Nasty Talk

Nasty Talk
"Keep it clean but nasty at the same time, if you understand what I'm saying."
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I think it has to be so in the moment and so natural,
if it's forced you sound ridiculous.
Good dirty talk is the perfect combination of like,
well the perfect middle ground between
being anatomical and then being like, metaphorical.
Like I don't want explicit names, anatomical names,
like I don't want you to call it a vulva.
But I definitely don't want you to call it like,
Good dirty talk I would say is kind of
I don't like the name calling too much, you know.
just keep it kinda clean but nasty at the same time
when you're really confident and like you know what you want
like if you say it with confidence and not sound awkward,
What makes bad is definitely when someone's like
trying to be more macho than they are.
You like have to be into it otherwise
I just am gonna start laughing at you.
If it's too intense and if it's too,
it's got too much energy behind it,
it gets a little bit too much and then I can't stop,
you know, cracking up cause I'm nervous.
Bad dirty talk is definitely when you say
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Give a few compliments. Start small. Just tell your lover how amazing they look or how great they are in bed. Just say, "You look amazing with your shirt off," or "It feels so good to be with you tonight." You can give a compliment to a specific body part by saying something like, "Your arms are so toned" or "I just can't get enough of your legs." Make your lover feel sexy and appreciated. [1]
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Start with some soft-core dirty talk. Take it a step further by initiating some soft-core dirty talk. This doesn't mean that you have to say anything X-rated. It just means that you can start talking about how much pleasure you feel and how turned on you are in a PG-13 kind of way. Here are some phrases to try:

"I want you so bad."
"I've wanted you all day."
"You smell so good."
"I've been looking forward to this."
"You look so sexy right now."
"You always know how to turn me on right away."

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Don't think of it as a performance. The easiest way to feel embarrassment or pressure when trying to talk dirty is to think of it as a performance. There's no wrong way to talk dirty; it should be an authentic expression of yourself. Don't say anything you don't want to, don't talk any more than what feels comfortable, and don't use any words you don't feel comfortable with. [2]
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Say "I love when you [verb] my [body part]." This is the perfect formula for a turn-on. There are a variety of verbs and body parts that you could insert into this sentence to turn your partner on. Here are a few of the milder options, though you can imagine some naughtier options as well:

"I love it when you kiss my neck."
"I love it when you touch my thighs."
"I love it when you lick my ears."
"I love it when you stroke my back."
Of course, you can always switch up the exact words you use for variation. For example, these same sentences can easily expressed as "It's so nice when you [verb] my [body part]" as well.

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Give a play-by-play. Describe what's happening as it's happening. Act like you're a sexy sports commentator and that you and your lover are the only team in town. Add, "I love it when..." or "It feels so good when you..." followed by what's happening to add extra pleasure to the event. Talking about what's happening while it's happening will make everything feel twice as good. [3]
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Here are some things you can say:

"I love getting on top of you."
"I love seeing you take your shirt off."
"I love kissing your neck."
"I love taking off my clothes for you."

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Ask if your lover likes what you're doing. As you continue to touch and caress your lover, ask if they like what you’re doing to them. Don’t just say, "Do you like that?" over and over. Instead, mix it up and make it specific, asking your lover if they like exactly what you’re doing to them. This can be a great way to learn more about what your partner enjoys! [4]
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Jacqueline Hellyer. Licensed Psychosexual Therapist.

Here are some things you can say: [5]
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"Do you like it when I touch you there?"
"Do you like it when I kiss you like this?"
"Does it feel good when I stroke you here/like this?"

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Say how excited you are. Don’t be afraid to tell your lover how good they are making you feel. Even a simple, "I’m so turned on" or "You're making me so.." can go a long way. Your partner will be more turned on just by hearing about how excited you are. You can be more specific about how turned on you feel and can even refer to your private parts for emphasis. [6]
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Continue to mix it up. As you continue talking dirty, just remember to keep things fresh by finding new things to say that turn your lover on. Don’t just use one technique—try using as many as you can if they turn you on. Try to be as specific as you can while you’re mixing things up.
Don’t just say that something feels good—tell your lover which part of your body feels good. If you’re so turned on that you feel it in your toes, tell them.

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Reveal your fantasies. Revealing your sexiest fantasy is a great way to talk dirty. Tell your lover your most illicit sexual fantasy. See if they can fulfill it. If you and your lover are really comfortable with each other, just let loose. Tell him/her everything you’ve always wanted and see how much it turns them on. [7]
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Just proceed with caution. If it’s really illicit, then you may want to get to make sure you’re really comfortable with your lover before you tell them your deepest darkest fantasy.

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Announce your orgasm. Simply telling your lover that you’re about to have an orgasm or that you can feel it coming will turn both of you on more. This will add even more build-up and will make you both feel even more excited when it does happen. [8]
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Give orders to your lover. Don’t be afraid to boss your lover around a bit. Tell them what you want them to do to you and be the taskmaster as they fulfill all of your desires. You can start simple, by saying, "Take my shirt off" or "Take off your pants" and get more elaborate as you start making love. [9]
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Don’t be afraid to get a little aggressive. Be the boss and tell your lover exactly what you want them to do to you.
You can both take turns giving orders. After you’ve been the boss for a while, try being a bit more submissive and do whatever your lover wants.

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Make sure both people are comfortable with dirty talk. Though dirty talking is an amazing part of sex for many couples, it does not make everyone comfortable. If your partner is just not okay with it, don't force it. If you try to force it, your partner will be ticked off instead of turned on. [10]
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Also, it's okay if your partner enjoys your dirty talk but isn't comfortable reciprocating. Of course, if you only enjoy dirty talk when it's going both ways, it might be better to forgo it completely. But it's perfectly acceptable to bring dirty talk into the bedroom even if only one of you is actually doing the talking.

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Communicate boundaries. Though you and your lover probably won't have a sit-down discussion about your expectations during dirty talk before your first sexual adventure, your boundaries should be communicated. You will probably start your first dirty talk session spontaneously, but at some point you should both make it clear if there are any words that make you uncomfortable.

If your lover says something too crude or offensive for you in bed, don't stop and get angry. Simply say something like, "Please don't say that again." If your lover doesn't get the message, then you can stop the action.
If you're too embarrassed to admit that a certain word makes you uncomfortable during sex, mention it afterwards. Make sure your lover gets the picture.

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