My First Orgasm
🔞 ALL INFORMATION CLICK HERE 👈🏻👈🏻👈🏻
My First Orgasm
S.02, EP.6: SIRENS (W/Kiana Kalantar-Hormozi
https://open.spotify.com/episode/52234iIi5AmL7VmXJ28Rw4?si=aRNc9mwFQ-qO72UKY0nzeg Would you like to support YWCA Scotland? Click here. TRANSCRIPT Iris: Hello everyone and welcome to a new episode of The Importance of Being Feminist. Today, as you might have guessed, we're doing things a bit differently. MORE
LATEST FROM TWITTER
FOLLOW US
We use cookies to ensure that we give you the best experience on our website. If you continue to use this site we will assume that you are happy with it. Ok
I had my first orgasm when I was ten years old . Lying stomach down on a single bed in my small, yellow bedroom, I was playing with my cuddly animals— I liked to make them speak to each other, fight each other, kiss each other. Shifting around, I felt something I wasn’t quite sure I had ever felt before. Something… good .
Interest peaked, I kept moving myself – and moving, and moving – until… it happened. I didn’t know the word for it, I didn’t know I had been looking for it, but I knew that it had something to do with sex, and I knew I wanted it to happen again .
I can’t say for certain how often I did it in those days, but it felt like it was all the time . I loved this new feeling but I also felt a sense of shame and fear. I feared that somebody would find out, or that they would somehow just know . Above all I feared how they would look at me; like something strange, dirty, wrong .
It was around this time that I started seeing discharge in my underwear, a precursor to the arrival of my period. I wondered if this substance had something to do with what I was doing with myself; I even recall worrying that I could be pregnant. I knew enough to know that didn’t really make sense, but I was paranoid and confused .
Soon, in anticipation of my bodily changes , my parents gave me a book about girls and puberty. I searched through the book and I was relieved to find a simple explanation for the fluid in my pants. “ Great ”, I thought to myself, “ this book really is helpful ”.
I leafed through to find the part about my other new experience, this distinctly sexual sensation I was so frequently enjoying. I scanned that book cover to cover and came up dry – so to speak. There was not a single mention of the words masturbation, orgasm, pleasure … nothing which could have provided an answer to my most pressing questions.
I was an avid reader as a child, and it wasn’t long before I read Judy Blume’s two puberty themed books: Then Again Maybe I Won’t (about a boy), and Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret (about a girl). Given that both books were written in the 70s , they perhaps couldn’t be expected to be as open on certain subjects as a pre-teen in the early naughties might have liked.
But with wet dreams and erections abounding (again, so to speak ) in Then Again , my youthful thirst for knowledge was more than satisfied. By contrast, there was a total dearth of sexuality in Are You There God? Periods – yes, bras – sure, crushes – of course.
But the kind of acknowledgement of actual physical, sexual feelings, so openly expressed in the male version, was entirely absent. This was a running theme in so much of the media and literature I consumed growing up, and I’m not sure how much this has changed.
I recall watching an episode of ABC Family’s 8 Simple Rules where the younger brother is constantly locked in the bathroom, and the obvious implication is that he’s masturbating. It struck me how common and even family friendly this kind of moment was in TV and film, while the idea of a girl doing anything more than kiss a photograph of their (male) crush’s face was unheard of .
If the media wasn’t particularly helpful, the education system didn’t do much to clear things up either. From primary school puberty lessons to high school sex ed (which, let’s be honest, mostly consisted of being told the symptoms of various STIs and how to put on a condom), I still never heard the dreaded “O” word .
While most of these classes were gender segregated , we were all taught the gist of the “changes” experienced by boys (I seem to remember watching a pretty ridiculous cartoon video of a boy getting an erection), and of course we covered how babies are made (the stork brings them, right?).
By definition, this acknowledged the existence of boys’ sexuality, as a feeling and an action . Girls’ (and women’s) sexuality, on the other hand, always seemed to be presented as passive. Sex was something women consented to , not something they asked for, longed for, or fantasised about.
All of this did a pretty good job of leaving me wondering whether it really was wrong for a girl to be so- well- horny . The fact that I realised in my early teens that I was probably a lot more interested in other girls than boys didn’t help matters. Is it because I’m gay and I’m somehow more like a boy that I feel like this?
There were times when, out of guilt, I would bargain with myself to try to cut down or stop masturbating for periods of time. In a strange, don’t-step-on-the-cracks mindset, I would even tell myself that various, entirely unrelated, wishes would come true if I could wait two weeks before giving myself another orgasm.
Even while other girls my age were having sex with boys in some form, I genuinely felt that what I was doing was embarrassing. Most of my friends as a teenager were straight girls, and masturbation and orgasms were never subjects which were brought up or which I felt able to broach myself.
It wasn’t till I met my first real girlfriend at 17 that I felt able to discuss the subject openly, and from there began my realisation that my experience wasn’t at all unusual. Ten years on and I know this, and yet writing all of this publicly still feels uncomfortable – which is exactly why I am doing it.
Sexual feelings are not something anyone should need to feel ashamed of, and this is something which all young people should know when they start having those feelings, regardless of gender. As it stands there is a major gender disparity in this area- the implications of which are deserving of another blog or several- and that’s unlikely to change unless we keep talking and refuse to shut up about it.
I, for one, am tired of a world where it’s entirely common for women and ever younger girls to be represented as sexual objects for men’s enjoyment, while their internal experience of sexual desire and pleasure is effectively written out of existence .
So, I’m here to tell you that I am a woman and I knew how to masturbate before I knew how to do a quadratic equation and I continue to find it an infinitely more enjoyable activity.
Caitlin Logan is our Volunteer Blog Editor. She studied English and Politics at university, followed by a Masters in Equality and Human Rights. Fast forward a few short years later, and she has recently embarked on a new adventure in her dream job as a journalist. She loves writing, reading, Netflix binges, and roller skating- because she has to do something that sounds like a real hobby, and walking is boring anyway.
Joining The Young Women's Movement is FREE and open to all self-identifying women. No age limits apply.
YWCA Scotland, Wellpark/Kirkhaven Enterprise Centre, 120 Sydney Street, Glasgow G31 1JF
hello@ywcascotland.org
0141 465 4627
Charity No. SC034132, Company Limited by Guarantee in Scotland No. SC246153
© Copyright 2022 YWCA Scotland | Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Data Protection
A website by Flintriver
To prioritise the safety and wellbeing of our staff and those we work with, as of the 16th March until further notice our Edinburgh and Glasgow teams will be working from home. We will work hard to engage our movement on digital platforms and we will be innovating and trying new things. You can get in touch with us by emailing [NAME]@ywcascotland.org, or on Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook – always @youngwomenscot.
For the most up to date information on Coronavirus / Covid-19 please see the Scottish Government website and NHS Inform.
For a list of organisations in Glasgow who are doing food deliveries for vulnerable families over the Easter break, please click here: CHFP – Easter delivery.
If you normally receive food bank vouchers from our Glasgow Centre, or are in need and would like to discuss this confidentially, please give Ange an email.
Thanks to Hey Girls UK, we became the first Scottish distributor of their free sanitary products. All the profits from their Buy One Give One products go directly to providing free sanitary products for those who need them.
Our offices are currently closed but we are working to have free sanitary products available during this time for those who need them. Please contact us if you need support receiving these.
If you don’t require this service, perhaps next time you shop for period products you will buy from Hey Girls UK, buying a box for someone who needs it.
For more information on period poverty and periods please see the following links:
Rape Crisis Scotland – 08088 01 03 02 (6pm – midnight)
Domestic Abuse and Forced Marriage helpline – 0800 027 1234 (open 24/7). You can also chat online if it’s not safe to make a call.
National Stalking Helpline – 0808 802 0300 (daily 9:30 am – 4 pm, except Wednesday 1 pm – 4 pm)
Revenge Porn helpline – email help@revengepornhelpline.org.uk
Victim Support Scotland’s helpline – 0800 160 1985 (Mon-Fri, 8am-8pm)
Breathing Space helpline – 0800 83 85 87 (Mon-Thur, 6pm to 2am and Fri 6pm-Mon 6am
If you are in an emergency situation and you are unable to talk while on the phone 999, press 55 to signal to the operator that you are in danger.
Six very honest women recall what finally put them over the top.
Caroline Spiegel Is Rethinking Porn for the Next Generation
16 Women Share How Their Life Changed (or Didn’t) After 40
Emma Thompson: ‘Nobody Cares About Women’s Pleasure’
Everything I Learned From The O-Man, L.A.’s Orgasm Whisperer
To revisit this article, visit My Profile, then View saved stories .
To revisit this article, select My Account, then View saved stories
"I was 18, and my college roommates thought they'd buy me a cheesy glow-in-the-dark vibrator as a joke. They never thought I would use it, but I was curious—who wouldn't be? I waited for them all to leave and shut myself in my bedroom. Needless to say, I was hooked at first jolt.' Several, and I do mean several, vibrators later, I'm a truly satisfied girl."
"I always thought I was having orgasms during sex, but it wasn't until about 19 years old that I really had one. It was the very first time my boyfriend and I tried this position where we were both seated, me in his lap. It's still my favorite position! As for all the orgasms I thought I had before—well, I figured out really quickly they weren't the real thing, because…wow!"
"Even though I started having sex at 19, I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 28. Now I know why: I was with partners who were far more concerned about their own gratification than mine. One boyfriend did absolutely nothing to pleasure me, then actually sent me to a hypnotist to work on my problem'! It finally happened when I was with a man who focused completely on me. Just a little bit of attention was all it took. After that, I became pretty addicted to sex, which my current boyfriend doesn't seem to mind at all!"
"It happened just this year and with the greatest man I know—my husband! It was such a release, and I'm so happy I married the man who gave it to me."
"It happened at 16 with my first boyfriend, and I wanted another one right away!
"I could never have an orgasm during intercourse until I learned how to reach down and help myself along. To this day, that's the only way I can climax during sex. But honestly, what's most important to me is the intimacy of having sex with my boyfriend, orgasm or not."
© 2022 Condé Nast. All rights reserved. Use of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement and Privacy Policy and Cookie Statement and Your California Privacy Rights. Glamour may earn a portion of sales from products that are purchased through our site as part of our Affiliate Partnerships with retailers. The material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except with the prior written permission of Condé Nast. Ad Choices
20 Dirty Texts To Send Your Partner In The Morning
Here’s How To Talk To Your Partner If You’re Not Having Sex, But Want To Be
Here's How To Gently Tell Your Partner You'd Like To Have Sex More Often
© 2022 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved.
Do you remember when you orgasmed for the first time ? Maybe you didn't know what was happening at the time, but you knew it felt amazing. Or maybe you knew exactly what you were doing. It could have happened while you exploring you body on your own, or with a partner. Or maybe you just sat on something and it felt funny. But, like, funny good. And afterwards nothing was ever the same again.
Your first big O is such a personal experience, and definitely nothing you should be ashamed of, but still, we don't often share the stories with many other people. And that's a bummer for someone as curious as I am about other women's experiences. Not just because thinking about orgasms is hot — which it is — but because we want to know we're not alone. It's natural to wonder how your first time compares to what was it like for other women they first came.
Thats why I love Reddit so much. If I'm wondering something I can pretty much count on other people to be asking the same thing. A recent Redditor asked " When was your first orgasm and how did it go down? " and the responses were so interesting because it was there was no "normal" answer. Not to brag, but we women are freakin' complex and amazing beings. Anyway, here's what they they had to say.
No kidding he's your husband now. Anyone who gives you five orgasms every time, you lock that sh*t down !
No matter how it happened, your first orgasm is unforgettable. Here’s to many (multiples?) more. And if you have a great first orgasm story, tell us in the comments.
Be the first to know what's trending, straight from Elite Daily
Camster.Com
Kagel Balls
Porn With Sex Doll