Lesbian Sex Ideas

Lesbian Sex Ideas
When it comes to porn, "lesbian sex" is everywhere, but it’s never actually for lesbians. For some reason, it’s nearly impossible to find "content" where women are having sex with women only for women.
Where do you go if you’re looking for a move or six?
We’ve gathered up tips from cis and trans queer women of different ages, races, and sexual styles. Of course, you don’t have to be a lesbian to have “lesbian sex." You just need two women. Whether you’re a baby dyke or seasoned sapphic, you can learn something here you won’t on Pornhub. Some of the following images are NSFW.
1. Forget what you see in porn. You’re not having performative sex intended for a man to watch on his screen. React to what you and your specific partner enjoy and don’t try to make it look like Blue Is The Warmest Color (no one screws in perfect symmetry)!
2. Don't worry about shaving too much. It's nice to keep things trimmed and cleaned, but your real life lover isn’t looking for a pornstar’s pussy. The most important parts are naturally hairless anyway!
3. Realize that lesbian bodies come in many forms (including pre-surgery trans women.) Ask your partner how their genitals like to be touched and how you can validate their gender identity in the bedroom.
4. Lesbians do more than go down on each other. Your tongue is not the only tool you can put in the box. You’ve got fingers, dildos, vibrators, and in case of emergency, fruit.
6. Use your whole mouth when giving oral, not just your tongue.
7. Pay attention to her inner thighs. Lick, bite, and blow. The erogenous zone is an often ignored yet extremely sensitive area.
8. Delay. Don’t be afraid to give her a peck down there and breathe on it until she’s practically begging for your tongue.
9. When she begs, you can also penetrate her with your tongue.
10. Insert your fingers into her while giving head to stimulate both her clit and vagina. There’s a reason The Rabbit gets both areas at once!
11. Some people are good with just a fingertip and others want your whole fist. Ask what feels pleasurable and always work your way up.
12. Once you're inside of a girl, curl your fingers so they're shaped like a hook. Pull towards you and straighten them again and repeat. This will stimulate her g-spot.
13. Scissoring is a thing. Some ladies like it, but it’s more fun to run your pussy over each other during foreplay rather than play sexual twister.
14. Make use of pillows by using them to prop your partner up for an easier angle.
15. If you like to be in control, sit on their face. You can change the pressure and movement via your body while receiving oral.
16. Pick a strap-on that’s your style. What is a strap-on? It’s a phallus you literally strap onto yourself with an easy belt. They come in different shapes, colors, and sizes.
17. The first time you wear a strap-on, it can seem weird because you can’t feel your own phallus, but your partner definitely will. The more you use it, the more comfortable it will become.
18. Clean your sex toys after every time you have sex. Please.
19. Use condoms. STIs can be spread through sex toys.
20. Get different dildos for different partners. It’s the right thing to do.
21. Don’t buy your sex toys off of Amazon or other unverified online retailers. They’re not FDA approved and have been linked to causing cancer and infertility. Sex toys can be made with jelly-like plastic sheaths are made with phthalates — those nasty chemicals that are in some water bottles – and you don't want them to eventually seep into your system. Instead, buy from companies that sell non-toxic sex toys. Fun Factory, Lelo, Jimmy Jane, nJoy, JeJoue Vibratex, Goldfrau, Elemental Pleasures, OhMiBod, and Nob Elements are a few.
22. If you're wearing a strap-on and penetrating doggy-style, try using a belt (preferably leather.) Loop it under her stomach/hips and hold the end with one hand and the buckle-end with the other. This will give you more thrust and control.
23. If you’re too lazy to wear the strap-on, or if it's simply uncomfortable, use the dildo on each other as if it were an extension of your hands.
24. Express what you want and how you want it. There’s no need to qualify your desires.
25. If she says don’t stop, don’t stop!
26. Be as honest as possible about where you are in terms of your sexual and gender identity. If you're unsure, say that. Questioning is an identity in itself!
27. Treat others the way you’d like to be treated – in and out of the bedroom.

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Branching out and trying a different type of sex can be pretty exciting, but it can also be a lil daunting as well. Odds are you have a lot of questions going into your first lesbian sex experience: What goes where? Who does what? Is there any special prep work involved?
The good news is, if you're interested in dabbling in lesbian sex for the first time ever, you're in for lots and lots and lots of exploratory fun (with body parts you may already be familiar with as an added bonus). In fact, exploring is a major part of it because, as bisexual relationship therapist Veronica Price explains, lesbian sex isn’t really a one-size-fits-all kind of thing. “There’s not just one, this is what sex looks like for two women . Try to think about sex as the whole, not the hole. Making this mental shift can change your sex life forever.”
This is especially important because lesbian sex doesn’t actually just equal two (or more!) vaginas. “Check your assumptions,” says Rachel Harlich , a psychotherapist and social worker who specializes in helping LGBTQIA+ individuals. “Don’t assume lesbian sex means both individuals are cisgender women. There are definitely trans people and nonbinary folks who are lesbians too!”
This guide—filled with A+ expert advice, btw—aims to serve as a reference for sex with folks who identify as women , which includes both women who have vulvas and women who have penises. I, as a non-discriminating queer , personally love all of ‘em. But tailor the tips and tricks below to your situation and what works best for you and your partner.
Like most things, sex takes practice . But the below can help you head into your first lesbian sex experience a little less anxious, a little more prepared, and a whole lot more likely to have the best sex ever .
This might seem strange because hi, yeah, of course they’re a person, but Price says when you’re wrapped up in this notion of, I want to have lesbian sex , some people forget there’s a human on the other side of their desires, and that can be harmful to them, even if you don't mean for it to be. It becomes "a fantasy is about how you have sex, not who you have sex with,” Price explains. “Curiosity about sex with a woman is more about exploring your sexuality, not exploring a fantasy. And action—dates, masturbation, sex, etc.—can absolutely be a part of exploring your sexuality!” So remember: Be kind, respectful, and honest with this person. (More on that later!)
So in addition to talking to your partner about their sexual history and when they were last tested, you may want to invest in some dental dams to protect yourself from oral infection. Sure, putting your tongue against a piece of plastic might not sound super appealing, but it can prevent you from contracting things like HPV, among other common STIs .
Don’t worry—you don't need to stress about your or your partner’s overall cleanliness. “Picture how you show up for a date. Clean as a whistle, fresh to death,” Price says. And typically, that’s how your partner will show up as well. “That’s what women generally do. They’re considerate.” So just do your usual date routine and you’ll be set.
The one caveat is you’ll want to wash your hands, especially under your nails—just before sex, says public health practitioner Janielle Bryan. “Some sexually transmitted infections can also be transmitted by mutual masturbation, fingers, and hands." You don’t want to bring the bacteria of the day to your partner’s sensitive bits because, hello , UTIs and bacterial infections , so scrub your paws good and scrub 'em often.
Speaking of hands, it’s a bit of a lesbian saying that you can’t have long nails and have lesbian sex. But TBH, many queer women beg to differ , myself included. Acrylic and dip nails are still possible—and can be enjoyable!—during penetrative sex. They’re thicker and less sharp than regular nails, which makes them less dangerously scratchy. And if you’re getting poke-your-eye-out stiletto tips, Harlich suggests you "put cotton balls in the fingertips of a glove! Boom: non-scratchy or pokey fingering!”
As far as natural nails, in my opinion, they tend to be thinner and sharper. As long as they’re trimmed down though, they certainly allow for more dexterity. But honestly, best to ask your partner what they prefer to ensure no anxieties about scratches and/or hangnails.
This might seem obvious, but Price says it’s definitely good to consider before you dive below. If you and your partner both have vaginas, things will look different on them than they do on you. “Your own vagina is basically your blueprint of ‘vagina.’ It can be a little shocking to see [another] one up close and personal,” Price explains. “Don’t be like me. Don’t have a nervous laughing fit in front of them because you didn’t expect the unexpected.”
Before things get started, you should absolutely initiate a sex talk with your partner . Discuss your experience levels (so each person knows what to expect from the other), and dive into boundaries, hard limits, and interests.
Here are some prompts to get you started:
Your first-time lesbian sex experience maybe isn’t the time to dive immediately into some kinky, BDSM sex , but if you’d feel more comfortable, don’t be afraid to establish a safe word like "pineapple" or "red" that you can use if anything is getting to be too much or you start feeling uncomfortable. These safe words will ensure nothing goes past what you’re comfortable doing.
We don’t mean you have to be exclusive on the first date, but Price says defining the relationship goes hand-in-hand with consent. “If you’ve exclusively had sex with men, you’re probably familiar with how heartbreaking it can be to start sleeping with someone you like, only to find out it's just sex for them,” she says. “Don’t be the person using a woman for sex.” While Price notes it’s absolutely okay to just have a casual, sexual relationship with a woman, make sure you’re both on the same page about what your situation is and isn’t. Like I said before: Your partner is a person. Make your intentions clear from the start so that there isn't any confusion.
In my experience, the best thing about sex with another woman is that there’s no distinctive end, which means you get to savor it all. And Bryan agrees that taking it slow “gives you time to relax and get familiar with your partner's body.” She adds that it’s pretty much the easiest way to alleviate all of those “I’m-doing-something-new” anxieties and can help you find more confidence in your skills.
And though an orgasm shouldn’t be the end-all-be-all of your sex sessions, taking it slow will certainly help you or your partner get there . “Vulvas need prolonged, repetitive stimulation to reach climax . Slowly increase the intensity or until the person tells you otherwise,” suggests Bryan.
IMO, mutual masturbation is a pretty low-risk, easy way to get things kicked off—so long as you feel comfortable touching yourself in front of your partner. Not only can you show them how you like to be touched, but they can show you how they like to be touched. Before too long, you both will be taking over each other’s hands and making each other feel ah-mazing.
As for during le sex, enthusiastic consent is a must, but Harlich says this might not be second nature for women who have only been with men. “In heterosexual dynamics, it is often assumed men should be getting consent since they tend to be socialized to initiate sex more frequently (those assumptions need to be checked too!),” she explains. So actively check in with your partner to make sure the pressure is right, everything feels good, and they’re comfortable, mkay?
Luckily, learning how to ask for consent and being vocal during lesbian sex is easy because you have yourself to practice on, Harlich notes. “Start by exploring yourself through masturbation so you also know what touch and language you like for yourself,” she suggests. "Ask your partner how they would like to be touched and what names they’d like you to call their body parts.” If you’re feeling stuck, Harlich says simply describing what you’re doing can be v hot. (“Going down on you turns me on so much” is a personal fave.)
1000% respect and honor what your partner says, but in addition to their words, Price says to pay attention to their sounds and bodily responses to your touch as well. “If they're acting like they like something, do more or that. If they're not reacting, do less of that,” she explains. “There’s no universal move that makes you good in bed. There’s just listening.”
Lubricant isn’t just for P-in-V sex. While vaginas self-lubricate, it never hurts to add a lil something extra to make sure there’s no unbearable friction. Plus, using lube with a dental dam can heighten the whoooole experience, so do with that info as you will!
Opt for a silicone or water-based lube if you’re using latex barrier methods. And if you’re with a trusted partner and you’re both aware of each other’s STI status, oil lubes can be used too—just never use them with condoms since oil-based lubes can break down latex.
Once when I was on a trio date with my boyfriend and another femme, my boyfriend asked, “How do lesbians know when sex ends?” She laughed and said, “When you’re both too exhausted to move.” And, yeah, it’s kind of true.
Since women have a shorter refractory period , most lesbian sex doesn’t have a particular stop point. But just because you can go for hours without a break doesn’t mean you should. Water and cuddle breaks are necessary and encouraged because you need time to recharge, reset, and put energy toward something other than sex.
It’s also important to know that you can stop in the middle if you want to. In fact, you can stop at any time you want. You don’t have to “finish” anything, even if your partner makes you feel like you should. (And if that's the case, def have a serious convo with your partner about expectations.)
Don’t try to perform or pretend like you're more experienced than you are. Obviously, it’s normal to want to be good for your partner and show off your skills, but know that it’s a process that takes time.
Instead, for the first time around, know that 1. Sex should feel good (in whatever way that means to you) 2. Sex can be weird and cause distinct sounds and smells, which are perfectly normal, and 3. Your partner isn’t judging you on your face, or sounds, or body—they're really thinking about how g'dam sexy you are. Promise.
So relax, my friend. Take the pressure off yourself and enjoy the moment.

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