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So far, a lot of the conversation around sexual assault and misconduct has centered on high-profile figures — primarily those in the entertainment industry and politics. But in reality, the problem runs far deeper than that and affects many people across almost every profession. The most recent example of this surfaced in an article from BuzzFeed over the weekend, which notes that nearly 200 women have reported sexual assaults as clients at Massage Envy — the first and largest chain of massage franchises in the United States.
This is wrong and disturbing on so many levels, including that when you go for a massage, you put yourself into a physically vulnerable position with a stranger — and you’re there to relax and let your guard down. These reports about Massage Envy raise a lot of questions regarding consent and what’s normal — and not normal — during a massage. If you aren’t used to massages — or even if you are but are working with someone new — it can sometimes be difficult to determine where the line should be drawn, especially when that line is a thin sheet covering your naked body.
Massages do come with health benefits, including helping with aches and pains and recovery after a tough workout — not to mention they can be incredibly relaxing. So instead of skipping your next appointment or avoiding this treatment on your next spa trip, here are a few guidelines to help you determine what’s normal during a massage (and what’s always inappropriate) and tips for communicating with your therapist.
The most important part of a massage is the conversation you have with your therapist before the treatment starts. At this point, the therapist should go over exactly what the massage entails and ask you if there are areas you would like them to avoid or focus on.
Communication is key regardless of whether you’re getting a massage as part of prescribed physical therapy or you’re simply there to relax, Kamillya Hunter, the owner and founder of Spa Analytics says. Before your first appointment with a new therapist, he or she should do a thorough intake, she adds, which involves asking about the client’s pain points and any injuries, medical treatments and medications they are taking. Next, a good therapist will walk the client through exactly what they plan to work on during the session and confirm they understood the client’s specific needs, Hunter adds.
“When a massage therapist asks if you’d like a full-body massage, in our minds we are going to massage all of the major muscle groups,” Stephanie Agakian, a licensed massage therapist and owner of Bodhi Body Studios , explains.
Another way to think about it is that a typical therapeutic massage will include all the parts of the body that a thong bikini does not cover, including legs, arms, back, butt, abdomen and face, says Kathleen Lisson, a board-certified massage therapist and author of Swollen, Bloated and Puffy
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Yes, gluteal muscles (butt) are frequently involved in a massage, as it may relieve common ailments like back pain or sciatica, Hunter explains. But again, if you’re not comfortable being touched there, you can speak up at any time and let your therapist know.
The communication should continue between you and the therapist throughout the massage. They should check in to make sure the pressure they’re using works for you, and to ensure you’re comfortable. In turn, you should feel free to speak up if something could improve your experience.
“You should feel comfortable enough to let your therapist know if something isn’t right, whether that’s the pressure they are using, you get too hot or too cold, you hate the music that’s playing or you need more work done in an area,” Agakian says. “After all, massage therapists are body workers. We are not mind readers, and we take pride in our work. If something is off, we want to know about it.”
Whether you are entirely naked or partially clothed is up to you — and the establishment. Some massage therapists and franchises, including MassageJoy in the U.K., require clients to wear at least their underwear during a session according to the company’s owner Naz Ahm.
Even if you are completely undressed, the therapist should place a sheet over you, covering the areas of your body that are not currently being massaged with a sheet or blanket. This practice is called “draping,” and according to Hunter, franchises typically have a very strict draping policy. But she also points out that whether the sheet is wrapped tightly or loosely around your body is not an indicator of a good or bad massage.
Of course, it’s important to note that not all people are comfortable with every type of touch — and that’s completely fine. This is where communication with your massage therapist comes in. Even if massaging a body part — let’s say your feet — is an entirely acceptable part of a massage, you may not enjoy having your feet touched. In that case, just tell your therapist and he or she will skip that area. If for some reason they don’t, you can call off the massage at any point.
“A trained therapist will know how to give a good massage even when a client does not want all of his/her body massaged,” Lisson says. “A big red flag is when the therapist is unable to or seems too rushed to have a conversation with you about your needs before the massage begins.”
If you are getting a massage for therapeutic or relaxing purposes, it is never acceptable for the therapist to touch the client’s genitals. That area is strictly off limits.
In most cases, a woman’s breast tissue is also avoided during a massage. There is one exception to this, though: Getting a breast massage after a mastectomy. But according to Agakian, before getting this type of treatment, the client needs a referral from a doctor and should ensure they are working with a therapist who has been trained in this specific type of massage. Hunter also notes that whether it’s legal to involve breasts in a massage can depend on the state, but even in places where it’s acceptable, it still may require written consent from the client.
It’s also important to note that the sexual misconduct happens both ways. According to Hunter, sexual assault happens even more frequently to the therapist than the clients.
Some establishments, like MassageJoy, have processes in place if a therapist faces an uncomfortable situation with a client, like if they refuse to leave their underwear on (complying with company policy) or make any other inappropriate requests, Ahm says. Remember that they are a person too and even though you are paying for a service, your therapist should not have their safety, well-being or boundaries violated either.
First and foremost, know that either the therapist or the client can end a session at any time, whether it’s because of clear sexual misconduct or because one party feels uncomfortable. If that happens to the client, they can get dressed and immediately remove themselves from the situation.
It is also important to note that sexual misconduct is not something massage therapists, managers or even owners are necessarily equipped or trained to handle, Hunter says.
“To say massage therapists, managers or owners should know how to handle situations such as these implies this is something common in the professional industry. It is not ,” she adds.
So where should you report misconduct? It depends where it happens. If it occurs at a franchise or larger massage studio, Agakian recommends reporting it to the manager. Even if they aren’t the ones to handle the investigation, it’s important for them to know what is happening in their establishment.
If your therapist is self-employed, you can always report any sexual (or other) misconduct to the police or the state massage board.
It’s important to remember that not every massage therapist is the same. Like psychotherapists, sometimes it takes a few attempts to find the massage therapist that’s right for you. Not everyone likes the same type of style and pressure, so it makes sense to prefer working with some therapists over others.
Kristie Garduno, owner of Clients Kneaded Mobile Massage , suggests getting a recommendation from a friend or coworker if you’re looking for a new therapist as well as reading plenty of online reviews. But above all, she suggests finding a therapist that hears you.
“As long as the therapist pays attention, he/she can adjust every other variable,” she explains. “And of course, also find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. Massage is all about relaxing, so if you cannot get comfortable enough to relax, the time is wasted.”
Once you find a massage therapist you like, stick with them, Lisson says.
“My best advice for making massage a part of your wellness routine is to develop a relationship with a licensed/certified therapist that you can trust,” she adds. “Always seeing a different therapist increases your chances of getting a massage from a therapist with bad intentions.”
Like so many other parts of life, the moral of the massage story is that communication is crucial. If your massage therapist doesn’t initiate a conversation before the treatment starts, don’t be afraid to start it yourself. Be firm and clear about what you want and don’t want, and always remember that you can leave at any point, and above all — take care of yourself.
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Here, four women reveal the worst parts of their job, from being propositioned for sex to having to wash smelly feet and even finding nits
MOST women enter the profession of massage therapy to give back – helping individuals de-stress and relieve their pain.
What they didn’t take into account was the number of male clients who would pester them for sex - OR that they'd be forced to dodge erections, avoid nits... and even get kicked in the face by ticklish clients.
Here, four massage therapists reveal all...

Massage therapist April Chunnoo, 41, lives in Colchester.
She says: "You get the odd guy who wants to be naked but I suss those out straight away - they don’t tend to cross my doorway nowadays.
Couple massages were popular for a while - but whenever the couples were so relaxed, one or the other would break wind.
I’d always try not to catch the other therapist’s eye - but one time I did and I could barely control my laughter. I had to pretend I was sneezing.
I do get guys messaging me asking things - whether I can do their fronts and if I offer extras.
I often get them to spell out what they want, but when they ask me for sex I make it very clear I’m not a prostitute.
I have been offered hefty three-figure sums for happy endings– it is insulting. I went to college for four years to become a qualified massage therapist.
I listen out for the groaners too - while it can be normal during a deep tissue, one guy had a different type of groan.
That's when I lifted the towel and saw he was touching himself.
I made him get dressed and leave – I refused to see him again."
Full-time mum Emma Pearce, 35, lives with her partner and their son in St Austells, Cornwall.
She says: "A massage is all about pampering someone.
At college we were told most people fall asleep and relax – but that isn’t always the case - the majority love to chat.
As a massage therapist you are an agony aunt.
The things people told me were surprising - I heard about affairs, break-ups, and things going on at home.
I always leave the room when people undress.
The magic towel covers their body - I only get to see them naked one limb a time.
The worst part of being a massage therapist is the smelly feet.
I get some warm hand mittens and use lemon oil and water to cleanse them. They think they’re getting a blissful foot massage when I’m actually washing their dirty trotters and getting rid of the awful smell.
My golden rule is to never massage men’s tummies.
We got taught on my massage course that it was a sure way to give them an erection.
The blood rushes to the tummy and carries on going south to the penis.
The worst encounter I had was when I was giving an Indian head massage. I was close to finishing the treatment when I spotted a few nits.
I remained professional and calm, then I told her what I had seen. "
Leigh Bailey, 40, lives in Stapleford Abbots and runs the Mind Body Spirit Spa in Brentwood, Essex.
She says: "I’ve been working as a massage therapist for four years, so I know what works and what doesn’t.
I’m a bit older which means I have the confidence to put clients in their place.
My golden rule with men is they strip down to their underwear.
I don't give naked massages - and I run my hand up their leg to check.
If they haven’t got any boxer shorts on I stop the massage, tell them I’m leaving the room while they put their undies back on.
My secret is to politely ask them to lie on their back. Then I begin to massage their legs.
You know that if they get aroused it means when they turn over they’ll have to lie on it.
The queries on the phone are just as bad. They ramble on until finally you get the “do you do happy endings?” question - they get told straight.
It’s clear that other salons in the industry do entertain such requests. It’s embarrassing for the client and the salon when they find out it really is not that kind of establishment."
Married mum of two Elaine Mitchell, 49, is a life and empowerment coach and lives in Sheffield.
She says: "I hadn’t long qualified as a mobile therapist when a family friend said her husband’s friend needed a massage after a car accident.
I had always told myself ‘no men’ but agreed because of the social connection.
My husband dropped me off with my mobile massage bed and bag full of oils.
I walked in to red walls, incense burning and red light bulbs. In the living room I set up my massage bed and tried not to be too concerned by the samurai swords and knives on the walls.
The guy was in a dressing gown. He took it off revealing red silk boxers. He asked me to remove them in case I stained them with my massage oil - I assured him my hands wouldn’t go near them.
I did the massage as quickly as I could with the door in my line of vision at all times. When I was done he indicated where the envelope was on the mantelpiece. There were two. He told me he thought there might be extras – hence offering more cash.
Another time I did a massage for a friend’s husband. When I go to his feet he kicked me square in the face. He told me afterwards he was very ticklish – it was a proper kick to the chin.
At the time I advertised Swedish massage in the local paper. The wording clearly stated “women only.”
I’d still get blokes phoning up at all hours asking for extra services."
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