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Spark his most mind-blowing experience ever.
Speaking as a male, I can't think of anything that remotely equals the thrill of an orgasm . What's weird is that, for all the attention it receives, the male orgasm doesn't get talked about in much detail despite the fact that there can be a huge difference in intensity from one to the next. My guess is that the most women don't know this.
With this information gap in mind, I set out to discover what, exactly, makes for the most bone-rattling, foundation-shaking male orgasms, and what women can do to encourage their arrival. I went straight to the experts — a few sex therapists , lots of men. It was as if they (the guys, at least) were just waiting for someone to ask. So here, finally, is everything you need to know about helping your guy have stronger, longer orgasms.
One warning before we begin: Be prepared for surprises, and for seeming contradictions. It turns out that male orgasms are both as single-minded as they sometimes seem, and at the same time a lot more complicated. As sensitive as men are to skill and technique , they're equally powered by mood, setting, and timing . The fun — for him and for you — is in mixing up the following strategies to see what will work tonight. So have at it.
The biggest secret about men's orgasms , I think, is that they reveal how vulnerable we are. That's why they're so sensitive to the environment; slight changes in the wind can turn a 10-gun salute into a popgun. Will, 30, a bank administrator, for instance, says he sometimes finds he can't come at all if he's too worried about his job.
The surprise for me in interviewing men for this story was that only one of them said he enjoyed being brought to orgasm through oral sex. That's an avenue I expected would be number one on most men's hit parade. And it is — but only as foreplay.
We men are really looking for the same things from sex that women are: love, acceptance, and intimacy. The moment of orgasm is when those needs are most exposed, and men — even married men — can get nervous being emotionally naked. When asked what techniques produced his most intense orgasms, Richard fondly recalled lovers who grabbed him by his butt and pulled him tighter toward them, as if they wanted nothing so much as to completely absorb him.
Paul, a 35-year-old executive, talked about how his wife sometimes lovingly strokes his face as he comes. "It's about her showing that she really wants me ," he says. Therapists can talk for hours about how to achieve true intimacy, but a good place to start would be in bed tonight. Tell your man how much you love him, and mean it. Then hold on for dear life.
A good orgasm for a man is the sexual equivalent of a cold beer at the end of the workday: a satisfying reward for a job well done. The job in this case is pleasing you. A major part of the satisfaction men get from sex is the ego boost that results from making our partners go bonkers in bed.
The point is that a lot of men won't allow themselves to savor their own orgasm until they've accomplished that goal. "Performing comes first; my orgasm comes second," says Will. "There are times when I just want to come, but basically my goal is for my wife to find every sexual encounter totally fulfilling."
Sex therapists will tell you that although this approach is admirable — better that men be too concerned with their partners' orgasms than not at all concerned — it can nonetheless constitute a form of voluntary sensory deprivation. By reining in their passion, many men deprive themselves of the sexual abandon that produces the strongest orgasms. "Sex becomes a battle to make sure she has an orgasm, rather than a mutual sharing of enjoyment," says Barry McCarthy, Ph.D., a psychologist and sex therapist in Washington, DC, and coauthor of Male Sexual Awareness .
The solution? Give your man the night off. Encourage him to focus on enjoying himself without worrying about taking care of you. There are two basic ways to go about this. One is to tell him, as your lovemaking heats up, that you want this one to be all for him, that tonight he should do whatever makes him feel good. The other is to encourage him to lie back passively and let himself be pleasured by you . Sex therapists say this is a better method, because it enables him to concentrate completely on what he's feeling, rather than on what he's doing. The same should go for you when he returns the favor another night: Ideally, both of you will regularly take turns teaching the other delightful lessons in the art of orgasmic appreciation.
One caution: Michael Seiler, Ph.D., a marriage and sex therapist at the Phoenix Institiute in Chicago, says many men find it difficult to let go of control during sex. Don't be surprised, then, if it takes a while before your husband is comfortable turning the reins completely over to you. Be patient, but be firm. He'll learn to love it.
Ask any man after a week on the road — abstinence is the world's most powerful aphrodisiac. Even when he's not out of town, you can contribute to that pent-up, dying-to-make-love state of mind by deploying some sexual teasing tactics during the day. Robert Birch, Ph.D., a sex therapist in Columbus, Ohio, suggests "accidentally" flashing a little breast at him in the morning, or giving him a lascivious phone call at the office. "Women can plant a sexual seed that will flower that night into a stronger orgasm," he says.
The same drive that makes a man an animal when he gets home from a road trip is at work within each individual bout of lovemaking. Uri Peles, M.D., director of the Beverly Hills Center for Sexual Medicine, points out that as foreplay continues , muscle tension builds and the genital area becomes engorged with blood, resulting in a steadily growing pressure for release. The more pressure, the more pleasure in the release, because the contractions tend either to be stronger or last longer.
In our heart of hearts, we men know that the longer the foreplay , the stronger the orgasm, for ourselves as well as for our partners. But at the same time, we have this incredibly powerful drive to simply come, come, come! We can't help it: It's been hardwired into our sexual circuitry over thousands of years.
The trick for you is to help your husband set aside this evolutionary imperative so that sex lasts long enough for a truly eventful climax to build. Linda De Villers, Ph.D., a psychologist and sex therapist in El Segundo, California, suggests setting the tone for longer, more languorous sex by starting things off with a slow, sensual back rub. Other delaying tactics can be brought into play as the festivities progress. Stopping for an occasional cooling-off period works beautifully, but takes discipline.
The woman-on-top position is useful because it helps the man restrain his urge to start thrusting. A prolonging method that may take practice is called the "squeeze technique." Just before his orgasm appears imminent, put your thumb on one side of the base of the penis and the tips of your index and middle fingers on the other side, then squeeze. You can then start your mutual ascent to the mountaintop again.
A corollary of the quickie concept is the sneak attack: An element of sexual surprise can produce a powerful climax. Sometimes you need to cut through all the chaos and clutter of modern life. Anything from job pressure to money woes to kid problems to bedroom boredom can come between you and your man's deepest passions. Spontaneity can help bring him to his senses. A good time to try this is on a weekend morning. That's usually when men are most relaxed and their testosterone levels are at their peak.
It's not really politically correct to admit this, but the truth is that when orgasm is imminent, there's only one male erogenous zone, and you know where it is. "That doesn't mean men don't like to be kissed or caressed, but when it comes to orgasm, you can start and end with the penis," says Marilyn Volker, Ed.D., a sexologist in Miami.
It makes sense, therefore, that when men are out for the most lustful orgasms, their positions of choice tend to be those that provide the most direct penile stimulation, and the best opportunities for penile thrust. "For pure physicality, rear entry is the way to go," says Carl, 31, an environmental planner. "There's more friction, more depth ... I also love it when my wife is on top, holding herself up, especially when she does that backward."
Carl also mentions another favorite form of penile stimulation: the vaginal squeeze of a woman who's been doing her Kegel exercises. (Kegels strengthen the PC muscle, the one you clench when you want to shut off your flow of urine.) "All of a sudden it feels like a hand gripping you," he says. " That's amazing. "
Arousal is a mysterious and powerful thing, and sometimes the frenzied abandon of a quick and lustful coupling can produce a climax that's every bit as explosive as a marathon session in the sack. I suspect this has something to do with that centuries-old sexual circuitry we mentioned: Sex without ceremony can tap into deep reservoirs of animal instinct. I personally had one of my strongest orgasms when my wife overpowered me as I innocently came home from work one night — pieces of clothing were scattered between the front door and the bedroom. I'm sure the fact that she was the instigator added fuel to the fire.
As concentrated as we men are on our penises, there are other strategic spots that, when stimulated, can send us careening over the edge. Some men say that having their testicles stroked as they come heightens the sensation. "Women are more worried about touching the testicles than they should be," says Adam, 32, an insurance rep. "It's only when you bang into the testicles that it hurts. Having the scrotum rubbed feels great." Other sensitive spots seem to depend more on personal taste. Richard, 49, a writer and editor, loves it when his wife rubs his nipples; Carl recalls a girlfriend who greedily sucked his fingers.
If he's comfortable with anal play, a prostate massage can result in an extra intense, prolonged orgasm . To find his, slowly insert a well-lubed finger about one inch into his anus, then move your digit in a "come here" motion.
There are parts all over a guy's body that might stimulate him and drive him crazy – and they may be less obvious than the aforementioned places. Have you given any consideration to his torso, temples, or chest? Well, you should.
Another special spot? The sensitive space between his balls and butt. "Just applying pressure to stimulate the perineum can definitely heighten a male orgasm," says Blaylock-Johnson. No matter the positioning, reach an arm around or through to gently place a finger tip or even knuckle on the area, taking care to see how he reacts to see if that pressure is right.
Yep — they can make male orgasms stronger too. And they've also been shown to significantly improve erectile function in men who deal with ED. According to a 2005 study published in the British Journal of Urology , 40% of male study participants who performed kegels totally regained their erectile function, and 35.5% reported significant improvement.
Have you considered all the sexy things you can say to a man ? Spoiler alert: The dirtier, the better. Don't underestimate the power your words can have during foreplay, leading up to something even more explosive for him.
The male orgasm consists of two stages. In stage 1, the sperm is drawn up from the testicles and pooled with ejaculatory fluids in a sort of staging area just below the prostate gland. Masters and Johnson called this the point of "ejaculatory inevitability," meaning that the man's mother, his priest, and his former girlfriend could walk in the room, and his orgasm would continue as if nothing had happened. Stage 2, which kicks in seconds later, is ejaculation.
If possible, avoid interrupting your man's concentration as the stages unfold. Using techniques that both of you know and like is fine, but unexpected, dramatic maneuvers at the point of orgasm are more likely to distract than accentuate. Moving a lot falls into that category. Simply stand back, as it were, and let his orgasm happen . "It's not the time to get fancy or creative," says Carl.
Again, a dilemma: How do you find new ways to push your man over the top without interrupting his orgasmic concentration? Realize that you have to choose some nights to experiment and others to go for the peak experience.
A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior showed that formerly sedentary men who exercised for 60 minutes at a time, 3 days a week, reaped big rewards in the bedroom. They reported increased desire, better performance , and more intense orgasms — most likely thanks to increased blood flow as their circulatory systems became more efficient. What's more, exercise has been shown to boost testosterone levels in both men and women, which can make both partners hornier.
Running your fingers through your man's chest hair might not seem like it does a whole lot, but that's where you'd be wrong — the area is so sensitive that this simple act can drive him wild. "Place your hand flat on their lower chest or belly and, keeping your palm on their skin, run it up their chest until you have a handful of hair. Tug, starting gently," says Kait Scalisi, sex educator and founder of PassionbyKait.com . "Pulling this way stimulates the nerve endings without giving that stingy hair-pulling feel. You can do this on their head, too, starting at the back of their neck."
It's a buzzword for stress relief and meditation , but mindfulness is about appreciating the present moment and all of its sensations. That can be tough during the rough-and-tumble action of sex. "Try making sure that the other person stays in their body during sex, and really experiences the pleasure," instead of zoning out or even losing themselves in it, says Blaylock-Johnson. "You're not necessarily working toward orgasm, but just being present."
You can experiment with your own mindfulness, or get him to your sexy zen headspace by maintaining eye contact, slowing your breathing, and keeping your movements languid.
It sounds decidedly unsexy, but one study found it can actually make your time between the sheets even hotter. Researchers at the University of Groningen found 80% of couples were able to have an orgasm while wearing socks compared to just 50% without socks. So maybe the next time you get naked, leave on just that one item of clothing.
A more extreme version of extending the foreplay is called "edging," where you get him right up to the yes, edge, and then back off. "You stop before you experience climax, and simmer, then repeat that a few times," suggests De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson of Sankofa Sex Therapy . "It builds up the energy so that you have a more, well, explosive and intense orgasm." Of course, let him know if that's your plan, otherwise he might just think you're being mean.
No matter how long you've been with your partner, it's never too late to have an open and honest conversation about what you like in bed — and what you don't. One survey found couples who talked openly about sex became closer on an emotional level, and that closeness translated in the libido department . (Hello, best orgasms ever.)

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Kick your pleasure into overdrive with a few simple tricks.
Orgasms feel differently for everyone, and can happen in a variety of ways, from P-in-V intercourse to prostate massage to nipple play . But if there's one thing we can all agree on, it's that an orgasm represents the pleasurable peak between the build-up and release of sexual tension. Translation: It feels freakin' amazing. But when it comes to pleasure, more is definitely more, and there are plenty of techniques to hack your way to more frequent and all-around better orgasms.
Boosting the frequency and intensity of the male orgasm comes down to three factors, sex educator Kenneth Play says in Men's Health Best. Sex. Ever.
"One is: Are you getting the tactile sensation or stimulation that you need in order for your unique brain and body to have an orgasm?" he says. "The second thing is: Are you having the right context that arouses you? Sex is such a contextual thing. Like, to have your butthole touched by a doctor examining you is very different than a lover touching your butthole; it’s the exact same touch, but the context really dictates the experience. The third part is about mindfulness. Are you paying enough attention and connecting with your partner that you’re experiencing it fully?"
The more you practice maximizing your orgasmic experience using the tips and techniques below, the better it'll feel to cum every time.
"There’s a compound interest," Play says, "just like the more fit you get, the easier it is to work out."
We talked to sex experts and evaluated the latest research to recommend the best ways to strengthen the male orgasm. Here are 13 simple strategies to take your orgasms from good to great, whether you're masturbating or getting down with a partner.
If you haven’t already been introduced, meet your taint—or your perineum , if we’re getting technical. It’s the strip of skin between your balls and your butt, and it’s one of many highly erogenous zones that responds well to sexual stimulation. “This area is packed with nerve-endings, so it feels really sensitive,” says Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., coauthor of Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy .
Some guys say that by applying pressure to this area, they’re able to have multiple orgasms —which is probably because you can stimulate your prostate gland externally via your perineum. During intercourse or
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