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I’m so sorry you find yourself in this position. I imagine you feel like you either have to be disloyal to your mom and tell your dad, or be disloyal to your dad and keep this secret from him. That is a no-win situation.
Relationships between intimate partners are complex, and your mom and dad will have to figure their own stuff out. Your mom’s choices about her relationship with your dad and the consequences of those choices really are between the two of them. I am not here to pass judgment about your mom’s apparent infidelity. I will say that her asking you to hold her secret is a betrayal of her relationship with you. It is part of the unspoken parenting contract that parents don’t put their kids in a position to have to choose which parent to betray or be loyal to. That’s not right or fair. It doesn’t matter if this was a one-time thing or a pattern of behavior—it’s not your role to weigh out the details and possible consequences.
I suggest you have a conversation with your mom but, for now, leave your dad and his feelings out if it. Focus instead on what her request is doing to you and to your relationship with her. Asking you to hold her secret is asking you to carry the responsibility for her choices. That is a breach of trust with you that could have long-lasting implications. It cannot be your responsibility to cover for her, nor should it be your responsibility to inform your dad. This isn’t about you loving her enough to keep her secret; it is about her loving you enough not to ask you to. You cannot force her to own her actions. If, however, when presented with your feelings she still chooses to put you on the middle, you may want to ask yourself what you are protecting.
None of this is easy, so if you find yourself struggling, I suggest finding a therapist near you to work through some of this with. No matter what happens, having some support may be beneficial in helping you move past this.
Cheating on your dad and you were the one who found her?
Oh honey that’s just terrible and even more horrible that this is a secret that she now wants you to keep from the other parent. I don’t know what to tell you to do, that has just put you in a position that I don’t think that any of us would wish to be in.
Tell mom she has a week to tell Dad, if she doesn’t I will tell Dad. Cheaters need to get what they deserve, pennyless dumped on the curb.
I was put in the same position at 22. I immediately went to a therapist and had great help in guiding such a difficult problem. My mom and I still haven’t recovered from this, which was just the tip of the iceberg in terms of strange behavior from her, but without my therapist, the transition and ability to find solace and understanding would have been so much harder.
I wish that there was some way that you could stay out of it but obviously it is too late for that. Have a talk with your mom and see if you can encourage her to talk to your father about her feelings and what has happened between the two of them to break down the marriage. I am never sure that I would feel right about telling him what happened, but I don’t think that you should be the one who is forced to keep her secret for her either.
My suggestion is that you ask her to go to a short term therapy with you like 2-6 sessions, so you can make sense of this for yourself and of course she pays for it. Not fair of her to put you in this position. My intuition says this is not the first time. I am 60 years old and have 3 adult children. I would have never put them in this position when they were your age or any age. If she wants to keep it a secret then it’s her responsibility to keep it a secret which means this would have never happened at the family home!!!
How about telling her that you are not going to be her secret keeper and that you won’t tell on her but that you won’t lie for her either if push comes to shove
Man, I don’t envy this position that you are in at all!!
This is truly the epitome of being stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I could never keep something like this from either of my parents. I am too close to both of them and I would hope that they would never have to ask me to do that anyway! I am almost 20 but I still would have a very hard time covering up. I think that I am just too transparent and if something like this was going on I could never hide the lie.
Kudos for seeking some advice…while probably most of us are not qualified to be your professional therapist, respondents have come up with some very good advice. If you don’t address this with mom and a therapist, it’s going to eat at you. You have much to focus on (school, friends, possible employment, etc….not to mention sleeping well) none of which you will be able to devote 100% effort towards unless you address this ASAP. Please don’t wait…I’ve been in my own nightmare and I waited far too long to address it….take my advice….attack the problem now.
Have you ever thought that maybe in some ways she wanted to get caught so that someone would tell on her? And save her form having to be the one to do it? Just a thought
You’re in a great position to get whatever you want from her. Don’t push your luck too far of course, but it’s all good until she confesses to him, then all bets are off.
It is very critical position, and you just once council your mom. because your mom is happy with your dad or not. If she is unsatisfied then she has a right to engage with other men. better you support your mom. because woman also have right to enjoy.
manu, she broke her promise. She should have sought permission from her husband and son about seeking the comfort of another man. If he says no, she should honor his answer. Cheating and committing sin of omission are not the ethical values her son should be learning from her.
This is a no win senerio for you. No action will produce good results. Your real question is how do I deal with all the crap coming down the line. Tell him with her there and state how you feel about what she is doing and tell him what you think about the situation. You don’t know the situation, you can’t. He may have suspected, she may be doing this for years, they may have had a deal but not at home. Women screwing around is no worse than men doing the same. Yout Mom should really be handleing this and not compromise you. Secrets like this never stay secrets. Your dad will know sooner or later and probally resent you for playing a part in her infidelity. I kept a secret for over 20 years. It seemed to haunt me and then one day when everything became known, I was the bad guy. What if I did this or what if I had done that. Its their marriage and if she is sleeping around, the first time or only one time story is usually bull. She wants you to keep her trust quiet now. What about the next time when Dad walks into the living room.
I came across this as I searched the internet for advice. This also happened to me, but I was much younger, 5-6 years old. I was supposed to be outside (in those days you were put outside and expected to stay out until mealtime) I had gotten hurt and went in to find my mom. I opened the closed door to the spare room and saw my mother and the next door neighbor, naked, and to me, “wrestling in the bed”. I have no memory of what happened in the short term after that sight, just my mother having “a talk” with me later. She told me the neighbor had brought a flesh colored bathing suit for his wife as a surprise and that she was trying it on for him to see how it looked, then they had a play fight. She told me if I told anyone, my father wouldn’t understand and would move away. I was a “daddy’s girl” so, of course I didn’t want that, but I was way too good as a reader of people and I saw right through that story. I put it in the back of my brain and never told anyone, not even my husband of 40 years. But now my mother, still married to my dad, is approaching 80 and each year I feel more and more anger at her. As the oldest child, I always felt I was raised stricter and had much more responsibility and less nurturing than the younger kids. I know this is common, but now as an adult with my own children and grandchildren, I find I no longer want any contact with her. I look back at my whole life trying to please her and never getting anything in return but the expectation I will always be the family’s workhorse. This came to a head at christmas when I annouced I wouldn’t host the whole extended family at my house after 40 years of doing so. I had 2 major surgeries recently and have 17 children-spouses-grandkids, which is already too many without finding room for adult siblings who have never hosted any holiday at their homes (I do all the holidays). Of course I was still inviting my parents. Instead of understanding, my mom and siblings are all mad and fighting with me now. All this is hurtful enough, but my mind still wanders back to that moment my mother cheated and lied to me, and put that burden on my shoulders. My question is, how do I explain my feelings, or lack of feelings, for her to my own kids without the horrible truth and inevitable being blamed for ruining everyone’s memory of their grandmother. My kids all think I’m wrong and I worry the example it sets. We are talking 53 years ago, and it haunts me like it was this afternoon.
KB, it’s possible that you’re carrying more of a burden than you need to. My aunt and uncle both cheated on each other, and stayed married until they died in their 90s. They were neither one unhappy that we knew of. This is not a blessing for unfaithfulness, but sometimes people make mistakes and fix it themselves and realize who they were married to was the best choice. Cheating is usually self punishing anyway. The cheater has to live with guilt, until they don’t anymore. There is no more need for you to be haunted by that story, than there is need for you to intervene in their lives. It is all the more reason to get permission if you decide to have sex with someone else besides you’re husband. This might sound crazy, but I told a married woman that wanted sex with me to get permission from her husband. She did, and he approved. After I turned my head around straight again, and picked my jaw up off the floor, I decided it was still a bad idea.
Personally, I would tell her to own up to her own garbage. You in no way should be stuck in the middle of it. Either she fess up herself or you tell dad. Not only is she betraying your father’s trust but your’s as well. She also wants YOU to be deceitful to him, which is just wrong.
i not know how or what to do if i were in your shoes but i always try and tell my sons that try not to hit they wives or there kids because once they do it will be come a habit
Petsonally i would conftont sit her down tell her look i saw you cheat on dad now if you dont want me to tell him i now own you to do with anything i ask and want of you you have control over your mother now.
She needs to tell dad because she brought up the affair for her son to see. Bad enough for a well rounded teen to see mom and dad having sex, seeing a stranger having sex with mom goes way beyond what is acceptable. This goes for dad’s as well. You don’t tell your kids to keep this kind of secret.
Your Mother has already betrayed your Father. If he ever finds out you knew and never said anything, he will always feel betrayed by you as well. Keeping quiet at your mothers request makes you complicit.
When you look into your mother’s eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this earth.
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What's it like when you think one of your parents is having an affair? Radio 1 Newsbeat's been chatting to a 25-year-old who spent years suspecting his dad was cheating on his mum - going through feelings of anger, denial and sadness. He's decided to tell his story, anonymously, to try and help others who're going through the same thing.
I was 19, and had just got back from a festival.
I went into the bathroom and saw a phone on the side of the bath.
I knew it was my dad's - it was the same phone I'd noticed in his car years before, when I was in my early teens.
Back then I was too young to think anything of it.
I picked it up - there was no passcode.
As I started looking through, I saw texts from a woman.
I almost couldn't take any of it in, because I was so angry.
Everything started unravelling in front of my eyes.
I had a shower, calmed down a little bit, then went into my room.
I heard my dad coming up the stairs, so I called him in, and showed him the phone.
His initial reaction was: "I don't know what you're talking about."
He took the phone and went downstairs.
Then he came back up with the dog lead and said: "Right, let's go for a chat then."
On the walk, I was nervous. I didn't really confront him very hard.
He basically passed it off as a friend from work who was helping him go through a hard time at work.
"I haven't got many friends, and I didn't think your mum would understand if it was a woman," he said.
In my head at the time, I was basically trying to justify what he was saying.
He thanked me for reacting well to it, and that was it.
Fast forward two years, and I still had it in the back of my head.
My dad was helping me move into a new flat.
He'd just got a new iPhone, and took a photo of me and sent it to someone.
Later on I texted my mum, asking if he'd sent the photo of me to her. She was like: "What? I didn't get a text from dad."
That triggered something in my brain.
I walked back to him, and saw he was texting someone called Amos.
I knew it was a disguised name, because I would know if he had a friend called Amos.
Dad was staying at mine for the night and I knew I had to get hold of his phone.
So in the middle of the night, I did a Matrix-style crawl across the room, grabbed it and started to go downstairs.
My dad came out of the room and said: "Can I have my phone back please?"
I just made up an excuse about needing it to set up an alarm call.
The next morning, we went for breakfast and then he left - nothing was mentioned.
Another six months passed, with everything bubbling away in my head.
I was walking to the restaurant with mum and dad. We were going to meet my younger sister - but she was running late and dad was getting impatient.
He turned around and started to storm off back home.
I was getting really angry, and followed after him, shouting, calling him a coward.
Suddenly it just came out of me: "Who's Amos?"
He turned around, and his face was totally white.
He basically kept ignoring the question, saying: "Stop talking about this."
Back at the house, neither of us had a key to get in. It was so awkward and I just burst into tears and gave him a hug.
He knew that I knew something was going on - but we still didn't talk about it.
My mum and sister thought we'd just had an argument. I felt like I couldn't tell my sister because she was still at school.
Alison Cooper, Relationship Counselling Service
Feeling alone and carrying a burden is awful.
If you're in a similar position, you can access relationship counselling for support. Seeing a GP is an option if someone is feeling anxious or panicky.
If you're still at school, college or university, it's worth confiding in a teacher. They would then understand if your behaviour or studies changed during that time.
You could try approaching another family member such as an aunt or uncle and ask them to speak to the parent.
Ultimately I feel having someone you could talk to who would help normalise all those feelings which are associated with loss, would help navigate an incredibly difficult time and help accept that this was not your responsibility.
About two years later, I got a text from my sister saying: "Can I give you a call?"
She was absolutely bawling her eyes out.
"Oh my God, dad's cheating on mum," she said.
Like me, she'd got suspicious about his phone and seen the texts to "Amos".
At that point, I felt almost relieved to hear it.
I decided to confront him over the phone.
"Me and my sister both know," I said. "You need to tell mum, otherwise it's going to be very difficult for me to have any kind of relationship with you."
Then at the end of the call he said: "Thanks for telling me."
He didn't speak to my mum straight away.
He didn't even talk to my sister about it, who lived at home at the time.
After three months, he still hadn't told her.
I was at the point where I really wanted to punch my dad.
He was driving me to the train station once, and I just went off on one in the car.
That night, he sent me a text: "I'm leaving tonight, I've left a note in the wall clock. I've asked your sister to get it out on Friday."
I kind of resent him for doing it that way.
But after three months of my sister having to live in a house with them both, I just didn't really care how he did it.
By the time I got to the house, mum had already opened the letter. And that was it.
It's a pretty horrible way to find out after 25 years of marriage.
I don't really have any regrets about how it unfolded.
I think that weirdly, I did everything I could.
I didn't want to be the one that told my mum.
She's not angry with me for knowing all that time - in fact, she was mortified by the fact I'd had to go through that.
I have two main pieces of advice for people going through this.
Firstly, take a step back before doing anything rash.
There were a couple of times where the red mist descended for me - doing things like taking a shower just help me calm things down.
Second, it really helped me to be able to speak to someone privately.
Me and my sister still get on each other's nerves, but it's definitely made our relationship stronger.
The hard thing is how dad's behaved since mum found out.
He'd not been paying her the maintenance and things like that, making life extremely difficult for her.
Little things like demanding my mum return a computer that he'd been given by her par
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