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my boyfriend ripped me - vaginal tearing during sex
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Hey guys. Sorry for the title, it’s a little blunt. But it’s exactly how I feel down there. Every single time we have intercourse. Not blaming my boyfriend. He’s a good man I’ve known him for 2 years. But literally everytime we do it I feel like he’s tearing me. Got to a point where it’s just embarassing now. I feel like he thinks I’m making excuses not to sleep with him.
What’s even more frustrating? I’m lashing out at people everywhere because I’m not getting some. Consulted my gyneo and a few other doctors, no one has an answer, no one has heard or anything like what I feel. I literally feel like a shard of glass is being shoved into my lady parts every time we try. It happens in the bottom of the vaginal lips. Have tried so many different home remedies so far, tried taking baths with essential oil-infused water, I always lube up before intercourse, we try to go really slow and I make sure not to tense up during even when the pressure builds a little but I gotta say at this point I’m just surprised Peter is still with me because I always get sore a few seconds into it.
I don’t know what to do. Had a feeling that he was going to ask him to marry me a few weeks ago but I don’t think he will ever until we figure out the sex situation. Also this is something that has come up 3 years ago I was fine before that, not sure what happened all of a sudden but it sucks Any help would be appreciated! Xx
My sister said she had the same trouble last year, I remember her consulting her gyneocologist who said her perenium was thinning.. Don’t know if she took any medication but apparently it wore off on it’s own, she’s fine now, she and her husband have sex all the time lol. But from what I know they just experimented a lot which is what I’d recommend.
Sometimes you just can’t find your grove, it takes a while to get to know each other’s style, maybe it’s too rough? Idk. Maybe try loads of foreplay before so you don’t have to go all the way. Another good tip would be to try different positions, my sister said she would feel the tear whenever she was at the bottom.
Did you get tested for Herpes? I would recommend you do because this is not included in the full Sexually Transmitted Diseases’ panels- this sounds like Herpes to me.
Hey guys. Sorry for the title, it’s a little blunt. But it’s exactly how I feel down there. Every single time we have intercourse. Not blaming my boyfriend. He’s a good man I’ve known him for 2 years. But literally everytime we do it I feel like he’s tearing me. Got to a point where it’s just embarassing now. I feel like he thinks I’m making excuses not to sleep with him. What’s even more frustrating? I’m lashing out at people everywhere because I’m not getting some. Consulted my gyneo and a few other doctors, no one has an answer, no one has heard or anything like what I feel. I literally feel like a shard of glass is being shoved into my lady parts every time we try. It happens in the bottom of the vaginal lips. Have tried so many different home remedies so far, tried taking baths with essential oil-infused water, I always lube up before intercourse, we try to go really slow and I make sure not to tense up during even when the pressure builds a little but I gotta say at this point I’m just surprised Peter is still with me because I always get sore a few seconds into it. I don’t know what to do. Had a feeling that he was going to ask him to marry me a few weeks ago but I don’t think he will ever until we figure out the sex situation. Also this is something that has come up 3 years ago I was fine before that, not sure what happened all of a sudden but it sucks Any help would be appreciated! Xx
How old are you? If you’re going through menopause or post that, then don’t worry because it is very common (don’t want to make any assumptions, even though it sounds like you’re young and healthy). You tend to lose estrogen as you grow older that results in the vaginal walls thinning. This causes dryness and you begin to feel paper cut sensations down there. Sex is out of the question then. But if you’re young, you’re out of the woods. I recommend you use estrace. It helps make your tissues down there healthier by healing it. Also maybe change your birth control to see if it’s that.
There are all kinds of vaginal tears. It can cause bleeding, pain, and even infections. Ideally vaginal tears occur when the vaginal skin is very sensitive and hasn’t been lubricated enough before intercourse. Since the vagina isn’t terribly elastic in nature, it is subject to some wear and tear. The good news, however, is that most vaginal tears heal quickly. They shouldn’t last more than a few hours, ideally. Not sure why you’ve been suffering with this for over 2 years but that is definitely concerning.
What tests were performed to reach no conclusions? Are you sure you’re lubricating enough? Yes I think setting the mood with foreplay helps because that gets the waterworks going, if not, try store-bought lubricants. Are you sure it’s not vaginal soreness, and that every time it is the same “tearing” sensation? That is quite odd.
Soreness often recuperates with time, do you feel the pain after intercourse as well? When you want to get rid of the pain you must stop doing whatever is causing the pain. Try ibuprofen if the pain continues on for hours afterward, which again, is alarming.
I’ve personally tried lukewarm baths to bring down the soreness but I am a 58 year old woman in her menopausal years. Might want to bring the intensity down a notch. Remember that sex is a physically demanding activity, and your muscles are bound to get injured. Not just your thighs and calves. Take a break during, walk around, stretch out your muscles, try different positions.
Hey guys. Sorry for the title, it’s a little blunt. But it’s exactly how I feel down there. Every single time we have intercourse. Not blaming my boyfriend. He’s a good man I’ve known him for 2 years. But literally everytime we do it I feel like he’s tearing me. Got to a point where it’s just embarassing now. I feel like he thinks I’m making excuses not to sleep with him. What’s even more frustrating? I’m lashing out at people everywhere because I’m not getting some. Consulted my gyneo and a few other doctors, no one has an answer, no one has heard or anything like what I feel. I literally feel like a shard of glass is being shoved into my lady parts every time we try. It happens in the bottom of the vaginal lips. Have tried so many different home remedies so far, tried taking baths with essential oil-infused water, I always lube up before intercourse, we try to go really slow and I make sure not to tense up during even when the pressure builds a little but I gotta say at this point I’m just surprised Peter is still with me because I always get sore a few seconds into it. I don’t know what to do. Had a feeling that he was going to ask him to marry me a few weeks ago but I don’t think he will ever until we figure out the sex situation. Also this is something that has come up 3 years ago I was fine before that, not sure what happened all of a sudden but it sucks Any help would be appreciated! Xx
Hey guys. So it turns out that I ahd eczema down there (still can’t believe it)- it’s called lichen planus or something and it basically formed around my vaginal skin that lost some elasticity. I am 30 for the record and may I say get off Google and go see a recommended doctor, don’t stop going becasue that’s how I found the solution, all Google gave me was insomnia and dark circles. I’m on a steroid cream right now and it’s working. 2 weeks in and I can have sex without breaking down. FINALLY!
Don’t apologize, that is the one reason I found this forum, I typed in my boyfriend rips me every night haha. You’re right it’s not their fault. But every time I have sex I bleed like there’s no tomorrow and I feel a tear in the bottom part of the opening it’s very unsettling. I am only 21 years old just started having regular sex and it’s killing me. Isn’t this just supposed to happen in the beginning and NOT all the time
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Sex is usually a pretty wonderful thing...until, that is, issues arise. There are those annoying situations, like being left sans orgasm (ugh). And then there are other times when sex can be downright hazardous.
Sex injuries happen more often than you might think—so you should be aware of the most common ones (mostly so you can figure out what to do if they happen to you...).
You know it's happened when you're bleeding down there after the deed, or it simply really, really hurts.
The fix: The reason tearing happens is that you're too dry down there, meaning the fix is pretty simple: Be sure you're lubricated enough before he enters you. "This can mean going slower during sex, or simply using lubricant ," says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., research scientist at Indiana University and author of Sex Made Easy .
If you do all of this and you still experience tearing on the regular, see your gyno, who can prescribe certain antibiotics. If it's just a one-time thing, wait it out. "Most vaginal tears are small and heal on their own," says Herbenick. "But if a cut is bigger or keeps bleeding, call a healthcare provider."
Go you for being adventurous and not just sticking to the mattress! Seriously, round of applause. However, switching up where you have sex can cause painful carpet burns due to friction (#BedroomBattleWounds).
The fix: Wash the infected area with cool water and antibacterial soap, advises Jennifer Wider, M.D., a women's health specialist. If the skin is actually broken—as in, there is a physical cut as opposed to just irritated redness—then clean it with antiseptic and apply antibacterial cream before putting a bandage on top.
Of course, the best advice is to go on pre-emptive strike and put a soft throw down if you're having sex on a rough surface. Just be sure it's one of your backup blankets, as things could get a little, well, you know.
I'm about to get graphic here, but the two most common "foreign objects" gynos encounter are forgotten tampons (hey, it happens) and lost condoms. And yes, gynos actually refer to them as "foreign objects." Now you know.
The fix: Start by taking a deep breath and not freaking out; it happens and you can totally get that thing out. "The best course of action is to wait 10 or 15 minutes after you've had sex," says Herbenick.
That's the time it takes for your vagina to get back to its normal, unaroused size—and it's a lot easier to reach up there in its normal state than when it's all engorged from sex.
Just relax, and insert two fingers to try to get it out. If you can't, call your doctor ASAP and they can fish it out for you.
While it's pretty common for things to get lodged up in your vagina, it's also possible for anal play to go south (er, north?). “While I was a general surgery resident, I encountered some ‘unique’ objects lodged in the rectum," Joshua D. Zuckerman, M.D., a plastic surgeon in New York told WomensHealthMag.com in a previous interview. "In one case, we had to surgically remove a pink softball from someone’s rectum, and in another case, a significantly-sized potato,"
The fix: While there's no shame in sticking things up your butt during sex, it's probably best to steer clear of things like softballs and food, which can easily get lost up there or cause infection.
Instead, opt for toys that are totally anus-friendly, like butt plugs or anal beads. If you need some inspiration, here are some of the best butt plugs to choose from:
But if you do find yourself with something stuck far beyond reach, go to the ER to get it removed, stat.
Not to knock a good sex move, like reverse cowgirl or the butter churner , but sadly those "she did what?!" skills can also wreak havoc on your back.
The fix: Applaud yourself for being such a bedroom baller. Done? Okay, now time for damage control. "Put an ice pack on your lower back to relieve inflammation,"Wider advises. "Then, once the inflammation subsides, use a heating pad to soothe your muscles." Finally, pop an ibuprofen and rest for a couple hours.
Sure, it's totally sexy to bring strawberries and whipped cream into the bedroom. And, in a pinch, foods like coconut oil even make for decent lube. But in most cases, food is not a sexy friend.
Gabe Wilson , M.D., an emergency physician in Southeast Texas told WomensHealthMag.com one such horror story: "One time, I treated a woman whose partner had performed cunnilingus on her immediately after eating some spicy food . The hot sauce her partner consumed prior to the sex act left mild burns on her genital region." OMG.
The fix: If you find yourself in this unpleasant situation, try neutralizing the burn (generally caused by a spice called capsaicin) with soap and water or fatty dairy products such as whole milk or yogurt (as weird as that may sound).
Otherwise, when in doubt, keep food far away from your vagina. And if either you or your partner have eaten, or cooked with spicy foods (like hot sauce or peppers), you should probably avoid orally or manually stimulating each other right away.
Anyone who's ever gotten one of these knows they're a real pain. And sadly, you can get them from having lots of sex .
The fix: The best thing to do is to make sure you're lubricated enough at all times, whether that's by actually using lube, or just being sure that your partner doesn't enter you too early or go too rough. That helps prevent tears or irritation, which make UTIs more likely.
And if you notice a burning sensation when you pee or have to go constantly ( signs of a UTI ), go see your doctor to confirm the diagnosis. They'll get a prescription for antibiotics to beat the infection, ASAP.
While sex does not cause yeast infections, they more commonly occur in women who are sexually active. Most women who get yeast infections from sex get them either from receiving oral sex or from having sex with a guy who has some saliva on his penis (i.e., after you've gone down on him), says Herbenick.
The fix: "Start by making sure that his penis is clean when he enters you," says Herbenick. If this means having him go to the bathroom after foreplay, then so be it.
And if you do suspect you have a yeast infection , make an appointment with your doctor (it's never a good idea to self-diagnose). They'll likely give you a prescription for an anti-fungal medication to be taken intra-vaginally or orally.
If you get yeast infections more than four times a year, you may simply be more prone to getting them in general—so talk to your gyno about that, and she can decide the best course of action.
Okay, this doesn't happen THAT often, but it's worth noting—because, admit it, it's the first thing that came to mind when you clicked on this article.
To set the record straight, you can't literally break a penis, since it doesn't contain bones. But you can severely bend a penis, to the point that the two tubes of blood that fill it during an erection actually rupture, urologist David Kaufman, M.D., of New York's Central Park Urology told WomensHealthMag.com in a previous interview. There's usually a snapping sound when this happens, followed by severe pain, a bruised penis, and swelling.
The fix: These injuries almost exclusively occur during super-rough sex, says Kaufman. Of course, this doesn't mean you should resort to vanilla sex the rest of your life. Instead, just be mindful—and, if this does occur, go to the emergency room ASAP.
"The best treatment is surgery to evacuate the blood clot and repair the ruptured corporal body," says Kaufman. And, whatever you do, do not put ice on it. Kaufman says: "Treatment involving icing, compression, etc., runs a high risk of penile scaring and impotence." Yeah, no thank you.
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