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Female masturbation is often seen as a taboo subject. You’ve probably tucked yourself into a corner to read this article, peering over your shoulder for fear of odd looks from passers-by. To be honest, I even found myself hiding my notes for this piece when colleagues casually approached my desk to ask if I’d like a cup of tea.
Women discussing wanking is not the done thing, but that shouldn’t be the case. Despite research showing that women masturbate as frequently as men, it's still not a topic that all females openly discuss. The Swedes have even created a new term for female masturbation in an attempt to stop women from being put off talking about the topic by the usual male-associated words.
To help us shake off the persistent social stigma, we’ve created a guide to female self-pleasuring. We spoke to women about their own experiences of masturbation and got some expert tips on how to make things work for you, including from Strawberry Siren, former Miss Burlesque Australia and the creator of the Pussy Play Masterclass, a workshop on the art of playing with yourself.
The only thing to do now is read on, and plan an early night.
Understanding the different bits of your body is the first step towards successful stimulation. Don’t be put off by the fact that you may not know the names of your parts, as the first and most important step is getting to know how to ‘use’ them, say the experts.
Lisa Lister, author and creator of wellness website The Sassy She says that getting to know your body, and not getting hung up on terminology, is the best approach.
“It would be great if we were taught the technicalities in school, but unfortunately we’re not. Though it’s good to know the terminology, it’s not essential. My advice would be to explore, get to know what things feel like, and if it feels good, keep going!”
To help us on our quest to become more familiar with our anatomy, Lisa has provided us with simple, straightforward definitions for some of our bodily bits from her book Love Your Lady Landscape.
Vulva: "This is the outer part of your lady landscape. It includes the clitoris, labia lips, urethra and entrance to the vagina, and its opening is almond shaped."
Clitoris: "When people people talk about the clitoris, they’re usually just talking about the glans – the very sensitive outside part, but the bean-like bump you can see on the vulva is just the tip of the iceberg. It's the only organ of the body with the sole function of providing pleasure."
Vagina: "This is a pulsing muscle that opens and closes between the cervix (at the base of the uterus) and the external opening."
Lisa also thinks getting to know your menstrual cycle is an important way of ensuring you get the most from the experience.
"Some people find that they’ll want to be playful and explore more around ovulation. You may not feel the urge to masturbate during your pre-menstrual cycle, but the orgasms will actually be way better, even if they do take a bit longer."
Put it into practice: Use the Pussy Play Masterclass ‘Rise and Sine’ approach to get to know a variety of these areas at once.
"Using the tips of your fingers, lightly tap the pubic bone above the clitoris to wake the vulva up. You may also want to press down and rub in a circular motion."
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Lisa thinks that, though sex toys can be a good way to introduce newcomers to the self-pleasure game, it's best to avoid becoming dependent on them.
“The real fun and pleasure comes through when you use your fingers,” says Lisa.
“Personally, I think that using a toy can desensitise the whole experience. You want to be able to touch yourself, so that you can be playful and get to know the speed and feel you want.”
Put it into practice: Put your fingers to the test with the ‘Scissors Sisters’ technique.
"Making a peace sign with your hands, place each finger on either side of the outer labia. Then, while pressing down lightly, wiggle the fingers towards each other, squeezing and lifting the labia together between the two fingers."
Get to know your clit "Your clitoris is awesome," says Lisa. As mentioned above, the clitoris is more than just the outer, bean-shaped part. "It's the most nerve-rich part of the vulva, containing over 8,000 nerve endings, which is twice as many as the penis. This makes it the powerhouse of pleasure."
Lisa explains that there’s more to the clitoris than initially meets the eye. “This tiny erogenous zone spreads the feel-good-love to 15,000 other nerves in the pelvis, which explains why it feels like your whole body is being taken over when you orgasm."
Put it into practice: Make your wildest fantasies come true and try out the 'Princess and the Pea' technique.
"Making sure the tip of your finger is nice and moist, slowly pull the hood over the clitoris back and gently stroke the head of the clitoris. You may also want to use a small circular motion, depending on your preferences."
There’s more to masturbation than the big O.
It's important to enjoy the whole experience, rather than racing to the finish line. Lube can be particularly good for assisting in the arousal process.
Lisa believes that engaging in foreplay can be beneficial for your relationships too.
“Be as indulgent as possible. Give yourself the full experience by making time to be exploratory and playful. By doing so, you’ll build a better relationship with your own body and as a result, be able to have more confidence in a relationship to say exactly what you want and when.”
Put it into practice: Warm yourself up by trying out the ‘Escargot’ technique
“Starting at the base of the vagina, lightly drag your fingertip at a snail’s pace towards the clitoris. Make sure you don’t put your finger in too deep at this point, as you want to avoid touching the urethra."
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Don’t act like you have plans tonight.
You’re home, you’ve got a few hours all to yourself, and you’re hornier than a rhino dressed as a devil for Halloween. What’s a woman to do? Masturbate, of course!
Whether you incorporate a sex toy or go the ole-fashioned finger route (no wrong answers here!), solo play isn't just a fun way to spend "me time," it’s also legit good for you —more on that in a sec.
Plus, it's good for your sexual partner(s), too. Because you're able to experiment on your own, masturbation is a low-pressure way to learn what feels good, explains Megan Fleming, PhD, a psychologist and sex therapist. Maybe you realize clitoral stimulation is absolute must to climax, or perhaps you discover deep penetration is what gets you to O-town (and beyond). "Relay that insight to your partner and you’re destined for better partner sex, including orgasms, which promote bonding," says Fleming.
Need another reason to enjoy your ~alone time~? I've got four...
The fact that it feels phenom is reason enough to get down with your bad self. But the health perks will have you reaching into your panties faster than you can say "vibrator." These perks include:
Before you can "rock your body" Justin Timberlake–style, you first have to know your body. "It's essential for women to be able to identify their anatomy," says Janet Brito , PhD, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist in Honolulu.
That’s why she recommends using a combination of diagrams and hands-on learning to suss out what's going on down there...
Admit it: The last time you looked at a diagram of the female anatomy was during your seventh grade health class (just me?). Spend some time looking at and even memorizing it. As you do, be sure to say the anatomical words out loud. In a world that undervalues vulva-owners, doing so can be an act of power.
Unless you’re in Cirque du Soleil, getting a real good look at your vulva and vagina is going to be physically impossible. That’s why Brito recommends beginning your personal investigation with the basics, which is to say, a hand-held mirror. It’s really the best way to see what your vulva *actually* looks like, she says.
The clitoris (a.k.a. your best friend) is where the masturbation magic usually happens. Home to a whopping 15,000 (!) nerve endings, it should come as no surprise that some 37 percent to 73 percent of vulva-owners NEED clitoral stimulation to orgasm, according to research . Depending on your anatomy, finding your clit may be easier said than done, but it's worth the effort.
True, odds are high that you’ll need clitoral stimulation to cross the finish line. But that doesn’t mean touching allllll the other parts of your vulva can’t feel good, too. Brito suggests taking your time to explore and name all parts of your body to figure out what feels good and what's just meh. "Touch gently and, with curiosity, label the parts that feel most sensitive, arousing, ticklish, and uncomfortable,” she says.
"At best, we’re told to never discuss [masturbation] and keep it to the confines of our bedrooms. At worst, we’re taught to avoid it altogether," Hall explains.
The result of these (lack of) teachings leave some masturbators with a challenge to overcome: Believing that masturbating is wrong, says Fleming. But nothing could be further from the case. "There is absolutely nothing shameful about self-pleasuring, and there’s nothing to feel guilty about after you do it," she says.
If shame comes up for you, "start by owning that that’s what you’re experiencing," she says. "Then, tell yourself that those feelings are a result of internalized sex negativity." If a self pep-talk isn’t enough (it may not be!), she recommends seeing a certified sex therapist. They specialize in replacing what she calls "the wet blanket of shame" with pleasure.
You change the sheets, light candles, and cue up your fave sex playlist when you're about to get it on with another person, so why not put the same amount of effort into DIY time?
It's kinda hard to feel sexy if your room's covered in month-old laundry and yesterday's takeout containers. So, "start by creating a relaxing, comfortable space in your home, full of privacy and free of interruption," says Brito.
Plus, she notes, Marie Kondo–ing your space can help clear your mind, giving you more room to focus on identifying what feels pleasurable and, consequently, increasing your chances of having that big O.
This one might seem obvious, but so many people skip it. Locking your door, even if you're home alone, can clear your brain of any worry of someone barging in. Sometimes, that's all your mind really needs to get centered.
It's not that it's so much about secrecy but about privacy, explains Holly Richmond , PhD, a certified sex therapist and somatic psychologist: "We all deserve privacy. Feeling like you have to keep things secret and hurrying up or hiding typically creates shame." By locking your door, you can create your own private space and, in turn, feel more comfortable...and confident.
In some cases, though, you might want someone to walk in on you, says Richmond. After all, it's totally hot. If this is your sexual fantasy, talk it out. Tell your partner: "Hey, I'm a voyeur," or "The idea of catching you doing this really turns me on. Can we set up a scene in which we make this happen?"
Masturbation is "me time"—plain and simple. Do your best to pretend the outside world doesn't exist (buh bye, phone) and tune into what's going on inside your bod. "A woman who can practice mindfulness is much more likely to reach orgasm sooner," says Dr. Millheiser. "While masturbating, if you find that your mind is wandering off, recognize that and gently bring it back to focus."
Using your phone to explore erotic content (more on this below)? Put that thang on Do Not Disturb. Last thing you want is a message from your boss popping up when you’re about to finish…
Everyone has hang-ups that make them feel lesser-than when it comes to their bodies. Let that ish go, especially when you're masturbating!
Rather than dwelling on parts you're not totally satisfied with (like, say, your stomach), focus on the sensuality of your curves and how capable your body is of pleasure. Research links having a positive body image with greater sexual satisfaction. So, far from being frivolous, loving your body can help you, ya know, love on your body.
Why save your sexiest underwear for an audience? If the black lace bra you haven't worn since V-day makes you feel sexy, or that pair of Calvin Klein briefs brings you gender euphoria, put ‘em on! Taking them off can be part of the scene too, as Amy Levine, sex coach and founder of Ignite your Pleasure previously told Women's Health . As each article comes off, think about what you love most about your body to get all kinds of turned on, she says.
There's no right or wrong way to touch yourself when you masturbate. But this list of all the different ways to masturbate may give you some new tricks that’ll take your self-made orgasm to the next level. Let's begin.
Instead of going from zero to vagina, spend time romancing your non-genital erogenous zones. There’s no rush!
"It's not all about the genitals," Richmond explains. "The best sex is sensation-based, when we're in our bodies and not in our heads." It's all about enjoying the senses, tastes, sounds, and smells of eroticism, versus just grabbing a toy and mindlessly going at it.
"If you are in the early stages [of masturbating], you want to get to know the areas of your body that make you tick,” adds Dr. Millheiser. And the vulva and vagina aren’t the only areas that can turn you on, she says.
"Starting with your fingers is the best way to engage in masturbation," Dr. Millheiser says. Plus, you'll simulate the feeling of a partner's fingers around your vagina, which can help you tap into the right mindset. From there, you can build up the sensation in other ways (more on that in a sec).
If you've just pulled into the self-service station, you might as well try penetrative masturbation—using your fingers, a dildo, or a phallic-shaped vibrator—to see if you like it. If you don't, NBD, you're still one step closer to knowing what you *do* like.
“You don’t have to go inside the ass to enjoy its pleasure-potential,” Fleming says. The entrance of the anus has as many nerve endings as the tip of the penis (about 4,000).
When you begin “exploring anal masturbation, start externally and get comfortable and familiar with the sensation,” Carol Queen, PhD, a staff sexologist at Good Vibrations previously told Women’s Health . Add a squirt of lube to your finger and simply circle the entrance to start.
"The whole is greater than the sum of our sexual parts," says Nan Wise , PhD, a licensed psychotherapist and certified sex therapist. Translation: Combining stimulation from multiple erogenous zones (e.g. clitoris, vagina, cervix, nipple, inner thighs, and anus) can add up to some serious pleasure.
Some pleasure-seekers can actually orgasm from touching their nipples alone. Try putting one hand on your breast and the other inside you. "Give yourself permission to lay down and let your hands wander," advises Brito.
But "you don’t have to turn off your mind to orgasm," says Wise. Instead, she suggests "paying attention to sensations"—not unlike how you pay attention to your breath when meditating.
Don't rush it! Take as much time as you need, says Richmond. If you can make it an all-day affair, why not pull a Samantha Jones and make it one?! "Once a week or once every couple of weeks, maybe go into a self-pleasure session without orgasm having to be on the menu," Richmond suggests. Doing so can help you really explore your body instead of just rubbing one out real quick.
You switch positions in sex, so why not when you masturbate too? "There is no one position that works for everyone. You have to experiment and find what’s right for you," Dr. Millheiser says.
Some people like to rub their clit against the bed, while others like to lay on their backs. Some like to keep their knees bent; others like to splay their legs out straight, and others still like to lift their legs into a V-shape. It doesn't matter what your personal taste is—but you won't know until you move around.
Wise says the most important part of masturbation is simply to "savor the sensation" and not set out with the intention of orgasm. "Being in the experience is key," she says.
Sorta like with actual sex and relationships, it's best not to go into masturbating with any expectations—even achieving orgasm—because that can make you feel anxious, says Brito.
Still, if you find yourself freaking out because nothing's "happening," especially during your first me-sesh, that's totally normal and completely okay. Remember that you're experimenting in t
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