fight a man/husband that is caring for two adolescents. That shit really erks me.
They could, actually. I got roofied then the guys insisted on leaving me at my father's house, after other stuff happened (I didn't give my own address cause I was scared they'd try to find me again). It can happen.
My guess is Misty definitely knew the guys and was trying to instill trouble between his wife and him, and that they did drugged her. Awful people.
Yeah, particularly with the calling him at work and attempting blackmail type threats. No one does this unless there is already something wrong with their behavior to start. Like their bar for escalation is already higher than normal if this were the chosen next steps.
calling him at work and attempting blackmail type threats. No one does this unless there is already something wrong with their behavior to start
this, so much this! I know people who begin to freak out when they feel like they might get into some real legal trouble. They start trying to act tough and give out the "don't play with fire" vibe. . .
I am a young male bartender. I have never seen anything out of the ordinary but have heard 3 women/friends share roofie stories. It's more common than people like to think.
I have an ex whose drink was spiked. She hysterically begged me to pick her up from a bar because she felt in danger due to random dudes in her group. She was totally wasted. We drove away, she asked me to pull over. She puked violently and looked at me afterwards and said slowly, "Where the hell am I? I was having drinks and..." and she blanked.
Yeah I’ve had that happen to me before. Now I straight up don’t go out. It’s absolutely scary.
that is seriously fucked up, I'm glad you got her out of that situation
I've had the vodka to beer one happen to me. An honest thanks for adding it, it's the first time that incident has ever felt validated to me.
...fuck, this just puts into perspective something that happened to me like two years ago
This was my exact reaction to reading the drink spiking comment. I always felt dramatic calling it “drugging” but now I feel extremely validated that, yeah, I was purposely drugged. Damn.
I agree with the loving drama comment about the friend. I have an ex best friend who was incredibly affectionate and caring but LOVED drinking and soon loved that and the drama which comes with it which started to drift into her sober persona too. Sounds like the wife may have initially found a similar great friend who becomes a manipulative dra
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