My Boyfriend Penis Is Too Big

My Boyfriend Penis Is Too Big
It's hurts soooo bad going in that I have to stop him every time. I lost my virginity to a guy that wasn't big at all but it still hurt BAD. Trying to do it with him (my bf) is like losing my virginity all over again. It's so frustrating to the point where I'm thinking about breaking up . I know breaking up is a bit dramatic but I have a low pain tolerance
I want to lose my virginity to my boyfriend but I'm afraid his penis is too big?
My boyfriend's penis is too big for me?
My boyfriend's penis is too big and sex hurts, what to do?
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It's ok to think this way your inexperienced and not used to sex yet. I myself was rejected for size in my teenage years and for a guy at this age it can be very upsetting as your peers all say girls want a big one and actually not all do. So I understand fully. If you have to break up then it's ok too. As having sex now will shape your sexuality for the rest of your life so it needs to be pain free and enjoyable. Try talking to him. Be nice say your so big and I love it but it does hurt me. Can we have a few weeks of Hand jobs ans oral give my body time to recover. Also get him to finger you help your vaginal entrance stretch a little. You may have a small tare. It's quite common and just needs some time. Some good lubrication can also help a lot and finally if your expecting intercourse to be painful. Then you will tense up making your vagina even tighter. The extreme of this is called vaginimus. www.nhs.uk/.../Symptoms.aspx See if this might help with what you could be suffering from.
Wow. That's very interesting. Thank you for the awesome advice
Your very welcome if you need more or to just chat a bout it please feel free to ask.
You're welcome! And thanks, will do
Ah, so, this is the genesis of yr username, then.
In order to reduce the pain you need to be horny af and also veery wet, cause the more horny you get the more your vagina will expand. Although it just might be that you're not compatible sex partners :S He's just too big and your vagina is too small for him.. For ex he might not be that big (as he is to you) to some women with larger vaginas (both the opening and the insides). I've seen a lot of "positions if he is too big", so you might wanna try and read them, you got nothing to lose! If anything else fails and you really love him, just chop him off a bit while he's sleeping (ofc first tie him up good before doing it) And then you wait a couple months for him to recover then try again! Good luck
I know was joking at the end (now you're like you don't say -.- ) But other than that it's true and i can confirm this too.. When my girlfriend is horny as hell (-as fuck- is before -as hell-) I even manage to fist her (the whole hand, up to the wrist), which i knew for sure it wasn't possible (before it happened), so if your boyfriend penis is the same width as a fucking bat then you're on your own lol noone can help you, just leave Foreplay is your best friend in your case, try doing everything but penetration for about 30 minutes or more if you like, well until you have the urge to yell at him "put it in already (HIS NAME), now!" You get the point.
Wow. Fisting is scary but ok I'll totally take your advice
1) Lots of foreplay 2) Lots of lube 3) Try different positions 4) TALK to your boyfriend.. 5) If you lost your virginity with one guy, and it was a one time thing now you're with this guy.. It's bound to hurt. Sex usually hurts the first couple of times before the pleasure comes in, anyway.
What if he goes in slow and stops for a min and then starts thrusting? My boyfriend is big and when we haven't had sex for a while it hurts when entering but then after a few minutes it feels good he just has do go slow at first.
IF yu brk up wit him, i can see if it hurts, but i am tryong to be a sex stvudyer after i get in2 collage. so it would not be sexual it would be for a survey educational. please dont be offends
Try cumming a couple of times first with manual stimulation or oral sex. That should make it easier.
It may just be that you have a smallish vagina and you two aren't a good fit physically. Some positions may work better than others. With you on top, you can control the angle and action and find what works best. Also, doggy may be a better fit than missionary. Make sure you're really wet and even use some lube even if you don't think it's completely necessary. I'd advise you to talk to him about it. If he really cares about you, I'm sure he'll be gentle and work with you to alleviate your pain. Have fun trying!
Foreplay so that your body gets excited. When that happens you'll start secreting natural lubricants and your vagina will enlarge. Oh and lots of synthetic lube as well. Just squirt it all over his dick. Also maybe take charge of the humping and ride him that way you can control how forceful it is.
Lol now you're being extreme. Tell him it hurts and he'll probably understand.
Well from reading up on your story I think you guy should still do sexual things but not to the point where it hurts you. If he is so big do little things that aren't so rough on you and get used to how it feels
He isn't warming you up enough with foreplay but you should also try a few different positions.
Just tell him not to go all the way in and RELAX. The more stressed or so u are the harder it will be to have sex.
Get on top. Take control over how much goes inside you.
More lube, and slow down, and trust you can ingurgitate it , in fact, you can !
Just cause you put a question mark on it doesn't make it a question
I wanted to state it but I HATE to put a question mark on it. You should know that since you are member here -_-
The bigger the better? It's just a myth, the smaller, the bigger I believe is a turn off for most women's.
Are you relaxed when you so have sex with him?
Just get drunk first, and use lots of lube.
It's a simple solution, it's either that or weed?
But for sure some astroglide, all kidding aside.
Yeah lots of lube, thinkin like a litre

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How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Send your questions for Stoya and Rich to howtodoit@slate.com . Don’t worry, we won’t use names.
My boyfriend is, uh, huge. Long and thick as my wrist. We go slow and use lots of lube, but my vagina has a tendency to get really tight when I’m close to coming (and I’ll be close for like 10 minutes before it happens) and it leaves us both quite sore—though because of endorphins, I tend not to feel the pain until the next day. And we’re currently in that new-relationship period where we just want to screw nonstop as often as possible. I see sex tips about how to make a vagina feel tighter, but what can I do to loosen things up a bit? And what can I do to soothe my junk after a long weekend bang-a-thon?
Tension in the vagina and groin is usually integral to the process of orgasm—Kinsey’s cyclical contractions and all that. Since you’ve done the usual lube-and-patience routine, you may need to ration your dick-delivered orgasms until your body adjusts to your boyfriend’s endowment. If you’re able to orgasm from digital or oral sex, try doing that before you get penetrated both to loosen up and to achieve gratification.
Do you do Kegel exercises ? Even though your goal is to relax those muscles, Kegeling can provide a physical awareness of your lower insides and help you get a better idea of exactly which parts are in pain. Pay special attention to the relaxation step, since that’s the direction you want to go in.
Once you’ve got the hang of both clenching and release, incorporate breathing. You’re about to see me go full hippie, so stay with me. Breathe past your chest, through your belly, and all the way into your pelvic floor. Relax everything—including your jaw and toes and fingers if you can, but definitely every part of your groin—and then contract, starting with the muscles around the opening of your vagina, as you exhale. On every inhale, imagine your hips becoming more round and your vulva developing a wide, welcoming smile. If it feels silly, you’re probably doing it right. Practice this for a few minutes every day. You want to be able to reach that state of internal relaxation at will during penetrative sex. I want to underline that the very thing that may allow you to accept your boyfriend’s penis with less pain will probably also mean deferring orgasm, or achieving it another way, but you have to take care of yourself first.
As for the aftermath, get a (small!) dildo made of glass, metal, or really anything that can go in the fridge and then inside you. Actually icing your vagina is probably too much, but a cool internal compress can help with swelling and pain. Over-the-counter pain relief is also an option. Soaking in a warm bath seems to help, too.
One last tip you didn’t really ask for: To accommodate superlative length, you can wrap your hand around the base of your boyfriend’s penis and squeeze or stroke while he’s penetrating you, so he doesn’t go too deep. Best wishes on your big adventure.
Since a crummy breakup, I’ve felt a little off sexually for the past month or two, despite a sex drive that is normally much higher than average. In that time, I’ve also reconnected with a man I used to see casually and who is also going through a hard time. Our hangouts have been platonic and commiserate-y, but the other night, I got that feeling and kissed him, and we started having sex. I felt safe with him. But then, suddenly, he slapped me. Then he slapped me again, hard, and again. (For context, I am a 5-foot-2 woman, and he is a tall muscular man.)
I was too stunned to say anything at first—this isn’t off the menu for me with consent, though we’d never done it before—and then I just pushed him off and started bawling in the bathroom. He seemed really taken aback and apologized. I told him this is not OK without communication, and he said he misread the mood and continued to apologize. But he really violated my trust when I was feeling especially vulnerable. We have a very close connection that I don’t want to cut off over this—he does seem genuinely contrite—but is having sex with this man again a terrible idea?
Right now? Yes. Having sex with this man again without some recovery time and a couple of serious conversations is, I believe, a terrible idea.
Decide whether you value the connection the two of you have for platonic reasons or solely sexual reasons. If you value the companionship, make that clear first and be that much more cautious with the sexual aspect. Permanently removing sexual interaction from the table—or walking away entirely—would be perfectly reasonable courses of action, but it doesn’t sound like that’s what you want.
So, be as direct as you’ve been with me. Tell this man that his mistake still has ramifications no matter how apologetic he is, that your trust has been damaged, and that you’re going to need some space before you can consider sex again. If he balks or tries to negotiate, stop the interaction and prepare to rethink the potential of having this person in your life in any capacity.
Presuming that first talk goes well, spend some time together outside of the bedroom rebuilding trust, and give your body a chance to recover from any trauma you might have internalized. Have a second discussion, this time about what level of active consent you need to feel safe, and how you’d like any escalation of kink to be handled. If he grumbles about feeling like he’s in an HR meeting, or goes into “but I already said I’m sorry” mode, move on.
When your interactions have normalized, if you still want to try sex again, proceed incredibly slowly. Your reaction to the initial slap sounds alarmingly like a freeze response, and those can be dangerous for people who experience them—freezing sometimes means the person can’t get the words out to call for a stop. You might want to talk with him, or really any future sexual partner, about what the freeze response is, what it looks like specifically for you, and how to navigate the situation if it happens. (Full stop to sexual activity—including genital disengagement—and a “squeeze my hand if you’re here” are a good start.)
Remember to listen to your gut in addition to your vagina, and you’ll be well-equipped to evaluate whether it becomes a good idea to revi
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