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It's normal for kids to touch themselves -- but parents don't always know how to respond
Of all the surprises that came with being a mom, this was the biggest: having to deal with my daughters touching their private parts. My youngest, for instance, likes to splay her legs over the sides of the bathtub and caress her, well, you know. And when my other daughter was three years old, she frequently danced naked, running her fingers up and down her torso and in between her, well, you know. “I’m either raising a Broadway star or a stripper!” I once exclaimed to a friend.
I asked other moms if this behaviour was normal. One told me, “My son plays with his woo-hoo every night before bed.” Another came right out and said it: “My child masturbates.”
Yikes! Masturbation. This can’t be what my daughters are doing…or is it? And if it is, is it so bad? I know my reaction to their behaviour can have long-term consequences on their self-esteem. I know not to say things like “Stop it!” or “That’s bad!” which could make them feel ashamed of their bodies. But I’m not sure what would be helpful to say or do in the situation. So I decided to go to the experts for advice.
“Masturbation is an emotionally loaded term for people,” says Toronto author and sex educator Kim Martyn.“I prefer to say self-exploration or self-pleasuring.” Whatever term you use, Martyn explains that it begins really early for many kids. “We’re hard-wired before we’re born in terms of genital-brain connections,” she says.
Between infancy and age three, boys start to have erections and girls start to lubricate. Joy Becker, a nurse and regional educational consultant with the Options for Sexual Health program in Nanaimo, BC, cautions these are not signs of sexual arousal. “It’s just reflexes at this stage,” she says.
Laura Wershler, executive director of Sexual Health Access Alberta, an organization that connects people of all ages with sexual health information, education and services, says some children find rubbing their genitals to be comforting, the same way sucking a thumb or holding onto an old blanket is for others.
And from about three to six years of age, children often start to explore their bodies with same- and opposite-sex peers. “By this point, they’re curious about bodies, and may play ‘doctor’ to find out about differences,” says Wershler.
Expert opinion differs on what self-pleasuring means for kids as they develop. Some say sexual fantasies don’t occur until puberty, that even though boys wake up with and have erections throughout the day, and girls self-touch frequently, they aren’t aroused or having orgasms. Others say children can be aroused and seem to experience orgasm even during infancy. Because of the lack of research on child sexuality (for ethical reasons), no one knows for certain.
For teenagers, masturbation is not only normal, but it’s healthy, says Martyn, who is also the author of All the Way: Sex for the First Time . And for girls, it can be especially important. “Female bodies are more complex,” she says. “Often the first time a girl or woman has an orgasm is through self-pleasuring. And when young women learn how to do this on their own, they can then guide their partners better and enjoy sex with someone else.”
There is medical research to suggest that men who masturbate and orgasm regularly may have lower risks of prostate cancer. The key thing is not to make boys feel embarrassed, says Wershler. “There is a kind of shaming that goes on — that they are desperate, pathetic or something is wrong with them if they masturbate.”
With both genders, rubbing to the point of orgasm releases dopamine and endorphins, which help young people relax and feel more connected to their bodies. And self-exploration is one way for young people to figure out when (and wait until) they’re ready to become intimate with another person. “It allows the young person to have sexual pleasure without feeling the need to seek out a partner,” says Martyn.
So how do you help your kids feel good about their bodies while ensuring they know how to protect themselves? The most important thing to teach them is the difference between self-touching in private versus public places. “The message should be that touching in and of itself is not dirty or disgusting, so long as it’s done in an appropriate place and doesn’t put the child at risk of exploitation,” says Sara Dimerman, a child and family therapist in Thornhill, Ont. “It’s OK for them to touch themselves when they’re in their rooms alone, but not at the supermarket or the park.”
Becker says parents should try to talk about masturbation as neutrally as possible. “It’s not one big conversation about the birds and the bees,” says Becker. “Your children will have different questions at different times. If you don’t know the answer, say you’ll look it up together. If the question gets asked at an inappropriate place, like a party, tell your child you’ll talk about it when you get home — and then do it.”
As uncomfortable as this may be, studies show that children who have ongoing and open discussions with their families on this subject tend to delay sexual intercourse and engage in less risky sexual behaviours when they do become sexually active.
One word of caution: Masturbation that becomes obsessive and compulsive might be a sign that something is wrong. If playing with other children or other daily activities take a back seat to the touching, it could indicate that the child has been sexually abused, explains Wershler. “Talk to the child and seek out a professional — such as a doctor — for help and guidance.”
For young children • It’s Not the Stork! A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends by Robie Harris and Michael Emberley • Mummy Laid an Egg! by Babette Cole
For older kids and young teens • Boys, Girls & Body Science: A First Book About Facts of Life by Meg Hickling • The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Girls and The “What’s Happening to My Body?” Book for Boys by Lynda Madaras
For parents • Beyond the Big Talk: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Teens by Debra W. Haffner • The New Speaking of Sex: What Your Children Need to Know and When They Need to Know It by Meg Hickling • It’s Easier Than You Think! Talking with Your Children About Sexual Health and Well-Being A brochure for parents at sexualhealthaccess.org.
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Many parents find it superawkward when their kids start masturbating , but it's not only normal, it's healthy. Readers often ask each other how they should respond, especially when kids masturbate in public. There's one fairly common denominator among the responses: teach your child appropriate boundaries without making them feel ashamed. The question is . . . how?
According to the University of Michigan's Development and Behavior Resources program, the vast majority of kids discover their genitals and the pleasure they can bring by age 6. While discussions seem to revolve mostly around boys and girls who are in the 10 to 13 range, whatever age your child is at when she or he makes this discovery is the time to start discussing when and where this behavior is appropriate.
Carrie A.'s two kids (ages 10 and 13) have been taught that masturbation is fine in the privacy of their bedroom or bathroom, and not in other places. She has promised them she won't come in without knocking, and she always waits for them to say, "Come in." This seems like a respectful approach , and one that will likely build trust in her family.
Door-locking is not allowed in Tisha P.'s home, but her kids, too, know that they have privacy behind the closed doors of their bedrooms. For safety reasons, she has asked her kids to never use objects (only hands), and to wash their hands when they're finished. Beyond that, they are allowed to explore their bodies freely in private.
There does, perhaps not surprisingly, seem to be a discrepancy between parental perceptions of boys versus girls when it comes to masturbation. Many moms see it as normal for boys, but somewhat disturbing when girls do it. This is likely the result of deep cultural biases that many of us hold unconsciously.
Lesley comments that "we seem to find boys exploring their bodies a much more acceptable practice." But she has an 11-year-old daughter and adds that she would rather know that her child is exploring her own body rather than " letting someone else do the 'exploring '" as her daughter enters her teen years.
Eva W. suggests to moms who have discomfort around this to "do some soul searching" to try to understand why you have such difficulty accepting what doctors and psychologists say is perfectly normal behavior . In other words, trying to untangle your own hang-ups can go a long way toward helping your child grow up without shame regarding her body. Eva is walking the talk: she has begun talking about puberty and basic reproduction to her 10-year-old twins, as she believes these are related topics that parents should proactively pursue.
The common-sense takeaway here is that kids age 10-13 clearly understand that certain things are to be done at certain places and times. For example, we eat dinner in the early evening, at the table in the kitchen. We take a bath in the bathroom before we go to bed. It's not a great leap for them to understand that masturbation, like going to the toilet, is private.
How did you handle your child's discovery of masturbation?
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Yamini (name changed), 36, a single mother of two, is too busy taking care of her kids’ school assignments and dealing with work pressure in a sales department of an MNC. Sex was becoming a thing she was forgetting the memory of and that is when she decided to take charge. She realized that her sex drive was at an all time low and she needed some stimulation to get started. She decided to masturbate every day for a week. She shares her story.

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So, it was the first day of my masturbation challenge and undoubtedly, I was excited. I dropped my kids off to school and was left with two hours. This is when I utilized the time to my purpose. It didn’t go as I had expected because I climaxed pretty soon. This was a bummer but it really did kick-start my day.

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Again, I had the same routine so I utilized the time between my office and dropping off my kids to school. I was still excited to see how this goes and it went pretty well this time. I took time; I realized how important this used to be for me and how I had to keep this going. My friends were right after all.

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One of my sons fell sick and decided not go to school today and I was left in a dilemma – whether to continue with this stupid thing I had started on or not. I dropped the other one to school and came back with baffling thoughts, only to find my other kid dozing off. This led me to a decisive point – I must continue what I started and there I went again. It took me the most time to climax today but it was also the longest climax I had had so far. It felt amazing. I felt tired and fresh at the same time. I hit office with a glowing face today.

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It was another usual day when both my kids went to school and I came back home thinking of ways to go about my masturbation today. But then I got a call from one of my cousins who was coming to meet and collect something from my home. It left me with no time for self love as I had to rush to office after that. Strangely, I felt a sexual urge throughout the day and a dire need to have a climax. I had never felt this way for almost a year now. It felt strange but good. I was wondering where I will fit today’s masturbation session but then I was suddenly reminded of the cricket coaching that my kids go for in the evening. I felt relieved, almost like a teenage girl who gets excited at such thoughts. And there I went again. It was good, quicker than the previous day as I had to hold myself throughout the day and tiring. It almost made me fall in bed and doze off.

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I wasn’t really in the mood today. I dropped my kids off and was drivi
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