My Husband Is An Arsehole

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Arseholehusband ·

29/06/2013 22:34

We have been together for almost 16 years. We get on really well. Everything is fine except for when he has a drink.

He can't drink much and when he is pissed he is just an arse hole and I don't like him at all. He does not drink very often only about once a fortnight and he does not drink much but it really affects him and changes him into a completely different person.

I really don't know what to do as I enjoy a drink now and then ( no problems with it just a drink every couple of weeks ) but I am dreading him drinking as he is so horrible .

LEMisdisappointed ·

29/06/2013 22:35

what exactly do you mean by horrible? A bit of a wanker? or abusive?

WhoBU ·

29/06/2013 22:37

Arseholehusband ·

29/06/2013 22:39

I just don't like him he changes into someone else. The sober him would hate the drunk him He is not abusive but not someone I would choose to spend time with.

When I have a drink I am still me but he seems to be someone else and I don't like him. I think he is a cock and it is affecting how I see him as where does that come from ?

WitchOfEndor ·

29/06/2013 22:41

Once a fortnight isn't too often to drink, but it is too often to be an arsehole.

What does he do, and if he won't stop, can you do anything to avoid getting caught up in his arseholeness?

LEMisdisappointed ·

29/06/2013 22:42

You are probably a bit of a cock too when you are drunk, we all are, generally

Arseholehusband ·

29/06/2013 22:44

I think it is the contrast that is hard to handle. He is literally a different person after a few drinks and it is hard to cope with as I love him but can't understand how he changes so completely after a few drinks.

If he were like that all the time I would have no hesitation in leaving him but it is a very small amount of time he is like it. I would like to go to social evenings with PTA etc but I am too ashamed of him after a couple of drinks so don't dare take him to such events.

WhoBU ·

29/06/2013 22:50

But how is he different? Louder, more brash and more outspoken? That's what happens when most people drink.

Arseholehusband ·

29/06/2013 22:59

He is a cock I can't explain in much more detail. He goes from sober to absolutely drunk in a very short time. I think his family have a problem with metabolising alcohol as I know his uncle is the same.

runningonwillpower ·

29/06/2013 23:07

Have you just told him?

If it's that bad I'd just agree to go teetotal as a couple.

WhoBU ·

29/06/2013 23:40

Tbh I don't like anyone much when they're drunk and I'm not. Does he like you being drunk? Could you ask him to slow down or cut down?

calmingtea ·

30/06/2013 08:10

Dealing with a drunken arsehole every fortnight would be a dealbreaker for me. Life's too short to put up with rubbish like that. Most people drink and it does not turn them into wankers, it does not change their personas and the way they behave.

What he is doing sounds like a real problem. A definition of being an alcoholic is when you drink it affects your relationships, so if he is causing huge problems once a fortnight, he has a problem. It is regular and you don't want to cope with it, and I don't blame you. He needs to stop drinking imo. End of. Otherwise you will be putting up with this behaviour for the rest of your life.

mamabrownbear ·

30/06/2013 08:12

I'm in same boat. Last night, after celebrating our first wedding anniversary at lunch DH continued to drink and by midnight was verbally abusive, threatening to leave, destroyed my present to him, banging around in front of our 6 week old. He did this before but hasn't done this in a year. I threw him out but I suspect he went to the pub until closing and is currently asleep on sofa. I think this morning he will bevery hungover, still abusive and will talk about leaving. Usually, once this hangover has passed he is apologetic but this was all before we had a baby and now the rules have changed for me. If he doesn't leave then his options will be firstly counselling because he has serious hyper sensitivity issues. If he won't get counselling I'm leaving. Then he has to not drink because it changes him into a monster. Then we can take it from there. I need to put our child first and he needs help. He blames everything on me and that's not good for me either so you have to decide on what you want from this situation, what your options are and how you are going to be happy...good luck and strength to you for all the difficult decisions you might have to make x

worsestershiresauce ·

30/06/2013 08:20

I understand, my DH is exactly like this. His friends once summed it up by saying there are two Mr Worses. The nice one (when he is with me, so doesn't drink), and the nasty one when he is on his own, so does. He changes, becomes a bit vicious with his humour, and hurtful. I don't like this version at all. It took 13 years for him to realise it, so my advice is not to leave the bastard, but to try talk about it. Alcohol removes the off button that we all have that stops us doing or saying things we would otherwise never even think about.

RoooneyMara ·

30/06/2013 08:24

I would find this a massive turn off. In fact I did find it a massive turn off last year when I was with someone like this.

I left him. I have no regrets apart from putting up with it for even a coupl
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