Losing Virginity

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Make sure you are ready to have sex . Feeling nervous about your first time is normal. If you feel tense when you think about sex or when you and your partner are fooling around, it might be a sign that you should wait. If you have sex when it doesn't feel right, you may enjoy sex less and become tense during the act.

A lot of people grow up being taught sex is shameful, should be reserved for marriage, and is only to be experienced between a man and a woman. [1]
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If the idea of sex makes you feel guilty or stressed, maybe you should wait. Try talking to someone about your feelings.
It is normal to feel insecure or unconfident about your body. But if you are scared or cannot be naked because of how you look, it might be a sign that you're not quite ready to be with a partner.
Don't feel ashamed of your sexual preferences. Only you can decide who you're attracted to and what type of sex you want.




Communicate with your partner. Talking with your partner can establish trust while helping you feel more positive about having sex. A good partner should be considerate of your feelings and willing to help you through the process. If your potential partner pressures you too much or makes you feel uncomfortable, reconsider having sex with them.

Talk about birth control and protection before you have sex. You might say, “I’m on birth control, but you’re still going to use a condom, right?”
Let them know what your fears and expectations are and how you're feeling. You might say, “I’m really nervous about it hurting the first time.”
Tell your partner if there’s something you want to try or something you absolutely don’t want to do. For example, you can tell them, “I don’t mind oral sex, but I’m not really into anal.”
If you’re nervous or anxious, let them know. If they dismiss your feelings, it may be a sign that they do not take your concerns seriously.



Find a trusted adult you can talk to. You might feel awkward discussing sex with an adult, but you should at least identify someone you can reach out to for help. This could be a parent, a doctor, nurse, school counselor, or an older sibling. They can give you advice, answer your questions, and provide access to protection. Even if you don't end up talking to them beforehand, you may want to have someone you could contact in case of emergency.
If you feel pressured to have sex, talk to a trusted adult for help. Remember that you never have to have sex unless you want to. No one should pressure you into doing something you don't want to.


Learn about how sex works. Understanding your own anatomy can help you feel more confident, especially if your partner is also a virgin. Knowing what goes where, what's normal, and what to expect can help ease your anxiety. Some places you can look include Planned Parenthood , Sex, Etc. and Scarleteen .
Masturbation can help you understand what you enjoy when it comes to sex. Before having sex with a partner, try experimenting with yourself.


Discover your hymen. Contrary to popular belief, the hymen membrane does not usually cover the vaginal opening unless a condition exists such as a microperforate or septate hymen. Rather than it being a "seal of freshness" like many say, it is instead the muscle and skin surrounding the opening, akin to the skin and muscle of the butthole. It doesn't "break", but it can be damaged by anything from tampons, doing the splits, or when having sex or inserting larger objects in, which causes the pain most virgins feel.

If the hymen is damaged or torn, it will most likely bleed. This can be seen whilst and after sex. The amount of blood should not be nearly as much blood as if you were on your period.
Tearing/"breaking" your hymen shouldn't be very painful. Pain during sex is usually caused by friction. This can happen if you are not lubricated or aroused enough.



Identify the angle of your vagina. If you can help your partner ease into you at the correct angle, you'll avoid some potentially painful fumbling. Most vaginas are angled with a forward tilt toward the belly. If you were standing, your vagina would be at a 45-degree angle to the floor. [2]
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If you use tampons, take note of how you approach inserting a tampon. Try to recreate that same angle when you start penetrative sex.
If you don't use tampons, insert a finger next time you're in the shower. Aim toward your lower back; if that doesn't feel comfortable, shift forward slightly until you find a point that's comfortable.



Locate your clitoris. Women rarely experience orgasm from penetration alone. Instead, clitoral stimulation usually causes them to orgasm. Oral sex or clitoral stimulation before penetration can relax the muscles.

Try to locate your clitoris before you have sex. You can do this by masturbating or by looking with a mirror and a flashlight. This can help you guide your partner to it during sex, especially if your partner is also a virgin.
Orgasming before penetration may actually help reduce pain during sex. Try to engage in oral sex during foreplay and before penetration. Your partner can also stimulate your clitoris with their fingers or a sex toy.



Pick a stress-free location. If you're constantly worried about getting caught, you might not have much fun. Make it easier on yourself and your partner by choosing a time and place where you won't be disturbed.

Look for privacy, a comfortable surface to lie down on, and a time when you aren't worried about being on a schedule.
Think about whether you're more comfortable having sex at your place or theirs.
If you're in a dorm or if you share a room, you might ask your roommate to give you some time alone that night.



Set a relaxing mood. Loosen up by making the atmosphere stress-free. Clean up any distracting clutter, shut off your phone, and remove anything else that might make you feel nervous or keep you from focusing on your partner.

Dim lighting, soft music, and a warm room temperature can help make you feel safe and comfortable.
Consider taking some time to groom yourself beforehand so that you feel relaxed and confident.



Get consent. Make sure you and your partner have openly agreed to have sex. If you're not sure how your partner is feeling, ask before going forward. Just because your partner doesn't say "no," it doesn't mean you have consent. [3]
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They should respond with a confident, absolute “yes.”

If your partner doesn’t want sex, do not pressure them. If you do not want sex, they should back off when you say no.
Consent also means that you shouldn’t do anything that your partner isn’t enthusiastic about.



Use condoms. Condoms protect against both pregnancy and sexually-transmitted infections (STIs). Using protection may help you relax if you are nervous about getting pregnant or a disease. Other forms of birth control do not protect against STIs, so a condom gives you an extra layer of protection. If your partner refuses to use a condom, you may want to reconsider having sex with them.

There are both male and female condoms available.
The most important thing about condoms is that they fit. Partners should buy a few different types of condoms. Try them on and see what fits best. If your partner has a latex allergy, nitrile condoms are a great alternative.
Condoms should be worn before, during, and after penetration. This will increase your protection against STIs and pregnancy.



Apply lubricant. Lubricant will ease a lot of the pain by reducing friction. It can also help prevent condoms from breaking during sex. Apply lubricant to your partner's penis over the condom or sex toy before they penetrate you.
If you're using latex condoms, do not use an oil-based lubricant. These can weaken the latex and cause the condom to tear or break. Instead, use a silicone- or water-based lube. It is safe to use any type of lube with a nitrile or polyurethane condom.


Take your time. Try to enjoy the moment instead of rushing to the finish line. Spend time figuring out what you and your partner both enjoy. Start with kissing, move to making out, and stick to whatever pace feels most comfortable for both of you.

Foreplay can help you relax while increasing arousal. It can also increase your natural lubrication, making it easier for your partner to enter you painlessly.
Remember that you can stop having sex at any point. Consent is active and ongoing. You have the right to stop or withdraw consent at any point you want.



Communicate your needs. Don't be afraid to ask for what you need in the moment. If something feels good, let your partner know. If something is causing you pain or discomfort, tell them. They should be willing to do what it takes to make you feel pleasure instead of pain.

If you’re feeling pain, try slowing down, moving more gently, or using more lubrication. For example, if you feel pain, you might say, “Do you mind if we slow down? This is hurting me right now.”
You can ask your partner to try a different position if the one you’re using is uncomfortable. For example, if you are on top of your partner, you can better control the speed and angle of penetration.



Do some aftercare. If you have pain or bleeding, deal with it before it becomes too overbearing. Take an over-the-counter pain reliever, clean up any blood, and wear a light pad for a few hours. If you experience extreme pain, you need to talk to a trusted adult or see a health care provider.

Why do I start to shake every time my boyfriend and I plan to have sex?

You may not really be ready to have sex yet, or you may be scared. Think about if you are ready to have sex. Are you mature enough? Are you feeling pressured to have sex? Do you really care about your partner and does he treat you well and really care about you? If you don't think you are ready yet, talk to your partner and ask him to wait until you are. If you are ready and have a caring partner, then talk about why you may be scared. If you are worried about pregnancy or diseases, make sure you use condoms and go on birth control first. If you are scared of pain, read the article for tips.


If you are going to have sex, the best way to prevent pregnancy is to start taking the pill or Depo shot at least a month or two before you have sex, AND use a condom as well every time. If you take the pill, you have to make sure you take it when you are supposed to each day and not miss pills. And if you do the Depo shot, you have to get it when it's due, about every 3 months.


This article was co-authored by Laura Marusinec, MD . Dr. Marusinec is a board certified Pediatrician at the Children's Hospital of Wisconsin, where she is on the Clinical Practice Council. She received her M.D. from the Medical College of Wisconsin School of Medicine in 1995 and completed her residency at the Medical College of Wisconsin in Pediatrics in 1998. She is a member of the American Medical Writers Association and the Society for Pediatric Urgent Care. This article has been viewed 17,798,786 times.

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Losing your virginity can seem scary, and the range of myths surrounding it doesn't help. While some women may experience pain during their first experience with penetrative sex, you do not have to have a bad time. Talking to your partner and understanding how sex works can help you relax beforehand. By setting the right mood and using the right tools, you can make your first time a positive and even enjoyable experience.

The content of this article is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, examination, diagnosis, or treatment. You should always contact your doctor or other qualified healthcare professional before starting, changing, or stopping any kind of health treatment.

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No matter how old you are when you lose your virginity, it’s always, um, interesting, to say the least. It doesn't matter how many movies you watch or how many times you flip through the Kama Sutra, you’re never really quite prepared for your first time. Which isn’t a bad thing! Some of the best parts about experiencing a “first” is not being totally prepared for it and being taken by surprise.
According to virginity stats, because yes such things exist, the average American will lose their virginity when they’re 17 . Of course there are those who will lose it before then and those who will lose it later on, but the majority of people lose their virginity in their teens, with only five percent of both men and women, between the ages of 25 and 29, still being virgins in that age bracket. That percentage continues to drop with age, and by the time people have reached 40, the percentage of those who are still virgins between 40 and 44 is a very minute 0.3 percent.
But whether you lose your virginity at 15 or lose it at 35, there are fun and hard truths that come with it, and here are seven of them. But first, check out our video on sex positions for small penises:
Those moments right before you do it for the first time, when you know it’s about to happen, are really exciting! You’re a bit nervous, a bit unsure, really turned on, and you just feel like your head might explode from all the excitement.
The reason your first time is awkward is for the same reason that it’s exciting — it’s totally new. If your partner isn’t a virgin, but you are, then you’re less likely to deal with the awkwardness that two virgins will experience together. I mean, just trying to figure out how to do sex positions, when you’re both virgins, can be tricky. Even people who have been having sex for years sometimes have to finagle during certain positions.
I would never say that it doesn’t feel good at all during a woman’s first time, because I can’t speak for all woman . In my personally experience, it felt weird and foreign; a pressure that I wasn’t sure was good or bad. I also have other friends who liked the way it felt, but agreed that it felt a bit out of place. If you're having penis-in-vagina sex, it’s your vagina’s first introduction to a penis, unless you’ve been using dildos during masturbation, so it’s bound to feel not as great as it may for a man. But once you have a few practice rounds, it gets much better.
First of all, far too many movies center around men losing their virginities instead of women which, in itself, is a problem — American Pie and The 40-Year-Old Virgin , to name two off the top of my head. Secondly, when they do show someone losing their virginity, the guy always climaxes in 2.2 seconds and the girl bleeds because her hymen has been busted wide open ! Nope. Good news: It’s not like that. At all.
In contrast, for those movies that paint virginity loss like this amazing epic thing, as it’s done in The Notebook , it’s definitely not like that either. In fact, it’s just best to throw away any pre-conceived notions you have about losing your virginity based on movies, right out the window.
Whether only one of you are virgins or you both are, sharing such an intimate thing can make you both feel even closer to each other. You never forget the first person you have sex with, just like you never forget your first love , so you’ll always have that shared experience.
Although losing your virginity can make things a little weird at first for all virgins, if you’re both virgins, then you have double the weird. Not weird in a bad way, but it just shifts the dynamic of the relationship a bit. You’ve gone from not having a sex life to having a sex life. It’s a change for you personally and for your relationship, so you find yourself wondering how to handle it. Should we have sex all the time now? Do we do it every time we’re together? Is it OK if I’m not in the mood? Basically, it just brings up a lot of questions, but questions that can be answered by talking to your partner.
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