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Make Sex Better
By Gigi Engle Published: Feb 26, 2018
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Gigi Engle is a writer, certified sexologist, sex coach, and sex educator. Her work regularly appears in many publications including Brides, Marie Claire, Elle Magazine, Teen Vogue, Glamour and Women's Health.
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Things you may have filed under don't ask a friend over brunch : "What was your bowel movement like this morning?", "When are you going to dump your boring boyfriend?", and "What are your go-to moves for mind-blowing sex? I need helppp!"
But that last one is totally a shame. Because, even though talking about sex with your friends can be awkward or even flat-out unhelpful, some of the best sex tips and inspo can come from ladies who have been there, done that.
To help you tap into the intel of other women's sexcapades, Women’s Health surveyed 81 real women, ages 22 to 51 to find out their advice for taking your sex life from meh to amazing. And they certainly delivered. Here are some of the best ideas on how to have better romps, more orgasms, and fabulous sexual experiences overall—from ladies who know what's up.
“Communicate, communicate, communicate!”— Maire, 23
“Be honest about what you like without the fear of judgement, because nine times out of 10, your partner also has kinks, and when you’re honest, they open up too.”— Grace, 25
“Communicate with your partner about what you both need to do, or what it takes for both parties to orgasm.”— Stella, 26
“Speak up with your partner...always. Ask questions in non-sexy times.”— Stephanie, 32
“Have a conversation (while you’re not in the middle of or about to have sex) about sex and what you both enjoy and don’t enjoy.”— Louise, 23
“Build a level of intimacy and connection before you get down to anything. And [spend] a decent chunk of time just kissing and [enjoying] foreplay. Why do some guys forget about f*cking foreplay?”— Grace, 25
“I need lots of foreplay and anticipation! It's also important to communicate. Speak openly about what you like, don't like, things you want to try, etc.”— Andrea, 25
“Go slow. Create a yes, no, or maybe list of things to try together, and then explore.”— Olive, 31
“I need them to make me feel safe and to be 100 percent present in the moment with me. That can mean asking me how I'm doing, taking cues from my body, and asking me 'is it okay if I do this?' Also clitoral stimulation is KEY for me.”— Arielle, 27
“Focus on your partner more, pleasing others is the sexiest thing.”— Griffin, 29
“Clit action, please!”— Marie, 23 (Need some inspo? Try these mind-blowing ways to stimulate your clit .)
“Stimulate my clitoris via manual clitoral massage or oral sex.”— Sadie, 47
“Nipple play (suck, squeeze, hold).”— Rachel, 26
“Try something new. We're living and f*cking in a time where sex toy technology is peak level, take advantage of that shi*t.”— Danielle, 29
“Cock rings are life-altering.”— Lucy, 27
“Use a sex toy, with or without a partner! Sex toys are amazing for enhancing sexual pleasure, and can give you and your long-term partner something else to bond over." — Kate, 23
“Use sex toys! And focus on the woman’s pleasure not just the man’s.”— Scarlett, 25
“Lube makes everything better + vibrators.”— Polly, 31
(Don't know where to start? Check out some of our fave sex toys .)
“Edging!!!!!! Bring each other to the brink of orgasm, but don’t follow through, let the intensity and anticipation build.”— Kait, 22 (And here's everything you you need to know about edging ?)
“Don’t let me come and then I’ll come all at once after oral sex.”— Maya, 28
"Laugh during sex! With the weird sounds and uncomfortable positions, sex can be hilarious sometimes! So don't take it too seriously, and try to laugh over that little, embarrassing queef you may let out in the middle of your sexy session.”— Kate, 23
“Have more fun and don’t be so uptight, sex is supposed to be about letting loose.”— Alice, 22
Note: Some quotes have been edited for clarity.
Gigi Engle is a sex educator and writer living in Chicago. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @GigiEngle.
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Sex isn't just fun. It's good for you too. Every orgasm releases a flood of the hormone oxytocin , which improves your mood. Regular rolls in the hay could improve your heart health, reduce stress and depression, improve your self-esteem, and help you sleep better. Snuggling together underneath the sheets also makes you feel closer to your partner and enhances your sense of intimacy.
Couples who talk to each other about their wants and desires have better sex and a healthier relationship, research finds. Tell your partner what you like and don't like. Share your most intimate fantasies and desires. If you're too bashful to say those private thoughts out loud, write them down in a story or a journal entry for your partner to read.
Spice up your sex life by stretching your boundaries as a couple. Play around with foreplay . Touch each other in new ways. Try out different sex positions to see which ones feel best. Dress up in costumes and play as characters (nurse-doctor, cowboys). Move from the bed to the floor, the bathroom, or the kitchen counter. Watch a dirty movie together. Bring sex toys like a vibrator, anal beads, or feathers into the mix.
No matter how much you might want to have sex, your busy schedule can get in the way. So pencil sexy time into your calendar, just like you would other important dates. Then you'll be less likely to skip it. Setting a date gives you time to prepare and something to look forward to. Book sex as often as is realistic -- whether it's once a week or every other day. Choose times when you know you won't be tired or distracted.
Working out boosts stamina in bed and puts you in the mood. Exercise also creates a more toned body, which improves self-esteem and makes you feel sexier. It's not clear how much exercise you need to improve your sex life. Start with the standard recommendations -- 150 minutes of aerobic activity and two days of strength training a week.
No matter how busy you are, sex is one part of your day that you shouldn't rush. Don't skimp on the foreplay. Those extra minutes that you spend touching and kissing each other help get you aroused and make sex more pleasurable. When you slow down, you also get more time to spend with your partner. That's good for your relationship overall.
Women's bodies naturally make their own lubricant, but sometimes it's in short supply. Hormonal changes around the time of menopause can cause vaginal dryness that makes for painful sex. A water-based lubricant is safest to use with condoms . But, silicone-based lubes are less irritating for anal sex.
Not every romantic encounter has to end in sex. You and your partner can find pleasure in many other ways. Take a bath together or give each other a sensual massage. Have a hot make-out session on the couch. Bring each other to orgasm through masturbation. Teach each other how you like to be touched. Or just cuddle.
Sex is a potent stress reliever, but it's hard to get in the mood when you're all keyed up. After a tough day, do something calming together to relax you. Listen to soft music. Practice relaxation exercises such as deep breathing or meditation . Research shows that mindfulness meditation helps women get more in tune with their bodies during sex.
Kegels strengthen the pelvic floor muscles that support your bladder. They also relax the vagina to make sex more comfortable, improve blood flow down there, and make it easier to reach orgasm. To do these simple exercises, just tighten and relax the muscles you use to hold in pee. And they're not just for women. Men who practice Kegel exercises have better erections and more intense orgasms.
Sometimes all you need to rev up your sex life is a change of scenery. Take a trip together. You don't have to go far, but certain settings -- like the ocean or mountains -- are ideal for rekindling romance. Turn off your cell phones and focus on each other. For an extra spark, pretend that you've just started dating -- or that you're strangers who've met up for a forbidden tryst.
Sometimes the solution to better sex is in your medicine chest. Some drugs, such as antidepressants and blood pressure medicines, can reduce your desire. The problem could also be a medical condition like heart disease, vaginal dryness , multiple sclerosis, or depression. Schedule a check-up to find out whether a health issue might be affecting your sex life. Be honest with your doctor about the problem, so you can find the right answer.
A sex therapist is the person to see if something is bothering you in the bedroom. Therapists are licensed psychologists or social workers who can address problems such as a lack of desire, trouble getting an erection, or problems reaching orgasm. You can meet with a therapist alone or together with your partner.
Age and Ageing: "Examining associations between sexual behaviours and quality of life in older adults."
Egyptian Journal of Dermatology and Venereology: "Foreplay importance from the point of view of a sample of Egyptian women."
Harvard Medical School: "11 ways to help yourself to a better sex life," "Benefits of exercise for the prostate and erectile dysfunction help," "Get back in sexual sync."
Healthy Women: "Sexual Dysfunction," "Should You Try a Sex Schedule?"
International Society for Sexual Medicine: "What are Kegel exercises and what sexual health benefits might they have?"
Journal of Health and Social Behaviors: "Is Sex Good for Your Health? A National Study on Partnered Sexuality and Cardiovascular Risk Among Older Men and Women."
Journal of Social and Personal Relationships: "The specific importance of communicating about sex to couples' sexual and overall relationship satisfaction."
Mayo Clinic: "Female sexual dysfunction: Symptoms & causes," "Low sex drive in women: Diagnosis & treatment," "Sex therapy."
Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center: "Pelvic Floor Muscle (Kegel) Exercises for Women to Improve Sexual Health."
OHSU: "The Benefits of a Healthy Sex Life."
Psychosomatic Medicine: "Effects of Mindfulness Training on Body Awareness to Sexual Stimuli: Implications for Female Sexual Dysfunction."
San Francisco City Clinic: "What type of lube is best for anal sex?"
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U.S. Department of Health & Human Services: "Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans."
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Sometimes bad sex happens to good people. Never fear: There are solutions to those sexual snafus.
Sometimes bad sex happens to good people. (See: Marnie and Booth Jonathan on Girls .) Never fear: There are solutions to those sexual snafus, according to certified sex therapist Sari Cooper , who says: "You have the power to shift things up if you're not enjoying sex."
You're ready for a marathon, but he's done too soon . Try saying, "I am so turned on, can we do some more stuff for me?" Carrying a lipstick vibrator in your bag doesn't hurt, either.
He's giving you oral , but it's not turning you on? While he's down on you , gently lift or turn his head a little, and show him how you want to be touched with your own fingers.
He never goes downtown , but you're dying for some pleasure. "Always start with what you do like," Cooper says. "Try, 'I really liked what we did last night, but how would you feel about oral?'"
Missionary . Every. Single. Time? Pick up a sex game or watch an erotic video together. Even if you end up laughing about it, it can still be titillating.
Seems like his only bedroom goal is his orgasm ? Give him the benefit of the doubt. "Sometimes guys are just uneducated, as opposed to selfish," Cooper says. Let foreplay linger to make sure you're good and ready.
He's pumping away, and it doesn't feel good at all. "A lot of women grin and bear it, which can be painful and cause tears," Cooper says. Try putting your hand on his chest or hips to slow him down to the rhythm you want. Or say, "How about I get on top ?"
Bored by how your guy's lying there, touching you so gently you can barely feel it? Be vocal. Whisper, "harder," or "deeper." And you can always take his hand and physically show him how you want to be touched.
Whether his lips are too wet or too dry, you've got a bad kisser on your hands. Be the change you want to see in your makeout session: Initiate softer, or harder kisses, and tell him how you like it.
He's so focused on grabbing your breasts , he's forgetting you exist above the nipple? If you're straddling him, you're in a perfect position to take his hands in yours, touch your own boobs, and show him how you really want to be caressed.
Your man is not-so-subtly pushing your head down south in hopes of scoring a blow job , but you're not feeling it? Gently take their hand off your head, and sweetly say, "I don't think I'm up for it tonight, but why don't we try a different position?
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